Admission to university - difficult task, the implementation of which takes a lot of effort, time and nerves. However, after you have received the coveted student card, it often turns out that everything that follows will not be any easier. A fundamentally different system for acquiring knowledge and monitoring its assimilation (compared to school) and simply huge amounts of work often lead to problems with studies and even with psychological balance. We must admit that sometimes such sad stories go very far. “Where to study and work” spoke with Artem Shapiro, practicing psychologist, president of the Association practical psychologists"GIPNART", full member of the European Academy of Natural Sciences and honorary doctor of the Russian Academy of Natural Sciences. We discussed unnecessary perfectionism, adult responsibility for one’s life and education, and tried to find out the answer to the question: what to do if your child is a poor student.
- To begin with, please give an overview comment on psychological problems with studying. It seems that everyone, from C students to excellent students, faces this problem. At the same time, some are terribly worried and even leave the university, while others cope calmly. How much does this depend on the person himself, and how much on the circumstances?
- Yes, indeed, many young people face difficulties in their studies. The reasons for this can be very diverse. However, most often these are problems with self-organization. The student delays preparing for exams and does not complete assignments on time. All this, by the way, may be a consequence of an unfinished teenage crisis. Not everyone, after graduating from school, knows what they want to do in the future, so they choose a profession under the influence of their parents, and not based on their own desires. This leads to a childish attitude towards learning and resistance adult life.
One of my good friends said that college is not a school; you won’t graduate in 11 years. It is the psychological unpreparedness for adult life and the inability to communicate with peers that results in many problems in learning.
Of course, circumstances should not be discounted either. If you have to go to a university in another city and start living on your own, away from your parents and friends, it’s really hard. An additional difficulty is combining study and work. After all, students often have to earn their own living...
However, I believe that a lot really depends on the person. Try to prepare yourself for the fact that university is not only about mastering a profession, but also a kind of transitional stage to adulthood. This is an excellent opportunity to learn how to overcome difficulties, build relationships in a team, and take responsibility for your own destiny. These skills will be no less useful than professional skills. This view of learning problems will make it psychologically easier and calmer to cope with difficulties. After all, this is just another stage of growing up.
- What are the main reasons for worries? What is the most common? How much does this have to do with raising a child and the general climate in the family?
- Experiences can be associated with the teacher’s assessment of the student and with relationships in the team. Of course, the student’s self-esteem is also important. All experiences are purely individual and depend on personality traits, previous experience and the family climate you mentioned. But you can depend on someone’s opinion all your life, or you can develop self-confidence, that is, begin to focus less on third-party assessments, while listening to them, but not considering them something super important.
We have already talked about psychological maturation, and this is one of its necessary stages. The grades on your report card also do not reflect your potential and abilities. There are known scientists who were far from the best students, and this did not stop them from achieving heights in science. Don't attach too much importance to this - and you can avoid unnecessarily strong experiences.
- What should you do if you find yourself in the situation of “mom, I have five tests this week, I’m not ready for anything - how not to go crazy”?
- First of all, calm down. They don’t go crazy over tests, but they suffer a lot from strong worries and worries. It’s better to focus on the next competition and try to be as prepared as possible for it. Solve problems as they arise in this case- good strategy. Remember the saying “The eyes are afraid, but the hands are doing”? Most likely, everything will not be as scary as it seems. Moreover, we all have much greater capabilities and resources than we ourselves think. My experience in conducting online training to reveal a person’s internal psychological resources shows that its participants solve learning problems much easier and faster. This suggests that we all have sufficient potential for this. And the calmer you are, the more this potential can manifest itself.
- What advice could you give to parents who suddenly find out that their son/daughter is not doing as well as they expected? What are the classic mistakes moms and dads make?
- A very instructive story is about Thomas Edison, who was considered limited at school and was even called weak-minded and incapable of learning. His mother began teaching Thomas independently at home. As you know, Edison became one of the greatest inventors. So my main advice to parents is to keep faith in their children and do everything so that their children believe in themselves.
