Hello! I and my husband lived for 7 years, we are raising two children: mine from my first marriage and ours together for 4 years. Six months ago, I found a love note from him, asked for an explanation, and a couple of days later we talked. It turned out that there is another woman whom he loves, and there is no point in saving the family (but he did not leave). It was a shock for me. After spending the night thinking, I came to the conclusion that he needed to leave. I told him, he packed his things (I helped) and left. The next day, my husband came running to me at work to talk about how I was the best and I knew it. A day later he went to his parents in another city. He called every day and a week later said that he had thought about everything, wanted to join a family and was bored. We made peace, but he lived with his parents, since work had already appeared there. I went to see him or he came for a couple of days. Everything was passionate and with love! When I noticed changes in him (he became drooping), I brought him into conversation and said, I miss her, I’m sorry, I’m leaving. After staying with her for two days, he went back to his parents, and then even further - to another country. History repeated itself. He was away for three months (we called each other, corresponded), and returned home. I love you, you’re mine, I won’t leave again! I understood myself, I realized that I only need you! It lasted for a month - again the melancholy. We talked and said we need to break up. Despite all this, the sex between us did not stop, even after talking and saying goodbye! Please tell me what should I do? Let go or fight? I love him very much!
Irina, Kharkov, 31 years old
Family psychologist's answer:
Hello, Irina.
Letting go or fighting is more your decision. But once again looking at this situation from the outside is never superfluous. So, the husband moves like a pendulum from you to another woman and cannot make up his mind. Such cases are not uncommon. Moreover, after the wife found out everything, the man no longer forbids himself to openly walk back and forth. Perhaps he is really confused and cannot understand what he wants more. What should you do? It all depends on what you want most. After all, if in a couple the husband does not know anything or does not want to know about his desires, then all hope lies with the wife. If she knows exactly what she wants, then maybe this will somehow discipline her husband and bring her to her decision. Your understanding of your desires does not at all mean brutal conditions for your husband in an attempt to put him in his place or in an attempt to put him before a very tough choice. It’s just that if you begin to more openly either pull him closer to you or get rid of him, then perhaps his desires will become more obvious. I'll try to explain what I mean. If your husband still wants to save the family, then both when pulling and pushing, he will begin to behave more actively. That is, it will become more noticeable that he would like to stay in the family. But if he simply cannot decide to leave his family and is holding on with all his might, then both when pushed away and when pulled up, he will more openly want to run away or, at a minimum, stay away from the family. And the more consistent and frank your actions are, the more frank your husband will be. I’m writing this in case you also want to rush around in the sense: I either want my husband to stay, or I don’t. Although this is also a position if you don’t want to make any decisions yourself. After all, sooner or later some decision will be made. So the choice is yours.
Sincerely, Panfilova Natalya Alexandrovna.
How to react if your chosen one does not miss a single skirt? Or did your husband, so close and familiar, who is an integral part of the home environment, suddenly begin to look at others, or worse, cheat on you? Tracy Cabot, a world-famous American psychologist, author of five best-selling books and owner of the largest dating agency in the United States, gives some fundamental advice to women who have felt the severity of betrayal and want to save their marriage or.
So, Tracy Cabot claims that every man is, to a greater or lesser extent, a womanizer. But vigilant surveillance, control and constant reproaches will not help if the husband is walking. Your goal is to prevent this. The best method in parenting is to take into account the fantasies, preferences, physiology and temptations of your man.
The reaction to betrayal is difficult to predict, much less control. Basically, this is either a violent reaction or complete rejection, but you need to find a middle ground. Every aspect of a marriage breaks down, but trust suffers the most, and without trust there is no relationship. Unable to forgive their husband for his betrayal, many women break the last thread that connected their family, and the matter ends. After a while, they bitterly regret their actions.
The peculiarities of our society, both in the past and now, are such that a divorced woman loses weight, while a man who has gone through a divorce remains in his “weight category.” Therefore, it is the awareness that the responsibility for a strong and strong life lies on women’s shoulders that will help you save your marriage. If the husband is out and about, there will be no problem with a huge number of single ladies who are ready to support and console their “lonely” spouse at any moment. But you can build your relationship in such a way that this temptation will bypass your beloved. He just needs to feel that you are the one who, like no one else, is capable of truly understanding him.
How to behave if your husband is walking?
