One of the greats said that “the eyes are the mirror of the soul” and he turned out to be completely right. A person always tries to pay attention to how other people look at him. After all, with the help of a glance you can find out about the thoughts of your interlocutor and understand the hints of a silent person. For some reason, this is rarely written about in the press and on the Internet, and research on the interpretation of different views is impossible to find anywhere. In this material I will try to reveal the essence of this issue as fully as possible.
What does a look consist of?
A person’s gaze refers to the characteristics of the location of the eyes and some parts of the face located nearby. These include the forehead, skin, eyebrows, eyelids, and in some cases the nose and lips.
Are the eyes the mirror of the soul?
The view may be different, but each of its options has one common feature - it is a reflection of a person’s inner world, his character and mood. For the most part, it is the latter that determines the type of look.
All positive or negative internal experiences of a person are expressed in her gaze. For this reason, if you need to give it a certain meaning, you should not try to do it with “technical” techniques, it is better to concentrate on your inner mood and the desired expression in your eyes will appear by itself.
The interlocutor will not be able to consciously understand the whole essence of your gaze and explain its meaning for himself, but on a subconscious level the person perceives a certain message from your eyes and he will have a corresponding reaction to your emotional state projected through your gaze.
How to influence your interlocutor with your gaze
From the above, the conclusion follows: you can develop for yourself a certain scheme of psychological influence on your interlocutor using your gaze.
- Determine the goal you want to achieve during the conversation.
- Set yourself in a certain mood to evoke the state that will be projected in your gaze.
- Look your interlocutor closely in the eyes.
- As a result, you will see his response.
Your counterpart’s subconscious will work instantly and he will only have to choose options for action on your emotional message.
The shape of the gaze is of particular importance for influencing the opponent. The eyes actually have enormous power; they are capable of not only receiving, but also giving out information. The principle of their work can be explained both from the mystical side and from the scientific side. We will not go into detail about this, since this is a very large material and in some places very boring, and it is not entirely within our competence... We will only look at how to use it.
All people, one way or another, consciously or unconsciously react to such meaning as the expression in the eyes of their interlocutor. Please note that the expression in the interlocutor's eyes always means a lot regarding the course of the conversation. We often involuntarily react to one expression or another, either evoking sympathy, or forcing us to go into deep defense from possible negativity, or simply uplifting…. These reactions occur before we recognize or realize the true intentions of the interlocutor. These reactions are a response to the perception of eye expression.
The gaze can be confident, frightened, wandering, concentrated, arrogant, ingratiating, elusive, etc. etc.
Eyes are the mirror of the soul. There is such wisdom. True, skillfully entering into a role also includes the art of controlling the gaze. This combination can very easily influence the interlocutor.
There is also the expression "strong gaze." It's something like when one person can't stand the gaze of another.
What is needed to make your gaze strong and learn to influence people with your gaze? First of all, of course, desire and desire, and then the acquisition of special skills. One has only to make a reservation that a look can only be strong when it is supported by the state of the soul and spirit. It should contain your intentions and emotions.
Well, let's begin!
First, we will master the power of gaze.
Exercise 1. It consists of choosing a small object with your gaze, focusing on it, as they say, staring at it, without blinking if possible, or doing this infrequently. Then you need to push and press with your gaze on the selected object. Remain calm and confident internally. The main point is to remember the sensation of pressure with your gaze.
Exercise 2. A game of eye-catching with a partner or the same with strangers or passers-by. The only thing is that it is not recommended to do this explicitly. You must complete the exercise at the first sign of a reaction to your gaze. A sign of a reaction is a change in the expression of the eyes.
Exercise 3. A special exercise for tension and relaxation of the gaze. At first try to relax, not your eyes, but your gaze, it roughly looks like looking at nothing, your eyes are open, but we’re not looking at anything, and don’t turn on your peripheral vision.
Thentry to turn on your peripheral (side) vision, observing what is happening as if from a distance, and then alternate it with concentrating your gaze on a specific object, you can follow the scheme of exercise 1.
Next exercise consists of uniformly squeezing the eyelids and eye sockets on all sides; you can also practice light squinting. This exercise causes specific tension, combined with relaxation, it is very beneficial for the eyes.
NowLet's learn to look askance.
And finally,let's learn to look while simultaneously concentrating on an object and at the same time including peripheral vision.
Gradually, it is worth connecting to gaze training the states of mind that are spontaneously evoked by the expression of the eyes, but specially strengthened by a strong-willed order.
Pay special attention to the feeling that will help you learn to distinguish between tense gaze and relaxation.
