Larisa Bogdanova is sure that the man
is implemented depending on
what a woman is next to him.
Psychologist and vice-president of the Academy of Private Life company Larisa Bogdanova is sure that a man’s fulfillment depends on the kind of woman next to him. And therefore, in order to transform the world, a woman must learn to distinguish between when to be a wonderful muse and when to be a faithful friend. Bogdanova teaches this wisdom both in her “Academy of Private Life” and in the book “The Circle of Female Power. Elemental energies and the secrets of seduction.” We asked Larisa to tell us more about this.
Tell us about the basis of your theory.
A woman should have four states harmoniously present - girl, queen (bitch), mistress and mistress. Once something is lost or ignored, everything falls apart. After all, these conditions correspond to the needs of a man. We give a man energy, he realizes his potential, achieves success. He seeks this energy and reacts to it. If you have it and you direct it correctly, then you attract everything you want.
How did you come to create such a school?
There was a moment in my life when my husband said: “You are already thirty-four, and I’m still forty-one!” This hurt me; I felt like life was over and there was nothing ahead. I started looking. I went to Moscow to a similar school and began to travel around the world in search of knowledge. Now I have the feeling that everything is just beginning and life is in full swing.
What is most important to you in what you teach?
Understanding that the responsibility for what is around you is in you, and everything was created only by you. The belief that the dominant role belongs to women, no matter how much we want to give up this responsibility and hide. The controversial question is whether it is possible to make a leader out of every man, or whether he must achieve everything himself. But for now I believe that anyone can be inspired, helped and at the same time remain yourself.
That is, you still have to live for yourself?
Men are just a mirror. With a clear understanding of what you want in life, you create the world you need, and a man acts as an equal partner. You strengthen each other.
Why are men now metrosexuals and women careerists?
If a woman stops tracking her conditions, male energy begins to dominate in her - the energy of success. Since we are primary in a relationship with a man, he begins to change. It turns out that instead of soft feminine energy we give him masculine energy, and a strong man either does not see such a woman or perceives her as a competitor. And if his energy balance is disturbed, then a substitution occurs. The stronger the woman, the weaker the man becomes.
Behind every successful man is a successful woman.
How do you assess the current state of society?
The concept of family has collapsed, everyone has gone into business, and we have what we have. There is Disneyland in America. Why was it built? To strengthen family values. We don't have that. But I think that soon in Russia there will be a return of family values, the family is the preservation of the future. In the meantime, this is an attribute, it is not valued at all, people are scattered and rushing about.
What is the most common mistake of modern man?
For both men and women, this is a lack of self-respect. Historically, this is how it happened - we have been killing it for too long.
What can save humanity?
Creative attitude towards the world. The world is so diverse that any situation can be regarded as a problem, or as new opportunities. Without the art of compromise, relationships cannot be built. Nothing will be created by itself; a lot must be invested in relationships, and first of all, the woman, since behind every successful man there is a successful woman. The most important thing is to take every day as a reason for joy, creativity and new perspectives. You need to approach life wisely.
1. When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: “Everything that happened will be in the past!” – and smile at yourself and the world.
2. Promise yourself that in everything that happens to you from now on, you will see only good signs and new opportunities.
3. Compose an “Ode of Praise” in your honor, including at least ten of your most amazing qualities. Do not spare epithets in your honor. Repeat the ode before going to bed while drinking a glass of water.
4. Write down the most unpleasant events of the last month on a white sheet of paper and solemnly burn them. While the leaf is burning, take five breaths in and out, repeating as you exhale: “Let the bad go away,” while inhaling: “And the good comes.”
5. Surprise yourself with something pleasant every day. Pamper yourself! Follow these tips for twenty-one days and see your life change for the better.
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Ancient traditions say that it is a woman who is the creative energy of the Universe, inspiring and filling a man. And a man, receiving this energy, turns it into abundance. A man is given the ability to structure feminine energy, transforming it into material wealth and financial flows.
