What does it mean to be tolerant and how to learn it? To be tolerant means to be a person. What does a tolerant woman mean?

03.09.202327.05.2017

“I’m not tolerant - I care,” read the lines from a song by a well-known Russian musician. I couldn't agree more. Tolerance is not synonymous with indifference. Tolerance presupposes the ability and ability to respect, accept and recognize the rights of other people, their interests, tastes, and freedom. But one cannot be tolerant of such concepts as aggression, violence, cruelty.

Universal human values are life, freedom, health, family. But does someone who destroys or takes other lives have the right to life? Where is the line of tolerance? Does she exist? How to find her? Let's figure it out.

The term “tolerance” is borrowed from medicine, where it means the body getting used to something, increasing resistance, reducing the protective function. For example, in the context of considering the problem of alcoholism, the concept of “increasing the body’s tolerance to alcohol” is used - an increase in the dose tolerated by the body without serious consequences. That is, a weakening of the immune response to some aggressor.

In medicine, a constant increase in tolerance inevitably leads a living organism to death due to the completely lost ability to fight irritants and produce protective antibodies. Literally, “tolerance” is translated from Latin as “endure, get used to.”

With medicine, everything is clear: tolerance does not promise anything good, it is a bad phenomenon. What does psychology say about this? Why do we love to cultivate tolerance in children and what do we mean by this concept? In psychology and sociology, tolerance means tolerance for a different way of life, different people, a different worldview, behavior, customs, traditions, habits, and faith. “We are all people, and we are equal to each other!” - the motto of the classical idea of tolerance.

At the present stage of development of society, tolerance is no longer interpreted so clearly:

The ability to come to terms with unpleasant beliefs and actions of other people that are different from ours.
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Recognition, respect, understanding and acceptance of the cultural diversity of society, the individual and personal characteristics of people (the classic idea of tolerance within the framework of many nations, cultures, faiths, health, and so on).
Tolerance for everything that happens in society.
“This is his life. Let him do what he wants. It doesn’t bother me and that’s okay.”

Unfortunately, tolerance in the modern concept is increasingly being approached by the term “indifference” (a decrease or complete disappearance of emotional and behavioral mental response to external unfavorable factors). We have learned so well to recognize the rights of other people, to accept any way of life, that we have become tolerant of maniacs, alcoholics, fights under the windows of the house, children wandering, rudeness, and hooliganism.

I understand that your life is always more valuable. Moreover, as a rule, it is connected with several more lives. But in my opinion, the medical concept of tolerance is now applicable in psychology. Interestingly, even in official documents at the federal and national levels, the term “tolerance” has recently been replaced with the term “tolerance.” Isn't it dangerous to be tolerant?

Types and levels of tolerance

Tolerance can be:

political;
gender;
pedagogical (level of education, intellectual development);
age (but “he’s a child” is not an excuse for cruelty);
religious;
in relation to people with special needs.

Remember how easily children make acquaintances (age, gender, race, status are not important to them), of course, if the parents did not have time to instill in the child the difference. Why is this happening? From birth, we are all given the ability to tolerate, the so-called natural tolerance, but with age we lose it. This feature is associated with the functioning of the psyche at an early age: the child does not separate himself from the outside world.

Tolerance levels include:

Personal tolerance. Implies a broad worldview, respect and understanding of the value of the right of every person to realize their potential in any way.
Social tolerance. Creation by the individual of an appropriate social circle that shares his views on tolerance and maintains social balance. Internal beliefs pass into a system of behavior and direct the activity of the individual.
Moral tolerance. A person learns to restrain his emotions and behavior in a situation where social norms or internal beliefs require it, despite negatively irritating external conditions. Wisdom, logic and self-regulation help with this. You can counteract, but in a socially acceptable way, and not by becoming like external stimuli.
Moral tolerance. A person tries to enter into the position of another (“external stimulus”), to understand the motives of his behavior. If this is successful, then self-control acquires an internal basis, rather than conditional adherence to norms. The previous level helps to avoid (difficult situations), and this level allows you to resolve conflicts and find common ground (“I understand you, but you also understand me”).

