For some reason, it is generally accepted that a man goes outside if he doesn’t have enough sex at home. But is this really so? Maybe a wife, bogged down with housework and children, does not evoke the former desire, or maybe in the measured and well-ordered life of her husband there is no place for youthful extreme, which is sometimes so lacking in order to still feel young and full of strength. Why does a man start to think about whether he should have a mistress?
Thoughts about having a mistress begin to enter the mind of a married man for several reasons. First, it may be basic boredom, the monotony of family life and the routine of everyday problems, from which you want to escape into a fairy tale called “another life.” The second reason may be the desire to be “like everyone else”; this happens when all friends have girlfriends on the side, and the man does not want to stand out from his environment. Third, this is when there is already someone in mind, and the man is simply wondering whether it is worth getting involved in this adventure, trying to calculate all the pros and cons of this situation.
First of all, a man needs to understand himself, understand what his soul asks for and whether this can really only be obtained from his mistress. Perhaps by understanding the situation and talking with his wife, you can come to a different conclusion.
If we omit the moral side of this situation, then before deciding to take such a step as having a mistress, it is worth reflecting on the following points.
Financial situation. A mistress is not a cheap pleasure, even if she does not claim expensive gifts, then the man is obliged to provide a place for meetings (a hotel room, a rented apartment). Also, trips to cafes and restaurants, cute trinkets for all holidays will require constant expenses. An adventure that can give you a second youth is, of course, wonderful, but only if it is not paid for with money saved on children and your own family.
Time for meetings. In order for meetings to bring joy and pleasure, everything in a man’s family should also be quiet and smooth. Otherwise, a scandal before leaving for his mistress, and then a meeting with an angry wife with another portion of hysterics upon returning home, can kill all the pleasant feelings from a romantic evening and in their place lead to disappointment and a feeling of guilt. Therefore, a man needs to think through all the options for deception in advance. The ideal option is when a man has a job with an irregular work schedule, plus unforeseen business trips, as well as a long-standing hobby, such as fishing or hunting. If a man starts to stay late at work, unexpectedly go on business trips, and at the same time becomes very interested in fishing, then such behavior will immediately arouse suspicion in any wife. Even if the mistress initially agrees to short meetings a couple of times a week, then the man should not be under any illusions; over time, this state of affairs can change dramatically, and here he will have to choose either to follow the lead of his mistress, or to break off the relationship.
If your mistress acts as a temporary entertainment, then under no circumstances should you introduce her to your friends and relatives, or get acquainted with her immediate circle. With this acquaintance, the man makes it clear to his mistress that their relationship is more than an affair. If a man makes such a mistake, then getting rid of this mistress will be very problematic.
Precautions. If a man wants to protect his family from psychological trauma, then it is best not to give reason for suspicion. Therefore, you need to get a new SIM card, which will receive SMS and calls from your mistress. Do not give out your email address, do not contact on social networks. Pay everywhere and for everything only in cash, so that your wife doesn’t even think about checking the expenses on her credit card.
Joint vacation. Any trip together with a lover, even for a couple of days, can plunge a woman into a world of illusions. This step can be interpreted by her as taking the relationship to a new level, that is, the woman can fantasize that the man on this trip wants to try on a life together with her and then leave his family. Even if a man has never had conversations on this topic, a woman can draw exactly the same conclusions after a joint vacation. Therefore, you should not be surprised if, upon arrival, your mistress begins to demand more attention in every possible way, throw hysterics and increasingly ask about when the man will come to live with her.
Gap. Temporary entertainment sooner or later gets boring and the time comes to say goodbye to it. This is where a huge number of pitfalls can await a man. If the mistress is not ready to break off the relationship, she is capable of resorting to a lot of unpleasant manipulations in order to leave everything as it is. The first and most favorite is blackmail. The news that this adventure will become known to the public, namely to the wife, can plunge a man into shock and great regret that this relationship even took place in his life. During a period of hysteria, it is not so important for a mistress to get her man back as to ruin his calm existence as much as possible. And an angry woman is capable of such tricks in terms of revenge that it is better not to know. Therefore, it is advisable to part with your mistress as quietly as possible, by mutual consent; ideally, she expresses a desire to leave the man, and there will be no complaints. If the relationship ends in a scandal, then the subsequent war can, if not completely destroy the family, then greatly shake the inner peace of the family hearth. According to statistics, 50% of wives can forgive their husband’s infidelity, but 50% immediately file for divorce. Therefore, every man who begins to think about how to find a mistress must immediately ask himself the question whether he is ready to risk his family for the sake of such an adventure.
