Three signs on the face that will indicate a man's tendency to violence.
This information will help you correctly navigate a potentially dangerous situation, avoid domestic or sexual violence, and possibly save your life.
Why is this publication coming out now?
The reason for this article was a terrible story beyond common sense. The husband took his wife, the mother of two sons, into the forest and tied him up. Then he methodically mutilated his hands and cut off his fingers. In the end, he chopped off both hands, took him to the hospital and surrendered to the police.
The stated reason for torture is adultery. He had no doubts. Only the desire to gain recognition.
Could the tragedy have been avoided?
How to understand that your boyfriend or husband is capable, even hypothetically, of such atrocities. Is it possible to recognize a jealous person and a sadist by appearance?
With all the seeming inhumanity of what was done, let's try to figure out what set of qualities became that terrible cocktail that ignited animal cruelty and manic, all-consuming confidence in one's own rightness.
How did we learn about the signs of hidden aggression on the face?
In the 90s, I served as an detective in the homicide department of the criminal investigation department. Every day a stream of suspects, defendants and defendants in cases involving mutilation, rape and death passed through my office.
Gradually, I began to notice that many rapists and murderers shared certain facial features.
Subsequently, using the knowledge of anthropology, modern neuroscience and, of course, psychology, I was able to derive some patterns connecting the physiognomic signs and behavioral characteristics of people prone to violence.
Now I'm a psychologist. For over 20 years now I have been studying various psychodiagnostic techniques and adapting them for security and business needs.
So... Here are the three most common physiognomic signs that indicate hidden aggression and a tendency to violence.
As you can imagine, the more signs you see in one person, the higher the likelihood of uncontrollable violent behavior.
I do not claim to be the ultimate truth. I’m just sharing with you my experience and the results of my research.
Where does conscience live in the brain?
The center associated with feelings such as conscience is located in the prefrontal part of the brain. There, in the frontal and parietal zones of the cortex, there are areas responsible for self-awareness and other mechanisms of social containment.
In a person with a sloping, sloping, low forehead, these zones are depressed. They are smaller in size and, as it were, crushed by the front of the skull.
Unlike highbrow individuals, these people are much less affected by social taboos and rules. It is easier for them to ignore the laws established in society, and for them morality often does not exist at all.
How do you understand that emotions are stronger than reason?
Body and facial hair is one of the last visual cues that links us to our evolutionary ancestors. Natural hairiness occurs when some people have increased production of male sex hormones, primarily testosterone.
As we understand, if the primary animal instinct begins to dominate, the mind loses its position.
On the face, increased emotionality can be seen in three manifestations: pronounced eyebrows, thick stubble and a beard in the absence of a mustache.
Such people, as a rule, do not know how to refuse their desires, and in combination with a sloping forehead, they have poor control over emotional outbursts.
But this, as a rule, is not enough for the birth of a real sadistic aggressor. In addition to emotions and reduced social responsibility, confidence in one’s own rightness is required. A kind of animal categoricalness.
What separates the hunter from the prey?
Of course, the presence of weapons. In most mammalian predators this is the jaw. The more strongly an individual develops this attack mechanism, the more confident he will feel when meeting another individual.
People with high jaws move from words to words much more easily. active actions. They are not afraid of possible obstacles. After all, inner instinct tells us that strength is on their side.
Add to this confidence the trigger of uncontrollable emotions and a complete disregard for all kinds of “social conventions.” Get a ready-made rapist, a “kitchen fighter” or, as in our case, a crazy jealous person.
Of course, upon closer examination, in each specific case of domestic or sexual violence, grievous bodily harm or murder, we will find other, primarily social, factors that influenced the development of the situation.
In this article, we set ourselves the task of showing specific visual markers that you should pay attention to when dealing with strangers and, especially, when choosing a sexual partner.
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Women can be gentle, fluffy and caring towards those they love. And they can be cruel. And when it comes to fragile love relationships, women can do things that are most unpleasant for men. Let's find out what not to do.
10. Don't answer the phone when he calls. He convinced you to give his number and you feel that he is not indifferent to you. Your charm and beauty clearly impressed him. But he didn’t reproduce the impression on you, and now you don’t pick up the phone. Or, even worse, you gave him the wrong number. Such situations have a bad effect on the self-esteem of men, because it is absolutely clear that you do not intend to date them anymore.