A woman contributes to the success of her beloved man. With warmth, care and love, acceptance, sex, a woman fills a man with her energy, sets the vector, and the man turns this energy into the energy of prosperity, success and wealth. A woman is destined by nature to BE, LIVE, JOY, LOVE. For a man - ACT, ACHIEVE, WIN.
What exactly should a woman do to inspire a man to succeed:
✔ 1.Accept him as he is. Don't remake it!
By accepting him, you acknowledge his right to be himself. You need to get rid of the idea that you know something better than a man, that you understand something, that you are smarter than him. Give him the freedom to be himself. Don't try to perfect it. Acceptance means that you recognize him as a man, just like you, with his own strengths and weaknesses. You understand that he has weaknesses, just like any other man. You accept the whole person with all his valuable qualities and with all his human weaknesses.
✔ 2. Appreciate his best sides, what he does for you.
Appreciating a man means respecting his strengths and being grateful to him for what he is and for what he does for you. Think about what you can value in your man? Character traits, qualities, abilities, interests.
If you can't find anything to appreciate about your husband now, look to past experiences. Remember how you met, why you liked him, what first attracted you to him, some events in your life together that aroused your admiration and gratitude, or difficult circumstances that he bravely dealt with.
✔ 3. Admire his masculinity.
Deep in his soul, every man wants to see in a woman admiration for his masculine virtues, namely, the abilities, talents, achievements, ideas, dreams and male body characteristic of men, his masculinity. He needs admiration like he needs bread. Just as a woman needs love, a man needs admiration.
Admiration is very important for men; they have nowhere to get it if those around them do not admire them. Admiration A man is ready to receive it from any source, but admiration from the lips of his beloved woman will be especially valuable.
Trust and confide in him, his leadership. It’s difficult when we, in the position of a mother, know everything better than him and can still tell him what he needs to do. Trust the man that he is able to make the right decision. His decision and vision will probably coincide with yours, but this does not mean that it is not correct.
✔ 5. Allow him to be a leader, provider, protector.
The role of leader, protector and breadwinner is a man's role, it is his right and his advantage. When you have 100% confidence inside that a man should feed the family, he will begin to feed it. You just stop doing it. By taking this position, you will not only give the man his role, but also satisfy his need to be needed.
If you begin to increase a man’s masculinity, he automatically begins to move forward, grow, he begins to succeed in everything, he begins to earn good money, and become successful. In order for you to increase a man’s masculinity, you yourself need to increase your femininity.
✔ 6. Let him manage finances.
The husband is responsible for providing for the family. If a man stops earning money and does not want or cannot find a job for a long time, this is an alarming sign that the woman is responsible for providing for the family and the leading role. We begin to fuss, help our husband look for work, begin to make decisions for him, nag him until we take on this responsibility ourselves and go to “plow.” What should a woman really do? - “she should have the courage to sit next to her husband and not make any further movements” - accept him with love and believe that he can handle it, trust him, and wait for him to take on this responsibility.
✔ 7. Allow yourself to want and have.
If there is a woman next to a man who is not indifferent to him, and she has desires, then he will try to satisfy her desires. Men are designed that way; they like to make a woman happy. But if a woman herself suppresses her desires or does not allow herself to have what she wants, a man cannot do anything about it. He will only mirror our attitude towards himself. And we will be offended that he is such a miser.
There are no greedy men - there are women with very low self-esteem. There are no monster men, there are wives who have forgotten about themselves.
To the extent that a woman has plans, tasks, intentions and desires that have some kind of potential, they fill a man to the extent that they fill him. This is like the engine of a man's success. When a woman has no desires, she will destroy a man’s success, there is no movement forward. A man needs little; they are ascetic by nature.
✔ 8. Develop feminine qualities in yourself. To be in the female pole.
Condition is important for a woman! this is its value and its strength. When she is in her female state, she is a sorceress. Then, next to her, the man becomes courageous, calm, confident, makes decisions, acts, implements his plans, and takes responsibility.