The ideal lover. The most ideal mistress is someone else's wife. A married woman will not demand too expensive gifts, because she needs to somehow explain the appearance of a fur coat or a diamond ring to her husband. A married mistress, even if she accidentally gets pregnant, will not blackmail the man with immediate registration of the relationship. It is just as unprofitable for her to disclose her relationship with a married man as it is for the man. Therefore, such a relationship is mutually beneficial for both parties.
Whether to start a relationship on the side or not is a personal matter for each individual. It’s just that before you plunge headlong into the pool, you should stop and think about whether, at the end of the adventure, too much of a price will be paid for such a prank?
Finding a mistress in our time is not a problem, since modern stereotypes have not only ceased to prevent men from having mistresses, but have begun to support them in every possible way in this endeavor. Just look at the praise of friends or the inspired stories of acquaintances about how they found their mistress, and also how great they had time with her.
“I wish I could do that!” - you thought.
And for good reason! If a man has another woman, then his business goes up: at work he begins to occupy higher positions, earn a lot of money and achieve success. And all because love victories inspire him to great deeds.
The problem will be to ensure that the relationship on the side remains secret and does not jeopardize family relationships. Women are just as possessive as men, and the fear of being exposed by your wife will constantly accompany you. However, there are a number of recommendations, following which you can minimize the risks.
Before starting the search for a mistress, a man must understand one important thing: the ideal mistress is a married mistress. By starting an affair with such a woman, you provide yourself with some guarantee that your mistress will not pretend to marry you. In most cases, married women who take an affair do not plan to divorce their husband. By having a mistress who is not married, you risk very quickly experiencing the ability of women to manipulate men. They will start pestering you with offers to divorce your wife in order to make a choice in favor of your mistress. It could come down to blackmail. Do you need it!?
Some precautions.
First of all, you need to make a list of the places where your wife goes. Where she works, where she goes. Maybe she's into something? Or is he into fitness?
All this information will come in handy.
After that, make a list of her acquaintances (friends) who can randomly tell her about you. Make a list of places where her friends go. To do this, it is enough to remember how the wife talked about them.
If it’s difficult to make a complete list of places, then at least remember the place of work of her friends. If the desire to have another woman appears for the first time, and you do not know how to find a mistress, then any available information will be important.
This will reduce the likelihood that you might be seen somewhere with a new woman and then told to your wife.
You can, of course, rely on male solidarity (if a man sees you, he is unlikely to report to her). But still, we don’t need risk - every detail is important here. Because any “mistake” can someday become fatal.
For example, it was found that at certain times your wife’s acquaintances are in different places in the city. This means that you should neither look for a mistress in these places nor date her.
The best place to find a lover.
Perhaps the safest option is to search for a woman via the Internet.
How to find a mistress on the Internet without getting burned in front of your wife? It is advisable to make sure that your wife does not have access to your computer.
Although this is almost impossible, since in all families everything is initially divided equally. In addition, by setting a password, you can make her feel that there is some kind of secret.
Therefore, it is advisable to “clean” the history of visited sites. Otherwise, instead of finding a new partner, you will find trouble in a soft spot. Especially if the spouse knows how to watch this story.
Some might think that work is considered a good place to find a lover. Everyone is used to having affairs at work.
On the one hand, this is true: the wife will not see that her husband is disappearing somewhere or trying to get acquainted. Everything is done at the same time, combining business with pleasure.
But always remember that you need to be careful at work too. The envy of your colleagues (especially female ones) will cause them to harm your new romance. All envious people will consider it their duty to warn your wife about the impending or already arrived danger.
Additional precautions after the mistress is found.
Ask your new partner to resist the urge to scratch your back. A wife can easily distinguish scratches from a woman’s nails from a place that could be “accidentally” scratched.
After each lovemaking session, take a shower to wash off all the odors.
Always carry a bottle of your eau de toilette with you to cover up the smell of another woman's perfume. Even if it seems like there is no smell, the wife can easily find traces if she senses betrayal.