9. Using men as a wallet. Some women are able to flirt with a man and even start a relationship with him for the sake of a delicious dinner in an expensive restaurant, a beautiful blouse or a trip to the islands. Needless to say, this is cruel and dishonest.8. Meet him out of boredom. Many of us don't like being alone. And for some, this dislike goes so far that they are ready to date the first person they come across, just to fill the void in their personal life. Perhaps you will fill this void, but playing with the feelings of other people did not bring happiness to anyone.
7. Emotionally manipulate a man. Men hate women's tears, and we know this very well. Women's tears as an expression of emotion seem logical, since women are more emotional than men. Surely each of us has used tears at least once in our lives as a tool to achieve our goals. But we cannot boast of this.
6. Use of physical force. Some women fully accept the idea that they can hit a man if they don’t like something. Of course, if they are sure that this man will not hit her back. A a real man won't allow himself to do this. So, doesn’t this seem unfair to you, especially considering how zealously we fight for equal rights with men?
5. Publicly criticize men. This is an extremely cruel way of treating a man, a way that contributes to the humiliation of his manhood. You shouldn’t stoop to publicly reprimanding your loved one, not to mention criticizing. 4. Do not disclose your marital status. For some, flirting with a man may seem like innocent fun, even though you yourself have a husband or boyfriend. It’s so fun at the end of a pleasant conversation to tell him about the presence of your soulmate and look at the expression on the interlocutor’s face. This is unfair
3. Manipulate through sex. This rather cruel method has been tested for centuries and is used by many women. For most men, regular sex is the same natural phenomenon, like breathing. And women use denial of sex as a way to achieve a goal, and even as punishment. It is worth noting that this method can be effective. But don’t be surprised if a man begins to manipulate your desires.
2. Check for loyalty. You specifically check your man, write to him on ICQ from someone else’s number, supposedly trying to get to know each other, write SMS and create situations on the street, persuading your friends to carry out the “Checking for fidelity” operation. If this is so, then what kind of trust relationship can we talk about? You are, in fact, playing with fire, pushing your loved one to cheat. What if he falls in love with your friend at first sight, who will you blame?
1. Flirt with others, making your partner jealous young man.
Half of the men will not say a word that it was unpleasant for them; perhaps they will do everything not to show jealousy. But this is really cruel to him, since flirting with another man causes suffering of varying degrees of severity in 90% of men.
Hello friends! Love story between girl Jordan Ward and guy Alex Skeel started in 2012, when the guys were 16 years old.
They met at drama college in Bedford, and Alex fell in love immediately into this fragile English girl who, in her free time, did charity work - helping to raise money for African children.
After meeting, the lovers almost immediately began living together, posting happy photos on Facebook and going shopping together. They were so passionate about each other that they didn't even have time to communicate with friends.
This fairy tale lasted 6 years. But on a fateful day, neighbors heard screams from the love nest. Paramedics arrived at the crime scene and found a bloody body.
But more on that later.
And now we will reveal to you the dark side of this love story.
After the lovers began to live together, the girl turned into a real devil.
Happy photos on Facebook? – She posted them herself from the guy’s page. Shopping together? “She didn’t allow him to buy things on his own and chose his clothes herself.” No time for friends? “She forbade him to communicate with friends and only occasionally allowed him to call his parents.
The girl controlled the guy’s every step, but that was far from the worst thing. She made his life a living hell. At first it was just slaps and kicks, then torture with blunt objects, pouring boiling water on him when Alex was sleeping, and sometimes even knives were used. The last 9 months of their relationship were at their most violent. At the same time, the girl forbade him to go to the hospital. Despite the fact that the guy had a serious disease called hydrocephalus - an accumulation of fluid in the skull.
On that fateful day, neighbors saved the guy’s life. They heard screams and called the police. Doctors diagnosed stab wounds and deep burns throughout the body. Doctors at the hospital carefully asked the guy if it was safe for him to return home. After this, the guy moved to live with his parents.
In his interview, Alex said that he thought his limbs would have to be amputated. And this would have happened if he had not received timely help. Doctors and police agreed that if he had not been taken to the hospital then, the guy would have had no more than 10 days to live.
