Is it easy to find a nanny now? How to find a good nanny? What types of nannies are there?

You can find a nanny:

• through friends;
• through an agency;
• looking at advertisements in newspapers such as "From Hand to Hand" or on the Internet;
• giving your advertisements to the press or the Internet;
• posting their advertisements on poles.

The first way to find a nanny is considered the safest. But it has a number of problems.

There may be no acquaintances, or, as a result of a long search, you can find a nanny through acquaintances, who is just as unpredictable as a nanny found through an advertisement.

In any case, the choice will be small. It is unlikely that you will be offered more than 5-6 applicants. The nanny herself will definitely also feel her “exclusivity”.

If you are lucky and the nanny is from your immediate circle, for example, a friend of your mother, then it will probably be much calmer for you to leave the child for the first time, but serious ethical problems may arise in the future. What to do, for example, if after a week or two of work you realize that the nanny does not suit you? How to tell the nanny herself, the person who recommended the nanny, about this? Who can recommend a new nanny to you now?

If you take on a person you have known for a long time as a nanny, you will inevitably have to be divided between friendly informal relationships with the nanny and formal ones. What will you face if it turns out, for example, that the nanny does not communicate with your child at all as you would like? She doesn’t hit him, of course, or even yell at him, but, let’s say, she too often calms a 2-year-old baby with candy or feeds him despite his protests, because she believes that only this is proper upbringing? Or maybe she just reads less to the child than you would like? Or does he rest and drink tea too often while the child is alone in the room? These problems may seem trivial to some, but to YOU ​​they can be serious.

In my deep conviction, a good nanny is a neutral nanny, capable of following your instructions exactly, even if they do not always seem correct to her. She, of course, can and should express her opinion on controversial issues, but after discussing the situation with you, she should act as and only as YOU see fit, because she is raising YOUR child. Sometimes it is very difficult to achieve such a relationship with a well-known person with whom a certain relationship has already been established. The person who is most pleasant to you in all respects may not at all meet your expectations as a nanny for your child. This is exactly how things often happen with grandmothers. If you're unlucky, then unlucky. Unfortunately, according to reviews from my friends, bad luck happens quite often.

I don’t know if I wanted to have a close friend as a nanny. Unfortunately (or fortunately), I did not have to make such a decision. There simply wasn’t a suitable nanny among my friends.

Based on an acquaintance, there was no nanny; it’s scary to take on a stranger. What to do? You really want someone to competently solve your problem for you. So I thought so and so I started calling agencies.

At first I decided that I only needed a nanny for 2-3 hours a day. I was informed that in this case, the nanny should have a very high hourly wage. At current prices it’s 1-1.5 dollars per hour. With such a small number of hours, it's more likely the latter than the former. I figured it was about $80 a month and agreed. Another $40 would have to be given to the agency. In some agencies it was necessary to immediately go and sign an agreement, in others it was enough to give my consent over the phone and describe in more detail what kind of nanny I want to have. I really don’t like leaving the house too much, so I limited myself to verbal instructions from several agencies and waited. I must say, quite a lot of time passed before they called me and said something like this: “We have a nanny with a higher pedagogical education, very good and kind, she is 45 years old, she raised her two children and she lives 40 minutes from you. She has 3 years of experience in a family with a 2-year-old child. She, of course, would like to work full time, but she is ready to consider your offer. If you want, we can come to you and talk." I, of course, tried to get more information about this nanny and about others who were also offered to me. But subsequent characteristics, as a rule, were neither original nor detailed. Perhaps I would have found out more information in a personal meeting, but I can’t host ALL potentially suitable nannies, and even their managers! I also didn’t want to go to agencies five times a day. I was interested in how the agency vets nannies. They told me that they were looking at documents, medical certificates and recommendations. I thought that I myself know how to look at documents and certificates, but I’m unlikely to be satisfied with such a check. Recommendations from strangers are unlikely to help me either. In any case, there were very few offers.

Then I decided that perhaps the whole point is that good nannies want to work all day and earn good money, and I decided to change the approach. Stayed there for the whole day. I was told that in this case we can talk about the rate, which is generally cheaper. That it costs at least $250 a month for an eight-hour workday. Plus at least half of the nanny's rate goes to the agency. I agreed. The descriptions of the proposed nannies were no different from the previous ones. I was confused. And in order to better feel the situation, I decided to try to probe the market myself.

I decided that, all other things being equal, it is still more convenient, both for the nanny and for us, when the nanny does not have to travel across the whole city to see the child. In this case, you can pay less, and the nanny will bring fewer infections, and she will start the working day without being exhausted by the crush in transport. Taking “From Hand to Hand”, I selected suitable nannies, taking into account the advertisement itself and the nanny’s place of residence (by phone number). By the way, not a single agency has ever offered me a nanny closer than 30 minutes by transport from us.

The texts of advertisements in newspapers, as a rule, are no different from the descriptions that agencies used to give me. Even if something was missing compared to the information from the agency, everything was clarified from the very first words during a telephone conversation with the applicant.

In total, I made at least 20 calls that time. Having personally talked with, I received much more information about them than the agency could give me. This gave me enthusiasm. I thought that without intermediaries I would be even better off. I am quite capable of conducting preliminary negotiations myself. However, I didn’t like any of the nannies again. Of course, I had a much better idea of ​​the nanny after talking to her in person on the phone. However, there was still a feeling that the person was a complete stranger. Any documents and recommendations can be organized nowadays. With the right approach, a professional fraudster will be able to deceive both an individual and any agency to which the nanny also essentially comes from the street. Unfortunately, agencies only promise to check the nanny, but in reality they do not go beyond a banal document check. I can do the same, but I, as a person personally interested, will at least do it as conscientiously as possible.

Some nannies I might have liked lost interest when they learned that I didn’t have a cottage outside the city, a cook or a housekeeper, and wasn’t planning on going abroad. I didn't like the others myself. The most unpleasant thing is that I felt like a supplicant. The first and main issue we discussed was money. Many did not even try to find out anything about the child. They asked whether we needed to cook, what kind of apartment we had, who else would be in the apartment besides the child, and even whether we had a microwave.

I asked the nanny to tell me about myself. As a rule, the nannies were quite talkative. By listening carefully to the nanny, one could get a lot of facts to think about both from the experience of her previous work and about her family. Correct, competent speech was also a big plus for me. After talking long enough, even with the initial appearance of well-being, I often discovered something that did not suit me at all. One, for example, proudly told me that she is a very flexible woman. In her previous family, where she received $400 with a 12-hour workday every other day, where there was also a housekeeper and a cook, a 4-year-old girl was constantly fed cervelat for breakfast. As a result, the girl was constipated. But this nanny did not complain to the girl’s parents about the housekeeper who bought the wrong products! From this story of hers there was a whiff of endless showdowns in the kitchen. “Poor child,” I thought.

Time passed, and I didn’t even have the slightest desire to invite at least one nanny for a personal meeting. There was only horror: “How can I leave a child to a complete stranger!” The solution to the issue was postponed, fortunately, I didn’t have a job yet, and I could cope quite well on my own. As a last resort, you could always resort to the help of friends. But one day it happened that on Thursday I was offered a job that I was supposed to start on the following Tuesday: can you imagine what a nightmare? Of course, I called “From Hand to Hand” again. With the same result. There was no point in even contacting the agency. Obviously, they wouldn't have found anything for me over the weekend. Then I remembered the advice of one friend, printed advertisements, put my one-year-old child on a sled, and after the first snowfall we went to post these advertisements around the neighborhood...