Try to meet a new woman either early in the morning or late in the evening. In the morning, the desire to make love was restored again, and the wife did not feel anything. In the evening, to pretend that you are “tired and not in the mood right now.”
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How to find the perfect loverA mistress is the total product of chance and a man's mood: everything begins by chance and develops by itself. But getting lovers, just like leaving them, needs to be done delicately and wisely.
Where to find it?
Experienced men can recognize a potential lover in a woman within the first five to ten minutes of communicating with her. The average mistress is a single, unmarried woman at the peak of physical and sexual activity: beautiful and charming. But expensive perfumes, clothes or flashy appearance do not always serve as signs of a “priestess of love”. In fact, you can make any woman your mistress: give her attention, interest her with money or position. In the end, put the whole world at her feet! Just one question: is the effort being put into this too much? After all, how many problems can a lost mother of a family cause?! Although, the more impregnable the fortress, the more you want to become its absolute master. As a rule, women who lack male attention in their personal lives become mistresses. And married people - sadly, but true - are no exception. In this case, two trump cards appear in your hands at the same time. First, a woman needs your attention. Secondly, this lady is ready to project her love and care to anyone who may need it. At the same time, we advise you not to confuse women who are romantically inclined to feelings with courtesans who are pursuing purely material gain.
Take it away from someone else
A lady who is pleasant in all respects is, as a rule, not free. She is either already married or already someone's mistress. And the higher the status of her lover, the more he wants to get this same lady himself. But you shouldn’t fall into despair about her being busy with others and the lack of opportunity to get her hands on such a treasure. Usually mistresses are lonely women with sadness in their eyes. Why? Yes, simply because their partners constantly do not have enough time for them. Try to spin on three fronts: a prestigious job, an unbreakable stronghold of a family with an “exemplary” father at the head, and then there’s a mistress, for whom you have to devote at least seven hours a week. Usually mistresses are given a lot of attention and honor only at first. Over time, their partners become increasingly short of free time. Women who have no right to be indignant accept these conditions of the game and simply quietly wait day after day for the call of their beloved. The fact that someone does not have enough time for his mistress becomes an undeniable advantage in conquering this very woman. Even though you can't offer her a trip to Ibiza, even though you have less money and a less enviable position than her previous partner.
But you have one very, very valuable quality - you are ready to offer her much more attention than she has now. The attention and care that a woman like her deserves.
Subtle delights
It is very difficult to explain exactly what a married man feels when he has an affair with another woman. - Passion and adventurism that have disappeared from family life. Fear of exposure of adultery and adrenaline rush in the blood due to the game on two fronts. All this greatly warms up a man, forcing him to perceive life in line with a more turbulent flow. An additional piquancy of the relationship is given by the realization that the mistress must be satisfied. If not financially, then certainly physically. The whole beauty of a relationship with a mistress is that the wife is a more or less permanent and unshakable partner. But with a mistress you have to make maximum masculine efforts and gallantry. Otherwise, she might get offended and leave for someone else. The fact that someone does not have enough time for his mistress becomes an undeniable advantage in conquering this very woman.
Jealousy
When our wives once again arrange a scene of jealousy for us, you often wonder: “Or maybe I really should have a mistress, so that there’s something to it?” We hasten to disappoint - mistresses still have the same jealousy. The only priceless difference is that they are quiet. They are silent because they cannot lay claim to you. They can't yet. But believe me, no less passions rage in their hearts. True, such feelings are characteristic only of those ladies who truly love their partners. In the case of using lovers exclusively as wallets with ears, ladies do not have to suffer from the feelings tearing at their souls.
Why are they angry?
Again, because you never have enough time for it. Even when it seems to you that you are spending almost all your free time on her, she remains dissatisfied, demanding your attention again and again. Why? Yes, simply because while you are not around, she does not go to boutiques and theaters. She spends all her free time either with you or waiting for a phone call. Again from you. A full-bodied woman in the prime of her life and at the very peak of her sexual desires cannot help but be irritated by the fact that she is constantly left alone. If your lover is not irritated, then either you pay all her bills on time, and she finds a refuge for her heart in someone else, or again, you pay absolutely all her bills, and there is a refuge in her heart for only one person - yourself, beloved.