The girl was arrested and she had to confess to her crimes. She is now 22 years old and has 7.5 years in prison ahead of her., and she also has no right to even get close to Alex.
Are you also wondering why the guy put up with this? According to Alex, he was blinded by love and believed that this was the girl’s way of showing intimacy and care.
Write in the comments if you have met such star-studded couples or maybe they are among your friends?
Men are known to appreciate our sense of humor. But sometimes, in response to a seemingly sparkling joke, they purse their lips and pretend to be a sluggish “ha-ha”, instead of bursting into a fit of laughter. What was it that we joked about that was so wrong?
His hobbies
It is quite risky to joke with a man about the size and edibility of the catch obtained during a two-day fishing trip. And when watching football together, before making witty remarks about the “little blue ones,” it would be good to first make sure that he is a fan of the “red little ones.”
Just the other day I managed to prank my husband by involving his main fetish – the computer – in the prank. Deep in the night, my beloved unstuck from the monitor and galloped off to make himself a sandwich. Bloody men with machine guns in their hands froze on the screen. Knowing with what fanaticism my husband plays “shooters,” I still dared to make a rather harmless joke, as it seemed to me. I turned off the monitor, and as soon as my hero appeared at the door, I, making an innocent face and timidly smiling, said: “Oh, I pressed something here, and everything went out...” Dropping the sandwich from my hands in one powerful kangaroo jump My husband crossed the room in an instant, pushed me off the chair and, shaking over the keyboard as if he were terminally ill, feverishly began repeating: “What did you press? Remember, WHAT-ARE-YOU-YOU-HAPPENED?” A wild imagination immediately pictured the needles that he was pushing under my nails, trying to knock out the necessary information, and I, saying in a trembling voice, “W-that’s it,” turned on the monitor.
As soon as my husband saw that the “shooter” was faithfully waiting for him, he first sighed with relief and delight, and then stared at me expressively. At that moment, I felt like a victim of that same “shooter”, mercilessly attacked by weapons like “laser eyes”. What followed was an intricate play on words, from which I drew the only conclusion: it’s better not to joke with computers, especially when an unfinished battle hangs on pause. But after this incident, the husband shot all the enemies in literally five minutes. Apparently, the adrenaline after my “successful” joke took effect.
Night conversation copied from a friend's notebook
His car
No matter how jealous you are of your loved one for his car (that is, sorry, for his Swallow), jokes in the style of “Darling, let’s sell this mountain of iron, and with the money we buy me new shoes - well, at least one” will not work. With such humor, the more likely option is that you will be sold for scrap metal, and with the earnings he will buy his Swallow another pair of winter “shoes.”
His appearance
No matter how a man tries to show that he is a true macho, who doesn’t give a damn fashion trends and the way he looks, in fact he is often no less concerned about his appearance than we are. Therefore, jokes about his future bald head, the rich palette of odors that he is capable of exuding, or legs like those of an experienced jockey are unlikely to be successful.
And when your beloved, after a grueling ten-minute exercise, proudly pokes his belly in your nose with the comment “Look, what abs,” he hopes to hear: “Wow, so pumped up!” How sometimes I want to add: “You can feel it right through your beer belly!” But be patient!
Its features
Even the most harmless joke on this topic will most likely be perceived as mockery or an attempt to make fun of his flaws. But, as they say, if you can’t, but really want to, then you can. The main thing is that he doesn't notice.
For example, if a man talks in his sleep, thereby preventing you from plunging into the arms of Morpheus, it is not forbidden to act on the principle “if I don’t get enough sleep, at least I’ll have fun.” You can, for example, have intellectual conversations with your partner, who is muttering something in delirium.
Or if he snores shamelessly, and all attempts to accidentally poke him in the side with your elbow do not bring the desired result, then, acting on the above principle, you can put a red card in his hand and stick a whistle in his mouth. True, in this case it will be quite problematic to prove to a man who jumped up in horror in the night from a wild whistle that you had nothing to do with it.