Now let's practice with different forms of gaze accompanied by the corresponding states:
1. “Catch the rays of the eyes.” Catch the enemy's eye and
fix it for a moment for some purpose.
2. “Shoot an arrow. Choose a goal and stick to it
glance.
3. “Terrible ruler.” Frown your eyebrows, look menacingly,
shrilly.
4. "Glint of the Beam." An absent-minded look, in which the usual
the position of the eyes is slightly changed, so that the enemy does not
could catch the eye even looking straight into the performer's eyes.
5. "Passing through the wall." This is a variant of the "beam reflection"
in which the performer looks past or through the opponent.
6. “Looking at a booger.” The look in which
the performer examines any small detail or point in
space.
7. “A master’s view of a servant.” The performer looks at
the enemy slightly sideways and with disdain.
8. "Theft of pearls." A quick glance to the side
enemy, allowing you to assess the situation.
9. “Infiltrator in the enemy camp.” Taking advantage of opportunities
lateral vision, the performer collects information about
opponent, pretending not to look at him.
10. “Wounded Tiger.” The performer looks sharply, furiously, at
his face has the facial expressions of an angry man. Often face
turns red, eyes become bloodshot, which is achieved by special
exercise.
11. “Watch with fear.” The performer's face expresses
fear, frightened look.
12. “Watch with prayer.” The performer makes a pleading
facial expression, pleading in the eyes.
13. "Bashful girl." The performer's gaze is directed
down, lowered. There is an expression of bashfulness on the face,
shyness.
14. “The Village Fool.” The performer has a stupid expression
faces and stupid looks.
15. “Stone Mask.” Fixed, frozen expression
faces, emotionless gaze from under half-closed eyelids.
The eyes are almost motionless.
16. "Impatient desire." Purposeful look
aimed at one point. Concentration on the face, bad
hidden expectation, desire for something, for example,
the desire to strike a specific target.
17. "Runaway ray." The performer's gaze all the time
evades contact with the enemy's gaze.
18. “Lake surface.” A look that reflects everything around and nothing
than separately not delayed. Maximum efficiency
Gaze is of great importance in intersexual communication. Many women claim that they fall in love with a man after the first eye contact. If a man can withstand a woman’s persistent gaze, expressing his determination in it, in further communication she will unconsciously show more respect for him.
A woman's look at a man is the primary test of his masculine qualities.
To quickly look away in such a situation and become embarrassed means admitting defeat. However, a woman must also be confident enough in her abilities to decide on such a test.
If the person you like averts your eyes, continue looking at him. If after this he looks at you again, this is a sure sign of sympathy. If at the same time a smile appears on his face, you can start the conversation without a doubt.
Which look is considered accidental and which is a conscious challenge? The normal time of eye contact, after which both people naturally avert their eyes, does not exceed 2–3 seconds. If a person looks at you longer, he probably has an interest in you.
View in the struggle for leadership
A glance is the most powerful non-verbal method of influence. It can subjugate a person and determine the nature of your further communication. However, can it be called a tool - something that we can consciously use for our own purposes? Can a person’s will break the instinctive desire to avert his eyes under a persistent and unbending gaze?
In nature, the strongest male will also have the most persistent gaze. You can often see how a large animal, having met the gaze of a smaller representative of its own species, turns away, as if yielding and submitting to it. Body size, muscle mass, jaw size and other traits certainly influence the non-bloody determination of a dominant male. However, this is not enough.
A look is a sure sign of real strength, vital energy, the ability to fight to the end, the readiness to die in battle.
Man is a social being, so he is influenced not only by natural factors. This includes morality, ethics, and social status. Thus, a long gaze in culture may simply be regarded as incorrect behavior, and that is why a shy desire to look away will arise in us. However, the main factor influencing the persistence of the gaze is will. This is what can make your gaze your greatest psychological weapon.
The importance of eye contact
sport.img.com How else does our perspective influence communication? The following facts are known in psychology:
- People who make eye contact during conversations are perceived as more honest and open.
- Lack of eye contact in a dialogue is interpreted by us as a lack of interest.
- During a speech, a good speaker always looks around the audience to make eye contact with everyone. This makes his speech seem more convincing.
- Eye contact when meeting someone is extremely important. An open and good-natured look forms 30% of a person’s primary attitude.
- Quickly looking away during an acquaintance is read as instability of character and readiness to submit.
One thing follows from these facts: the strong-willed ability to hold gaze at the eyes of another person makes the image of the beholder stronger, more powerful and influential.