Almost resentment
When a mistress leaves a man for another, “the same,” “no better,” and so on, she automatically becomes the cause of incredible resentment on his part: “So much money, so much effort!” But what if you look at it from the other side? Oh, how many pleasant moments and thrills she was able to give! If after the departure of your mistress there remains regret, it means that this woman was still able to bring something special into your routine life, something that you now so lack. She may have taught you a few lessons that would have been difficult to learn by following the beaten path.
Find her a match
If you are tired of the relationship, do not rush to abruptly leave your lover. It’s better to find a replacement for her instead of yourself and, gradually cooling your ardor towards her, unobtrusively push her to a new partner. No, this doesn't sound like passing the baton. It’s just that a woman who suddenly becomes lonely is capable of many stupid things that you may not even know about. When a mistress has a lot of free time, she subconsciously tries to occupy it with thoughts about her loved one (even if he is no longer nearby). And then ridiculous calls to the home of the ex-partner begin, silence on the phone, “random” meetings in various places. A woman is a creature who will never finish a novel until she clearly has the opportunity to start another. A woman’s love should be, if not demanded, then certainly projected onto some object of dreams. Therefore, if you dare to break off the connection, try to find a worthy object of desire for your mistress.
But not all ex-lovers are so open in their complaints against you. The second version of a woman's resentment is quiet anger. Resentment that she was abruptly and categorically deprived of attention/money/man. They may begin to take revenge on you through subtle intrigues and gossip. At the same time, you risk finding out about such disgrace at the very end of the action.
A sudden desire to cheat on his legal wife usually appears in men who have a long history of family life. You can name more than one reason for male infidelity: boring everyday life, craving for variety, sexual coldness of the wife, etc. And in most cases, married men, faced with similar problems, prefer not to make an effort to improve relationships with their soul mate, but simply go “to the left” in order to get their dose of variety and vivid sexual experiences there.
Finding a suitable candidate for the role of a mistress is not as easy as it seems at first glance. Often, the vast majority of unmarried girls (especially in our country) are serious to one degree or another. An affair with a married man may seem like a fun adventure without obligations only at first, but after a certain time, almost every girl wants to develop the relationship further. Therefore, if you do not want to encounter problems of this kind, then negotiate the terms on shore. Make sure that your potential lover wants the same thing you do: an easy relationship without pretensions to development.
If you want to fool a girl who thinks that you are serious about her, then it is very likely that instead of a break from the family routine you will get a bunch of problems. In addition, your conscience will torment you with double force, because this way you are deceiving two women at once.
Where is the best place to look for a lover? There are several main options:
- Internet dating. Now there are many different groups on social networks, which are a good platform for people who want to have a fleeting romance. You can simply enter the query “I want to find a mistress”, and you will see a lot of online communities that meet this goal. It is also possible to use the services of numerous dating sites, but the main thing here is to immediately inform your interlocutors of your marital status and the purpose of visiting this resource. Believe me, many women are looking for exclusively free and unburdensome relationships of an intimate nature without counting on the long term. Therefore, if you want, finding a mistress on the Internet is not at all difficult.
When registering on the site, do not post specific information about yourself (last name, place of work, etc.), because this may be seen by your friends. Usually, when filling out a questionnaire, the user is asked to upload a photo; you are better off skipping this step. You can send your photos in personal correspondence with a girl who interests you.
On any dating site, you can set parameters for searching for a suitable candidate for you, indicating place of residence, age, physical characteristics, etc. For example, those who want to meet a married lady can ask her marital status.
The main thing when communicating– the girl's consent to play a secondary role. After all, your mistress must clearly understand that you only want a secret relationship.
- Job. Office romance is an affordable way to have an affair on the side. In addition, an affair with a colleague at first adds spice to the relationship, which will brighten up your measured work schedule and give exciting emotions to your gray everyday life.
However, an affair with a co-worker also has its downsides. Firstly, they will inevitably start whispering behind your back, even if no one directly catches you by the hand. Secondly, if you are really planning a short-term romance, then you should immediately plan your escape routes. Think about whether, after an inevitable separation, you will be able to remain on good terms with the colleague who was in your bed? After all, if a conflict situation arises, your career will be at risk. Thus, short-lived pleasure can cause big problems, since offended women can be very vindictive.
- Holiday romance. Basically, such stories end with the vacation. However, there are times when such a connection develops into a longer relationship. Here it is also important to choose a girl based on territoriality, so that you don’t have to travel too far to each other.
