Text: Olga Natolina
A phlegmatic person is a type of temperament characterized by slowness, self-control and taciturnity. Despite the fact that a phlegmatic person is calm and unemotional, this does not mean that he is an “insensitive cracker.” In fact, the character of a phlegmatic person is changeable, and real passions rage within his nature.
The most common is breast augmentation, followed by liposuction. But Americans still top the list for aesthetic procedures that don't require surgery, such as Botox. And we have finally come to the phlegmatic, fourth and final message on temperaments. For those who have not read the previous ones, they are defined according to anthroposophy, according to which the body predominates in every person. In this case, it is the etheric body, responsible for our vitality, for growth processes and expressed by the glandular system.
General characteristics of a phlegmatic person
A phlegmatic person can be unmistakably distinguished in a crowd of people. The traits of this personality type can be described as seriousness and restraint. He always tries to avoid disputes, quarrels and scandals. Therefore, in most conflict situations, he will agree with all the arguments just to get out of the difficult situation. At the same time, he will remain calm and balanced, without showing any bright emotions, agreement or disagreement.
Again, let's remember that it is from 7 to 14 years of age that one's temperament strengthens and defines itself, but it often manifests itself more clearly as the child approaches the end of the first seven years. And there are people you can see in kindergarten in the near future.
So-called well-being or illness has everything to do with the etheric body, it is connected with our inner life and maintains the balance of every function of our body. Therefore, when the etheric body predominates, when the body is in order, a person lives with inner well-being and does not want to withdraw into himself. You know, you yourself are in love with a person. It’s as if it’s so good to stay inside that the desire to do things outside is less than in others.
He will not make rash and hasty decisions, as he is characterized by restraint, thoughtfulness and prudence. Therefore, he will “take a break” and carefully consider this or that action. A phlegmatic person is not characterized by attacks of rage or aggression; he always remains unperturbed. To do this, he does not need to make any effort on himself, since he has emotional balance by nature.
Let's, as always, go to the description of Caroline von Heidebrand in the book The Nature of the Child. Johnny is mixed up in his wallet and looks ahead eagerly. However, he is not at all inactive, although he completely ignored the table's secrets teacher's explanations. He dreams of a sandwich with his mother, how he didn't notice it, covered with a good layer of butter and cheese, and a beautiful red apple that she put in his lunchbox. John looks at the professor with a sleepy look and sees that he turns his back to write something in the dishes.
He then opens his thumbs to the sandwich paper. At home John leads quiet life. He had no problems with education at all. The watch remained in the cart, holding the pacifier in his mouth and left until he was numb, unable to track the slow movements of his thick little hands that had long been his only "toy". Only the sight of food could bring him out of his apathy. He often doesn't get sick and, to his, his mother's, satisfaction, he handles the heaviest sandwiches, the greenest omelettes, the thickest pudding.
If he quarrels with someone, he is inclined to be the first to make contact and quickly establish relations with the other party, since he does not like changes and partings in life. In an unfamiliar situation or in a new team, a phlegmatic person needs a lot of time to adapt, make friends and take a closer look at the people around him.
Temperament phlegmatic
A phlegmatic person almost never develops new forms of behavior, since he adheres to and acts according to an already formed pattern of actions. The temperament of a phlegmatic person is, as it were, between other temperaments. For example, he is able to have a beneficial influence and balance an active sanguine person, or will calmly observe a stormy choleric person, or will never succumb to the despondency of a melancholic person.
He learned to walk quite late. Yes, a phlegmatic person is slower than average. Her imagination is not one of the strongest, she walks slowly, she is too lazy to crawl, and she prefers to stay on the bottle longer than other children. It took him a long time to learn to speak, and to this day he speaks slowly. And from time to time he sits in the sun with his legs crossed, enjoying the heat and the buzzing - he has his own musicality.
One of the best things about this temperament, at least for me, is your sense of order. He is this boy's classmate who puts his outfit on the chair before bed and likes to have all his toys in place. If you go to bed at someone's house and can't find your small pillow, you can give them piti. By this time he had become an ideal choleric person. All because he abandoned his rhythm and his order, so necessary for his well-being. Your meals should be served at the same time every day.
A person’s temperament can be recognized not only by talking to him, but also by his manner of movement and ability to behave in society. As a rule, phlegmatic people are slow and unhurried; they are never in a hurry. Compared to other types, their gestures and facial expressions are limited and inexpressive. By their type, phlegmatic people are mostly introverts, but at the same time they are always ready to listen and give thoughtful advice. If there are phlegmatic people among your friends, appreciate them - they are the most reliable and good friends.