Don’t keep everything to yourself, it’s better to tell your husband that the current situation worries you and your marriage is under threat. Do not choose an attack strategy and do not show your distrust. Just say that you continue to trust him as before, but the abundance of girls who lead him worries you a lot. Explain to your husband that it will be much safer for you to know where he is and when. You shouldn’t count on a detailed countdown, but you still need to try. Be decisive in your demands.
In the conversation, emphasize that if your spouse refuses to fulfill your request, then you will have reason to suspect him of cheating, and be sure to add that your feelings remain just as strong, and you will defend your marriage to the last. If after these words the reveler-husband begins to let you in on what he is doing, when and with whom, consider that this round is yours.
Confessions of sins that follow the conversation mean that the battle is half won. But if in response you hear violent dissatisfaction and the phrase: “I am not satisfied with a marriage in which I have to count for every step,” it means that your husband is really walking around and you need to choose the right model of behavior.
- No matter how hard it is for you, don’t be depressed in the presence of your husband. Most often, an offended look only irritates.
- Don’t put a stigma on all aspects of your life: despite the fact that something is wrong in your personal life, your work, children, home remain with you. Write a list of what you have that brings you positive emotions, and always keep it nearby.
- Don't blame yourself. The fact that the husband is walking is his fault and the new object of his interest, who is probably worse than you. Remember that accumulated anger and negative emotions are the main causes of depression, and you don’t need it at all.
- Don’t let your husband go to his rival, or pick up things and order a move. Don't let him take away even something as small as a toothbrush.
- Fight selflessly. You have more advantages than him.
- If your husband is walking, it means he is bored with the monotony of your family life. Be unexpected and unpredictable. Let your husband understand that he has not yet fully figured you out and his wife, it turns out, is a person about whom he had a superficial idea. Be brave.
— Memories from a happy past make the subconscious work. Unobtrusively use photographs, music, smells, food that are associated with the pleasant moments of your married life. Such subconscious attachments should have an effect on your husband. At the same time, remain cold and indifferent.
“What you can’t do in your situation is repeat your husband’s behavior.” They say, if he can do it, then so can I. This will not lead to anything good, but will only worsen an already precarious situation.
Cheating on one of the spouses is a problem that many families face. It often becomes the last straw that leads to a family split. According to statistics, 40% of families where the husband is absent file for divorce, and this is a large number. Therefore, it is better not to lead to betrayal. And the answer to the question “why do husbands walk?”, is it inevitable or are there objective and subjective reasons for this behavior of husbands, will help prevent your loved one from starting to walk. After all, the opinion that all men always cheat is another myth that is far from reality.
Psychologists' opinion
Any betrayal is an escape from dissatisfaction. It may not necessarily be sexual, but also moral. Hushing up problems, running away from sorting out relationships, and constant quarrels only temporarily postpone the solution to a pressing issue. The problem itself does not disappear. And if the husband does not find relief for his dissatisfaction in the family, does not give it a way out, he is forced to “run away” from the problem to another person. There he receives the necessary release, forming an “outlet” that allows him to alleviate the depressing situation.
That is why you should not look for the reason that the husband is walking only in the actions of one side - the cheating husband or his wife, who did not notice in time the “torment” of the other half. Both spouses are often to blame for the betrayal that has occurred, because they have not learned to solve family problems together, and this is the main meaning of marriage! To prevent this and achieve family happiness, you should accustom yourself and your husband to do the following:
- Under no circumstances remain silent about what worries you. If you feel unsatisfied or uncomfortable, tell your significant other.
- Do not think that your husband should notice your discomfort himself - this will only prolong your stay in a depressing environment, intensify it and lead to inevitable conflict. Your spouse may sincerely have no idea about your inconvenience, and the fact that you tell him about it yourself will not in any way diminish the joy of getting rid of an unpleasant situation.
- The conversation should not turn to personal insults. The tone should be friendly. That's why, if you're feeling angry at the moment, it's best to wait until it subsides before you can talk about what's bothering you.
- Both spouses must perceive each other’s words, mutual wishes and claims. You cannot shut down, change the conversation, or accept a claim as a personal insult, rejection or dislike. Listen and try to understand why changes in your behavior are so important for your loved one - this will make you even more loved and significant to your other half.
- When expressing a problem, give reasons for it, do not demand unquestioning implementation. Show that she is really serious about you and explain why. If a complaint is made to you, but you cannot change the nature of your actions even after argumentation, try to present counterarguments. When you can’t convince your partner, create a new algorithm of action that is suitable for both, solving the problem.