- Nightclub. This is probably the most fertile place for those who want easy, non-binding meetings. This option is suitable for lovers of one-night stands. However, there is a high risk of getting into trouble or contracting some kind of sexually transmitted infections. In addition, to effectively meet girls in nightclubs, you need to have certain skills and charisma. If you are naturally shy, then the option of online dating will be more suitable for you.
Many men deliberately seek to find a mistress burdened with the status of a married lady. Typically, such a desire is explained by the fact that such women require much less effort in seduction. There is no need to spend money on expensive gifts, because sometimes they themselves ask you not to give them even flowers, so that you don’t have to explain anything at home. The meeting time of married lovers is strictly limited, and mutual secrecy is ensured. It is no less important for a married lady to hide your affair, so she will not make attempts to take you away from the family. There is one nuance here: you should make sure that the girl who has become yourmistress, will be smart and will not destroy her family, because she should have suchthe same attitude as yours regarding the inviolability of marriage obligations. Otherwise, you run the risk of earning a lot of unnecessary trouble. A woman who is ready to leave her husband for her lover risks being left with nothing. Therefore, if you do not plan to leave your wife, then warn your new passion about this from the very beginning. Try not to let your desire to diversify your sex life become the reason for the destruction of someone else's life.
Many men believe that an affair on the side will only bring a lot of pleasant experiences without any hassle. However, we cannot discount some aspects of extramarital affairs that definitely need to be thought through before taking on a mistress:
- Forced expenses. Soberly analyze your financial capabilities. Firstly, you will need to pay for a meeting place, be it a rented apartment or a hotel room. Secondly, it is unlikely that you will be able to avoid at least minimal spending on romantic gestures: flowers, gifts, etc. Therefore, before you actively search for a mistress, compare the amount of possible costs with what you plan to get from this relationship. Believe me, many men after this kind of affair remain in a deep disadvantage.
- Manage your time wisely. You need to be able to find time in your schedule to meet with your mistress and at the same time always successfully find an excuse for your spouse. Frequent business trips, delays at work and football with a friend will clearly arouse suspicion, so you will have to use your imagination.
- Caution is paramount. The most important– ensure maximum secrecy. Minimize the risks: do not correspond on social networks, do not introduce her to friends, do not meet at work. In general, do everything to avoid detection. Be prepared for the fact that now you will have to be in constant tension and show unprecedented ingenuity.
- Plan a beautiful parting. A temporary secret relationship can bring a lot of problems: stopping communication on your initiative can offend the girl, and, quite possibly, she will begin to harm you in revenge. Therefore, already at the start, think about how to make the separation as painless as possible for both of you.
Undoubtedly, at first a mistress is able to give a pleasant feeling of novelty. However, is it worth risking your family for a fleeting romance? Be judicious, because in the pursuit of carnal entertainment you can lose something much more valuable.
The desire to cheat often visits people who have been married for a long time. There are many reasons that provoke betrayal. Sometimes it seems impossible to endure a boring life, so men begin to look at other ladies.
Thrill seekers often wonder where to start looking for a young lover. It often seems difficult to find a suitable candidate, because most of the fairer sex are serious. A secret affair can lead to many problems related to a girl’s desire to develop a relationship. Some tips will help you figure out how a married man can find a woman who agrees to meet secretly.
The easiest way to meet people is the Internet. There are many online communities whose purpose is to satisfy the request “I want to find a young lover.” How can online dating sites help you start a secret romance? The main thing is to report your marital status. Many representatives of the fairer sex are looking exclusively for intimate relationships, excluding romance. Therefore, finding a girl on the Internet is not difficult.
Choose a suitable site. Register, fill out the form. Skip overly personal questions regarding names and places of work. Caution must be exercised. Suddenly, friends visit the site. Typically, such sites require you to upload a photo. You can skip this step. It is better to send photos in person. First, start a conversation.
Any dating site is equipped with a special search. You can enter certain criteria: place of residence, age, nationality, zodiac sign. For example, those who want to meet a married woman can select the “married” status status.
In addition to dating sites, there are many special phone applications. Most icons even hide the name. Therefore, the spouse will not be able to determine the purpose of the application. In addition, they are usually initially equipped with a password. Caution is paramount.