I'll tell you a tragic story. The student, having failed the exam, committed suicide. She was afraid that her parents would be disappointed in her. Of course, parents would give anything to see their child alive and healthy. And what difference does it make whether she graduated from college or not? Make sure your children know that you love and appreciate them, regardless of success or failure.
- How to avoid crazy perfectionism about studying and work calmly at your own pace, without driving yourself into a corner?
- This is a very fashionable topic now. And, of course, on the Internet you can find many recommendations from psychologists on how to make life easier for a perfectionist. We devoted a significant part of our conversation to growing up. Another aspect of it that will help a perfectionist is the awareness of the imperfections of our earthly life. The constant striving for ideals can result in significant psychological stress. It can also result in postponing the completion of educational assignments due to uncertainty in their flawless execution. However, perfectionism also has positive aspects, if you learn to use the desire for excellence wisely. Set yourself specific deadlines for completing tasks. After all, you can strive for the ideal endlessly, but you need to accustom yourself to discipline. To work at your own pace without driving yourself into a corner, make a schedule for studying and preparing for the session. And don't forget to include time for rest in this schedule.
Interviewed by Anna Glebova
A small child perceives “5” or “4” not just as a mark, but as an assessment of his personality - whether I am good or bad. It’s not for nothing that some pedagogical systems abandon grades altogether, so as not to create unnecessary reasons For . How adequately a child can perceive grades depends, for the most part, on the family. After all, sometimes parents forget that not only the result is important, but also participation, and studying is a process of obtaining not so much grades as knowledge.
In addition, grades are always subjective: the result may be affected by the teacher’s anxiety or attitude. But often the child’s perception of grades is influenced by the parents’ attitude towards them, and the latter, in turn, can be divided into several types.
Anxious parents. Most often, anxious parents worry about grades: for them, it is an indicator of their child’s success, and, therefore, it is their assessment as an effective or ineffective parent: in other words, how their contribution to the child was assessed by society. “For such mothers and fathers, a bad grade is catastrophic - if he has a “2”, then I am a bad parent,” explains Anna Fateeva, child psychologist Crisis Center for Women and Children.
Authoritarian parents. The situation with grades is no less difficult for children of demanding, controlling, critical parents. Often such people are forced to rewrite the assignment until it looks perfect, and they meet a “four”, and even more so a “three” in the diary, with stern silence, lectures or punishments. The child begins to fear evaluations, especially if he has already encountered punishment - physical or emotional.
Narcissistic parents. It also happens that it is important for parents to present the child’s results to the public: to be proud, to brag, to show off, and then the parents - obviously or not - convey to the child: “If you are not successful, you do not live up to our expectations, we don’t need you like that.” Here we are dealing with a situation of rejection, which, accordingly, will lead to excessive and panic before showing the diary to the parents.
Compassionate parents. Some overprotective mothers are inclined and ready to alleviate his suffering at any moment. With them, children quickly understand: if you cry after you get a bad grade, not only will they not scold you, but they will even pat you on the head, feel sorry for you and buy you a chocolate bar. Now the baby uses this method every time just to be on the safe side.
The source of the problem may not only be the family, but also the environment at school: an overly strict teacher or a competitive classroom environment can also provoke an exaggerated reaction to grades. In this case, the child begins to fear that his classmates will not accept him because of his poor performance.
Daria Dmitrieva
psychologist at the Crisis Center for Women and Children
What to do if your child worries too much about grades?
When a child is just starting out, his fear of grades is almost certainly due to the fact that he does not know what reaction to expect from his parents, and therefore experiences anxiety. If it's not already small child and the negative reaction to assessments has become systematic, which means the situation requires attention.
“Try to understand why the child is so worried about grades,” advises psychologist Daria Dmitrieva. – Afraid that mom will swear? Is he ashamed? Does he think he's stupid? Did the guys laugh at him? Did the teacher insult him? In each individual case, the approach to the problem will be different.”