However, these rules cannot be called universal. Much depends both on the nature of the gaze and on the person. Someone will consider a long look as a sign of impoliteness, someone will start to get angry, someone will get scared.
It is necessary to maintain a balance of modesty and perseverance in the gaze, corresponding to the specific situation of communication with a person.
The main thing is not to provoke a defensive or negative reaction. You can subjugate a person to your will with your gaze by inspiring respect and demonstrating strong character, not aggression. The gaze should be calm, intent, without a shadow of pretense or shamelessness.
carrick.ru So is it possible to develop a strong outlook? The one that subdues and inspires respect? There are many dubious exercises on the Internet, such as looking at a candle flame and circles on paper. But your gaze is a continuation of your internal state, and it will certainly be different in sparring with a piece of paper and with a real person.
All exercises to strengthen your gaze will be meaningless if you cannot focus your mind on one subject while doing them. How do you want to influence others if you can't even influence yourself?
Japanese shogun Yoritomo Tashi, who had exceptional influence on people
The persistence of your gaze is an indicator of the strength of your will and thoughts. To take control of your thoughts and increase your concentration, there is one proven exercise. Count slowly from one to ten, pausing between words. If even one thought distracts you from the process, start over. Every day, try to increase the duration of the count by a couple of units. Various techniques contribute to the same.
After you have achieved some success in controlling your thoughts, try practicing it in public. Select from the crowd faces that indicate a weaker character than yours. Try to hold their gaze while keeping only one thought in your mind that blocks your desire to look away. “I’m uncomfortable,” “what an awkward situation,” “this is so stupid” - all these ideas simply should not reach your consciousness.
Once this is mastered, begin to be selective about the thoughts you hold during the competition. It should not only hide your psychological weaknesses, but also give strength to your look.
Concentrate on the desire to subjugate, to show strength, authority.
Developing a confident look is not an easy task, but once you cope with it, you will see how quickly the attitude of others towards you will change.
Visual influence techniques can help and make it easier to achieve our goals. With a special look, you can subjugate a person by imposing certain actions on him. In this short article we will look at how to achieve this.
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Hitler's magical gaze
German sociologist Erich Fromm analyzed Hitler's personality and tried to uncover the secret of his bewitching gaze.
“All witnesses agree that Hitler’s eyes were cold and the expression on his face as a whole - and that any warm feelings were generally alien to him. This trait can be off-putting - and it really is off-putting to many... but also, may also be a source of magnetic force. For some, his face evoked fear, and for others, admiration.”
There are 2 ways to help develop a magical look:
First way
- Take a sheet of paper and draw a circle in the center and color it in black diameter 1.5 cm.
- Hang this sheet at a distance of 2...2.5 meters from yourself and for 15 minutes Look continuously and without blinking at the black circle.
By doing this exercise daily, you will develop a “magic look”.
Second way
Having slightly relaxed your facial muscles, look at your reflection in the mirror. Direct your gaze to your eyes or to the bridge of your nose. Avoiding frequent blinking, look at the point 20…25 seconds.
But, it’s important to remember! That in everyday life it is better not to abuse such glances, because under such a gaze people begin to get nervous.
Usually, during a conversation, it is customary not to embarrass your interlocutor.
You might be interested in: on developing effective communication skills:And if you want to unbalance your interlocutor, select a “weak spot” on his body or clothing. For example, bad teeth, unkempt nails, unclean shoes, stains on clothes, etc.- and look closely there.
Your interlocutor will immediately begin to get nervous
And if, in addition to everything, you portray a sarcastic smile, then only a very self-possessed person or someone who doesn’t care about anything will be able to maintain composure against such a technique. It feels like the sun is shining brightly in your face, only at the same time you are still very ashamed.
The same thing, but in a more delicate and gentle form can be done with the help of an absent-minded glance or directed past the interlocutor’s eyes - at the ear, forehead, chin or lips.
Since the invention of the camera, photography has brought joy to many people and provided insight into the world from many different angles. Photographs have a powerful impact on people, whether they are shocking images or pictures filled with kindness. However, some photos are so shocking that they are considered too scary or disgusting for wide distribution. But thanks to social networks, we managed to collect the most mysterious, sinister and creepy photos on the Internet.
At first glance, there's nothing wrong with this photo: a few divers enjoying snorkeling. But the diver in the background lies on the bottom separately from the others. Little does anyone realize that in the background is actually the body of a murder victim, thrown into the ocean a few days before the other two divers decided to dive in the area. The photo itself doesn’t look scary, but only if you don’t know what story is behind it.