When we returned home, there were already three calls on the answering machine. No newspaper can boast of such efficiency. We answered calls continuously all Friday and Saturday. The minimum payment was set - 1,500 rubles per month. Full load with a child, up to 40 hours a week. Responsibilities also included: daily wet cleaning, cooking for the child, and ironing for us. The child suffers from serious allergies, and this imposed additional problems and responsibilities. Despite much more modest conditions than I had previously planned, conversations with potential nannies were fundamentally different from those that I had had before. These nannies were interested in working, and specifically for me. They were the ones who called me. Otherwise, they were no different from the professionals from the newspaper. There were good and bad, there were those who were not satisfied with the payment or conditions, there were those who were satisfied with everything, and I was initially satisfied with them. In the latter case, I wrote down their phone number and brief comments about our conversation. Name, age, education, profession, experience, presence of own children, general impressions. Two days later, I looked through my lists again and only called three nannies. I asked to visit them to meet them: “Can I do it right now? In 15-30 minutes?” Having visited the nannies at home (in neighboring houses), looking at their families and documents, I was much more confident in their reliability than if the nanny had been recommended to me by an agency. I came to the nanny unexpectedly. It is unlikely that in such an extraordinary situation any fraudster would have had time to seriously prepare for the visit. As a result, we spent Sunday and Monday together with the chosen nanny (two more were in reserve), and on Tuesday she was already working herself, and I went to work. My constant visits at unexpected times gave me the opportunity to make sure that everything seemed to be in order. She was a pensioner with a higher education. She lived with her husband across the yard from us. She raised her three children. She worked for us for a year. Everything was fine, even perfect, if it weren’t for her husband, because of whom we broke up a year later. By the way, I also saw my husband from the very beginning. Problems arose after the nanny started working for us.

But it was already easier for me. I understood the main thing. Agencies deliberately inflate nanny salaries. They are waiting for convenient customers. Of course, there is nothing easier than finding a nanny for a lot of money. And your commissions are also higher. While new Russians live in the world: but raising or lowering wages is my personal business and a matter of circumstances. I can imagine how many calls there would be if I had indicated a salary of, for example, $250 a month, as I planned at the beginning. All the local professionals, who could have been found through the agency or through the newspapers, would probably have called too. But we even hardly consider ourselves middle class. Why pay so much when you're already happy with everything?

When I was looking for a new nanny, I, without hesitation, went to put up advertisements. To avoid an insane number of calls, I immediately indicated in the advertisement the age of the child, the duties of the nanny (including housework) and her salary - 2000 rubles per month (inflation for the year). There were enough calls, but there were no more unnecessary discussions about, for example, that we planned to pay too little. I didn’t have to repeat the same thing a hundred times. Those who were not satisfied with anything simply did not call. It is their right to look for a more suitable employer. And we found a 23-year-old girl in our own entrance that suited us absolutely.

From the very first time, we refused to pay hourly. This turned out to be beneficial for both us (in general, maybe not less, but everything is predictable) and the nanny (guaranteed monthly income). As the first time, it was immediately determined that it was not standardized and only the upper limit per week was regulated, no more than 40 hours. But it may be 3 o'clock today, but 12 tomorrow. Everything else, for example, work on Saturday, is for an additional fee. My job required such a strange schedule. But it turned out to be the most optimal, since we subsequently never had problems with late arrivals. All responsibilities were agreed upon and spelled out. Our child has been going to kindergarten since this fall, but our nanny still works part-time for us.

The most important advantage of our nannies is that they were decent women, they both valued their work. And that means they did everything they were asked to do, as they were asked to do. Which is exactly what we needed. Perhaps the nannies did not know any of the latest techniques, but they honestly read what I asked, showed cards, played games that I left. I didn’t see how they did it, but I saw the impact on the child. I saw in what mood the child remained with the nanny. To be honest, I myself spend much less time with my child. A nanny-governess in one package may be good, but, in my opinion, except in cases of immersion in a language environment, it is unreasonably expensive. When the child grew up, our nanny simply took the child to developmental classes.

It’s tiring, of course, to look for a nanny on your own. Answer calls continuously for a week. But you also have to conduct lengthy negotiations with agency managers. However, once I found a decent nanny in 3 days, I no longer panic at the prospect of a new search. I'm calm. I know that a nanny will be found one way or another. This is reflected in my relationships with nannies. Ordinary nannies, nothing special. And tolerable shortcomings, of course, were revealed over time in both. But I compare my situation with the situation of my friends and understand that there are no excesses and only the second nanny in two years with a very moderate payment - this in itself is a good result.

Good luck finding a nanny!

What should a good nanny be like? Where to find it and how to choose? These questions are asked sooner or later by any mother who decides to return to normal life, in which there are not only children. In fact, you can still find a good nanny. The main thing is to be patient and listen to your feelings!

So, you have firmly decided that you need a nanny and that you are ready to entrust the most precious thing you have to another person. But where can we get this very person who must stop being a stranger and immediately inspire trust? There are several ways. Each of them has its own disadvantages and advantages.

Where to find a decent nanny

Mothers, mothers-in-law, aunts and godparents

Even in your closest circle, there will always be a woman who will be ready to babysit your child. And not because this is a way to earn money, but because your children are not strangers to her either. If desired and under certain circumstances, your mother, mother-in-law, aunt or close relative can take on the role of nanny. The advantages of this arrangement, as they say, are obvious: firstly, this is not a stranger - leaving the child to the mother or mother-in-law is always safer. Secondly, it is always easier to agree on some everyday issues with relatives; there is no need to get used to each other and look closely at each other. Thirdly, the material component may either be absent altogether or represent some amount convenient for everyone.

But the disadvantages, which at first seem implicit, can sooner or later cover all the advantages. In this case, there is a high probability of ruining relationships with relatives and friends, because acting as a “boss” with them will be very difficult. In addition, your mother, aunt or mother-in-law will invariably have their own opinion on diet and diet, and you will often have to step on the throat of your own song.

Recruitment agencies

At first glance, this is the best option, especially if funds allow, but there is neither time nor energy to search. The plus is that in the agency you can, which fully meets all your requirements. Applicants usually have work experience and the necessary medical certificates, and if the employee does not suit you, the agency is obliged to quickly find a replacement.

But the experience of working with an agency can bring an unpleasant surprise. A nanny with excellent recommendations and medical education may in fact turn out to be a citizen of a nearby country without registration. Unfortunately, no agency is responsible for any harm caused by an employee, and no agency can guarantee that an employee will be of good faith and meet all requirements. You should also not forget that the services of a good reputable agency will cost you a pretty penny.

Internet, advertisements

This method is good because you will immediately have a large choice, you will be able to compare several candidates: agree with several at once and check them until there is only one left with whom you agree on everything. What’s also great is that you don’t have to pay anyone money for this.

But the disadvantages are also obvious. Firstly, a high degree of unreliability. You don't know the person you're inviting into your home. What will a couple of lines from an advertisement or the recommendations presented tell you about him? How will you verify what she says about herself and her family? In addition, such a painstaking and thoughtful search on your own, of course, takes a lot of time and effort. But if you're ready for it, try it. First, it is better to arrange a telephone interview in order to immediately weed out candidates who do not fit the price and schedule, and invite the remaining applicants not to your home, but to ask for a visit yourself. Believe me, a person’s home and environment will say more about him than any recommendations.

Friends of friends, neighbors, former nannies of friends

Nannies who are inherited by friends or relatives, as well as neighbors, acquaintances and friends of acquaintances who worked as nannies, are an almost ideal option.

There are a lot of advantages! You will learn first-hand detailed information about the candidate; he is recommended by a person who is already convinced of his professional qualities. In this case, a nanny with a bad reputation is unlikely to be recommended. The percentage of finding a good nanny for a child using this method is quite high.

But the downside is that some of your family information may spread among your circle of friends, although this is already a matter of trust and family behavior. It is important that the acquaintance is not too close (otherwise the relationship with the nanny will automatically develop into a family relationship and we will get option No. 1), but at the same time it is important that the employee is recommended by people who know him well. And if you and the nanny immediately agree on issues of price, schedule and responsibilities, then most likely there will be no problems!

Difficult choice

Only a clear strategy, a skillfully conducted interview, observation and intuition will help you avoid making a mistake in your choice. Allow enough time for the interview when no one will tug or distract you; it is advisable that all family members are present in the house. Be sure to ask the nanny questions about how old she is, is she married, does she have bad habits, does she have children and what are they doing now, is everything okay with her health, what families did she work for before, why did she leave? , what the problems were and why she chose to work as a nanny in the first place.