However, we can try to give some general recommendations.
1. From the first grade, teach your child to have the right attitude towards learning.“I’m pleased when you get an A, but other grades aren’t the end of the world.” You shouldn’t say: “Oh, you got a B? Are you stupid? Here I am at your age...” The child should be told that “4” does not convey anything bad about his personality, character, etc. This is just one of the tools for measuring knowledge.
2. Explain to your child that he has the right to make mistakes. Perhaps the child is embarrassed to say that he did not understand the topic, or cannot, or it is due to absences due to illness. It is important to support kids so that they are not afraid to say: “I don’t understand, please explain.”
3. Don't compare your child with other children who do better. This is at least unconstructive. If you want, compare today’s results with your child’s successes yesterday: “Look, you’ve learned to write this word without mistakes,” “Look, you’re already writing essays better.”
No matter how difficult, painful, offensive, unpleasant, scary it may be, in any situation you should stop for a minute, calm down, and look at the problem from the outside. Perhaps what was unbalancing a minute ago will now be solvable.
It is impossible to constantly worry about pressing problems - this drives a person into depression and despair. It’s one thing to be nervous about trifles, and quite another to worry about life, health, housing, and loved ones.
It is strictly forbidden to get irritated and angry for any reason, because disruptions and aggression will not help in solving the problem. It is better to solve the issue with a cool mind and a steady hand.
Not everyone can boast of a balanced character, so a selection will come to the rescue psychological techniques and several auto-training techniques that will help you become calm and quickly find a way out of the current situation.
A person with extensive life experience knows how to stop being nervous in stressful situations.
Eat different ways let go of the situation:
- heart-to-heart conversation;
- communication with pets;
- sleep and rest;
- meditation;
- bath with oils or contrast shower;
- delicious favorite food, coffee with chocolate;
- changing your usual environment: a walk in the park, a run through the forest, a trip to an exhibition;
- doing what you love: embroidery, drawing, handicrafts.
A change of environment, doing something pleasant will help relieve nervous tension.
To strengthen your nervous system, add yoga, meditation, reading to your life fiction, listening to classical music, developing your individuality. It is easier for a self-confident, spiritually and morally developed person to overcome stress. Such a person will not push himself into the ranks life situation, for the solution of which only experience and wisdom are enough.
Stress can arise in different situations:
- before the performance. The excitement is understandable, because you need to convey information, interest the listener, be ready for questions or change the topic of the speech. To solve the issue, you need exactly this - to prepare well, study the topic, have a well-groomed appearance, so that at first glance you give the audience the impression of a confident person;
- driving a car. A beginner needs to calm down and understand that experience comes with age, and every trip behind the wheel brings new knowledge that is important for conquering new roads in life;
- in online games. Understand that without play, life will not stop. The real world is not about winning or losing. This will help you cope with a bad gaming day;
- before the date. In fact, worries about this are groundless and childishly naive. Since you were invited on a date, it means that they like you for who you are now, therefore, you shouldn’t worry too much that someone won’t like you;
- before childbirth. It is difficult to remove the excitement when the baby's due date approaches, but this is where expectant mother must show her strength of spirit, help her baby be born;
- because of her husband or beloved man. A woman should not tolerate insults and humiliation. Instead of tears, stress and breakdowns, it is better to try to change your life, your attitude towards yourself, your habits, tastes;
- because of a girl or a guy. If you are dear to each other, you need to cool down a little and talk. Perhaps a compromise will be found and the relationship will move to a new level;
- before surgery. When the fears are terrible, but you cannot survive without surgery, all you have to do is look for good doctors and fight for your life;
- because of the loan. There is nothing more important than health. Therefore, worries about the amount of debt will seem insignificant compared to the cost of human life;
- because of the neighbor's music. Don't start beating the batteries immediately after the first notes behind the wall. Try to convey to your neighbors that loud music makes you uncomfortable. Perhaps they will immediately understand you and listen.