Tolerance can be low (irritation from the whole world), medium (patience for the advantages and disadvantages of some people, the desire to communicate), high (full acceptance of those with whom a person communicates, pleasure from communication, comfort from life). It is important that tolerance creates comfortable living conditions. When we hate and don’t understand everything around us, then “everything infuriates us” - what a pleasure that is. When we blindly accept everything, we can deprive ourselves of comfort, creating dangerous conditions around us, spreading fear. And only with high, but correct tolerance, with a selective attitude towards our environment, we live happily, in harmony and comfort with ourselves and society.

Thus, to be tolerant is to want to understand, understand, find common ground with another person; interest in the unknown. And only in the process of analysis does a person decide: to accept or not to accept, whether he understands it or not. A good example of tolerance is the desire to understand the traditions of other cultures, interest in customs, comparison with one’s own culture.

Is tolerance necessary?

In my opinion, you need to be tolerant, but you cannot be tolerant. Yes, we must recognize the rights of other cultures and nations, the special needs of people with disabilities. But we should not be tolerant of unconditional evil. By this I mean any lifestyle that interferes with other people and herself, that is, an antisocial lifestyle.

And yes, you need to be resilient to the difficulties of life, but you cannot be tolerant. You need to take an active tolerant position, so to speak:

We should not have a lack of reaction to something that contradicts the norms of society or our personal beliefs.
Complete tolerance is death, in our case - moral, moral, psychological. In some cases, perhaps physical death.
Through tolerance, one can achieve the point that a person will completely stop resisting external stimuli, but will blindly absorb into himself, accept into himself everything that is given to him, or regularly underestimate the necessary living conditions. This is what we see in modern society.

In engineering, “tolerance” means “permissible deviation without affecting functionality or value.” I think this can be adopted. “You won’t surprise anyone with this” – I would call the main thought of our society. That is why I propose to consider tolerance as an acceptable deviation that does not affect functionality: do with yourself what you want, but in such a way that it does not deprive you of personal value, social significance and does not interfere with society. We no longer react to tattoos, piercings, extreme entertainment. It's just a shell. Tolerance for the inner world of people is much more important.

We have become so open to everything new that we have forgotten about selectivity. You can't accept everything that comes your way. You need to analyze, you need to have a stable system of values and views. You need to build personal boundaries. There must be something you will never accept in people. But we are by no means talking about a nation, faith or health characteristics, we are talking about personal qualities.

For example, I do not accept insults and shouting. They are not and will not be in my house, otherwise I will leave it. There are no people around me who feed on this. Firstly, I don’t accept this, which means I don’t behave like that, and secondly, attempts are stopped or people are cut off. Someone will regard this position as coldness or rudeness. Let's be tolerant: everyone has the right to their opinion. But with a person for whom insults are the value and norm of life, we are not on the same path. “I’m tolerant, but I care” – I’ll paraphrase the thought with which I started this article:

I am not tolerant of those who hurt animals, but I am tolerant of the mental characteristics of these people and their childhood or pedagogical neglect.
I could understand and accept their pain, but not the consequences and not the unwillingness to deal with their problems.

Being tolerant and being tolerant and indifferent are two different things. The examples can be continued indefinitely. For example, you need to be tolerant of taste preferences in music (some people listen to rock, some classics, some rap). It doesn’t matter what genre gives a person inner harmony, if it doesn’t affect social behavior, then why not. You may not understand how they listen to it, but you can simply accept it. But if music is screaming under the windows and doesn’t let you sleep, then it doesn’t matter at all what genre it is, what’s important is people’s antisocial behavior. There can be no talk of acceptance here, because in this context it gives rise to permissiveness.