His weirdness
My friend Zhenya, when he is scolded, puffs out his cheeks and bulges his eyes terribly. He was taught to protect himself from external irritants in this way as a child. Alina, his friend, was amused by this at first, and any conflict ended with her boisterous laughter as soon as her beloved “swelled up.” But sooner or later it was bound to start to irritate her. Unable to restrain herself during the next “attack,” Alina, in a rather harsh form, suggested that Zhenya was raised not in a human family, but by a school of hedgehog fish, after which her beloved immediately blew away with a whistle... and did not speak to her for two days. Just like a hedgehog fish.
His health
I agree, it’s hard to resist at least a bit of irony in relation to your loved one when he’s lying flat with a terrifying temperature of 37.1, moaning helplessly and, stretching out a trembling hand to you, barely audibly asks for a glass of water. But here you need to understand that any joke can only aggravate the condition of a seriously ill patient. Therefore, so that the patient does not quickly fall into a coma, you need to make an effort and, instead of gloating, hug him, feel sorry for him and run for a kilogram or two of oranges. With sausage.
His attitude towards himself
It's funny sometimes to watch how concentrated the strong half of humanity rubs the third layer of moisturizer into their manly hands to make them the softest and velvety. There is no need to break this idyll with a sharp word. Any taunt directed at your man, who was accidentally caught in the form of a green humanoid with cucumbers on his eyes, is unlikely to be appreciated by him. You understand that, away from your watchful non-cucumber eyes, he will still continue to soak his feet in a tonic bath with rosemary extract, but he cannot resist a joke when he finds you with a strawberry mask on your face the next morning.
His attentions
In the heat of inspiration, men, as a rule, think little about the meaning of their ingenious metaphors, epithets and comparisons. This must always be remembered so as not to hurt the tender feelings of our romantics with an innocent joke.
You should gratefully accept from your man any gift he comes up with, and under no circumstances laugh at poems, no matter how ridiculous they are, or songs, no matter how heart-rending a voice they are sung. The same goes for compliments.
Once, my friend Anya, having bought another pair of shoes, showed off the new thing to her boyfriend. To the question “Well, how do you like it?” he, choking with delight, paid her a compliment: “You are so graceful in these shoes, like... like... (apparently, he was turning over in his head all the more or less graceful living creatures on the planet) like... a horse!” Anya almost fell from the height of her 12-centimeter stilettos, but gently replied: “Thank you, honey, I’m so pleased.” The darling lounged imposingly in a chair, and Anya, without losing a drop of her “horse grace,” continued the fashion show, giggling quietly and saying under her breath: “Tsok-tsok-tsok... and-i-yoke!”
His greed
Dear girls! Please remember: if a man spares money for new beads, he is by no means greedy. He is (in his own understanding, of course) economical! Therefore, jokingly comparing him with the stingy mole from the fairy tale “Thumbelina,” you can easily lose your allotted half a grain a day.
His culinary skills
Well, yes, some men can cook. And some people think they can. It’s not so easy to resist not to joke and add “spiciness” to an exhausted steak with a crust fried to the point of armor. The climax of the celebration of life will be a kitchen apocalypse in the form of a mountain of dirty dishes, fireworks splashing on the walls and a floor thickly strewn with flour. However, if you persevere through this, you will most likely have a long and happy life. family life.
Marriage and children (they are not his at all!)
It has been proven that discussing these topics perfectly replaces a magic wand and miraculously makes a man evaporate from the place of conversation. Just recently, I became an unwitting witness to how the combination of the words “wedding” and “children” in one sentence forced a man (under the amusing pretext of “Oh, I need to clarify something with Kant”) to retreat from the kitchen, spilling tea and dropping cookies clutched in her fist along the way. Surely Kant understood him.
His economic skills
By making a joke at least once about exactly how he nailed a light bulb or screwed in a shelf, you risk calling “husband for an hour” for the rest of your life for any housework. It’s better to use the creativity reserved for a witty joke to praise your “husband for life” for such hard work. So what if the nails are driven in with their heads inward, and the carefully lubricated hinges now really don’t creak, because the door simply stopped opening. He tried!
His salary
Any self-respecting man, no matter how much he earns, certainly believes that he is the main breadwinner in the family. Therefore, making jokes about his not particularly impressive salary is the same as hinting to a lion that the antelope he caught is somewhat anorexic. In response, you will receive an angry growl and will be left without your allotted piece of loot, which was planned to be exchanged in the boutique for that amazing handbag with rhinestones.