Many people don’t know how to stop being nervous at work and lead themselves to breakdowns or depression.
To avoid being branded as a brawler or brawler, you need to stop indulging in your bad habit of solving problems with your voice. Obviously, if you don’t start working on yourself, the team can turn away from the “nervous element of society.” Then there will simply be no one to solve problems, share news and communicate with.
In a new job, a person is given a chance to show his best qualities, taking into account life experience, knowledge. Therefore, you should not be afraid of a new job, put on the mask of “Dunno” or “Newbie”. To rid yourself of stress and worry, you need to boldly go through life.
Experienced students know how to stop being nervous before an exam - they need to write a couple of cheat sheets. Even if you fail to use them in the exam, the main points will remain in your memory. Then, every student knows the rule that repetition is the mother of learning! The night before the exam, flip through the notes, and in the morning, feel free to defend your knowledge.
You should not worry and be nervous to the point of tears before an exam - have mercy on your heart.
If you have a driving test ahead of you, it is worth dividing the questions systematically, for each day. Systematicity, clarity and order will give you self-confidence, and this guarantees 80% of success.
A woman’s health during pregnancy is sometimes not good. But there is no need to worry about this, because toxicosis, changes in hemoglobin in the blood, heartburn, and malaise are quite common occurrences for a pregnant woman.
During pregnancy, a woman needs more positive emotions, a good friendly environment of loved ones, a reliable, experienced gynecologist, and also faith in herself.
No stress over grades!
Parents' anxiety about their children's grades is completely justified, because without knowledge and a good certificate it is so difficult to enter a good university. But is it possible to make a child smarter with your screams and nerves? If you constantly turn the evening hours into debriefings, your child will no longer have the desire to learn.
It will be much more useful to provide help while studying, explain a simple rule for the tenth time, and then go into the kitchen, close your eyes and mentally shower yourself with rose petals!
Do you know why grades should exist? They must, must (2x) show the result of your work over a certain period of time. Semester credit - the result of work for the semester. Wed per topic - per month, etc.
But grades are not always given fairly. If you know 90% of all the material that goes according to the school curriculum, then you have nothing to worry about. If not, and the grade is fair (even if it’s “bad” for you), then pull it up, this is what life teaches: to learn from mistakes, yours and others’.
If you ask “adult guys” who really think like adults, they will say that from school you will need a maximum of 20% of the material, but school teaches not only knowledge (Pythagorean theorems, Mendeleev’s chemical elements), it teaches life.
One day, mathematics teacher Jeremy Kuhn was asked a question that each of us puzzled over: “where will all these sines, cosines, integrals, and all other algebra and geometry be useful to me?” Unlike most of his colleagues, Jeremy was not at a loss and named 5 reasons why mathematics is important.
1. Mathematics teaches you to admit your mistakes. And not just recognize them, but also move forward in order to finally win the long-awaited victory over an insoluble task. Let's say Carl and Clara are standing over an equation written on the blackboard. Clara is sure that the equation is solved correctly, but Karl knows for sure that it is not. An hour passes, during which the two switch roles: Clara believes that the equation is wrong, and Karl stomps his feet and calls Clara an incredible dumbass. Fantastic situation? But mathematicians encounter this almost every day. Ask any teacher what to do if the problem cannot be solved. The answer will be very simple: “Start over and try to take a different path. And most importantly, don’t worry about the mistake you made, because it was the one that ultimately set you on the right track.”
2. Mathematics helps to select accurate and the right words. Precision is a courtesy of all mathematicians. It is quite difficult to argue with this, because each term and each phenomenon has its own very clear definition. Remember how teachers made us memorize definitions geometric shapes or, for example, the conditions of the Pythagorean theorem? At school we had no idea where this knowledge could be useful to us, but let's think: do we always pronounce words without doubting their meaning for a second? Can you, without hesitation, answer what peace is, what happiness is or what love is? Will your answers to these questions coincide with the answers of your family and friends? And most importantly, can you name something that does not have an exact definition?