How to be tolerant

If your problem is in the classical concept of tolerance, that is, you do not know how to recognize the rights of other people to life, faith, style of music, nation, and so on, then here are some tips on how to be tolerant:

Tolerance is formed as. The more often we are exposed to something and react in the same way to the stimulus, the stronger this stereotype of behavior is fixed in our consciousness, and then in the subconscious.
In each person, upon detailed analysis, traces of many races can be found. These tests, of course, are expensive, but as an alternative you can find books, articles, and videos on this topic. Genes, nationalities, races and nations are so mixed that it is impossible to find a 100% Russian person or a Turk, a German, a Ukrainian. Start with yourself.
Realize that tolerance is for you, not someone else. It provides a psychologically comfortable life. You cannot change the whole world the way you need it to. So isn’t it easier for your own mental well-being to accept the characteristics of other people?
Would our world be the same if all people were the same? No. The people who create history are unique. Among them are many people with special health needs (Stephen Hawking, Ludwig van Beethoven, Alexey Maresyev) or from different nations (the famous and unsurpassed teacher Shalva Amonashvili). We can talk endlessly about countries and nations. For example, many foreign theories formed the basis of domestic psychology. Science, and therefore life, does not have the concept of “ours” and “yours.” There is a concept of general progress, consciousness, experience, culture. Start studying literature, especially scientific publications and history. Recognize the value of a “diverse” society.
. It is she who helps to understand other people, to stand in their place, to compare oneself with them.
The growth of tolerance is facilitated by personal communication with other people, living in another country, and working in a team. The most difficult thing is to force yourself to join such groups, meet other people, earn their favor and positively establish yourself. At first you will have to rely only on moral tolerance and, but the more time you spend in conditions of the unknown and incomprehensible, the easier it will be to succeed, and tolerance will smoothly move to the moral level.
It is possible that you are simply sinning with people. Then you need to fight it.
Get rid of stereotypes and prejudices. Receive and process information about other people yourself. Our level of tolerance is also determined by the environment in which we grew up. If, as adults, we notice a hole in this place, then we have to start all over again through self-education.
Don't criticize, but be interested. Make it a rule not to judge without understanding, without asking the question “why?”
Accepting others starts with. Perhaps you were not accepted as a child, and as an adult you cannot accept yourself.

So, a tolerant person:

Knows himself, adequately evaluates himself and the people around him, his strengths and weaknesses, knows how to recognize them, accept them, and, if necessary, correct them.
and confident in my own abilities. Knows that he can cope with any difficulties.
Bears responsibility for his life, actions and their consequences. Does not shift responsibility to other people or circumstances.
Strives for self-realization in work, society, creativity, that is, all aspects of life.
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While a person who is not tolerant:

He sees advantages in himself, and only disadvantages in others. Blames people for this.
, . Constantly remains in a feeling, afraid of himself, the world, the environment (although he does not always realize or admit this).
Transfers responsibility for failures.
Lack of initiative, passive, does not strive for self-realization.
Reacts painfully to jokes, especially directed at himself. He uses black humor himself.

It is obvious that it is possible to achieve tolerance only through self-knowledge and self-development, as well as through active practical interaction with the world.

Training to develop tolerance

I bring to your attention E. S. Arbuzova’s training on the development of tolerance. Exercises can be used either separately or in combination. They are suitable for adults and older teenagers. It is recommended to conduct training in a group.

"Greetings"

Participants in the training are encouraged to greet each other as is customary in different countries. For example, a handshake and eye-to-eye look from Germany, rubbing noses from Eskimos, and so on.

"What's in my name"

This exercise will allow you to look at yourself outside the box and teach you how to communicate with others. You need to write your name on the sheet, but backwards. Now you need to choose a word for each letter, but so that together you get some parting words, a message. If there are not enough letters in your name, you can ask someone for an extra letter. But you can’t ask for a specific one, you need to take the one they give.

"Telegram"

It is advisable to carry out the exercise in groups of at least 6 people. In each group, the initials of the participants (first and last name) are written down. The task is to compose a message from all the initials.