Listen very carefully to the answers and watch the reaction. What questions put her at a dead end, where she hesitated. Everything is important here - from documents and recommendations to your own feelings. Pay attention to how she behaves when she first meets the child, how the child reacts to her, whether she sets too many conditions at once, and whether you generally like her purely outwardly. No matter what they say, the first impression is often the most accurate.

Choosing a nanny for a child is a difficult and responsible matter. This is the person with whom your child is left alone, who communicates with your child, cares for him and raises him. Therefore, it is very important not to make a mistake with your choice. How should you choose the right nanny, what are they, what should you pay attention to when choosing?

Types of nannies

Child psychologists and parents have long divided all nannies into several conventional types. This division helps parents figure out what kind of nanny they need to look after their child. Moreover, a nanny for an infant and for a 5-year-old child differ in many ways from one another. Not every nanny is capable of looking after both a baby and a fidgety five-year-old with equal success. So, about the types:

• Nanny with medical education (doctor or nurse). Medical education is a very valuable quality. Especially when caring for a baby. A medical nanny is well versed in issues such as sterility, childhood diseases and their symptoms, proper care of the baby, and feeding. They are particularly careful; if the baby becomes ill, they can provide competent primary care, massage, etc. Practice shows that medical nannies do not refuse to be with the baby not only during the day, but also at night. The main disadvantage of this category of nannies is that they care for the child more than raise him. In the case of a baby, this is quite acceptable, but when he grows up, parents will most likely have to think about finding another nanny;
• Arina Rodionovna. This is the common name for older women, most often pensioners. Such nannies have many advantages. They raised their own children and most likely have grandchildren. Therefore, they have plenty of experience in dealing with children. Usually they are extremely patient with the baby, they can clean the room and feed the child tasty food. The “Arina Rodionovnas” love to take long walks with their children, taking them to zoos, museums and other places that are beneficial for the child. They willingly read books to their children and patiently answer children’s endless “whys.” Old nannies usually have plenty of free time, and therefore they can work all day and even overtime. Their main drawback is raising and treating a child “the old fashioned way,” as well as the desire to educate not only the child, but also his parents. Another disadvantage is that it is usually difficult for a “nanny-grandmother” to help a child with homework;
• Female students. They are also commonly called “nannies for an hour.” They are young and therefore do not have the proper experience of caring for children. They usually have little free time, as they devote most of the day to studying. Therefore, student nannies work on a case-by-case basis, regarding caring for someone else’s baby as a casual part-time job. Hence the corresponding attitude to work. Typically, such nannies are hired when there are no other options;
• Professional nanny. This is usually a middle-aged woman who has worked as a nanny for many years. This is her main profession. She has considerable experience, she has worked with many children, and can provide recommendations from the families where she previously worked. She knows how to find contacts with almost any child, as well as with his parents. A professional nanny can equally successfully communicate with children of any age - from infants to primary school students. She knows how to swaddle a baby, how to feed him or help him when he is sick. A professional nanny can accompany a child when he and his parents travel long distances, for example, on vacation or abroad. You can safely leave your child with her for a long time. A professional nanny is the best parental choice.

When choosing a nanny, you should consider how long she is needed. If for a few hours a day or 1-2 times a week, then a professional nanny is unlikely to agree to this. In this case, it is better to look for an old woman or a student.

Working hours

Nannies can work different schedules. In this sense they are divided:

• For full-time nannies. Such nannies work from morning to evening. That is, until the child’s parents come home from work. Throughout the day, the nanny is with the child, feeds him, walks with him, puts him to bed, and teaches him;
• For evening nannies. As the definition suggests, they work in the evenings. Evening nannies meet the child from school or pick him up from kindergarten, prepare dinner for the baby, feed him, and put him to bed. Their working hours end when their parents come home;
• For live-in nannies. They usually live for the entire week with the family that hired them to care for the baby. In accordance with the agreement, the live-in nanny is given one or two days off. It happens that she is given a separate room. In other cases, she spends the night in the same room with the baby. In addition to caring for the child, a live-in nanny can also perform other duties: helping with housework, preparing food for the baby and his parents;
• For daily nannies. Daily nannies are usually needed in cases where a child needs supervision around the clock. Usually these are infants or sick children. For the most part, daily nannies work in shifts - every other day.

A separate category is accompanying nannies. They are usually hired when a mother and her baby (or several children) have to travel long distances. The responsibilities of the accompanying nanny include caring for the children during the trip, as well as looking after the kids in the new place until they return.

Nanny responsibilities

Before you start looking for a nanny, you need to decide what her responsibilities will be. It is clear that not all child care tasks can be assigned to the nanny. There are some things she doesn’t know how to do, and some things she doesn’t want to do for one reason or another. And in something else, no nanny, even the most qualified one, can replace a mother: for example, in breastfeeding a baby. Therefore, first of all, you need to determine a list of the most important responsibilities, and solve all other nuances as they arise.

So, the nanny should:

• Provide full care for the baby;
• Ensure his safety;
• Bath the baby and fulfill other hygiene requirements;
• Maintain a daily routine: put the child to bed on time, walk with him;
• Prepare food for the baby and feed him;
• Maintain sanitary order in the children's room;
• Accompany him while visiting clubs and sports sections;
• Visit exhibitions, museums, attractions with him;
• Know the characteristics of a child’s age-related development and apply their knowledge in practice;
• Help the child (if he is a preschooler) prepare for school;
• Help a schoolchild in completing homework.

Additional Requirements

Many parents try to find a nanny for their child exclusively with a pedagogical education. Indeed, there are many advantages in a nanny-teacher. She knows the methods of child development, can understand music, be able to draw, know foreign languages, etc. She will teach the baby all this, as a result of which he will grow up to be a comprehensively developed personality. In addition, the nanny-teacher will be able to prepare the child for school, and then help him with his homework.

All these are advantages associated with a nanny with a pedagogical education. However, there are also disadvantages. Currently, some teachers (as well as psychologists) are trained in Western models of raising children, which in many ways do not coincide with our ideas and worldview. For example, many teachers now believe that a child cannot be limited in anything, he must be allowed everything, otherwise he will grow up to be a complex and inferior person. Therefore, before hiring a teacher educator, you should carefully understand his worldview and methods of education.

A nanny who does not have a pedagogical education. There are many more such nannies than those with a teaching diploma. They could be young girls, or they could be older women. They usually do not have any parenting methods of their own, and therefore it is much easier for them to explain the parent’s point of view on raising a child. The only significant disadvantage is that it will most likely be more difficult for a nanny without pedagogical education to prepare a child for school.

A woman who has children of her own. The main advantages of such nannies are their worldly experience and ability to communicate with children. They will look after the child properly, feed him properly and on time, answer all his questions, etc. At the same time, some nannies in this category may not listen to the wishes of the baby’s parents, explaining this by the fact that, due to their experience, they are better they know how to raise a child.

However, all of the above nuances are completely solvable. Much more important is what kind of person the nanny is. If she has a bad character, bad habits, limited horizons and inappropriate vocabulary, then it is better to refuse her services. The reasons for the refusal are quite understandable: by communicating with a dubious nanny, your child, wittingly or unwittingly, will gain from her those human qualities that she possesses.