- Train yourself to feel each other, to empathize, to tell everything that worries, excites and pleases you - this is trust. Without it, a marriage cannot exist successfully.
Follow simple rules and recommendations, firmly anchor them in your family life - the emotional connection between you and your husband will be inextricable. No woman in the world can interfere with such a strong relationship and replace you. There will be no more dissatisfaction and depressing factors; you will learn to solve any difficulties within the family, which are the reason why spouses begin to go out. After all, men and women cheat out of discomfort and dissatisfaction, moral or physical; if there is no dissatisfaction, then there is no cheating.
Why are your men walking?
There is an opinion that men are polygamous by nature, and cheating on the woman they love is only a matter of time. But their “polygamy” is explained not so much by the desire to possess many women, but by a lack of strong emotions, self-doubt, and the search for an ideal and sexually compatible partner. All this can be relevant for a man even after he gets married, living together is new conditions for the development of a couple, and any changes upset the previously established balance of relations. There are common reasons that can lead to and explain the cheating of a husband.
Losing interest in wife
The girl he loves, with whom a man decides to start a family, evokes the strongest positive emotions. However, after marriage, living in the same territory, receiving intimacy in unlimited quantities, constantly seeing each other in a less attractive appearance than before, emotions lose their sharpness, love begins to manifest itself differently.
If there is still no mutual understanding or sensual connection between the spouses, the husband loses interest in his wife, she ceases to be the subject of the relationship, he does not feel the woman’s presence near him, and therefore can try to find her outside the home.
Boring sexual relationships or lack thereof
Everyday difficulties, fatigue, the constant presence of a child, grievances, the spouses’ loss of their former luster, the severity of emotions, inattention - often lead to the same type in sexual life. Spouses stop burning with passion, experimenting in their sexual life, pleasing and surprising each other in bed, sex ceases to be an achievement, but turns into duty and routine. But strong emotions are a need for every person, marriage is an attempt to constantly feel them. When such emotions cease to arise between spouses, the husband/wife can look for them on the side.
Material problems
Financial difficulties can push a husband to cheat and explain why he walks. There are two factors at play here:
- material difficulties as a cause of quarrels and conflicts within the family;
- material difficulties as a reason for searching for a partner who can solve them.
If everything is clear with the first option - the husband is looking for peace in other relationships, then the second is climbing the career ladder through sexual intimacy or searching for a rich patroness.
Another woman appeared
The reason that the husband walks for a long time may indicate the man’s love for another woman. The habits, interests, facial features, gestures, tolerance for the spouse’s weaknesses and other elements of the behavior of the new passion may be better combined with the husband’s character traits. Fresh relationships are always more tolerant, filled with trust and mutual understanding, than the relationships of people who have been married for a long time, because the husband and mistress do not know each other well. For a man, this is always a way to start building relationships from scratch without the burden of negative impressions.
Coincidence
A holiday romance, extreme situations, the reciprocal feeling of a person who has been admired for a long time, alcohol intoxication, a serious quarrel with his wife, a feeling of uselessness - cause a surge of strong emotions that distort the normal course of a person’s thoughts, which can push the husband to cheat. That is why such connections rarely develop into serious relationships; they occur at the behest of a momentary impulse, when a person does not have enough strength to cope with temptation.
Friends, hello everyone! I would like to continue the topic of walking a little. We said that sometimes children throw tantrums because they don’t like strollers or getting dressed. And what might our husbands not like, that sometimes they rebel and don’t want to go for a walk with the child or with their wives. Let's talk about the reasons and, of course, about the solution to the problem if the husband does not want to go out.
This, of course, is the ultimate dream when you and your husband and stroller are walking in the park. Every woman imagines this when she wants a child. But then a different picture appears. Of course, not always. Men are different and how he will behave can only be checked when the child appears.
I want to start with the fact that it is not a disaster if you have a husband next to you who does not want to walk with a stroller. Of course, on the playground or from your friends you may hear: “How come he doesn’t walk with you, doesn’t help you?” And if you are embarrassed by such comments, then you can answer that you gave him such a gift, gave him time to take a break from work and worries. If a worm has crept into you that doesn’t give you peace, or you are really tired and would like your husband to spend time walking with the child, then I will try to help you.