3. Mathematics teaches you to think several steps ahead. Solving a math problem is like playing chess. Any wrong, careless step can lead to catastrophic consequences. How often when doing homework in algebra, have you reached a dead end only because you put a minus instead of a plus? Even the tiniest mistake can disrupt all plans and become a huge obstacle on the way to your cherished dream. And mathematics teaches us to be attentive and responsible for our own actions. Not a little, right?
4. Mathematics teaches you to never give up. After all, if you don’t solve a problem, someone else will definitely solve it. So why not be the first?
5. “What I am saying now is false” - This is exactly what the famous “liar paradox” sounds like, which describes exactly what is happening in modern science. Many theorems, rules and axioms that were previously considered true, but now no longer work. This means that you shouldn’t blindly trust even the most authoritative opinion until you figure it out yourself. Scientists call this “reasonable skepticism,” which mathematics teaches us so well.
PySy. Sorry for the mistakes, I'm just a crest.
Question for a psychologist:
Hello! I'm worried about a problem related to my nervous system, my mental state. I’m in 11th grade, I’m about to take the Unified State Exam, but I don’t know what state I’ll be in, whether I’ll be able to cope with my anxiety during the exam itself. I'll tell you everything from the very beginning. It all started after passing the GIA. During the 9th grade, I didn’t really strain myself, I wrote all the tests normally, at the end of the year it was 4, I solved a lot of tests, studied, I got a good certificate, compared to previous years, when I studied very poorly. Over the course of a year and a half, starting in the middle of 8th grade, I improved my authority. If before no one asked me anything, everyone was used to the fact that I didn’t answer in class, that I was, let’s say, stupid, but now everything has changed, they ask me how I did some task, can I show how did and the like. They already treat me with more respect and this is very important to me. I wouldn’t say that studying in grades 8 and 9 was so difficult for me, it’s just that later I had to do Gia, which is what I did. I studied at school and at home.
First we took mathematics, then Russian, I don’t remember that I was very worried, I just thought that I was already passing the exam and it was very important to get good grades. First they announced the math results, I was very upset, I got a 3, I had very few points. It became a shame that I studied, solved practice tests well, but it didn’t turn out very well. All my hope was in Russian, but I was confident in it, I was sure that I would do well. But, as it turned out later, I overestimated my strength. On the day when the Russian results became known, my mother came up to me, she was standing next to me, and I was sitting at the computer table, my mother decided to call the teacher to find out my results. I was all attention, I was waiting for an answer. To be honest, it’s very unpleasant for me to remember this moment, because that’s when I felt how everything collapsed. I also got a 3 in Russian. That is, I strived for good grades, to be a level higher than those people who did nothing, didn’t study, but it turned out that as stupid as I was, I still am. It's just terribly offensive and unpleasant. My classmate, who chatted during all lessons, did not write essays or summaries, she had very few of them throughout the year, she was constantly scolded, but she didn’t care. As a result, she passed math with a 3 and was happy about it, but she passed Russian with a 5. Without studying, without doing anything, she got a 5. Now I don’t know how I just looked into her eyes when she was bragging about her results. Well, the reason that I wrote Russian poorly was that I couldn’t cope with the essay that I constantly wrote throughout the 9th grade. I incorrectly specified the problem that was indicated in the quote. And because of this, I lost a lot of points, the test part was good, the presentation was also good, but the essay ruined everything for me.
After all the results were announced, I cried very often, I blamed myself, I scolded myself, and so on.