How to look for a nanny

1. The first and most common method is advertisements in newspapers or the Internet. There is, in fact, only one plus here: this search method does not require large expenses, but there are plenty of minuses. Among those who submitted an advertisement there may be former nannies expelled from their previous places for serious misconduct, as well as nannies with no experience. Another category is the so-called “lovers of other people’s husbands” or thieves who are looking for ways to infiltrate someone else’s house in order to then rob it. Therefore, it is wiser to hold the first meeting with such applicants not at home, but somewhere on neutral territory.
2. The second method is to search through recruitment agencies. There are many more advantages here: agencies can offer you an impressive list of candidates for every taste, along with characteristics, recommendations, and medical certificates. But at the same time, there are also a lot of disadvantages: you have to pay for the agency’s services, many candidates are nannies only in their own words, some may have false documents. In addition, you should not indiscriminately trust the recruitment agencies themselves. There have been cases where some agencies deliberately deceived clients, trying to connect them not with professionals in their field, but with random people.
3. The surest way to find a nanny is through recommendations from your acquaintances, co-workers, friends, and relatives. Usually, none of them will recommend a bad candidate. You will know almost everything about such a nanny: her habits, abilities, marital status, place of residence, work experience. There is only one significant disadvantage here: if for some reason you refuse her, then you risk ruining your relationship with those who recommended her.

How to properly meet a nanny

When getting to know a nanny, you should carefully look at all the little things. This is understandable: you will entrust her with the most precious thing you have - your child. First of all, you need to pay attention to the appearance of the candidate for nanny for your baby. If she looks untidy, this is a good reason to refuse her.

After a visual introduction, it is recommended to ask the candidate a few general questions. These can be questions on a variety of topics: can she cook, what dishes does she like best, does she like to go for walks, can she take her child to a section or clinic, what were her responsibilities in her previous place, how did she get along with the child there? and his parents, etc. Don’t be embarrassed to ask her for a passport and medical certificates. You should also carefully read the letters of recommendation and call the telephone numbers indicated in them.

If the meeting is taking place at your home, it is wise to invite other members of your family, as well as your child. Conclusions about what a candidate is like must be drawn from her very first step in your home. Did she come on time, did she greet you and the child, how sincere was she in the conversation, etc. When she leaves, you need to develop a generalized opinion and jointly decide whether this candidate is suitable as a nanny for your baby.

After general questions, you need to get to know the future nanny better by asking her more specific questions.

1) Questions about previous work:

• What responsibilities did you perform in your previous position?
• Why didn't you start working there?
• How easily do you adapt to your new family?
• How long does it take for children to get used to you?
• What's one thing you don't like to do as a nanny?

2) Personal questions:

• How old are you?
• Do you have any education?
• What is your marital status?
• Do you have children and what are their ages?
• If the children are minors, who will stay with them while you are at work?
• Do you have any hobbies, and what exactly?
• Are you a believer, and what religion do you profess?
• How do you spend your free time, and what is your social circle?

3) Health questions:

• Do you have chronic diseases?
• Can you lift a child in your arms?
• Do you have any bad habits?
• How long have you had fluorography?
• Do you agree to undergo additional medical examination?

4) Discussion of future responsibilities:

• Can you stay late if necessary?
• Are you willing to work on weekends?
• Do you agree to accompany your child if he travels with his parents to a dacha, to another city, to another country?

5) Discussion of payment terms:

• What salary are you expecting?
• How do you want to be paid - every day, once a week, monthly?
• How do you feel about fines for absenteeism or lateness?

6) Discussion of behavior in emergency situations:

• What do you intend to do if a child chokes, loses consciousness, cries and is capricious, behaves inappropriately, gets sick (the list of situations goes on)?

7) Questions with background:

• What games can you play with a child at a given age?
• For what reasons can children cry?
• What do you do if your child makes you angry?
• What is most important to you when caring for and communicating with your baby?

And, of course, one should not discount one’s own maternal intuition. It is she who should be the decisive condition for whether to accept a particular candidate as a nanny or refuse her.

How to introduce a nanny to a child

So, the future nanny made a positive impression on you. However, this is not a reason to immediately hire her. You need to make sure how your child reacts to the candidate. This should be the last argument in your decision about whether your child needs or does not need such a nanny.

Watch your child's reaction carefully. If he has a sociable character, then how long will it take him to try to get to know the nanny better? If, on the contrary, the baby is uncommunicative, then how will the nanny behave in this case in order to win him over? If at first the child is afraid of the nanny, but thanks to her efforts he then begins to show interest in her, then this is an absolute plus for the nanny.

There is no need to leave your baby with a nanny for a long time at the very beginning. It would be wiser if the child gets used to it gradually. At the same time, you need to try to explain to the baby that the nanny is a very good aunt who will teach him to play, draw, will go for walks with him, ride on the carousel, etc. Having believed in your explanations, the child will be able to get used to her faster. And the last condition: when hiring a nanny, you must conclude an official employment contract with her.

How to control a nanny's work

There should be no objections to the fact that the nanny’s work needs to be supervised. The question is how to do it right. Firstly, with inept control it is difficult to achieve any specific results. Secondly, in this way you can offend the nanny.

The main method of control is careful observation of the child. If he sleeps restlessly at night, is not happy with the nanny or is afraid of her, then this is already a reason to think about it and strengthen his observations. If the baby, as soon as he sees you, begins to cry and tries to run away from the nanny, then this is another reason for parental thoughtfulness. Additional reasons may also be that your baby has not learned anything new for a long time, he has strange bruises and scratches, the nanny behaves ingratiatingly in front of you, etc. If such signs regularly appear, it is better to part with the nanny.

Your unexpected arrival home can give good results. Or - the same unexpected appearance in the house of your friends and relatives. It is also good to talk to your neighbors from time to time, who can see exactly how the nanny communicates with your child. Some parents even hire private detectives for such purposes.

There is another practice-tested way to determine how good or, conversely, how bad your baby’s nanny is. A good nanny is one whose baby returns from a walk dirty, but at home he is always clean and washed. Everything is simple here. When a child is out and about, he usually always gets dirty. And a child can take a full walk only when he feels comfortable with the nanny.

Recently, the work of nannies has become increasingly monitored using video cameras. This is perhaps the most effective type of control. It is often reported in the press and on TV that it was thanks to video cameras that it was possible to expose fanatics under the guise of nannies. It is better if video cameras are installed in several places. It is clear that the nanny herself should not know anything about video surveillance.

Don't be jealous of your baby

The baby gets used to a good nanny quickly. It happens that he starts calling her “mom.” This often leads to real mothers becoming jealous of the child’s nanny. And for this reason she is fired. Thus, such mothers make a big mistake.

In this case, the feelings and psychology of the child are not taken into account. Being attached to someone is very important to him. And when the nanny to whom the baby has become attached disappears from his life, and a new one appears in its place, this can cause serious stress for the baby. There is no need to be jealous of the child and be afraid that the nanny can really replace the real mother. If the nanny is a professional, and also a wonderful person, then she will always find a way to explain to your baby that the real mother is you, and no one else.

We also read:

How to find a good nanny for a child? 7 secrets from Nastya Zhuk

It would seem that in our age of the Internet and high technology, what could be easier than finding a nanny for a child?
It’s the nanny who needs to prove her professionalism, but the child’s parents have nothing to do - just know, choose and voice your wishes.

If you're looking for a nanny for the first time, you're probably thinking the same thing. You have allocated some budget for the nanny's salary and outlined your requirements. Well, for example, you want to pay a nanny 45,000 rubles a month (Moscow price) and you want “full care for one child, development according to age”, “preparing children’s food and feeding”, “cleaning the children’s room, washing and ironing children’s things”. Ready for the interview, right?

And now a little test for you: answer the following questions immediately, without hesitation:

1. If you go on vacation with a child, will you pay the nanny for this time?
2. If the nanny gets sick, will you pay her 45,000 for this month or will you deduct sick days from the salary?
3. Is the nanny entitled to leave? Will you pay for it? How many?
4. If a child does not sleep and requires attention all day, when will the nanny clean his room, wash and iron his things?
5. If you have a nanny from morning to evening, how should she have lunch? Will she have a lunch break? Is it paid? What is the child doing at this time?
6. If your nanny is having lunch with you, what will she eat? Will you leave her food? Can she take your products?
7. If it's -20 or raining outside, should the nanny go for a walk with the child? What if it rains for the third week in a row and the child sits at home all this time?