Reasons for husband's refusal
You know, this is probably the role of women that they all need to understand: a child who is capricious, a spouse who is stubborn. So let's find out what stands between a man and a joint family vacation in the fresh air.
So, let’s think about what prevents our loved ones from receiving as much satisfaction and joy from walking as we do:
- My husband gets tired at work, providing us financially, and then there is something else that needs to be done at home. In this case, even a walk with my wife they count for work.
- Have you ever thought that if you leave daddy alone with the little one, the strong head of the family will simply become confused when faced with the tears or pranks of the little one?
- And yet, I noticed that most men are stubborn homebodies who, not only in cold weather, but also in sunny weather, cannot be pushed out of a cozy apartment.
- Some heads of families have a clear distinction between men's and women's work, which puts an obstacle to their “desire” to help their wife and play in the fresh air with their baby.
- Surprisingly, among the strong half of humanity there are more often shy and self-conscious people than among the weak half. Having met someone they know on the street, they immediately begin to worry about their own reputation.
- This is a rather boring activity in the modern world - walking with a stroller. You can often find a bored man with a stroller and a bottle of beer. This is the only thing that somehow motivated the man to take such a walk. To be honest, I don’t like this idea, since the child’s brain writes everything and dad with a bottle in his hand will be recorded. And the man can also be understood. If only I could wrestle with my son or play football, that would be interesting, but walking with a stroller is really boring.
Women are designed in such a way that they can do tedious work, but men cannot. Even notice how a man behaves in his career. If he is not interested, he immediately quits his job, often without finding a new one and without thinking about the consequences. Women, basically, create a financial cushion, look for another job, get a job, and only then quit the old one.
So, our female nature is ready to understand everything. Of course, if you no longer have the strength, you are exhausted, then you can ask a man, but without tears, accusations and hysterics! And then tell him how well you had a rest and how much you love him, so that he feels bestowal and gratitude. Everyone is pleased when you give a gift and see a smile on your face in return.
Finding a peaceful path so that both we and men are happy
Peace in the family is probably the most valuable and fragile state in the whole world. Therefore, let’s take care of it with all our might!
We have already revealed some of the most obvious reasons for male homebodies. Of course, this is not all. Therefore, you should first talk with your loved one to find out his point of view, and after everything has been clarified, you can act purposefully, not forgetting that peace is most valuable!
Let's still look at our possible actions as a response to the 5 above-mentioned motives for the behavior of our spouses:
- The spouse works, thinking that this is enough. Slowly and carefully show him that the child, like you, needs more than just money. You enjoy his presence, his praise, gentle glances, and relaxation together. If you say all this step by step, showing step by step how happy you are from your spouse’s attention, perhaps you will reach the heart or consciousness of your man.
- If a father is afraid that he won’t be able to cope with his little one, that’s our mistake! Daddy needs to be accustomed to the baby's tears and whims gradually. Or rather, from the very birth of the baby. That’s why you shouldn’t put everything on your shoulders. Both at night and during the day, both parents should be able to calm and resolve conflicts between the child and the outside world. If you're late to it, it's never too late to start. Only such a burden should be placed on the spouse gradually and carefully, starting with trivial situations.
- Do you know how homebodyism is “treated”? Affectionate and caring. Create conditions so that a big, strong person feels comfortable at home and comfortable on the street. For example, buy comfortable, beautiful and stylish clothes for walking together. Come up with a program that will make your spouse want to go outside. If there is a cafe along the way, tell him where he can sit comfortably with a cup of aromatic coffee. Or buy bikes for exploring. Or a membership to a fitness club where you can swim in the pool with your children. Create a picture that will “attract” your spouse to such a feat as leaving the house with his pregnant wife or baby.
- This point is the most serious. After all, your task is not just to take a person out of the rules of life that are pleasant for him, but also to show that thanks to such a pastime, the baby’s connection with his father is established. It is joint activities that are the basis of future friendship and openness between a parent and his child. It will be very unpleasant for him when the father subsequently discovers that the baby is drawn to the mother, and not to him. And this often happens, because a woman is able to give herself without spectators or motivation. Therefore, children are usually more attached to their mother. By the way, you can console yourself with this. All your time and effort spent will be rewarded with calls, conversations, and help from adult children. Which of your parents do you call more often? And why?