If there is a woman nearby who always talks about the past, complains all the time, judges someone, is touchy, indecisive, not adapted to anything and does not make herself happy, depressed, then the man next to her becomes irritable, pretentious, aggressive, insecure and unwilling to take responsibility. Therefore, it is important for us:
✔ 9. To be fulfilled, happy - take care of yourself.
When a woman nourishes a man, she gives him energy to realize it in the outside world. A woman is a well from which a man drinks and the quality of this water is very good. important. This is a woman’s work on herself; an unhappy woman who does not love herself cannot make anyone happy, she cannot give what she does not have herself. Women are the foundation of a man's success and family relationships.
The power of a woman is enormous. The problem is that women do not understand their power and the possibilities of their influence on their husbands.
✔ 10. Support his ideas and believe in his capabilities, that he can do it!
If a wife supports her husband’s ideas, even the most “crazy” ones, with trust and faith in him, this is something valuable that a woman can do for a man. The story of Henry Ford, with his idea in the engineering industry, in which few believed. But his wife, believing in her husband, helped him in the garage every evening - she held the lamp when he worked in the garage after a hard day. She supported him and believed in his idea!
Men are not biorobots who should solve all our problems, earn money, buy apartments, give us children and help around the house. Realize our dreams. Men are the same people. And they, just like us, want love. To be loved, not used. To be seen and not sawed. So that his inner world would be interesting and pleasant to someone.
And then the stingy become generous. The glove holders are starting to restore order. Workaholics pay attention to their loved ones. The insensitive ones show love, while the vulnerable and infantile ones grow up. Only love can bring about such transformations. Only love when you see more. Not only qualities and properties, not only the size of housing and cars. When you see his soul, his personality, his strengths, his potential. You see for yourself - and help him see them.
Butsovskaya T. S.
Heart of the Fiery World
MALE BEHAVIOR IS A CONSEQUENCE OF FEMALE BEHAVIOR.
Does a woman make a man a man?
You know, somehow it became popular to place all the blame for failed relationships on women. It is convenient to explain drunkenness, betrayal, and aggression by the fact that “male behavior is only a consequence of female behavior.” It's hard to disagree with the fact that we all influence each other in one way or another, especially in close relationships. However, let's not forget that every person has a choice. You can talk and find out what’s wrong, you can change something and try to fix it, you can break up and start looking for another couple, you can not get divorced and have an affair “on the side”... To do or not to do - the person decides for himself.
Those who say that a man will not look for a way to fix the relationship, that the development and preservation of relationships is exclusively a female prerogative, it seems to me, they mean some kind of infantile men. They need to be led, directed, taught, mentored, explained.
Nowadays it is fashionable to attribute to women superpowers in influencing men. It seems that sharing responsibilities would be healthier for both sexes. You can only influence what you control personally, what depends directly on you. And only you yourself depend directly on yourself. Because another person is influenced by a lot of other factors: his own will or lack thereof, upbringing in the family, relationships with parents and basic attitude towards the world, character traits, mental health and the presence of complexes, intelligence, in the end. No one can convince, force, compel, inspire a person to do something that he does not want to do.
“A man will not be confident if you do not instill confidence in him. He will not be responsible and purposeful if you are not ready to trust him. He will not be brave and emotionally stable if you doubt him, criticize him for mistakes, make trouble. He will not be the head of the family until you stop fighting for power in the family and “surrender yourself into his strong hands.”
I am sure that a man can be confident, responsible and purposeful, courageous and emotionally stable on his own. Without having a woman in his life. Only this is from the “self-made” category. And this is about adult men.
To become the head of the family - such a need arises in a man not because the woman nearby behaves badly or well. But because he himself wanted it. A woman’s behavior can become a stimulus, but the motive is born inside. When a man loves himself. Then the stimulus is significant and the motive appears.
Is it possible to lead a man astray when he has understood a lot about himself: who he is, why he is, with whom he wants to live and how? What do you think?