If you were able to immediately answer all these questions, then I congratulate you, I have nothing to teach you, you are well prepared for the conversation with potential nannies)
If you are stuck and start feverishly thinking about your options, you definitely need the advice of an experienced fighter) You risk falling into one of two extremes - either creating such hellish working conditions that the circle of those who agree will sharply narrow, or bargaining for unfavorable conditions for yourself.
Below I will share not only the “technical” intricacies of finding a nanny on Pomogatel, but also the “generally accepted” unspoken rules.

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HOW TO FIND A NANNY FOR A CHILD: WHERE TO LOOK?
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You can look for a nanny in different ways, and each of them has advantages and disadvantages, which I described below in the screenshot. “Our” case - i.e. I have highlighted the search for a nanny through a specialized paid service ([link], for example).

Finding a nanny through an agency has been and remains a fairly reliable way to search.

But Finding a nanny through an agency is an expensive proposition. This is an option for very wealthy families who are willing to pay a nanny above the market and make appropriate demands. Below is a little about selection through an agency:

To select a nanny you will have to pay 50-100% of her monthly salary to the agency. And, as a rule, the nanny herself will pay the same amount for the fact that the agency brought her together with you.
Agencies usually place quite high demands on nannies.: for example, having a higher pedagogical/medical education, knowledge of “fashionable” techniques and, of course, Russian citizenship, and sometimes even permanent registration in the city where the nanny is going to work. In addition, if a nanny is often “returned” by dissatisfied employers, then the agency will no longer work with her.
All this undoubtedly increases the price tag for nanny services. If we talk about specific figures, then this is 400-450 rubles per hour versus the “standard” market 250-300 (prices for Moscow).
If an agency sends you a nanny and you don't like her, you can request a replacement and the agency must do this for free. Usually you can change a nanny without additional payment within 1 month, which is considered a trial month.

For many people, the best way to search is still the option “through friends.”

Here I would like to say - never, under any circumstances, hire your girlfriend, your mother’s friend, friend, distant relative, etc.

Instead of a hired worker designed to make your life easier and follow your instructions, you will get a person who will behave from the position of “so be it, I’ll help the young,” give you advice and guidance, share your personal problems and demand special treatment (special attitude is, for example, requests to “get into position” when she is late, etc.)

If you are hiring a nanny “through friends,” then you should only consider the option “friends give you their nanny.”
But this also has its drawbacks, which I described in the screenshot above: you may suddenly realize that the terms of cooperation are now set not by you, but by your friends and nanny, and you can only nod your head and sometimes timidly insert your requests. You find yourself in the position of a beggar.

The most unreliable methods are searching for a nanny through publicly available sources (social networks, Avito, Yula) and posting notices on poles.

Here there are no filters or the most basic checks at all. Anyone can contact you - a “spotter” who is looking for an apartment for robbery, for example.
An alcoholic nanny who was blacklisted and desperate to find a job through specialized services. You yourself can call anyone - for example, to a paid number, which will “eat up” your entire balance on the phone.

Another minus - no filters. You cannot set the option on Avito to “search only for a nanny between the ages of 35 and 45.” You can't on social media. networks to look for a nanny living in your area.
In this regard, posting advertisements on poles is even better, because it is aimed at those living in your area (where you will post the advertisements).

I also have the strong impression that some nannies from Avito, even if they are looking for work, are not looking for a nanny job at all. Very often you can find advertisements where in the photo a painted girl in a mini-dress bends in a seductive pose and text like “I’m looking for a nanny job to travel abroad, 450 rubles per hour.”
The next option (in my opinion the best) is specialized sites.

Well, finally, we got to the most “modern” way of searching - searching through specialized paid sites. One such site is "[link]"

SEARCH FOR A Nanny VIA [link]
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Pomogatel is one of several sites specializing in the automatic selection of household staff(nannies, housekeepers, tutors, caregivers). The site has several competitors. Competitors differ little from each other, they are all paid, the price is the same everywhere, even nanny profiles are the same everywhere (since nannies usually publish their profiles on all available resources).
There are a lot of profiles on Pomogatel, but you must understand that not all of them belong to nannies “actively searching” for work. Of the nannies on Pomogatel, 10 percent are looking for work “right now.” However, even this 10% is a much larger choice than you can find on Avito or on social media. networks.
The assistant is convenient primarily because you can set criteria for searching for a nanny and search only among nannies who meet the conditions. This option (search) is available after registration, registration is free.

You can indicate the nanny’s desired age, work experience, education, desired price for services, and what duties she will have to perform. Responsibilities are divided into basic - child care (that which concerns the child, his things, his children's room), and additional - housework (that concerns the whole family - for example, cleaning other rooms except the children's room).
You specify search conditions - the site gives you a list of nannies with a brief description. You can open the full and detailed profile of each nanny. But you won’t get the nanny’s phone number for free.
There is another option: post your own vacancy and wait for someone to respond to it.. In the vacancy, you will have to indicate the requirements for the nanny, the proposed payment, and describe your situation.

In response to a published vacancy, you will receive responses from interested nannies. Sometimes even those nannies whose application form indicates a higher price for services than you offer can respond. This usually means the nanny is willing to bargain.

An advantage over finding a nanny through Avito and social media. network is obvious - on Avito you can put a filter only by the price and place of residence of the nanny, and on social media. Networks don’t allow this either.
IS IT POSSIBLE TO SAVE 1690 RUBLES?
Some nannies (rarely!) indicate their phone number directly in the response text. These are usually those nannies who are aware that employers pay for phones.
If the nanny indicated her number in the response, then you receive the nanny’s phone number for free, bypassing the purchase of a VIP account - this may be of interest to those who are not ready to pay 1,690 rubles for a VIP account.
Personally, I decided to pay these 1690 rubles.

Why? Because if you really urgently need a nanny, and are not looking for it out of curiosity, then 1690 rubles is pennies compared to the money that can be thrown away if hiring a nanny is unsuccessful.
On the other hand, if you have a lot of time left to search, then this option of waiting for responses with telephone numbers is also suitable.
Your vacancy will eventually go into the archive and responses will stop coming, but you can always publish a new one.

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ATTENTION, DON'T PAY MORE! WHY I'M TAKEN OFF 1 STAR!

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If you paid for a VIP account, then windows like “You paid for a VIP account, congratulations, blah blah blah” pop up in front of you, you automatically press Ok, Ok, WITHOUT READING WHAT THEY WRITE.

And one of the notifications says something like this:

YOU ARE AUTOMATICALLY CONNECTED TO THE PAYMENT PROLOGATION SERVICE. IN THE NEXT MONTH, YOUR ACCOUNT WILL BE AUTOMATICALLY RENEWED, YOU DO NOT NEED TO ENTER YOUR CARD DETAILS, 1690 RUBLES WILL BE CHARGED FROM YOUR CARD AUTOMATICALLY. YOU CAN DISABLE AUTO RENEWAL IN YOUR PERSONAL ACCOUNT

Well, guys, this is the finish line. I'm sure 50 percent of clients fall into this trap. Within a month, naturally, you will find yourself a nanny and next month 1,690 rubles will simply go down the drain. Well, everything seems to be legal, it’s your own fault for not disabling this “convenient option” in your personal account.

By the way, not only this site, but also many others, are guilty of “addicting to auto payment”. Be careful when using a bank card to pay for services on the Internet!

PROTECTION AGAINST FRAUD AND DISHONESTY CONDUCT
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The main protection against fraud and dishonest behavior on the site is the site visitors themselves.
There is a “Complain” button next to each profile: complaints are reviewed fairly quickly and the site administration takes action.

Personally, I don’t complain about nannies who don’t come to a meeting/don’t pick up the phone or aren’t looking for work - you never know what a person’s life circumstances are.
I complained twice: when the nanny’s profile indicated a phone number consisting of all units (and Google suggested that it was a paid number) and when, instead of the nanny, there was an agent on the line.