- The fear of losing the reputation of such a macho man especially depresses our dear husbands. How interesting this is, considering that they won’t think badly of him, they won’t attribute him to hen-knecking or weakness of character. On the contrary, he will be respected. And our task is to show him this by example or explain it in words.
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“The husband walks, but does not leave” is consonant and similar to the expression “the sun shines, but does not warm.” Indeed, with a wandering but beloved husband, the bed with him is cold. How painful it is to experience the betrayal of a spouse - only the woman who has experienced these bitter feelings first-hand knows. Maybe it's not so suicidal? Maybe something can be changed? Or is it easier to “put blinders on your eyes”? Let's figure it out if the problem is close to you.
Indeed, isn’t it a myth you’ve come up with for yourself? There are 4 moments when your hassle happened out of the blue, this is if:
You're too jealous. Even your husband’s smile towards another woman is perceived as an attempt to “go left.” At night you imagine in your fantasies scenarios of his non-existent betrayals, and in the morning, while he is taking a shower, you frantically rummage through his pockets and phone, thinking that he is well encrypted.
“Brought by a magpie on its tail”: an envious friend or a gossip acquaintance. Like, I saw your “unbeliever” first with one in a cafe, then with another in the car. To all the demands for a sincere confession, your spouse only blinks his eyes in amazement, and you perceive this as his feverish attempt to come up with an excuse.
You still can’t forgive his one random old sin, so you’re screwing yourself over. Indeed, often a person who has stumbled is not trusted for a long time, even if he has become correct. You screw it up, he suffers, everyone feels bad.
His myth. It's a rare case, but it does happen - he comes up with his own sprees. You don’t pay attention to him, but he doesn’t know how to get it away from you. And it seems like you didn’t catch him with anyone in particular, but some late arrivals, a thoughtful look, a slight drunkenness from work - all this is not characteristic of his behavior, you notice it. He doesn't walk around - he wants you to at least show an attempt at jealousy.
In this case, there is no reason to worry. Don’t flirt with jealousy, don’t listen to chatter, learn to let go of the past and pay more attention to your husband. Otherwise, after playing with fire, he will not stay at home, and maybe something like this will happen, as in the article -.
What a reveler he is
If your suspicion of his infidelity is not unfounded, and you have repeatedly caught him in the act, then you still need to know what kind of a mover he is to the left. It is clear that any betrayal is disgusting, but if you are still living with him, and he is not going to leave, then you are looking for an excuse for him and for yourself. So, what types of cheaters are there:
"Harmless"
Here I would immediately like to recall a quatrain from a famous fairy tale:
You, my friend, are one of those husbands,
What is more harmless than snakes?
They scratch but don't bite
Not to say even worseL. Filatov “About Fedot Sagittarius”
And indeed, there is such a type of man: even next to his wife, sitting at a party, he does not miss a single skirt. Every now and then he tries to unceremoniously pinch other women for their soft parts, or whispers something sexually in his ear, or tries to be alone with the girl.
But by and large, such behavior does not become a fact of treason. It’s just that he’s such a master of flirting, attracting all women’s attention to himself, even if it’s unpleasant for his wife.
"Virtually in Love"
This guy is a macho man on the Internet. Being married, he appears on all dating sites. All the single ladies at the other ends of the monitors fall in love with him. No, he is not a fraudster, although he is fluent in the art of beautiful words. It pleases his vanity that many women go crazy about him, insist on meeting and are ready to do anything for him.
Usually such “macho men” are deprived of the attention and affection of their own wife. He almost openly flirts virtually on his laptop or phone, without fear of being caught off guard. Unfortunately, such ignorance on the part of the wife can result in a real betrayal of the husband with one of his admirers. Will the wife herself notice his real frequent disappearances from home?
"Lamb Among Wolves"
Yes, unfortunately, there are some guys who are persuaded by their friends. So, the crowd is calling for women - and he seems to be no slouch. And it doesn’t matter that the crowd is single, they don’t care, but the “lamb” is married. And it seems that deep down in his soul he himself is against the general trend, and would not be willing to change, but he does not want to appear like a “sucker” in front of his friends.
There is an experiment by psychologists where a group of people gathers, including one subject. Everyone is given a sweet dessert, but one of them has a lot of salt added to his dessert instead of sugar. Everyone is asked in turn how they liked the treat. Everyone says: “Sweet!”, and the subject also: “Sweet!”, although he grimaces. He is a follower of the crowd, and he is the same “lamb” among the “wolves”.