"Presentation"

Participants are divided into pairs. The task is to communicate with each other, and then introduce (present, describe, tell) your communication partner.

An alternative option is to first have one member of the pair tell a story about a fictional character with his real name. Then the partner tries to guess the real facts about the previous storyteller. Guess how he sees the world, what is valuable to him, what worries him, and so on. Our fantasies and fictitious stories most accurately convey the current state of our inner world. Whether we like it or not, the subconscious will take the reins. Especially when the hero of the fairy tale has the same name as ours. So all that remains is to listen carefully to your interlocutor.

"Detective"

The exercise is carried out in pairs. Participants are not allowed to talk. It is only allowed to show each other 6 (more or less) personal items. The task of the second participant in the pair is to create a description of the personality of his partner in these subjects. The partner denies or confirms the statements.

"Describe me"

Participants in pairs communicate with each other for 5 minutes. After this, they turn away from each other and write a mini-article (description), where they record the external, individual, behavioral characteristics of the partner. The partner denies or confirms the statements. The exercise develops observation, intuition, memory, empathy; improves relationships and mutual understanding of participants.

"The sun shines for those who..."

One of the participants goes to the center of the circle and says “The sun shines for those who ...” (names his advantage or disadvantage, predilection, sympathy or antipathy, and so on). If there is someone in the group with the same statement, then he goes into the circle and pronounces his statement. At the end there is reflection (which came as a surprise, what we have in common, am I happy about this).

Alternative option: the participant names the fact to himself, but in the form “those who have a sister will clap their hands.” He claps himself and looks to see who else has sisters. Statements can be very different, as can subsequent actions. The goal is to get to know each other better, find common ground, accept shortcomings, and highlight strengths.

"True and Lies"

Each participant writes 3 statements to himself on paper (two are true, one is false). The other participants' task is to guess what is a lie.

There are many exercises to develop tolerance. You can even invent it yourself. As you can see, their basis is the same: emphasize similarities, find and understand the beauty of differences, learn to understand others, accept yourself and others.

Tolerance (healthy, adequate) is a sign of a mature personality. It is the ability to separate tolerance (indifference) from tolerance (selectivity, respect, understanding, acceptance) that needs to be cultivated in oneself. Otherwise, the personal level of aspirations may fall so low that the person himself will not notice how he ends up at the social bottom. You can’t always endure, you need to fight for your own and comfort.

Tolerance determines cooperation, interaction between people, comfortable and productive coexistence, and life in one society. The concept of tolerance cannot be replaced by the terms “indifference”, “pity”, “coercion”, “sense of duty”. You need to be tolerant consciously, without equating it with manipulation or showing off.

Not all people use the concept of tolerance in their lives. What is it? These are norms of behavior accepted in a social environment, which are expressed in people’s tolerance of each other, religions, customs and feelings. It can be said that The basis of tolerance is considered to be the right to express thoughts of every person. These are human feelings that are expressed in people’s positive attitude towards something, but not towards violations of moral and universal principles. This word has come into use not so long ago; let’s try to understand this concept in more detail.

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Tolerance includes such human qualities as:

Compassion and tolerance;
Forgiveness and mercy;
Perception of one's neighbor with all his shortcomings;
Respect for people's rights and freedoms;
Desire to cooperate;
Maintaining a spirit of partnership and parity among people.

In 1995, the UNESCO Declaration of Principles on Tolerance was adopted.

According to this document, tolerance is:

Patience;
Lack of aggression;
Philosophical worldview and the ability to philosophically evaluate life positions and manifestations of the character of other people.

Depending on the area of manifestation, tolerance is divided into the following categories:

Political;
Pedagogical;
Medical;
Scientific;
Administrative, etc.