Many people don't like spiders anyway, but these trees in Pakistan are truly terrifying. In 2010, the country experienced terrible flooding and many areas were inundated, including parts of Sindh province. The spiders, which could no longer hide on the ground, climbed into the trees and remained there. They ended up making nests in the leaves. In general, Sindh is not the place where people suffering from arachnophobia should go.
Many people know famous horror movie characters such as Jason or Michael Myers, but the most famous and terrible is Freddy Krueger. In this old photo, which may already seem ominous, there are only three children looking at the camera. However, in the background you can see a man frozen in a strange position and grinning creepily. And he looks suspiciously like Freddy Krueger.
Imagine that you are walking around the city and suddenly come across an advertisement. A small piece of white paper with handwritten text stuck to it with an oddly shaped piece of clay. The ad reads: “As you read this, there is a man standing in one of the windows high above you and he is filming you. Then he will make a little doll out of you, put you with others like him and play strange games with them.” When you finish reading the note, these words will probably be stuck in your mind. After all, you will never know if there was someone there who would then play something terrible with your doll.
This was drawn by a little girl who wanted to tell her that she had an imaginary friend. In the drawing the girl wrote: “This is Lisa. She's my friend. My mom and dad can't see her, so they said she's an imaginary friend. Lisa is a good friend." However, looking at Lisa, one cannot say that she is such a pleasant friend: her mouth, hands, eyes and chest are bloody.
Little is known about this photograph. A girl is watching movies in a vending machine, and her head hangs unnaturally back. Some believe that the surveillance camera captured the girl possessed by demons. The true origin of the photo, as well as the circumstances under which it was taken, have never been revealed. One thing is clear: you cannot turn your head like that without serious injury.
In family photos, people usually laugh or smile. Unfortunately, sometimes the situation takes a dramatic turn in the other direction. For the family in this photo, everything changed in one second. The moment the photographer pulled the trigger, the corpse, which had been lying under the ceiling for some time, fell next to the family. It is not difficult to imagine how terrified these people were.
There are a lot of events that mark the beginning of something important in life, and a wedding is one of the main ones. However, as this photo shows, weddings don't always go as planned. While the happy couple was getting engaged in front of the house, behind them stood a group of strangely dressed people who looked like followers of some kind of cult. They all turned and watched the unsuspecting guests and newlyweds.
Among the vast collection of creepy objects is a pair of gloves made of human skin. Ed Gean, who became famous for other terrible acts, made them out of his victims. It’s one thing to hear about maniacs, and another to see the fruits of their deeds. The worst thing is that these gloves show the texture of the skin of your hands.
Surely there is nothing worse than realizing that you are about to die. This is exactly what was on the minds of many Auschwitz victims. When they were brought to these cells, people thought it was for something else. They were actually gas chambers, and once someone was in there, there was no going back. The photograph shows scratches from the nails of victims who realized that they would not get out and were already dying from the gas.
This is a photograph of a shell-shocked soldier on the battlefield. At first glance, this is just a man smiling from ear to ear, but the sparkle in his eyes and wide smile are terrifying and repulsive. It looks like the soldier is really going crazy.
It’s unlikely that any of the readers know what it means to face one’s death face to face. Unfortunately, some people have no choice. In this photo of a burning wind turbine, a couple of people can be seen standing on top, realizing the horror of their situation. Nothing could be done, the only way out was on fire, and both died.
One quick glance at this photo is enough to understand that something is wrong here. The girl seems to be afraid of the photographer and backs away from him in fear. The photo was taken by Robert Ben Rhodes, the serial killer who kidnapped the girl in the photo. This is 14-year-old Regina Kay Walters, she was also killed. But first, Robert cut her hair and forced her to wear heels and a black dress. He is believed to have tortured, raped and murdered more than 50 women between 1989 and 1990, although only three have been confirmed.
Even at first glance this photo is creepy. The child behind the stairs seems to be trying to get into the frame, but not remain too noticeable. The creepiest thing about this famous shot is that it was taken at the famous haunted house in Amityville. There were no children in the house at the time of shooting, and the photographer did not see anyone behind the stairs. There is an opinion that this photograph is a fake, however, given the location and time of shooting, it can be assumed that this photo is an eternal mystery.
This creepy image was captured by a hospital CCTV camera moments before the patient's death. Something scary and black is standing on the bed, bending over the patient. None of the hospital staff had ever seen anyone like him. It is believed that cameras can record otherworldly phenomena that are not perceived by the human eye. When you see this, it’s hard not to believe in the existence of spirits and demons around us.