I am sure that no external idolization will force a man to change. Let's be honest, every man has his first and greatest love - his mother. And since she, with all the power of unconditional love, failed to inspire a man to feats, any outside woman is unlikely to succeed. However, change is possible. A man can change. But only when he feels the need for it. What exactly will become his driving force, only he knows. Love, self-esteem, power or something else. A loving woman will always support, praise, and be proud of her man. But let’s not delude ourselves: only those who are ready for them can be inspired to change.
It is interesting that, according to some experts, only a weak woman can inspire a man. In order for a man to become strong, one must be weak. Only then will he be able to take a dominant position in an alliance with a woman.
What is strength and what is weakness? Are there clear criteria and clear definitions? Dominance in a family presupposes that one person is better or superior to another person in some way. Otherwise, on what basis does he suddenly have the right to dominate?
If we are talking about physical strength, then it is stupid to discuss it: a man is naturally stronger. Does this give you the right to dominate? If we talk about fortitude, there is a very beautiful expression: “Strong is not the one who does not fall, the strong is the one who rises.” Women master this kind of power perfectly. What about weakness? Can emotionality be considered a weakness? Most likely, no, because the dependence of social success on developed emotional intelligence has been proven. And is the man weak who, at the end of a hard day, puts his head on his beloved’s lap for “pity”?
Dominance presupposes the presence of a superior and a subordinate. And subordinates do not inspire. They are afraid. To stumble, to do something wrong, not to please the boss, not to receive a reward, to receive punishment. But there will also be punishment, as well as a gallant and protective attitude?
I would like marriage to be a union of two unequal biologically, but equally valuable individuals who know how to negotiate, respect each other, and resolve issues within the framework of their competence without regard to who is boss in the house. There can be nothing worse than trying to squeeze your relationship into the “most correct organization” of the family according to the rules written by someone, even if these rules are rooted in ancient history.
P.S. In one interview, Russian actor Georgy Taratorkin, when asked by a journalist: “Why did you move to Moscow for your wife, although you were a famous actor in Leningrad, and didn’t bring her to your place?”, answered: “Because she has the right to the same creative destiny , like me"
"Secrets of Psychology"
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A person who successfully achieves his goals, feels this himself and has the recognition of others for this is called a successful person.
He is distinguished from others by a number of abilities, skills and habits. Among them we can list the following: responsibility, self-discipline, self-control, effective thinking, the ability to learn, the habit of developing.
A successful person always demonstrates confident behavior and the ability to be a leader. Being energetic and leading a healthy lifestyle is not a way of life, it’s habits, just like setting goals for yourself, and many other traits.
When a woman is called a successful person, it’s always cool. And yet, a successful man is many times cooler. True, not every representative of the strong half of humanity knows (or wants to admit) that his success, like, by the way, health, and even the behavior of children, depend solely on the kind of woman who is next to him, on her condition and her sexuality !
And these are not just words, this is the conclusion that psychologist, coach, personal growth trainer Alexander Palienko came to after many years of studying and researching this issue.
“If you're with a woman who has great acceptance, it makes you move forward without stopping,” he says. “And you begin to be a man who is a dream for any woman, but in fact it’s not you - it’s your woman.”
The psychologist explains this phenomenon simply: because we have a man who is courageous, calm, makes decisions, acts, implements his plans, self-confident, respects himself and respects others in abundance, has a sense of humor, and is rich.
That is, when a man is rich, he is calm, when a man is poor, he is irritable. It's the same as a hungry man and a well-fed man - they are different.
As for the woman, Alexander Palienko continues, she is sexy, charming, feminine, accepting, sensual, driven, forgiving, material (very important material, not spiritual) and loving.
And so that the man is courageous, calm, makes decisions, acts, implements his plans, etc. he needs a woman. After all, whatever a woman puts there will be there. “I emphasize this again,” the psychologist emphasized.