Types and types of tolerance in modern society

The concept of tolerance is not just a Wikipedia definition. There are different definitions, as well as divisions of tolerance into types, types, subspecies and subtypes. Psychologists divide tolerance into four types, which are based on interpersonal communication between people:

Natural (natural). This type of tolerance is characterized by the fact that the child cannot contrast his own “I” with the world around him. He has too little experience for this. Children's consciousness is driven by forgiveness and trust. It is these qualities that allow a little person to adapt to living conditions. However, these character traits force the baby to suppress his desires and manifestations of will.

People with different skin colors can be tolerant of each other

Moral tolerance. This type of tolerance is characteristic of self-sufficient and wise people who are able to use the body’s psychological defense mechanisms. The main manifestation of this attitude is considered to be tolerance towards others. Passions of indignation may rage inside him and negative energy may accumulate, but outwardly the person is extremely calm.

Moral tolerance. It will be surprising to many people that two paragraphs with synonymous subheadings appear in a row. But there is a significant difference between moral and ethical tolerance. Moral tolerance is different in that it determines the degree of trust in a person. This type is typical for people who try to accept the thoughts, values, stereotypes, and life principles of another person. Such people find it easy to endure conflict situations and withstand stress.

Ethnic tolerance. Causes long-suffering and lack of judgment towards foreign culture, customs and way of life.

A person endowed with ethnic tolerance is able to live for a long time in an environment that is unusual, and sometimes even unpleasant for him, of foreign culture and traditions.

Main types of tolerance consist of four subtypes:

A person’s attitude towards a situation and the people taking part in it. Subdivided situational tolerance to the following levels:

Low level characteristic of a person’s negative attitude towards the world and the surrounding reality (“they irritate me”);
On average level the person expresses tolerance towards his interlocutors (“I like communicating with them, and I understand them perfectly”);
Highest level characterized by complete acceptance of a person by a person (“I feel comfortable and good with them”).

A person’s position relative to other people, based on political, ethnic and national characteristics. This subtype of tolerance is called typological.
Another subtype of tolerance is professional. This is people’s reaction to the environment in which they are forced to spend a large amount of time - employees, co-workers, colleagues.
Collective Tolerance (general) consists of the characteristics that a person exhibits as a result of the previous three observations. Their systematization gives a general picture of the level of tolerance of an individual.

Many people are intolerant of men and women with tattoos

Examples of tolerance from life

The most obvious manifestations of tolerance in life, as a rule, are associated with religion: you can meet a Christian who talks with a Muslim, and both of them are tolerant of each other, listen to each other’s position and opinion. Another example of tolerance can be a conversation between people of different political views. The important thing is that l people don't try to impose their point of view, but have the strength to acknowledge that the other person may not share your political beliefs.

Often people are intolerant of the appearance of people who dress or look completely different from you. For example, you don’t like tattoos and as soon as you see a girl with a tattoo, your attitude towards her immediately deteriorates, or you don’t want to communicate with her at all.

It will be absolutely intolerant to express your position as the only correct one, to hint in every possible way that a person is wrong, that all his arguments seem stupid or insignificant to you. In this situation, you can safely call yourself an intolerant person.

Tolerance and intolerance

Striving to become tolerant, a person does not think about the fact that his manifestations of tolerance sometimes have the nature of violence against himself. That is, he does not have moral tolerance, which is conditioned by acceptance and forgiveness. This process occurs at the level of moral tolerance, which suppresses internal rejection of any processes.

Tolerance and intolerance manifest themselves in all spheres of human relationships: professional, interethnic, interreligious and others.

How to understand that a person is tolerant? As a rule, the following signs of tolerance and a tolerant personality are distinguished:

Humor. The ability to laugh at one’s own shortcomings is the main difference between a tolerant person. He reacts adequately to criticism and jokes directed at him.

Self-realization.

A tolerant person is focused on self-improvement and the implementation of his plans.

He is inquisitive, open with people and selflessly comes to the first call for help. An intolerant individual does not know how to empathize and does not show compassion for people. He cannot determine himself and does not strive for self-improvement.