"Motor in Pants"
This is the type who cheats recklessly, loves his wife madly, and does not leave the family. Changing women like gloves is in his spirit; he does not fall in love seriously, but simply counts his victories. Resourceful, finds loopholes to avoid being noticed. But if his wife still catches him, he is ready to either shower her with flowers and gold to repent, or make sure that his wife remains guilty of his sins.
“I gave my soul to another”
This is where it’s sad - when a man on the side leaves his soul to someone else, but cannot leave his wife. As if bewitched both there and here. Everyone suffers, but no one wants to let go of what they have. This is not just betrayal, this is the collapse of love and the most difficult case.
And now specifically - if we take all these cases, we can draw the following conclusions:
A “harmless snake” is a husband who will not leave the family for the simple reason that he does not see signs of betrayal in his behavior at all. Here he is. And it’s unlikely that when he met his future wife, he didn’t show off his quirks. And the wife herself, if she lives with him, is probably accustomed to such harmless, albeit unpleasant, weaknesses of her man. And in the ladies who “fall for” his flirting, he sees only fools.
In the second case, when the spouse is having virtual affairs, there is no point in leaving. Why - he runs home from work, they will feed him, put him in front of the computer, give him free time to chat to his heart's content, and then he can have natural sex. Unless, of course, the wife refuses. By and large, in this case it’s not a disaster - sex can also be had virtually.
If we consider a “lamb” husband, then most often such a person is afraid of himself - he is completely dependent on the opinions of others. Swaggering in front of his friends, saying: “Yes, I’m hitting the table with my fist, my wife is following the line,” he still hopes for the silent support of his friends - no matter what. And already at home, returning to his family, he makes an excuse: “Yes, we just had a barbecue and beer, sat with friends, talked about life.” Of course, he is not going to leave - his family is more important to him.
If a husband constantly cheats with different ladies, and for him cheating means only victories, then, oddly enough, he sincerely loves his family, wife, and children. Another thing is why the wife does not leave this, even after hundreds of his revealed infidelities. She kicks him out, but even after some time he returns with a guilty head. This man is scared of losing his family, but he can’t give up his “hobby.” Like a smoker - he wants to smoke, smokes and throws away another cigarette butt. And the fact that it is harmful - to hell with it.
The most severe is the fifth case. Like in the movie “Autumn Marathon” - between family and mistress. They are constantly on two scales. He is drawn to his mistress with a terrible force, but habit, duty, pity for his wife do not allow the man to leave. Sometimes he is even sure that that’s it, I’ll pack my things and leave, but his heart aches, looking at his children and wife, and the fear that everything in life will have to radically change does not allow him to do this. So he will go to his mistress and lie, saying that his wife is sick, he needs to raise children, and then maybe. Although it is unlikely that a man will ever decide to do this.
Fragment from the film “Autumn Marathon”
arrow_left Fragment from the film “Autumn Marathon”
Advice from a psychologist: if you didn’t catch it, don’t invent it. I heard gossip - don't believe it. They indicate the place where your man is cheating - don’t check. I saw it by chance and he sincerely repented - forgive me for the first time. I caught it 100 times, but forgave me the second time - be patient. He is in love with someone else and cannot leave, no longer loving you, but feeling sorry for you - let him go. If you don’t let him go, suffer until he himself destroys the relationship with his mistress. And he destroyed it and returned - forget this incident forever, as if it never happened.
No amount of hysterics or pleas for yourself and your children will help keep a man if he has firmly decided to leave. Even if he stayed, regretting, then life will not be the same as when it was built, loved, born - there will be an ice wall. Initially, sensing a serious rival and your husband’s alienation, change yourself for the better. But living with him has become disgusting - so what’s stopping you? Thousands of women are divorcing hateful husbands, raising children themselves and starting a new family.
By letting go, free yourself. Change everything radically. His things are gone, there is no smell, there is no voice (even though, thank God, he is alive) - that means life ahead is just beginning.
Finally - an unusual technique
Let's do a thought experiment.
Imagine that you have the superpower to “read” men. It’s like Sherlock Holmes: you look at a man and you immediately know everything about him and understand what’s on his mind. You would hardly be reading this article now in search of a solution to your problem - you would not have any problems in your relationship at all.
And who said that this is impossible? Of course, you can’t read other people’s thoughts, but otherwise there is no magic here - only psychology.
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