LYRICAL ABSTRACT: THE AGENT PRETENDS THAT SHE IS THE NANNY. WHY CAN'T YOU AGREE TO A TRIAL DAY BEFORE THE INTERVIEW?
While searching, I came across this kind of “scam”... On the phone (you call or someone calls you, it doesn’t matter) you talk to an intelligent, professional woman who makes the most favorable impression on you. You offer a meeting and the potential nanny informs you that she works on a “trial day” system - you hire her for 4-5 hours at the market hourly rate (in Moscow this is 300 rubles) and during these 4-5 hours we’ll get to know each other and you will see how I work." You agree, but when the nanny comes to you at the appointed time, you have the idea that a completely different person was talking to you on the phone. If such a thought arose at all, do not doubt it - it is so, the person is different. An agent spoke to you on the phone and she will receive payment for her services in the amount of a “trial day”.
So what's wrong with that?? - you ask. The bad thing is that nannies resort to this kind of service, which scares off employers even at the stage of a telephone conversation, because... their lack of professionalism is evident from the first minutes of communication.
If you are an ordinary person who does not like to tell others bad news, your conscience will not allow you to turn the nanny out the door without paying soon after the meeting. You will have to endure the company of an unpleasant person and also pay him for it.

In addition, the nanny can attach documents to the application form - recommendations, diplomas of education and courses, passport, etc.
But most nannies don’t do this and THIS IS NORMAL, rarely anyone wants to show their passport and other personal data online.
PROTECTION AGAINST THEFT AND ROBBERY:
The main rule is to conduct interviews for nannies NOT at home. You can do this outside while walking with your child, for example. If you do this, then a crowd of applicant nannies will not come to your home, and even if among them there is a scammer looking for a rich apartment, she will not see your apartment and will not know where you live.
The nanny must bring a passport and all documents to the interview. If the nanny does not bring documents to the interview, refuse her services without the slightest hesitation. A professional, experienced nanny cannot “accidentally forget her passport at home” when getting ready for a meeting with her employer.
In a word, make sure that as few people “from the street” as possible come into your home, and even more so that no one crosses your threshold without showing your passport.
However, if you don’t have diamond earrings in your ears, works of art hanging on the walls of your house, and a couple of million in cash hidden in your safe, then robbers in Moscow are unlikely to be interested in you.

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ABOUT PRICES AND REQUIREMENTS
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Let me make a reservation right away that I know nothing about the prices for work on a “shift basis”.
Otherwise, the payment can be fixed or hourly, and the nanny’s working conditions can be “with homestay” or “without homestay”.
Here, don’t let yourself be deceived by nannies, middlemen, or even websites!
Standard situation:

I'm looking for a nanny for 10 hours a day, 5 days a week, one child. How much will it cost?

Well look, standard rate is 300 rubles per hour... 22 working days, 10 hours a day - per month is 66 thousand rubles!
- Why so expensive?! I was counting on 45 thousand a month!
- These are standard prices! Nobody works cheaper than 300 per hour.
(Explanation: the price of 300 rubles per hour is relevant for the work scheme “Drop by today for 3 hours, you need to take a walk with the child. Did you take a walk? Well, here’s 900 rubles, go home.” For full-time work, the prices are different. But some nannies and intermediaries are trying pretend that when working according to a schedule they are paid the same as when working hourly)

On the “Helper” website, at the bottom of the nanny’s profile, there is brief information about the nanny and the working conditions she is looking for: full-time or part-time, with or without live-in:

Below is a little about popular work and payment schemes and accepted prices.
FULL TIME 5/2 WITH FIXED PAY(imitation of the Labor Code of the Russian Federation)
With this scheme, the nanny works 5 days a week according to a fixed schedule (for example, from 9 to 19) and receives a fixed salary at the end of the month (or at the end of the week, as agreed). When working with one child, 9-10 hours a day in Moscow, that’s a salary of 45 thousand rubles per month (prices for 2018). If there are two children, then 50-60 thousand per month. A “cool” nanny can also receive a salary of 60 thousand per month for one child if she somehow super-dupper develops him: for example, combines the functions of a nanny and tutor (for a schoolchild) or the functions of a nanny and a sports coach, or the child requires specific care (health problems and need to be forced to do exercise therapy or something like that every day).
If you choose this payment option, be sure to clarify issues such as payment for sick days, holidays and vacations. It is accepted like this:

• The nanny combines her vacation with your vacation and receives 100% payment for it. Those. if you went to the seaside for 2 weeks in August, then you will still pay the nanny her regular salary for August
• on holidays (May, January, November) the nanny either does not work or works half a day (as agreed), and receives payment as usual

The disadvantage of this method is that if you pay in advance, you are at risk, and if you pay “for the month worked,” the nanny is at risk. Therefore, only a nanny you already know and whom you trust is transferred to “salary.”
FULL TIME 5/2 WITH HOURLY PAY

This option is similar to the previous one, the only difference is the payment for sick days/vacations/holidays (they are not paid). The nanny receives payment for the hours actually worked. If we talk about prices - this is 250 rubles per hour for working with one child, and 300 per hour for working with two children. And (as in the previous option) the cost of a nanny’s services can be much higher if you want the child to be treated in some special way (some special developmental activities).
During the “working” month you will earn a little more than in the previous version, but vacations and holidays are more profitable.
The nanny usually receives payment at the end of the day or week worked; this is convenient and no one risks being deceived.
PART-TIME WITH HOURLY PAY
Part-time work (less than 5 hours a day) is paid more than full-time work, but only if YOU decide what time the nanny will work.
Those. you tell the nanny: “today come at 10 am, and tomorrow at 4 pm, and the day after tomorrow you don’t need to come at all.” Naturally, no nanny will like such a scheme and therefore the price is higher: minimum 300 rubles per hour for 1 child, 350-400 rubles per hour for two.
If a nanny tells you when she can work and when she can’t, then the prices for this are no higher than for full-time work (200-250 rubles per hour).
A real case from personal experience with a nanny:

We are looking for a full-time nanny, 250 rubles per hour.
- I generally agree with your conditions, but I won’t be able to work all day, I have work on Tuesdays before lunch, work on Wednesdays after lunch, on Thursdays in the middle of the day I will be gone... since this turns out to be a part-time job, then this it will be 300 rubles per hour, not 250...

HOME ACCOMMODATION:
Many nannies who have housing problems are looking for a “live-in” job - this is when the nanny is given a separate room and lives permanently on the employer’s premises.
The advantages of a nanny are obvious here - no need to spend money on rent(and in Moscow this is a lot of money) and travel time(and in Moscow this can be a long time).
But There is only one plus for the employer - he can get the nanny to work at any time of the day or night. Which, in general, is what the employer will do. All nannies know this and all of them who are looking for a “live-in” job are ready for this.
Since the advantages of profitable accommodation are offset by the disadvantages of long working hours, in general the prices for nanny services “with a family stay” are the same as without a family stay.
400-450 rubles per hour/60+ thousand per month and MORE - WHAT DO THEY PAY THIS MONEY FOR?
As I wrote above, the price of a nanny’s services can be significantly higher if she combines the work of a nanny with the work of a medical worker/coach/instructor/tutor/teacher. People are willing to pay extra for this, because it is often cheaper than paying separately for a nanny, and separately for 100,500 development units.
But the additional payment for cooking/cleaning is usually small; many nannies are ready to clean up and cook while the child is sleeping, for a very small additional payment (for example, for 50 thousand per month instead of 45).
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WHAT ARE THE DUTIES OF A Nanny
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On the “Helper” at the bottom of the nanny’s profile there is a section that indicates what the nanny can do FOR A CHILD and with children of what age she has worked before:

The nanny's responsibilities include full child care and development of the child according to age.
Those. wash, dress, feed, put to bed, walk, entertain, play, tell fairy tales, sing songs, etc. In case of illness, treat according to the instructions of the parents and/or doctor.

Development by age is teaching a child self-service skills (eating with a spoon, drinking from a mug, dressing independently, going to the potty), all sorts of “educational games” such as folding pyramids and puzzles, physical activities (riding a scooter, jumping, running, etc. .) - everything that you say and that does not require any special techniques.

The most convenient option for everyone is if you give the nanny a child’s schedule with a detailed description of what to do and how to do it. Experienced nannies are usually very efficient.