Self-esteem. Tolerance is a person’s ability to adequately evaluate himself and others. He clearly knows and strives to eradicate them. Tolerance implies harmony between people with the world and within themselves. An intolerant person is accustomed to blaming others for his troubles. He transfers all the blame to those around him, to the circumstances. At the same time, intolerant people extol their own achievements and push forward virtues that, perhaps, do not exist at all.

Security. Despite all the problems of modern reality (rampant crime, terrorism, etc.), a tolerant person feels protected in society. However, intolerant people see a real threat to their own safety in everything that happens around them.

Responsibility. Tolerant people are not afraid of responsibility. In everything that happens around them, they look for true reasons and meaning. It is not difficult for them to take on certain obligations and bear responsibility for their own misdeeds and those of others.

Conchita Wurst, aka Thomas Neuwirth, winner of the Eurovision Song Contest 2014 in Copenhagen

Democratic. Tolerant people will never try to convince you that they are right. They will definitely listen to your point of view, but will remain with their own. Intolerant people are dictators in their psychological attitude. They need to know that everyone around them is subject to their concepts and aspirations.

Tolerance in the modern world

Tolerance for our state and its citizens is something new that has come to us since the times of “Perestroika” and the formation of a new state. In the Soviet Union, tolerance was considered, if not a sign of weakness, then a betrayal of political views promoted by the state. In a communist society, differences of opinion, religious views and preferences were not allowed. The distorted concept of tolerance was recognized only in the call for equality and brotherhood of all peoples and sectors of society. Which, however, was pure propaganda and had no basis in reality.

Nowadays, people in our country and all over the world are increasingly asking themselves the question: “How to become a tolerant person?” Moreover many people confuse tolerance with forgiveness in Christianity. However, this concept is far from the Christian call for a patient and stoic desire to “carry your cross” or “turn your cheek to be struck again.” The Orthodox Fathers categorically deny tolerance as a science and in every possible way prevent its teaching in schools and universities. They believe that accepting and understanding any point of view destroys the moral foundations of a person that were brought up in him from childhood.

We can list several examples of double interpretation of manifestations of tolerance in society:

Youth. Let's consider a striking example of the manifestation of the denial of tolerance - a group of skinheads. They believe that tolerance of foreign culture, beliefs and views leads to the oppression of the Slavic race. How to explain to a child what tolerance is? By example, first of all. Do not be afraid to discuss sensitive topics in the family regarding any type of tolerance. Tolerance for children, especially young ones, can be a difficult concept, but over the years the seeds you sow will pay off and your child will become a truly tolerant person.

Family. In some countries, where a tolerant position towards people has been promoted for a long time, there are some excesses in concepts. For example, in England it is prohibited to use the words “husband” and “wife” in document flow. Thus, the state authorities try not to offend the feelings of sexual minorities entering into a marriage union. However, this is not the limit either; in the future it is planned to ban the words “mother” and “father” for the same purpose. European society condemns the denial of Russians towards same-sex partners who want to adopt children.

Policy. In political life there is a very fine line between tolerance and servility. Politicians receive appropriate training and skills that help them manipulate the public and the opinions of the majority of people. Take the same ban on teenage homosexuality, adopted at the legislative level in Russia. In tolerant Europe, this caused a storm of condemnation and accusations of intolerance of Russian rulers.

Today we see that the Russian public is outraged by the manifestation of fascism and extremism on the territory of the former Russian state - Ukraine.

Conclusion

From all of the above, the following conclusions can be drawn:

Manifestations of tolerance towards non-traditional views on life and minority concepts must be justified by logic and common sense;
It is necessary to consider the adoption of certain positions guided by the laws and traditions accepted in society;
It is necessary to clearly know and understand the limits of tolerance;
Tolerance should not develop into permissiveness and trampling of true values.