In addition, I also had a little brother in 2013, my mother constantly asked for help, it was unusual for me that I had to spend my free time sitting for an hour with him. I used to come home, and my concern was to rest, prepare lunch, even clean up a little, because I was alone at home until five o’clock, I felt freedom, and then, when I was still in the 8th grade, my mother went on maternity leave, then towards the end My mother gave birth in 8th grade, and it was very difficult. At night, my brother woke up, cried, I went over to rock him, when she made him milk, sometimes I myself went and made this mixture. During the day, when he was sleeping, it was impossible to go to the bathroom, because the water was noisy and my brother could wake up, listen to music and watch movies, I only wore headphones, to go to the bathroom, I had to wait for him to get up. You can’t really go out in the evening either, he already went to bed at 9 o’clock, and then you can’t make noise again. I don’t really know how to communicate with children, much less with such small ones. When I finished 9th grade and I was very upset by the results, I simply stopped believing in myself, I was constantly on edge, I could cry at any moment. And then my mother still needed help with her brother, we even quarreled about this, I didn’t want to go into the living room and the kitchen, because she and her brother were there all the time, which is still happening. The only thing that has changed now is that you don’t have to sit with him like before. He can watch cartoons, play on his own, you just need to make sure that everything is okay with him. And there are no more quarrels about this, since he is already big, I can go to the bathroom, make a little noise, now he doesn’t wake up from it. But the summer after 9th and before 10th grade was quite depressing for me, a constant feeling of anxiety bothered me. I was also worried that my metabolism had slowed down, I began to gain weight, I had problems with the fact that menstruation lasted 10-15 days, which was not the norm for me.
Now I have the Unified State Exam (USE) coming up, and the trial exams are also going well, but only in Russian and social studies. When I decided entirely on my own, I got about 60-70 points in both subjects, which is quite enough for me to enter the correspondence department. I only have problems with mathematics, I can’t pass it at all, I’m very afraid that I won’t pass, I don’t even know what I’ll do to myself and these thoughts scare me. Unlike the 9th grade and previous years, the 10th and the beginning of the 11th grade are terrible in our school, it turns out that most of the students are exhausted, tired, a lot of stress, lack of sleep. They give us a lot of material. Our class is divided into socio-economic and physical and mathematical groups. I am in socio-economics and we, unlike physics and mathematics students, have a lot of material, we have law, economics, social studies, in these subjects the teacher is very strict, she is very demanding, we have a lot of tests and simply don’t have time to rest. Also in Russian they require us to review large essays. There is also a lot of information on history, but I don’t take history, although I still need to study it in order to get a grade on the certificate. And there is even more material in history. It is useless to talk to teachers that we are all already tired; they give us even more. I finished 10th grade armed with glycine and paracetamol. I fell asleep and woke up with notebooks, I’m serious, I studied in the evening and in the morning. During the day, I can’t study at all, the information just doesn’t fit into my head. I have never experienced such a load as we have now at 10 and 11, and then there are exams, I am terribly afraid of doing poorly. The memory refuses to work, since the beginning of the year we have already completed tests on all topics, somehow I repeat, there is almost no time left for mathematics. Mathematics is a completely different story, our teacher believes that we should prepare on our own, she will only guide us through the 11th grade course, which will include topics that are in the Unified State Exam. I am under constant stress, they demand good grades and knowledge from me, but I cannot give them. I already start to get nervous as soon as the topic of school comes up at all. I don't get enough sleep in the morning and can't fall asleep before 11 o'clock. I constantly twitch, feel anxious, cry. In May, when there was already a month left until the end of 10th grade, I was sitting in class and we were supposed to have a test in social studies, I was just crumpling my pencil case, thinking about the exams, about my result, that again I had to talk a lot. I then shed a few tears, which, fortunately, no one noticed. Now I can’t remember anything, as soon as I sit down to study, I get nervous and start getting hysterical. There is a health problem, about this I will go to the doctor soon. I had pain in my uterus and problems with my kidneys.