Sometimes the nanny may have some kind of personal pen or cockroach of hers - such as the fact that she refuses to walk with the child in bad weather or force the child to do anything. At first, an adequate demand may ultimately result in problems: for example, the nanny refers to the entire period from September to May as “bad weather,” and refusal to force results in indulgence in any whims of the child.

I’ll offer the following life hack: ask the nanny to name some responsibilities/working conditions that she can’t put up with

She will tell you something: I won’t force the child to do exercises, I won’t cook borscht, I won’t do laundry by hand, I won’t wash the dishes, etc.

If she names something that is important to you, there’s nothing to think about - you won’t work with her.

If she names something unimportant for you, then say, ok, you will never ask her to do something she hates. But if in the future a conflict arises on some other issue, then you can say “you didn’t want to cook borscht, you don’t cook borscht and I’m not asking you. There was no talk about the rest.”

Many nannies agree to carry out assignments “for the family,” and not just for the child. The “Additional responsibilities” section indicates what responsibilities the nanny is willing to take on in addition to the child - washing dishes, cleaning the apartment, buying groceries.

Some nannies are ready to take on literally the entire household in addition to the children. But here, think for yourself: if the nanny washes the floors, cleans the plumbing and cooks for the whole family every day, when will she take care of the child? Will everyday life come at the expense of child care?

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TELEPHONE CONVERSATION, INTERVIEW, DETAILS: HOLIDAYS AND SICK AWAY
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Here I do not pretend to be the ultimate truth, I am simply stating my experience.
Before talking with nannies, take a paper and pen in your hands and write:

1. An approximate schedule of the child and what the nanny will have to do point by point: “Come at 9.00, pick up the child, morning hygiene, feed the child, read a book for half an hour, go for a walk for 1.5 hours...”, etc. until the very end of the nanny's working day
2. What are the features of your particular case that make the nanny’s work easier or more difficult (for example, the child has flat feet and needs to do special exercises every day, or you often have rush jobs and therefore the nanny will often have to stay late, or you have the 5th floor and the stroller does not fit into the elevator)
3. What kind of payment do you offer (price per hour or price per month)
4. Important questions that you would like to ask the nanny (some are interested in whether the nanny has children of their own, others are interested in past experience)

What (roughly) should a phone conversation look like if you're calling a potential nanny?

- Hello, is this Nina/Katya/Sveta? I'm looking for an advertisement for nanny services, are you looking for a job now? My name is ***, I am looking for a full-time/part-time nanny for a child/children, for the summer/several months/long term: are you interested? I will briefly describe our situation: we are a young family, we will both work, there is one/two/three children, he is 1 month/1 year/10 years old, he goes to kindergarten/does not go to kindergarten, we need to arrive at 8 am, take the older one to kindergarten, then come back and sit with the youngest, feed, walk, wash, dress, do gymnastics for half an hour a day, give it to the parents in the evening (here are the specifics of what needs to be done). Pay hourly/salary, this is what we offer. You probably have questions for me? I am ready to answer (answer questions). I wanted to ask you: (your questions).

If you find it difficult to conduct business negotiations with strangers, I advise you to write down a conversation plan on paper and read the prepared questions directly from the paper.
If at a certain moment you realize that you don’t like the nanny, end the conversation and say goodbye.

If you liked the nanny in the conversation and you plan to invite her for an interview, then be sure toask the nanny to bring all the documents with her- passport, medical book, certificate of absence of HIV/syphilis/hepatitis, diploma of education, if the nanny claims that he has it.
But you don’t have to ask for recommendations and don’t trust them at all. Recommendations may be fake (give a friend’s phone number and the friend will give a recommendation over the phone) and you will never check it.

If you invite several nannies to an interview at once with the hope of choosing the best one, this is normal. Don't hide from the nanny that she is not alone. You are not alone with her either.

Keep in mind that THE INTERVIEW IS NOT PAID! Don’t agree to the option “let’s pay me for a 3-hour trial, and we’ll get to know each other at the same time” (I already wrote above why).

When meeting in person (as I already wrote above), it is better to meet not at your home, but on the street or in another place - this way you will protect yourself in case a “spotter” comes to visit you, looking for apartments to rob.

If during a personal meeting you like the nanny, she generally agrees to the proposed conditions, and you generally agree to her - discuss the details, namely: payment for vacations and sick leave, work schedule, after-hours work, additional duties, lunch break for the nanny.

There are generally accepted rules, they are:

HOW IS NANNY'S HOLIDAY PAID:
When paid hourly, the nanny is not paid leave at all. Those. if she doesn't work, she doesn't get paid. If the employer himself went on vacation and took the children with him, then the nanny does not work, and you do not pay her.
With full-time employment and a fixed rate, the nanny combines her vacation with the employer’s vacation and then her vacation is paid. Those. for example, you are going on vacation for 2 weeks in August, the nanny is also on vacation while you are away. And he receives his salary for August as usual.
If a nanny asks for leave according to the scheme “I have 28 days of paid leave at a time convenient for me,” then this is a hefty indulgence that leads to a severe underestimation of the cost of the nanny’s services. For working parents, this is not an option at all (every six months or a year you are guaranteed to have hemorrhoids).

AND IF THE NANNY IS ILL / THE CHILD IS ILL

If a child gets sick, the nanny must not only treat him, but also protect herself so that she herself does not become infected. In general, it is considered NORMAL if you buy medicine for the nanny - the same Lavomax, Arbidol and other antiviral drugs are not cheap at all. But here it’s up to your conscience to allow it.
If a nanny gets sick, she sits at home and gets treatment so as not to infect the child. She does not receive payment for sick days.

Nanny's lunch break
The nanny eats lunch when the child is asleep/allows him to have lunch, period.
If you work from home (like me) or don’t work at all, then you run the risk of getting into a situation where the nanny thrusts the baby into your arms and says, “Oh, I’m having lunch,” and you entertain the child for an hour while the nanny eats lunch. This shouldn't happen.

From personal experience: I had a situation where the nanny deliberately arranged for her lunch break to fall at a time when the child was awake and I was not feeding him. Those. While I was breastfeeding the baby/while the baby was sleeping, the nanny was on the phone, and when the baby woke up and needed attention, she left the baby with me and went to lunch. This situation is not normal.

The nanny brings food with her or cooks for herself from those products that you allow her to take (i.e. you do not have to cook specifically for her).
Usually the nanny is allowed to take simple products - cereals, pasta, milk, bread, tea, coffee, cookies, eggs, sausages, dumplings, etc.

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CONCLUSION
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In fact, finding a dream nanny consists of two stages:

1) superficial filtering according to general criteria: age, education, experience, cost of services, general impression of the person.
2) clarification of details, a more complete understanding of the person

Stage 1 is exactly what recruitment agencies do. They superficially select people to suit your requirements and give you a choice of 2-4 nannies, with whom you can sometimes talk before hiring, but sometimes this is not possible and you are offered to “get to know” the nanny after she goes to work.

You can easily go through this same stage 1 yourself using the Pomotel website + a quick call to suitable nannies.

You can invite at least 10 people to stage 2 (interview), no restrictions.

And of course, 1,690 rubles for a VIP account is pennies compared to the agency’s commission, which is 50-100% of the nanny’s monthly salary. These 1,690 rubles will not help the family budget.

Just 10 years ago, young mothers sat quietly and peacefully on maternity leave for exactly three years. It was the way it was, it wasn’t even discussed. The husband is the breadwinner, and the mother is the mother. Now it is not customary to stay on maternity leave for a long time: some people lack communication, others lack money. So mothers go to work as soon as the little one is a couple of months old. There are not enough private kindergartens for everyone, so you have to look for a nanny. But how? MirSovetov will tell you where to start and how to make the right choice.

What types of nannies are there?