It is necessary to respectfully accept and understand the meaning of life, positions and aspirations of other people, which must correspond to such concepts as “morality”, “morality” and “democracy”. A tolerant person is not one who is endowed with any one positive quality, but an individual who possesses all of them to the fullest. He will never enter into conflict, even justified by certain circumstances; he cannot be called upon to condemn or sharply reject other people’s ideals and aspirations. However truly tolerant people must have high moral principles. In order for our society to become tolerant, it is necessary to educate and instill in young people tolerance based on standards of morality and morality.

Hello, dear readers of the blog site. In modern society (especially the West), tolerance is promoted as a manifestation of civilization and culture of the individual (?).

It would be nice to figure out what it is. Also, is it always necessary to behave tolerantly?

Let's see.

The meaning of the word tolerance

In Latin, the word tolerantia means “patience.” What's easier? One of the highest virtues can truly be considered a sign of a civilized modern person - tolerance. However, Wikipedia gives several meanings to the word tolerance. Tolerance, for example:

in sociology it is tolerance for a different worldview, traditions, and rules of behavior. It is separately noted that acceptance, understanding, and a tolerant attitude towards other people’s habits and worldviews do not mean indifference or a change in one’s own principles. This recognition of other people's rights live according to your own convictions;
in medicine, a state of human immunity in which the defense mechanism cannot produce antibodies that resist some antigen. Absolute tolerance- this is death. Think about it, this medical interpretation can easily be attributed to our society (especially today’s European one);
in ecology - the ability of any organisms to adapt to changing environmental factors;
in addiction, pharmacology, immunology – addiction;
in technical sciences - the difference between the maximum permissible values set for the characteristics and parameters of parts.

Our contemporaries use this term in a modified form, even as an insult (ending with “...ast” and “...la”), as a sign of disrespect for excessive tolerance. Many pundits reserve the right to condemn and evaluate other people's beliefs and habits that are different from their own and believe that this is tolerance.

Here you need divide into general and specific. For example, I can be tolerant of a person who has committed some other act that is not yet supported in society. It's private. I can humanly feel sorry for him, sympathize with him, and understand him.

But I cannot tolerate the very essence of the crime (I must condemn it). This is general. Here I have the right to judge, to be intolerant, to express my opinion. And no heartfelt speeches about tolerance have the right to shut my mouth. The criminal may be pitiable (remember Yuri Detochkin), but the crime itself is not.

In this regard, I am touched by the attempt, through tolerance, to push into people’s minds the idea that one cannot speak badly, for example, about sexual deviations. Nonsense. I can be tolerant and even good towards someone who has these deviations. But I have the right to challenge, express my opinion and even condemn the very idea of popularizing deviations.

Definition of tolerance in simple words

Moral standards of behavior, determined by people's tolerance, acceptance of principles, faith, traditions, feelings of others, as their inalienable right.

The main thing in tolerance is to recognize the right and freedom to openly express one's views.

That is, to be tolerant is to experience normal human feelings and have a positive attitude towards everything, except for the violation of moral and universal principles.

Interestingly, in 1995, a Declaration outlining the basic principles of tolerance was read and adopted. The document says that tolerance is:

renunciation of aggression;
patience;
calm perception of the world;
philosophical assessment of life principles and manifestations of the character of other people.

This can be said about this definition in simple words. It sounds, however, like an answer to the question: “What does it mean to be human?”, agree. Don't agree? Then we will convince you.

What is included in the concept of “tolerant”

A tolerant person can confidently be considered the most humane because he:

tolerant and compassionate;
merciful and forgiving;
perceiving the shortcomings of others ();
respecting other people's rights and freedoms;
willing to interact;
supporting the principles of partnership and equality of relations.

Sincere commitment to these factors provides a complete picture of the ideal person. This proves the importance of having tolerance in the character of people. The main thing here is not to overdo it and not to use it as a weapon to silence dissidents, to condemn and even discuss certain topics.