Sleep peacefully and deeply and know your bedtime. That's why you can trust it. He knows the time to feed the dog, and once he has learned the habit, he will repeat it on time. Easily decorate stories and cantigas and sing straight without making mistakes.
A phlegmatic person is usually plump, fuller, more puffy. According to Steiner, it is in this “abundance” that the active forces operate, those who support us. It is as if the exchange between inside and outside was in short supply. His gait is sketched and sloppy, his face has little expression, his eyes are slightly blurry. Maybe that's why he has few friends. It is possible that children, especially those with blood, have little patience for their phlegm.
Features of a phlegmatic person
Self-esteem. Phlegmatic people are able to adequately evaluate themselves, but sometimes they underestimate their real capabilities and abilities. They often lose confidence because they are extremely modest individuals and do not like to brag.
Job. At work, phlegmatic people are consistent and systematic. They cannot quit unfinished work and immediately switch to something else, because they do not like unfinished or sudden tasks. Also, a person with such a character takes a long time to “get involved” in a new job. Therefore, phlegmatic people are contraindicated in work that requires a sharp switch of attention and speed of action.
Patience, by the way, is an important quality to solve this small problem. Not the kind of patience you need to have with choleric, but it is the calmness of who knows how to wait. Good teacher for a phlegmatic person, he must know how to wait for his time, which is different from others. He loves to practice, and if he has room to do it, he won't be a bad student. The vegetative functions in your body work perfectly and because of this you have good memories, music and painting. Maybe it's a little more difficult when you get to high school, where more intellectual responses are required and reasoning needs to be faster.
Society. Phlegmatic people find it difficult to make new acquaintances, establish connections and adapt to new people. But thanks to emotional stability and non-conflict, they easily get along in any team with all types of temperament.
Relationship. In love relationships, phlegmatic people are the calmest and most balanced partners. This does not mean that they are boring or callous, no, it’s just that the other half needs to be able to “read” the hidden emotions and moods of their partner. A phlegmatic person is capable of the strongest and deepest feelings, but will not clearly express their feelings.
If you are too passionate about your temperament, a phlegmatic person will be such a stupid guy. But parents and teachers can do a lot to avoid this imbalance. A phlegmatic temperament may face prejudice, and some parents do not like their children being defined as such. His slowness isn't necessarily a problem. Melancholy, who is often a prodigy in school, can be selfish, depressed and depressed. So bad, therefore, as for the inertia and gluttony of phlegmatic people.
No bias with this glutton and woodpile! If the phlegmatic is understood and "well educated" at home and at school, he will be patient, persistent, orderly and faithful. And, by his own lack of courage, he will achieve life's good storms. For this good education, the ideal does not allow him to completely surrender to this inner well-being. Don't let him sleep too much, give him a cold shower at the end of a warm bath, and avoid hour-long meals at the table. Your breakfast before school should be light.
Test: Am I a phlegmatic person?
Temperament can be determined using a simple test by answering yes or no questions. If more than half of the answers are positive, then your character contains obvious traits of a phlegmatic person.
- Are you usually reserved, calm and cool-headed?
- Are you consistent in your deeds, plans and actions?
- Are you characterized by caution, prudence, and attentiveness?
- Can you wait?
- Are you silent and don't like empty chatter?
- Is your speech uniform, calm, without pronounced emotions and facial expressions?
- Do you tend to save your energy and not give your all?
- Do you adhere to a developed life routine, is your day always planned, do you like consistency in your work?
- Do you take criticism calmly, are you indifferent to criticism from others?
- Do you find it difficult to change one activity to another on the fly?
- Do you have good and smooth relationships with the people around you?
Phlegmatic person- This is a type of human temperament that has balanced nervous processes. A phlegmatic person calmly approaches any life processes, without unnecessary energy expenditure or excessive emotional manifestations. He is balanced, diligent, capable of scrupulously and conscientiously performing painstaking work. A phlegmatic person is characterized by slowness in making decisions, but if he has to carry them out, then he shows strong persistence.
Otherwise, he will "concentrate" on your delicious digestion instead of paying attention to the class. Instead of the heavy foods he loves, give him fruits, vegetables and salads. Whole food instead of white flour would also be good. It is good to do everything to prevent this child from accumulating the fat that his temperament so craves. “Keeping her relatively meager has already done a lot for her spiritual and mental development" Caroline says in the book.
Playing alone all the time, something a phlegmatic child does voluntarily is not the best and it is worth interfering with speeding it up with lively games that enliven your mental life. She needs the company of other children more than any other temperament. Since nothing piques her interest, she ends up being raised by the interests of others. Soon, the more children the better. Friendships and relationships with as many people as possible will do very well for your little laziness. If he is napping during his homework or on the sofa after lunch, it is good to wake him up with a loud noise or knocking at the table as this will make him come back to himself.