Social media
Adventurers with the request “I want to find a student girl” have a very high chance of finding what they want using the power of the Internet. Social networks can help a 40-year-old man. It is quite possible to have a lover in contact, you just need to enter the age range and city of residence. The main thing is to attract the attention of the chosen passion.
Try to interest your chosen one.
Ditch the standard “Hello, let’s get acquainted” greeting. Try to stand out. For example, send a virtual gift. Be genuinely interested in the girl. But remember, the main condition for dating is agreement to play a secondary role. Your temporary girlfriend should know that you want an exclusively secret relationship. Chat online for a while, then start planning a personal meeting.
Job
Office romance is the easiest option to have a mistress. Work is the most affordable way. In addition, an affair of this kind will add excitement to the relationship. A romantic relationship can give a boring workday a pleasant, exciting feeling. True, there are disadvantages to this arrangement. Gossip between colleagues is possible.
Short-term pleasure is opposed to career growth. A third-party relationship with an employee is short-lived; after breaking up, remaining friends sometimes seems impossible. Therefore, a breakup often provokes dismissal. The opportunity to spend more time together seems attractive, but the likely negative consequences must be considered.
Other people's wives
Many declare frankly: “I’m looking for a married mistress.” Such a desire is completely justified; ringed ladies require much less effort. It is not necessary to give gifts, because the husband may suspect the origin of the trinkets. The meeting time of married lovers is limited, keeping the relationship secret is guaranteed.
It is also important for a married young lady to hide a third-party relationship, so she will not fight off someone else’s husband. The main thing is to be sure of the secret companion’s intentions to save the marriage. Otherwise, you risk getting a countless number of problems. A woman who intends to leave her husband for her lover risks being left alone. If you are not going to leave your wife for a new passion, warn her right away. Try to avoid adverse consequences.
Many representatives of the stronger sex dream of having an extramarital affair. However, the other side of the coin should not be underestimated. Often, temporary pleasure puts a strong marriage at risk of separation. Therefore, it is necessary to take into account some nuances:
Control your financial expenses
Before taking a mistress, a married man needs to analyze his financial situation. A temporary meeting place (rented apartment, hotel room) must be paid for. In addition, it is advisable to give gifts to the girl. The Internet is a cheap way to help solve the problem of how to find a mistress for a married man. But the issue of keeping a girl requires certain costs. Consider the feasibility of spending. Often the money spent is much more needed by the family.
Manage your time wisely
It doesn’t matter where to find a lover, it is important to find time to meet. The wife is used to seeing her husband at home after work. Frequent business trips will clearly arouse suspicion. The most profitable is irregular working hours. Try to manage your time wisely. You may have to meet less frequently than planned.
Be careful
Maximum care should be taken in the relationship. Minimize communication through social networks. Spouses often figure out infidelity by checking the computer. Use the Internet solely for the purpose of meeting people. Next, it’s better to communicate via phone. And always call first. Delete correspondence, erase the history of visited sites. When dining with someone else, be sure to pay in cash. Paying with a credit card can raise suspicions, because sometimes wives check the expenses.
Know how to part beautifully
Short-lived secret relationships can leave a lot of problems. An abrupt breakup can offend a girl. Try to avoid misunderstandings. The female nature of revenge should not be underestimated. The reasons for leaving must be explained. You can't leave in silence. An upset girlfriend can harm your marriage. For example, she can call her spouse. Such an outcome can be avoided by preparing the woman for a breakup in advance.
Consider the age of the chosen one
Young ladies in their 20s are usually looking for confident, wealthy men. A young girl most likely expects to meet some kind of patron who can provide financial assistance. Girls 30 years old often get tired of waiting for the right prince. Such representatives of the fairer sex need understanding, support, and calm. The main thing is to give a feeling of need. Older ladies are more sexually relaxed. Most often, it is experienced young ladies who are looking for independent sexual entertainment.
Conclusion
The lack of pleasant family moments pushes spouses to seek new sensations. Boring life kills love. Many women forget to fuel relationships with romance, so they have to satisfy their thirst for passion on the side. A mistress is able to give other people’s husbands the feeling of falling in love. However, you need to decide whether it's worth the risk for the thrill.
Before starting an affair, there are some nuances to consider. Once you decide, try to minimize the risks of adverse consequences. An affair attracts with its novelty, but puts the family at risk. Try to save the marriage without interfering with third parties in family problems.