I would like to emphasize once again that a tolerant attitude towards specific people is welcome, but tolerance of ideas themselves cannot be imposed that these people are promoting. It is your right to challenge worldviews, scientific dogmas, even religious views and much more. Dispute is the work of the immune system, which helps to give birth to the truth (defeat the virus).

Otherwise tolerance becomes a universal weapon in the hands of those who use it. It can go up to , as is clearly shown in this video:

Tolerance is a multifaceted concept

The use of the term in various fields of activity, science and life is so extensive that its detailed classification must be dealt with separately. Here we note that there are several categories of this concept, for example:

pedagogical;
medical;
scientific;
political;
management and other categories.

In addition, types, species, subtypes and subspecies are common. In psychology, for example, tolerance happens the following types:

Natural - and gullibility, characteristic of the behavior of a little man;
Moral - developing in wise, self-sufficient people. They are tolerant of others;
. Not to be confused with moral. This type shows how much a person trusts others. People with this type of tolerance tend to accept the views and values of others. Such people do not react to scandals and stress;
Ethnic, presupposing a patient attitude towards the customs, culture and way of life adopted by other nationalities. Such people can live for as long as they like in an alien cultural space.

Each of these types is divided into subspecies depending on how a person relates to:

circumstances and their participants;
people according to different characteristics (typological subtype);
employees and colleagues (professional subtype);
to everything in general (collective).

Based on the results of these subtypes, it is analyzed how tolerant a person is.

Intolerance (intolerance) and how to recognize it

In their quest to achieve tolerance, people sometimes lose sight of the fact that do not have moral tolerance, requiring you to accept and forgive other people's views. By force of will, they force themselves to accept other people's beliefs that they cannot tolerate. This happens at the level of moral values, which are suppressed by violence against one’s own personality and are accompanied by stress.

This condition cannot last long. Sometimes a person cannot withstand the tension and breaks down - he acts absolutely intolerantly. He sharply expresses his opinion as the only correct one, rejecting the opinions of others. If this happens to you, you may consider yourself intolerant.

This happens everywhere, we see how people do not accept anyone’s arguments, propagate their own point of view and do not listen to their opponents.

How to recognize a tolerant or intolerant person

Individuals who are characterized by these opposite traits have a number of character traits. To understand whether a person is tolerant or intolerant, pay attention to the following signs:

Sense of humor. The ability to laugh at one's own shortcomings is the most obvious feature of tolerance;
Self-realization. Purposefulness and openness, the ability to respond to requests for help. Intolerant individuals do not empathize, do not know what they want and do not strive to develop;
. Intolerants blame the whole world, and praise themselves, attributing to themselves all sorts of virtues (almost);
A sober assessment of yourself. A tolerant individual knows exactly his shortcomings and wants to get rid of them;
Feeling safe. Openness allows tolerant people to feel protected in society. Intolerant individuals see threats everywhere;
. The search for reason and reason in everything distinguishes a tolerant person; he is not afraid to answer for his own and even for other people’s words and actions;
Democratic. Listen and stick to your guns. Tolerant people will not persuade at any cost. Dictators who are intolerant by nature and subjugate those around them to their worldview.

Is it always necessary to behave tolerantly?

We have all, to one degree or another, encountered manifestations of intolerance in our lives, and this is understandable, because the concept of tolerance for us is something new and came to us from the “enlightened West.” In our society, tolerance was considered a manifestation of softness.

Many people confuse tolerance with forgiveness and mercy in religion. However, the church fathers do not accept tolerance of any point of view; they consider it a threat to moral foundations. And the adoption of a foreign culture is condemned as a danger.

In families, society, and politics of other modern states (especially European ones), we see vivid examples transforming tolerance into permissiveness. As a result, what seemed incredible just ten years ago is now becoming an unquestioned norm.

This makes you wonder if there are boundaries beyond which tolerance does not bring harmony and peace to the individual within? Everyone sets these boundaries for themselves, guided by upbringing, morality, maybe the Law of God and the laws of all mankind. So, you have something to think about!

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