Phlegmatic is a characteristic of a person. A representative of this temperament hides very well what is going on in his soul. Often, even the closest people cannot figure out what a phlegmatic person is going through, because his face displays calmness and neutrality of reactions.
The temperament of a phlegmatic person is characterized by a calm and stable disposition, which is associated with the inertia of his nervous system. Phlegmatic man It is very difficult to unbalance, for this something truly impressive must happen. But due to the fact that an unbalanced state is not characteristic of the phlegmatic type, such a person does not stay in it for too long. Individuals with a dominant phlegmatic temperament are always devoted friends and faithful spouses.
But also, as with all other temperaments, it is necessary to find situations in which his phlegm is justified, since he can be himself without objection and that it makes sense. Watching the rain fall is a relief and you can be phlegmatic at this time without any problem. Watching the ocean waves come and go, brushing the screen is slowly phlegmatic. Someone has to do it, let it be him.
Ill-mannered care and loose affection are not the best for this child. He needs an incentive to “get out of it” and overcome his inertia. Your emotions are more or less like a little girl who needs a boost to get out of the snail and, with some effort, gain body and muscles. When she feels this impulse and learns to love, all that happens is to go to someone, so we should not pamper her affection indiscriminately, but sometimes pretending at some distance will be the most balanced and true love that exists.
The character of a phlegmatic person is flexible, so it is easy to get along with him. A phlegmatic person is characterized by a poor ability to adapt to new conditions, orders, and circumstances, because his views on life are conservative. A phlegmatic person loves loneliness and appreciates it for the fact that in it one can reflect on existence and dream. Before taking even a not too risky step, a phlegmatic person will think many times and only then will he take it or not. Such a person is prone to exhibiting stable behavior, so each of his actions smacks of some stereotypes, but he is quite happy with the way he is.
He is not abandoned and foolish, like a sanguine person, and not exaggerated, like a melancholic person, and much less aggressive, like a choleric person. I guess it's that quiet love for Kazuza's music. This child usually has an artistic vein early in life, but can easily go away when consciousness comes, around 8 or 9 years of age. When this starts to happen, don't let her scribble or ink brighter on the paper. To develop your talents, you will need to consciously produce and lead, even a little demanding, once you find something that truly interests you.
The temperament of a phlegmatic person is truly unique, since people of this type can get along with almost everyone, and with an irritable choleric person, and a constantly cheerful sanguine person, as well as with a dreamy melancholic person.
The character of a phlegmatic person is quite stable, since he does not tend to adopt qualities from other temperaments, but he can infect others with his confidence.
The phlegmatic, more than any other temperament, needs a little more demanding or that guides him when he reaches a certain age. Patients, but who require a certain degree of devotion and do not allow him to live in a dormant state.
We have already said that temperament is the best fork for everyone and has a greater tendency to gain weight. It's part of how your body functions. But this does not mean that he can eat pizza for breakfast, on the contrary. Every time he digests, he will be more sleepy than everyone else and will not be focused on anything else. Light foods, without going out of rhythm and preferably from plants that do not take long to grow, will do well in phlegmatics.
We can talk about a phlegmatic person as - he rarely expresses what worries him, tries not to give away his true mood, while he is quite capable of listening and understanding the feelings of another person. in a phlegmatic person, it is usually adequate or slightly underestimated.
Who is a phlegmatic person
Phlegmatic characteristic. This is the most responsive, pleasant and calm person, so many among their friends entrust the secret exclusively to this person. Individuals with a phlegmatic temperament like to be in a state of security, so they can work effectively only in a place where everything goes according to plan without incident. They may sometimes put too much emphasis on safety and be overly wary of all sorts of troubles, but in some cases this can even save their and their loved ones' lives.
From the very beginning, people have tried to get to know each other and wonder about the relationships that should exist between the different strata that form society. Whatever the nature or position, on a social scale, of a person, she wants to be understood and accepted by her fellow tribesmen. History and literature refer to people who sought the presence of others and received recognition; Some of them did everything in their power, be it good or bad, to attract the attention of others, so history preserves the madmen, megalomaniacs, benefactors, wise men, monsters, giants, Forget those who are considered the devil personally.
Due to the fact that the character of a phlegmatic person has a desire to help people, such individuals also show strong concern for their own family. If the husband is a phlegmatic person in the family, then he will definitely help his wife with household chores. He even almost happily gets to work, because he knows that with his help he will make his wife’s task easier. The phlegmatic wife tries to give all her love to the family so that everyone feels needed.
Since it is a basic instinct, every person spontaneously seeks the company of his fellow men. In our relationships with our people we see that the search for understanding and acceptance weighs heavily, empirically our observations show that each person is unique and that a different approach is required when we consider them individually. Such considerations are not so simple.
Interpersonal relationships
Phrase: Or Pa-konn-kiyes yo-rimm? Everyone, wanting to feel in their own skin, would like to be connected, in cooperation with someone who shows them mutual understanding. For this, the interesting thing is that it is the person who fills his needs. According to Maslow, there are five human needs, divided into two large groups.
Both men and women of the phlegmatic temperament type are very pleasant and sweet people because they are ready to help others, which is very highly valued by those around them. It is rare to find a phlegmatic person who would raise his voice to another person or initiate a quarrel. He prefers to give in to another person, so as not to spoil the relationship with him and not resort to abuse. You can rely on a phlegmatic person in almost everything, he will try to do a favor at the highest level, he will never take his words or promises back, so he is considered the most reliable person. If a phlegmatic person is also praised for his desire to help, if he receives feedback, then he will do the work twice as quickly and efficiently. Due to their soft nature, phlegmatic people sometimes become victims, who only need to find someone to bring down their feelings on, and the phlegmatic person, in turn, will never swear in response. You can sometimes even observe an unusual phenomenon - a phlegmatic person loves to obey other people, which is often used by choleric or sanguine people. But you can’t call him weak-willed.
A phlegmatic person is characterized by the fact that he loves to keep order in everything; in it he sees calm, safety and stability. The feeling of perfect stability is even manifested in the fact that they are able to carry through their entire lives the only model of behavior learned in childhood.
Clutter deprives a phlegmatic person of a sense of comfort. Therefore, he says that why should he change the order if everything suits him and gives him comfort. Everyone who is in a close relationship with a phlegmatic person knows and respects his characteristics. Only a person with malicious intent capable of disrupting the order and stability of a phlegmatic person, unsettling him and removing his sense of security.
For a person with a phlegmatic temperament, the description of his appearance comes down to the fact that his style and general external features express his conservative views. You will never meet a true phlegmatic person in flashy clothes; he loves neutral colors and a minimum of accessories. His external characteristics are not memorable; a person of this type can ask a passerby on the street what time it is, and if you ask the passerby to describe the appearance of this person, he will simply be confused and will not be able to remember a single facial feature.
Such a person always has clean, ironed and washed clothes. Shoes are always polished. Before each exit from the house, the phlegmatic person examines his clothes very carefully, so that by chance some thread does not peek out or a button is missing. But this is only for strangers, and those who know a phlegmatic person often communicate with him and consider him an interesting person.
It is precisely because of the love of order that compatibility between a phlegmatic person and a sanguine person is not possible. If there is a mess in the house and the sanguine person does not notice it, then the phlegmatic person sometimes gets angry. But in order not to lead to conflict, he will silently remove it.
It happens that in families there are children with opposite temperaments from their parents, then funny situations often arise between them. If parents are phlegmatic and their child is also phlegmatic, then they rejoice, they cannot be happier about it. Because such a child is just a fairy tale. He is very obedient, diligent, and does not have problems that can often be found in other children. Such families are interested in spending time together, so they are very strong.
Phlegmatic description suitable professions. Among the professions, there are two options: stable work that requires constant effort and diligence (scientists, accountants, financiers) or a field in which assistance is provided to people (medicine, psychology, sociology).
Some companies specifically determine the employee's temperament type, since they are looking for a phlegmatic person. He is appreciated for his scrupulous attitude to work, for the fact that he does not get tired, even if he has a lot of things to do. People of the phlegmatic type are invaluable workaholics, as long as the work is in place, without moving. They are very happy if their regime is constant work, repeated day after day, which brings security and peace.
For phlegmatic people, leaving their comfort zone is the worst thing that can happen to them. That is, the best order of things for them is the world around us, in which nothing changes. Therefore, people of the phlegmatic type can work in one place all their lives. They also don't like to travel. If they do agree to go somewhere, they try to choose conditions that will remind them of their home as much as possible. For example, they rent an apartment and find it unbearable to spend the night in a tent. They eat the same things they eat at home; it’s hard to get them to try something exotic.
If a phlegmatic person’s favorite store or cafe is closed, he becomes extremely upset. A life in which everything is predictable, stable and calm is the best for them. Any changes make phlegmatic people uneasy. In a work team, people of the phlegmatic type are quite active; they participate in all activities in order to keep up with their colleagues. They can only find themselves in the spotlight by mistake, and they don’t even want to hear about public speaking. Phlegmatic people are more observers than activists. They like to watch how sanguine people behave, who attract a lot of attention to themselves. For people of phlegmatic temperament, the opinions of other people are important, although everyone loves them anyway.
A phlegmatic person is respected for his balance and prudence, especially in a stressful situation, when everyone around him falls into trouble, he remains calm and begins to reassure others. Such individuals help others come to their senses faster, they know how to give advice, and even their very presence sometimes inspires confidence.
A phlegmatic woman is slow in action, but performs her work with special diligence. In general, she approaches any activity with persistence and perseverance.
A woman of a phlegmatic type of temperament has a low, quiet and confident voice and a slow gait. She always looks perfect and often other women begin to envy her. In the profession, a woman of the phlegmatic type prefers monotonous work, in particular such professions as therapist, accountant, business manager, botanist.
Phlegmatic characteristics of a child
A phlegmatic child is characterized by being calm, balanced and unperturbed. His acquaintance with the world occurs gradually, measuredly and slowly. If someone wants to help him, he rejects this help and tries to cope with difficulties alone. It is this behavior in early age determines future behavior.
A phlegmatic child loves when he is given a task that he needs to sit, think and reflect on. Even at four years old, such a child enjoys playing chess, begins to read books, and solves puzzles. If you need to occupy him for a while, you can simply give him a book with different pictures. He can sit over one of them for hours, looking for new elements, colors, and naming the characters depicted. He simply loves listening to stories, especially bedtime stories.
A phlegmatic child loves to talk, and he is especially interested in conversations with adults, although they mostly boil down to the latter’s monologue. Sometimes parents of a phlegmatic child worry because their child starts speaking late. In fact, he can talk, he's just waiting for a certain moment.
A phlegmatic child is generally calm; the only thing that can make him angry is a speed task that requires a quick reaction. To complete this task more successfully, he will need some extra time. Based on this, when working with a child, you need to be measured and adapt to his pace. Do not try to speed it up somehow, this will only negatively affect the quality of the task and may cause stress in the child.
A child of a phlegmatic type of temperament has a balanced nervous system with low mobility of nervous reactions. During early childhood, such a baby is not capricious, sleeps a lot, rarely cries and does not require much attention. Such a child is “quiet”; even if he expresses some kind of reaction: laughing or crying, he does it quietly.
A phlegmatic child may be nervous only because something changes in his environment, some order, routine, surrounding objects; people I'm used to. He needs time to get used to any innovation. Therefore, children of a phlegmatic type of temperament do not adapt well to kindergarten and school. Because their usual daily routine changes and they have to meet new people.
If in kindergarten a child with a phlegmatic temperament comes across an activity with which he is already familiar, he will perform it just as diligently as at home. Over time, he gets used to certain rules and becomes a model of behavior. The only obstacle for a child in communicating with peers is his reduced activity and slowness, compared to other children.
The movements of a phlegmatic child are stingy, heavy, and make him look clumsy. A big mistake in raising a child is strict demands on him, especially if they go beyond his level of development and natural abilities. Expressing one's dissatisfaction or showing a child's relative inactivity and sluggishness lead to stress. Some parents believe that with their threats and shouts they can somehow push the phlegmatic person and make him faster. But, unfortunately, they do not understand at all that by such actions they cause an inhibitory reaction in the child, that is, instead of acting faster, as parents expect, he begins to behave even more slowly.
If a child is sometimes forced to behave faster than usual, for example, in order to be on time somewhere, then he must make a lot of effort, which provokes mental stress, which will then result in...
A popular mistake parents make is the desire to protect their child from various activities, from everything for which he has to make an effort. So, parents rush to help their child if they see that he is doing something with great effort. Thus, the child may never learn to be independent and even a little energetic. He develops self-doubt and a desire to avoid everything related to mobility.
Parents must organize conditions for the development of a slow child as confident and independent. It is necessary to gradually give the child tasks to complete, so if he has reached one level of development and mastered the basic techniques, then he can begin his further education.
The main rule that must be observed in raising a phlegmatic child is to take your time. Adults must understand that a child who plays sedentary games, who does not fuss for no reason, moves slowly and generally prefers to sit still - this is not an “ideal child”; this is a child who, if not taught to be active, will have problems communicating with others. peers and adults, which can ultimately affect his acceptance in the environment, when hiring, relationships with colleagues and with individuals of the opposite sex.
There are certain techniques to identify a child’s temperament. Psychologist in children's preschool institution or school knows these techniques and is able to help parents find out what temperament their child has and give the necessary recommendations.