His friends
An acquaintance once complained to me about his girlfriend, who constantly gives underground nicknames to his friends. "My best friend she nicknamed Shar Pei.” I asked her a thousand times not to call him that, but she still kept saying: “Are you going to billiards with Sharpay?”, “When will Sharpay introduce us to his girlfriend?” I had already resigned myself and decided to simply ignore this dubious humor, until I myself, speaking and looking my friend straight in the eyes, called him Sharpay. After this incident, I had a rather tough explanatory conversation with my girlfriend. And Shar Pei, by the way, wasn’t offended at all, and now he’s officially a Shar Pei.”
In principle, the list of dangerous topics for jokes could be continued almost endlessly, but it’s better to use simple advice for all times: it is better to measure seven times than to “soak” once.
Worth is accused of abusing her lover, 22-year-old Alex Skeel, who suffers from hydrocephalus, for several years.
In an interview with British media, Skeel said that his girlfriend for almost four years caused him not only moral, but also physical harm, as a result of which he was on the verge of death.
According to the young man, Jordan stabbed him with a knife, poured boiling water on him, forbade him to sleep in the same bed with her and decided what clothes he needed to wear.
In addition, the girl forbade her lover to contact relatives and friends, broke him mobile phones and even controlled his Facebook page.
"Happy Couple"
Alex Skeel says he met Jordan when he was 16 years old, both of them at that time studying at Bedford College. She became his first girlfriend; before that he had not had a serious relationship.
According to the Sun newspaper, Jordan Worth grew up in a prosperous, loving family, did well at school and at the University of Hertfordshire and wanted to become a teacher. The girl also volunteered at animal shelters and raised money to help children in Africa.
British media publish photographs in which Alex and Jordan look like a happy couple: they are relaxing together, kissing and smiling at the camera.
However, judging by Skeel’s stories, the idyll was only a façade, behind which lay truly terrible things worthy of a Hollywood horror film.
"Go and die!"
“The physical abuse started nine months ago, and four years before that the moral humiliation continued,” Alex admits in an interview with the Daily Mail.
The young man says that his relatives knew that Jordan was putting moral pressure on him, but did not suspect physical violence on her part.
"She tried to keep me away from them for two years. I have a very loving family, loving parents, but she didn’t let me talk to them. She beat me and scalded me with boiling water, injured my hands, claiming that I spoke to my family, although I did not,” says Alex.
To make matters worse, Skeel suffered from hydrocephalus (water on the brain), which made him even more vulnerable to violence.
Physical violence on the part of the girl began with simple pushing and poking, but gradually took on alarming proportions, the victim admits.
“I remember one time she hit me on the head with a laptop plug, I started bleeding, I said, “Please help me.” I bowed my head, the blood continued to flow. She walked up the stairs, I again asked, “Please.” , help me,” and she said, “Go and die!” says Alex.
The young man thought that things couldn’t get any worse, but after that the girl came up with an idea new look torment: she began pouring boiling water on him while he was sleeping.
"I was woken up by the pain of boiling water on my skin. Sometimes I would wake up in the middle of the night when this happened," says ex-boyfriend Jordan.
On the brink of death
Alex lost a lot of weight, his body was covered with bruises and wounds, but he did not dare to tell anyone about what was happening at his home. Jordan, in turn, forbade him to visit doctors.
The violence only stopped when Alex and Jordan's neighbors called the police last June after being frightened by loud screams coming from their home.
Doctors who arrived at the scene diagnosed the young man with injuries to his arm and second and third degree burns.
Skeel then moved in with his parents in Bedford. According to him, by that time he had lost almost 18 kg and weighed about 44 kg. He feared that his wounds could become inflamed, which could lead to amputation.
“They told me that if I had stayed there longer, I would have died. The doctors and police agreed: I had 10 more days to live,” says Alex.
During the trial, which is being held at Luton Crown Court, the judge said Worth admitted being physically violent towards her ex-boyfriend, including using a knife and boiling water.
According to the court decision, the girl is prohibited from contacting Alex Skeel for an indefinite period.