As a result, if a woman has small desires, then a man will have small victories. If a woman has great desires, then the man will have great victories. If a woman has global plans and goals, tasks, but she makes herself happy, works on herself and at the same time watches her figure, goes to the gym, eats right, buys good shampoos, communicates with the people she likes, then .e. she takes care of herself, then she can fill a man. If she just lies there, doesn’t go anywhere, and at the same time dreams about everything, there will be no sense in it, because she will give the man a pacifier.
Why, because she herself is not realized, the expert explains.
“Only a Yan woman can make a man. A Yan woman is one who knows what she wants and accepts it all, but at the same time still acts in order to make herself happy,” personal growth coach Alexander Palienko draws the attention of the stronger sex.
Every man has a natural desire for success. Sometimes it may seem that a person has lost this potential, this happens due to constant criticism, improper upbringing or a series of major failures. In fact, the vital energy a man needs to achieve success does not go away; it lives in a man as long as he is alive. Any woman can help her partner on the path to success. Thanks to her energy, she is able to give a man impetus to action, and the higher the level of her energy, the greater heights a person can achieve. A woman can help her beloved man. With her care, love, and warmth, she fills a man with her energy, which the man transforms into the energy of well-being and prosperity. Therefore, it is very important that there are as few scandals and misunderstandings as possible in the family.
Actions of a woman on the path to a man's success
- The ability to appreciate the best qualities in a man. A woman should be grateful to a man for what he does for her. Psychologists recommend thinking about the best qualities and virtues of your loved one as often as possible. If it suddenly seems difficult to find positive qualities in a person at the moment, then you should plunge into the past and remember the period of formation of the relationship and what exactly attracted you to this man. It wouldn’t hurt to go over difficult situations in your head from which the man found a way out.
- Acceptance of a man. There is no need to remake a man; it would be more correct to give a man the opportunity to be himself, accepting a person as he is, with all his advantages and disadvantages.
- Admiration for masculinity. Every man in his soul desires admiration and approval. He needs to be appreciated for his talents, abilities, achievements and masculinity. It is especially important for him when his beloved woman admires him.
- The desire of men to make a woman happy. If a woman has desires, then men strive to satisfy them. This does not happen only when a woman herself suppresses her desires. In this case, the man loses the desire to care for the woman, he stops giving her gifts and fulfilling her requests. A woman’s desires are a kind of motivator for a man to achieve success.
- Acceptance of male authority. You need to learn to trust a man in making decisions. Even if a woman has her own solution to a problem, the initiative should be given to the man. A woman in this position ends up getting more.
- A man is a breadwinner, a leader, a protector. If a woman is one hundred percent sure that her husband is the breadwinner, then so be it. By giving this role completely to the man, the woman thereby satisfies his need to be needed. By thus increasing his masculinity, a woman gets a man who can and wants to achieve success.
- Feminine qualities as a stimulant for action for a man. Only next to a real woman can a man feel his masculinity and strength. Next to such a woman, a man takes responsibility, strives for action, becomes calm and confident. On the contrary, a woman who complains all the time, is offended, is depressed, and often remembers the past, can only count on a man who does not want to take responsibility, who is indecisive, irritable, and aggressive.
- Financial management. The situation when a man loses his job happens quite often. But if he does not want and is not looking for work, then this is an alarming sign that the woman has taken on the burden of providing for the family and managing finances. The woman begins to nag the man, makes decisions for him, and, ultimately, takes leadership. What can be done in this situation? You should arm yourself with patience and wait until the man takes responsibility and begins to act.
- Faith in the capabilities and ideas of a man. There are many examples in history when the craziest ideas of men subsequently had enormous success. Women should believe in their men and support their endeavors. Once you kill the initiative in a man, you can forget for a long time that he will begin to act. You should show interest in his dreams and plans and participate in their implementation.
Only a woman who loves herself can fill a man with the necessary energy that will fuel him on the path to success. A woman is a spring from which a man drinks, and the man’s health depends on the quality of this water. Therefore, in order to see a successful, self-sufficient person next to her, a woman must constantly work on herself. A man's success depends 50% on the woman next to him.