My boyfriend and my friend support me, I’ve known my friend for 5 years, he says that I will survive, that I will endure, that I need to be patient and he believes in me. I just don't believe in myself. The guy also tries to support, says that he will be there and there is not much left. But all this is not enough for me. I don’t know how much I need to rest so that my condition is more or less normal. Thoughts about suicide scare me most of all; if they could have happened before, they were not serious and very rare. Now these thoughts really scare me, but they appear often and I am more serious.
Mom doesn’t demand the impossible from me, dad doesn’t care, grandma wants me to graduate well, get a good certificate and pass well. He says that I have to try, that I have to be patient, but I don’t know how I should try anymore, I can’t do it anymore. I don't know what else I can tell you. I tried to distract myself throughout the summer, but it doesn’t work, my thoughts keep spinning me around again and I break down, I think about it, I get nervous. The last thing I can say is that when I was studying at primary school, my teacher yelled at me because I was studying more at home and completing more assignments than needed, than she assigned. After this incident, I stopped studying to spite her, I basically did not answer, I was very offended. Then I got to 5th grade and I just didn’t care about studying. Help me please, what should I do?
Psychologist Ekaterina Vadimovna Praskanova answers the question.
Hello, Christina!
I would like to start by saying that you are great! Really well done! You take your studies seriously, prepare for exams on your own, and get ready for admission. This whole thing is accompanied by the appearance in the family little man, which of course requires attention. And, of course, his regime makes its own adjustments to the life of the whole family. But we must not forget that it is growing and, as you yourself noticed, this question is gradually disappearing by itself.
This is the situation now in many schools. Children are not just taught some subjects, but trained to pass the State Exam and the Unified State Exam. Many end up in hospitals with one diagnosis or another (not necessarily nerves), because... psychosomatics works in such a way that everything that does not find a way out through emotions will find a way out through the body (for example, the kidneys can say that a person often strives for what he “needs”, and not what he wants, or to his liking). Of course, you need to go to the hospital and monitor all processes very carefully.
“Memory refuses to work” - don’t worry, memory works for you. At the right moment, she will give out everything you need (of course, everything that you have laid down)).
Your loved ones (boyfriend, friend, grandmother) are absolutely right. There is little left and you need to be patient, see it through to the end - finish school and go to college, and then everything will turn around, turn around and become easier. If you look at this whole situation through the prism of important and global problems, ask yourself - is it really that scary?? Everyone goes through this. I agree that there is something terrible going on in schools now, but what can you do? side effect from reforms, progress, etc.
At home you are not forced to be an excellent student. At school too. So, you demand this from yourself. For what? You will definitely have enough points for admission to the correspondence course. Is pushing yourself for excellent grades really important to you?
teacher primary classes, probably, she wanted the best, but there was a misunderstanding and the position “...I stopped studying to spite her, I didn’t answer on principle...” from the opera “to spite the conductor I’ll walk.”
Now to the main question: we have a goal - to finish school and go to college. We are confidently moving towards it. We have enough strength. We act the same way as before - go to classes, do homework, take things seriously. BUT
We help our body achieve its goal. How?
We eat correctly, well, healthy (no fasting or strict diets);
we do small exercises during breaks;
we arrange meditations for ourselves (find a suitable audio recording);
We listen to relaxation music more often (even while preparing homework);
When taking a bath, we add aromatic oils/essential oils that promote relaxation and increase energy and strength;
We also begin to love oranges (at least their aroma) - it lifts our spirits;
before going to bed, we go out to get some air for an hour with a friend/boyfriend/grandmother and unload our head;
we take vitamins that increase immunity (prescribed by a doctor);
We go to bed on time.
Nothing new or supernatural! These at first glance simple ways will help your body survive stressful times and successfully cope with the task!
But if disturbing dark thoughts do not leave you or intensify, then it makes sense to contact a psychologist for a face-to-face meeting (your school psychologist is perfect for this).
Good luck to you, Christina!
Sincerely, Ekaterina Praskanova.
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