There are different types of nannies - that's a fact! And by age, and in relation to children, and by functions performed. It's up to you to decide what kind of nanny your child needs, so read the following qualifications carefully.
Babysitter. If your baby is still very young and you need to leave home, try to find a nanny with a medical education. She will skillfully deal with the toddler and will not only notice something wrong in time, but will also react professionally. And there are situations such that delay is not allowed - suddenly the baby choked, a rash appeared or the temperature rose. The baby will not be able to tell about the illness himself, and an inexperienced nanny will not always be able to provide first aid. It will be good if such a nanny already has experience working with newborns. And be sure to check her medical record, pay attention to the date of the medical examination.
Young neighbor. Teenage nannies are in demand abroad. They believe that a child has more fun with a person who is close to him in spirit. True, such a nanny is usually offered work for a couple of hours, during the short absence of the parents. It has been proven that children with such nannies develop faster and grow up active. And another plus is the relatively low price of services.
In our country, many people believe that leaving a child under the supervision of essentially the same child is nonsense. But in vain, the young nanny will manage everything, not to the detriment of the baby, with household appliances on a first-name basis, and the children love her. There is really one “but” - fearing punishment, a girl may “forget” to tell you about the baby falling off the sofa or the child’s sudden stomach upset. Therefore, MirSovetov advises convincing her (necessarily in a confidential tone) of the importance of communicating such “little things.”
Middle aged woman. It is considered an ideal option. The nanny already has considerable experience in communicating with children, at the same time, her children have already grown up and you are not threatened with constant sick leave. She knows perfectly well what to feed the little one, how to distract him from his whims, how to keep him occupied and interested. And your husband is unlikely to be “interested” in such a nanny. So there is nothing to be afraid of.
Madam aged. Such a Freken Bock. She clearly knows that semolina porridge is the most important dish on the children's menu, that fish oil is simply irreplaceable. And if you allow me, he will give you a couple of tips on raising a child. She will also definitely notice a “suspicious” coating on the pupil’s tongue or a cutting tooth. But he doesn’t recognize diapers and will remember exactly what a pack of washing powder looks like after the sixth time. The motto is tough education and strict control! The ideal would be to have a love for children, although this implies some pampering, but in combination with life experience it is an excellent option.
Relatives and friends. They can be asked to sit with their grandson or nephew for a couple of hours. Usually grandmothers work, aunts too. But it’s unlikely that anyone will refuse to spend an evening with your little one. Admonitions, however, cannot be avoided, but it is much easier for a child to accept a person he knows.
For me personally, the very fact of leaving my son with a stranger is completely incomprehensible. Maybe it “didn’t press”, as they say, or maybe it’s an exaggerated maternal instinct. But I can’t entrust my little one to a lady/girl for whom the very fact of earning money is important, and not the happy childhood of someone else’s child. That’s why I have my mother’s sister as a nanny. An older woman, she raised a daughter, but God did not give her grandchildren. So she pours out all her unspent maternal warmth on her cousin. It’s hard to put into words, but she doesn’t want anything more than to play with the baby doll: they build pyramids, study books, race to eat apples... and both their eyes light up! Perhaps the image of such an aunt does not fit into the idea of ​​a nanny; rather, she looks like a loving grandmother. Finding a nanny like this that you trust and that your baby loves is not easy. But it's worth a try! Nanny-governess. The highest paid nanny. In addition to the usual duties, she will teach your child a foreign language or professionally prepare for school. Needless to say, this is not possible without pedagogical education. Do not save money when looking for such a nanny - only the services of amateurs are cheap.

Where to look for a nanny?

The main thing in this matter is not to rush. Such a serious issue cannot be resolved in a hurry. Be patient and go ahead!
Nanny by advertisement. The cheapest option is to buy a newspaper or post advertisements on poles in the area. And you don’t overpay the agency, and the services of such nannies are inexpensive. You can place advertisements on the Internet or search among forum members. But, as always, there is a “but”. Not everyone can let a stranger into their home, much less leave a child with them. After all, under the guise of such a nanny there may be a thief or a spotter, a hunter of someone else’s husband or for money. Therefore, be very careful when choosing a candidate.
One of my friends found a nanny for her daughter this way. The baby was 2 years old when her mother had to go to work. The whole family put advertisements on all the poles in the area, and after a couple of days a nanny was found. She turned out to be a sweet and fairly young pensioner from a neighboring house. For three years now (they decided to ignore the kindergarten), the nanny has been working in their family. No complaints! And, despite the fact that she does not have a pedagogical education, the little girl adores her nanny, even calling her grandmother. And my friend often brags - her daughter recites a new poem every day, counts at the top of her lungs, her appetite has improved. Such a wonderful nanny, but, it would seem, a complete stranger! Friends of friends. If the previous method categorically does not suit you, give a “cry” to your friends. This is both more reliable and faster. After a short search, you will definitely find a friend’s mother who will be happy to sit with your little one. True, there are pitfalls here too. By hiring a nanny from someone you know, you run the risk of regularly listening to instructive speeches about the proper upbringing (nutrition, education) of your child. And, you see, it won’t be very convenient to object. In addition, you are in danger of playing a major role in courtyard (family) gossip, because such a nanny is the real spy.
Even show business stars most often choose nannies from their circle of acquaintances. A friend of her mother’s has been working for Irina Bilyk as a nanny for 10 years. The singer is delighted and recalls with horror her unsuccessful attempts to find a nanny through agencies. Agency nanny. This is perhaps the most fashionable way nowadays. It’s simple – you call the agency, clearly formulate what kind of nanny you want to see, and that’s it. Moreover, here your every wish will be fulfilled - from age, education and personal qualities to the hair color of the future nanny (this also happens). The advantage of this method is that the agency carefully selects and checks candidates to ensure they have a medical record and no criminal record. And such nannies work under a formal contract, which clearly states responsibilities, work schedule, payment procedure and amount, and other terms of employment. True, nannies from an agency are among the most expensive, because the agency takes a certain commission for its services (up to 50% of the nanny’s salary), and you pay this amount.
Often on the Internet I came across footage taken with a hidden camera in which nannies beat children or ignore them. Don't think that all nannies are like this. But you can protect yourself by installing video surveillance, or simply leave, leaving the voice recorder on.

List of questions to ask the nanny

Now, you are already preparing for a meeting with the nanny. What to ask and how to find out her true attitude towards children?
So, they greet you, as they say, by their clothes. And the first impression, according to psychologists, means a lot. Firstly, punctuality. Why do you need a constantly late nanny? Pay attention to the appearance too. The way she's dressed says a lot. There have been cases when a nanny came to an interview in stiletto heels with “militant” makeup. You understand that this is not a suitable candidate. In addition, MirSovetov recommends noting the look on the nanny’s face when you first meet your child. A good nanny should be sincerely happy to meet you - no grimaces or negative facial expressions.
My friend chose the nanny who came to the interview with her own slippers and fruit for the child. Such innocent gestures usually show how the nanny feels about her future job. In the case of the above-mentioned nanny, the mother's expectations were justified. And, despite her rather young age (24 years), the nanny became an excellent assistant to her mother and her daughter immediately liked her. Now it’s time for questions.

1. Inquire about the applicant's experience and education. If you hire a nanny for a baby, medical education is the main requirement. And experience is a serious matter. Although here the opinions of mothers differ. Many people believe that learning how to change a diaper is not a tricky thing, but the child’s serious attitude and disposition are qualities that are either there or not. Be sure to find out why the nanny broke up with her previous employers and, regardless of the answer, call them back and ask them in detail.
2. You can ask a few simple questions to get acquainted. For example, does the nanny have children of her own? It will be good if her children have grown up - you will avoid constant sick leave and unexpected absences of the nanny. Find out how far the nanny lives - you understand, there are different situations, and the nanny should live close. Ask what she usually does with the child - ideally, the answer is not limited to feeding and walking, because communication is important for the child - games, entertainment. It will be good to find out if she has bad habits, and if so, then you should prohibit the nanny from smoking in front of the child.
3. And most importantly. Nannies are used to the usual questions, and agencies generally prepare them for interviews. Therefore, a small list of “tricky” questions: