What do they write to a dead person? Words of condolences on the occasion of the death of a person: a short funeral speech to the relatives of the deceased

21.11.202327.05.2017

Condolences regarding death are words of grief and complicity with which relatives, acquaintances and colleagues support the relatives of a deceased person. Such words are addressed orally or in writing.

Life is fleeting and sometimes ends. Even if a tragic event happened to people you barely know, the news of it comes as a shock. The deceased may be a distant relative, a colleague, a housemate with whom they occasionally exchanged phrases. Expressing condolences over the death in this case is the only correct decision. In this way you show your sympathy and help cope with the surging grief. Of course, all this works if the words of condolences were spoken from the heart and selected in accordance with life circumstances.

How to Express Condolences

How to express words of condolences regarding the death of your family and friends, friends and colleagues who have suffered a loss? It seems that the words are banal and empty. But you definitely need to express condolences - this is a long-standing tradition of expressing support for those who are in grief. We empathize, which means we are together. In moments of grief, even a few words of encouragement can help comfort those grieving and show them that we are there and ready to help. How to express condolences is not so important: the main thing is to say something from the heart, show sympathy and support those who are grieving.

Verbal condolences to the relatives of the deceased

Most often, condolences are expressed to relatives in person, in writing or by telephone. It is preferable to verbally express words of condolences, especially if you live nearby or meet at work or other public place. Other forms of condolences are used when the addressee lives far away or when it is necessary to follow the rules of etiquette, which require condolences to be expressed in writing.

Another case of expressing verbal condolences is a speech at a funeral or during a memorial meal. Since such a ceremony is usually attended by people who knew the deceased well, it is usually not difficult to find sincere wishes.

Condolences on death in writing

Condolences for death in writing - ways of expressing:

By letter or postcard by mail. An old, but still relevant method. Often required by etiquette. Condolence cards should be selected in accordance with the sad event; the design should not be provocative or festive.
The inscription on the mourning ribbon. Usually it is an invariable attribute of a ritual wreath or basket of flowers. You can read more about inscriptions in our article Inscriptions on wreaths.
By email. Most often, this option is used to express condolences about a death to people abroad.
Obituary in the newspaper. They choose the printed publication that the relatives of the untimely deceased subscribe to or read.
SMS notification. If you are not a mobile operator, beware of doing this. It's better to make a quick phone call. Exception: the subscriber is out of reach for a long time.

Words of condolences

How to choose words of condolences for people who have suffered an irreparable loss? It often seems that all phrases are banal and can only offend the relatives of the deceased. Believe me, in moments of grief, any encouragement and manifestation of participation are very important. Those close to the deceased experience a lot of stress and are not always ready to show their emotions to others. Your support and affection will help ease their pain at least for a while.

Examples of verbal condolences for death

Funeral words should not contain falsehood or pathos. You say them to support the other person in a difficult time, and not to express your own feelings. If you really have nothing to say, limit yourself to laconic phrases. The relative position of the mourner with the deceased should also be taken into account. It will be strange for a person in grief to hear “Blessed memory of your dad. Good memories are what will help him get through this loss,” if in fact he and his father did not have the best relationship.

I am shocked by the sad news. Be strong.
My heart is out of place from what I heard. May the earth rest in peace __.
I can’t believe that such a person left us. This is an irreparable loss.
The loss of a mother (father, brother, etc.) is always difficult to experience. We sympathize and empathize.
The deceased and I did not always find a common language. Now I would like to apologize for the disagreement. I'm not always right either.
Please accept our words of consolation. How can we help you at this moment?
We sincerely sympathize with your entire family. We know how kind and sensitive N was.
A sad event. This is hard to talk about. We hope he finds peace in heaven.
This is a sad loss. I'm sorry that she didn't live as long as she would have liked.
It is difficult to find the right words at such a moment. Just remember that you can always turn to me for help.

Words of condolences can also be more personalized. This is quite appropriate if you knew the deceased personally. When offering condolences over a death, one should not talk about bad things, for example, about the reprehensible actions of the deceased. Only good things should be said, focusing on what positively characterizes the deceased.

How to write a condolence

When putting mourning words in writing, the question often arises of how to write a condolence message. In this case, you should stick to laconic phrases. Poems of condolence for a death are appropriate for an obituary or mourning ribbon. In other cases, they will smack of pathos and pretentiousness. Condolences in prose usually contain 2-3 sentences. Brevity and clarity of content are more important here. After all, a postcard or letter will be reread several times.

__ was a kind and sympathetic woman. We mourn and remember together with you.
It is sad that the people dearest to us pass away. We offer our sincere condolences.
With the departure of __ we have lost a lot. We will miss her smile. Please accept our words of sympathy.
We offer your entire family our sincere condolences for your irreparable loss. May God rest his soul.
Our deepest condolences on the unexpected death of ___. We pray and mourn.
Everyone who knew __ is now grieving. It is unbearably sad to lose loved ones at such an early age. We will always remember him.
It doesn’t matter how long a person has lived, what matters is how much good he brought into this world. May God reward him for his good deeds.
We mourn with you this irreparable loss. We believe that such a bright person will definitely go to Heaven.
Only with the departure of __ we felt how great her love was. She will always live in our fond memories.
We empathize with you. There is pain for which there is no cure. We believe that the Lord will not abandon you in such a difficult moment.

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The government of the Irkutsk region continues to receive letters and telegrams of condolences regarding the death of the governor of the Irkutsk region Igor Esipovsky and his first deputy Mikhail Shtonda.

“Please accept my deepest condolences and words of support for the tragic death of your husband and father. It is bitter to realize that the plans remained unfulfilled, the dreams with which this bright and talented person, an excellent professional, was full, did not come true. We will forever preserve the bright memory of Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky. Strength and courage to you in this sorrowful hour,” this is how the Chairman of the Government of the Russian Federation Vladimir Putin addressed the governor’s family.

“The passing of these talented leaders, patriots of the Fatherland, is a great loss for the region and the state, which they served faithfully. “I share with you the sadness and pain of an irreparable loss,” said Sergei Mironov, Chairman of the Federation Council of the Federal Assembly of the Russian Federation.

“Igor Eduardovich was an excellent specialist, working in all positions, he proved himself to be one of the most effective leaders,” noted Sergei Chemezov, General Director of the Russian Technologies Corporation, in a telegram. - The fond memory of the governor of the Irkutsk region will remain in the hearts of the employees of the Russian Technologies State Corporation and the Federal State Unitary Enterprise Rosoboronexport.

With deep sorrow, members of the Irkutsk community in Moscow received the news of the tragedy in the Irkutsk region, which claimed the lives of four people, including the governor of the Irkutsk region, Igor Esipovsky. “In the Irkutsk community, Igor Eduardovich enjoyed deep respect; hopes for the implementation of large-scale projects and the successful implementation of social programs in the region were associated with his name. We express our deep condolences to the family and friends of Igor Eduardovich and all residents of the Irkutsk region,” the telegram says.

“It is with deep regret that I learned about the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region, Igor Esipovsky. I express my sincere condolences,” writes Consul General of Japan in Khabarovsk Toshio Kaitani.

“We are deeply shocked by the tragedy that interrupted the activities of the governor of the Irkutsk region. At a time of great human grief, it is very difficult to find words of consolation for the family and friends of Igor Eduardovich. This is truly an irreparable loss, we share your pain and sorrow,” says the telegram from the Governor of the Chukotka Autonomous Okrug Roman Kopin and the regional government.

“Together with the leadership and population of the Irkutsk region, I am deeply shocked by the news of the tragic death of the governor and his deputy. A tragic accident at the peak of its prosperity interrupted the activities of the leaders of the largest region of Siberia and stopped their big plans for the development of the region. The bright memory of Igor Eduardovich and Mikhail Alexandrovich will forever remain in the hearts of those who worked together with these wonderful people,” wrote the head of the Trans-Baikal Territory Ravil Geniatulin.

“I was saddened to learn about a helicopter crash that occurred in the Irkutsk region. Please accept our deepest condolences for the tragic death of Igor Esipovsky. This is a great irreparable loss. The governor made a great contribution to strengthening ties between residents of sister cities in the Irkutsk region and Ishikawa Prefecture. We deeply mourn with you,” these are the words of Kanazawa City Mayor Yamade Tamotsu.

“On behalf of the administration of the Kursk region, please accept our sincere condolences regarding the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region. I ask you to convey words of support and condolences to the family and friends of Igor Eduardovich; in this sorrowful hour we share with you the bitterness of loss,” says the telegram from the governor of the Kursk region, Alexander Mikhailov.

“For those who knew Igor Eduardovich, this is a heavy blow and an irreparable loss. His life was cut short very early, but he fully showed us all a vivid example of honest service to his native country. Igor Eduardovich will forever remain in our memory as a large-scale statesman, a professional of the highest class, a responsible leader and a wonderful person,” says the government telegram of the plenipotentiary representative of the President of the Russian Federation in the Volga Federal District, Grigory Rapota.

Deep condolences to family and friends, colleagues, and the entire population of the Irkutsk region were expressed by the President of the Republic of Buryatia, Vyacheslav Nagovitsyn: “From our joint work in the Siberian Federal District, I knew Igor Eduardovich as a talented leader, a very decent and purposeful person. He devoted his whole life to serving Russia, and the people of Irkutsk associated the future development of the region with him.”

“It is bitter to realize that a young, talented, full of strength man, who was able to do a lot for his country and his fellow citizens, has passed away. In a relatively short time as governor, Igor Eduardovich established himself as a strong personality, a competent regional leader who strived to do everything necessary for the well-being of the residents of the Irkutsk region. This is how he will remain in our memory,” President of the Republic of Tatarstan Mintimer Shaimiev noted in a telegram.

Condolences on the occasion of the tragic death of Igor Esipovsky were expressed by the Governor of the Novosibirsk Region Viktor Tolokonsky and the Chairman of the Executive Committee of the Interregional Association “Siberian Agreement” Vladimir Ivankov.

“The tragedy in the Irkutsk region deprived the family of a caring husband and father, and the region of a talented leader, an experienced politician and simply a very good, decent person. We mourn with you. Blessed memory of Igor Eduardovich,” said the condolences of the Governor of the Tomsk Region, Victor Kress.

The governor of the Bryansk region, Nikolai Denin, expressed his condolences: “Igor Eduardovich was a deeply respected person. His memory will live long in our hearts. He directed all his strength, life experience and versatile knowledge for the benefit of the residents of the Irkutsk region.”

“The Government of the Republic of Tyva deeply mourns the heavy loss that befell the Irkutsk region - the tragic death of Governor Igor Esipovsky in a plane crash,” says the telegram from Prime Minister Sholban Kara-Ool.

The Governor of the Sakhalin Region, Alexander Khoroshavin, conveyed words of condolences to the families of the victims on behalf of the Sakhalin and Kuril residents. “We all sincerely sympathize with the grief of people who have lost their relatives and friends,” said the telegram he signed.

“The news received from information sources about the tragic death of the regional governor Igor Esipovsky was shocked,” says the telegram from the Russian Ambassador to Mongolia Boris Govorin. “I express my sincere condolences to the family and friends of Igor Eduardovich.”

“We received with regret the news of the death of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region Igor Esipovsky,” says the letter from the Consul General - Envoy Extraordinary and Plenipotentiary of the Kyrgyz Republic Turdali Orozbaev. - We empathize and share the pain and bitterness of the irreparable loss that befell the relatives and friends of Igor Eduardovich. On behalf of the Consulate General of the Kyrgyz Republic in Yekaterinburg and me personally, we ask you to convey to your family and friends our most sincere condolences, wishes for courage and perseverance in these sorrowful days.”

“On behalf of the government of the Samara region and on my own behalf, allow me to express deep condolences in connection with the premature death of the governor of the Irkutsk region, Igor Esipovsky. Together with our family and friends, we mourn his untimely death,” says the telegram from the governor of the Samara region, Vladimir Artyakov. - He lived a short but bright, eventful life filled with creative work. It’s painful to realize that an absurd tragic accident cut it short on takeoff, preventing the implementation of plans for the socio-economic development of the Irkutsk region, which Igor Eduardovich began to put into practice.”

Residents of Transbaikalia received with sorrow the news of the tragic death of the head of a neighboring region in a plane crash. “We express our words of sympathy and sincere condolences to the residents of the Irkutsk region and the relatives of Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky. A talented, multifaceted person and leader, who sincerely strived to improve the lives of his fellow countrymen, has passed away. Deputies and staff of the Legislative Assembly of the Trans-Baikal Territory share the pain of irreparable loss. His memory will always live in the hearts of his family, friends and colleagues. We mourn with you."

On behalf of the government of the Amur Region and residents of the region, the Governor of the Amur Region Oleg Kozhemyako expressed sincere condolences to the family and friends in connection with the tragic death of the head of the Irkutsk Region. “The life of a promising and competent leader and politician ended suddenly, but the memory of Igor Eduardovich will forever remain in our hearts,” his telegram says. - During his political activity, he proved himself to be a competent, responsible, authoritative manager, a deeply decent and intelligent citizen. He made every effort to ensure that the Irkutsk region became a strong and prosperous region, one of the most effective in Russia. He tried to establish a system of constructive interaction between government members, deputies at various levels, and representatives of local government. I tried to justify the trust of the President of the Russian Federation. Honestly and conscientiously performed the duties of the governor of the Irkutsk region. “In these difficult days, we mourn together with our family and friends, colleagues at work and all residents of the Irkutsk region.”

“Please accept our most sincere condolences regarding the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region. These days I am grieving with my family and friends, everyone who knew Igor Eduardovich. May his memory be blessed,” these are the words of the Governor of the Lipetsk Region Oleg Korolev.

The telegram from the governor of the Oryol region, Alexander Kozlov, says: “Deeply shocked by the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region. I sincerely empathize and share all the pain and bitterness of the irreparable loss that befell the relatives and friends of Igor Eduardovich. He devoted his entire life to people. His energy, knowledge and experience were aimed at the prosperity of the Irkutsk region, the growth of prosperity and the primary solution to the problems of the region's residents. The bright memory of a talented leader and a wonderful person will forever remain in our hearts.”

“A wonderful person, a talented manager, a competent leader has passed away. Igor Eduardovich left a good memory of himself in the region and throughout Siberia,” says a government telegram from deputies of the Altai Regional Legislative Assembly.

The governor of the Tver region, Dmitry Zelenin, sent a government telegram of condolences: “It is bitter to realize that a young, talented, full of energy man, who strived to implement large-scale plans for the development of the Irkutsk land, has passed away.”

On behalf of the Consulate General of India in Vladivostok and on my own behalf, the Consul General of India in Vladivostok Kivek Kumar expressed deep condolences: “We share the bitterness of this loss with the relatives and friends of the victims.”

“Please accept my sincere condolences in connection with the tragic death and premature passing of Igor Esipovsky and Mikhail Shtonda. I share the grief and irreparable loss with my family and friends, with everyone who knew these outstanding people,” wrote Consul General of the Republic of Korea in Irkutsk Choi Seok Woo.

“Undoubtedly, an outstanding person who devoted himself to serving the good of people and creating a just society has passed away. Residents of the Irkutsk region have lost a strong leader and a good specialist, who in our difficult times strived for the development of the Angara region, creating conditions for a decent life for people. On my own behalf, as well as on behalf of all Catholics of the Diocese of St. Joseph in Irkutsk, I offer sincere condolences to the family and friends of the late governor, as well as the government and residents of the Irkutsk region. This is a great loss for us,” wrote Bishop Kirill Klimovich.

On behalf of the clergy and laity of the Nizhny Novgorod diocese, Archbishop Georgy of Nizhny Novgorod and Arzamas conveyed condolences to the relatives and friends of the deceased.

The administration of the Ust-Orda district addresses these lines of condolences to the relatives of the victims: “Dear Olga Borisovna! Igor and Evelina!

On behalf of all residents of the Ust-Orda Buryat District, we express our deep condolences in connection with the tragic death of your husband and father, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky. We are deeply shocked by the tragedy that interrupted the life of the governor of the Irkutsk region. This is a huge irreparable loss. Igor Eduardovich made a significant contribution to the final process of unification of our two regions, and did a lot for the development of the social sphere and agriculture of the district. The governor had great respect for the culture and traditions of all the peoples of the multinational district. The bright memory of him will forever remain in our hearts. We mourn with you.

Dear Elena Ivanovna and Olga Mikhailovna!

Please accept my deepest condolences on the tragic death of your husband and father, Mikhail Aleksandrovich Shtonda, First Deputy Chairman of the Government of the Irkutsk Region - Chief of Staff of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region and the Government of the Irkutsk Region.

The bright memory of Mikhail Alexandrovich will forever remain in the hearts of everyone who knew this wonderful man, a high-level professional.”

“The life of the governor of the Irkutsk region, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky, was tragically cut short. His death is a loss for family, friends, colleagues, and residents of the region. A bright, extraordinary person, an experienced manager who cared for the good and development of the Angara region, has passed away - out of condolences from the chairman of the Public Chamber of the Irkutsk Region, Ivan Golovnykh. - A little more than a year has passed since Igor Esipovsky linked his fate with the Irkutsk region as the head of our region. During this time, according to Igor Eduardovich himself, the region became home to him. He took the problems of the region and its inhabitants closely. Possessing organizational skills and the best human qualities, Igor Eduardovich contributed to the socio-economic development of the territory, to the formation of the government of the Irkutsk region, and the building of a new management system for the region. Having led the Angara region in the situation of the development of the global economic crisis, he did everything to adjust the life plans of the region and take measures to minimize the negative consequences.

The bright memory of Igor Eduardovich will remain in our hearts.

On behalf of the Council of the Public Chamber, members of the Public Chamber of the Irkutsk Region, I express my sincere condolences to the families and friends of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region Igor Esipovsky, First Deputy Chairman of the Government of the Irkutsk Region Mikhail Shtonda, paramilitary security officer of the Ministry of Internal Affairs Alexander Shostak and pilot 1st class Viktor Kunov who died tragically in the plane crash

Major General Vyacheslav Eglit, head of the Main Directorate of the Russian Ministry of Emergency Situations for the Irkutsk Region, expressed condolences to the victims on behalf of the staff of the Main Directorate of the Ministry of Emergency Situations for the Irkutsk Region.

“The plane crash interrupted the life of a real person, an honest and devoted citizen of the Fatherland,” the message says. - The irreparable always happens unexpectedly. The bright and talented leave suddenly and irrevocably. Igor Eduardovich was a strong, strong-willed man, a prominent statesman, a patriot, for whom the words duty and honor are the meaning of his whole life.

Human losses are difficult and irreparable for all of us, among which are the most worthy of this life.

We mourn together with our family, loved ones and friends.

Mikhail Alexandrovich was an excellent specialist. He lived a short but bright, eventful life filled with creative work. It is painful to realize that an absurd tragic accident cut her off on takeoff, preventing her from realizing her plans.

On this mourning day, we bow our heads in mournful silence before the blessed memory of the deceased and express our sincere condolences to the family, relatives and friends.”

In a telegram, the command and the military council of the Siberian regional command of the internal troops of the Ministry of Internal Affairs of Russia expressed deep condolences and asked to convey words of support to the relatives, friends and colleagues of the governor of the Irkutsk region, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky: “This is an irreparable loss for everyone who knew him as a talented leader who devoted his whole life to serving the Motherland. We mourn with you."

Acting Chairman Stanislav Vavilov expressed deep condolences on behalf of the Central Election Commission of the Russian Federation: “We highly valued the business, professional and personal qualities of Igor Eduardovich. The bright image of an outstanding public and statesman who made a significant contribution to the development of the Irkutsk region will forever remain in our memory.”

Member of the Federation Council of the Federal Assembly of the Russian Federation Valentin Mezhevich emphasized: “Igor Eduardovich was known and deeply respected by thousands of people, his colleagues and friends valued his opinion. Energy, inner strength, experience, integrity and wisdom always served as an example to those who knew him.”

The Election Commission of the Irkutsk Region mourns the tragic death of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky. “This is a heavy loss for all residents of the Irkutsk region. We sympathize with the family, relatives and friends. We mourn with you. Along with the governor of the Irkutsk region, three more people died in the plane crash. In connection with the untimely death, we express our sincere condolences to the families of the victims,” the statement said.

On behalf of the committee of the Irkutsk regional branch of the Communist Party of the Russian Federation, the first secretary of the committee of the Irkutsk regional branch of the Communist Party of the Russian Federation, Sergei Levchenko, expresses his condolences to family and friends in connection with the irreparable loss - the tragic death of the husband and father of Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky.

The Irkutsk regional branch of the LDPR expresses with deep regret its sincere condolences to the family and friends in connection with the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky. This is a heavy loss not only for all residents of the region who managed to believe in him, appreciate him as a talented manager, a prudent and far-sighted leader, and a charming person. He defended the interests of the region at the federal level, was passionate about the cause, and was a man of word and deed. His worthy work will be reflected in the history of the Angara region. We mourn together with all residents of the Irkutsk region. This is a huge loss for each of us.

Honorary Citizen of the Irkutsk Region, freelance adviser to the Governor of the Irkutsk Region, Vladimir Potapov, expressed his condolences to the family, loved ones, and relatives of “a wonderful person, a true Russian, a brilliant leader, Igor Esipovsky.”

The Council of the Association of Municipalities of the Irkutsk Region expressed deep condolences to the relatives and friends of Igor Esipovsky and Mikhail Shtonda: “Young energetic leaders were able in a short time not only to analyze the current situation in the region, but also to outline plans for the development of the region. The implementation of the plan will undoubtedly improve the socio-economic situation of the Irkutsk region and maintain stability in society, which will be the best memory of the fallen comrades.”

The administration of Irkutsk, deputies of the Irkutsk Duma, and Chairman of the Irkutsk Duma Andrei Labygin express condolences to the family, relatives and colleagues of Governor Igor Esipovsky. We share the bitterness of loss together with the residents of the Irkutsk region, relatives and friends.

The news of the death of the head of the Angara region came as a huge shock to us. His dedication to his work earned him the respect and love of all who knew the Governor.

Igor Eduardovich faithfully served the interests of the region. His dedication, love of life and high professionalism will always serve as an example for people.

Please accept our sincere condolences.

“We express our sincere, deep condolences to family, friends, colleagues, and friends in connection with the bereavement - the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region, Igor Esipovsky. For all of us, he was an example of a modern leader of the highest level, a talented and far-sighted politician. The bright memory of Igor Eduardovich will forever remain in the hearts of Siberians,” these are the words from a telegram signed by the head of the city of Ust-Kut, Vladimir Krivonosenko.

“The news of the death of Igor Eduardovich touched the hearts of many ordinary people. “He lived brightly, openly, and sincerely strived to do more and improve the lives of Siberians,” wrote the head of Nizhneudinsk, Alexander Arkhangelsky. “He was born far from Siberia, but became its worthy son.”

The administration of the Ust-Udinsky district and deputies of the district duma join in the words of grief and express sincere, deep condolences to family and friends.

Employees of the Irkutsk Scientific Center SB RAS received the news of the death of the governor of the Irkutsk region Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky with deep sorrow.

This is our common loss, grief for the entire Irkutsk region. During the short time during which Igor Eduardovich held the responsible post of head of the region, he repeatedly met with scientists from the Irkutsk Scientific Center. Understanding the role of science in the socio-economic development of the Irkutsk region, he formulated big tasks for scientists, outlined directions for joint actions that will undoubtedly be implemented in the future, says Academician Mikhail Kuzmin, Chairman of the Presidium of the Institute of Scientific Research Center SB RAS.

The Presidium of the Irkutsk Scientific Center expresses condolences to the family and friends of Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky, and to the employees of the administration of the Irkutsk region who worked next to him.

“The Chamber of Commerce and Industry of Eastern Siberia expresses its condolences to the government of the Irkutsk region, the family and friends of Igor Eduardovich in connection with his tragic death. This is a big loss for all residents of the Irkutsk region. The entire business community of the region had high hopes for the development of the region under the leadership of Igor Esipovsky,” said the President of the VS Chamber of Commerce and Industry Konstantin Shavrin.

The management and staff of the Irkutsk Aviation Plant, a branch of OJSC Irkut Corporation, sincerely condolences in connection with the tragic death of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky, to his family, relatives and friends.

Igor Eduardovich, an aviation engineer by training, was well acquainted with the plant and visited us several times. We remember him as an intelligent, wise, far-sighted leader and politician, an attentive, responsive, sincere person.

Condolences were sent by Andrey Tatarinov, General Director of Gazprom Dobycha Irkutsk: “This is a heavy, irreparable loss for everyone who knew Igor Eduardovich, who associated with his name reasonable hopes for strengthening the economy and the long-term development of our region in all spheres of socio-economic and public life. political life. In a short time, he gained well-deserved respect and authority in the political circles of the Angara region with his energy, determination, responsibility, ability to make the right decisions in the most difficult situations, and unfeigned concern for preserving and enhancing the beauty and wealth of our Siberian region and improving the well-being of its inhabitants.”

The staff of the Institute of System Dynamics and Control Theory of the SB RAS mourns the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region Igor Esipovsky and expresses deep condolences to the family and friends of the deceased.

The team of the Angarsk Polymer Plant brings its sincere condolences to family, friends, and colleagues in connection with the tragic death of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky.

Sincere and deep condolences to the government of the Irkutsk region and the family of Governor Igor Esipovsky in connection with his tragic death are expressed by the Angarsk Construction Department OJSC.

The head of the enterprise, Igor Rustamov, expressed condolences on behalf of the staff of OJSC VCNG and on his own behalf.

“A talented, multifaceted person and leader, who sincerely strived to improve the lives of the residents of the Angara region, has passed away. We share the pain of irreparable loss and mourn with you,” the message said.

The team of OJSC “Vysochaishy” expressed its deep condolences to the family and friends of Igor Esipovsky in connection with his tragic death in a plane crash. “We had the opportunity to meet this wonderful person during a visit to our enterprise, and we will forever keep a fond memory of him,” the telegram says.

President of JSC Russian Railways Vladimir Yakunin sent condolences to the family of Igor Esipovsky: “Please accept from the board of JSC Russian Railways and from me personally deep and sincere condolences regarding the death of your husband and father. Together with you, your family and friends, we share all the pain and irreparable loss.”

“I express my deep condolences to the family, relatives and friends, residents of the Irkutsk region regarding the untimely death of the governor of the Irkutsk region Igor Esipovsky. This is a great loss. The bright memory of him will remain in our hearts for many years,” says the telegram from Russian Railways Vice President Alexander Tishanin.

“Irkutsk Aluminum Plant” expresses deep condolences to the family and friends in connection with the tragic death of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region Igor Esipovsky, the First Deputy Chairman of the Government of the Irkutsk Region Mikhail Shtonda, the militarized security officer of the Ministry of Internal Affairs Alexander Shostak, and the 1st class pilot Viktor Kunov.

A tragic accident cut short the lives of people who did not have time to do much and orphaned their families.

We mourn together with you, we sincerely empathize with your grief,” General Director Igor Grinberg addresses on behalf of the Irkutsk aluminum smelter UC RUSAL.

The Ministry of Economic Development, Labor, Science and Higher Education of the Irkutsk Region expresses its deep condolences to the relatives and friends of Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky and Mikhail Alexandrovich Shtonda in connection with their tragic death.”

“Brothers express deep condolences to their families and friends in connection with the tragic death of the governor of the Irkutsk region Igor Esipovsky, Mikhail Shtonda, Viktor Kunov, Alexander Shostak,” says the condolences of the mayor of Bratsk Sergei Serebrennikov. “We are all experiencing the death of the regional leader very hard. The life path of Igor Eduardovich is an example of selfless service to the Motherland. He was distinguished by outstanding personal qualities and a responsible attitude to business. His premature death is a great loss, but the bright memory of him - an excellent leader, a friendly and sympathetic person - will forever remain in our hearts.

In these difficult days, we mourn with you. Please accept our words of sincere sympathy and support.”

Sincere words of regret from the Chairman of the Council of Rectors of Universities in the Irkutsk Region, Mikhail Vinokurov:

“The Council of Rectors of Universities of the Irkutsk Region expresses deep condolences in connection with the tragic death of the Governor of the Irkutsk Region, Igor Eduardovich Esipovsky.

The Rector's Corps supported all the initiatives of the head of the regional government to solve the most complex problems of the socio-economic development of the Irkutsk region. On May 13, a meeting was planned between Igor Eduardovich and the rectors of universities in Irkutsk. Unfortunately, it is not destined to happen. Our grief is immeasurable."

The administration of the Mamsky urban settlement expresses deep condolences to the family, friends, and the government of the Irkutsk region regarding the tragic death of the governor.

Words of sympathy and support were expressed by the governor of the Khabarovsk Territory Vyacheslav Shport, the Kamchatka Territory - Alexey Kuzmitsky, the Altai Territory - Alexander Karlin, the Moscow Region - Boris Gromov, the Magadan Region - Nikolay Dudov, the Sverdlovsk Region - Eduard Rossel, the Orenburg Region - Alexey Chernyshev, the Omsk Region - Leonid Polezhaev, Yaroslavl region - Sergey Vakhrukov, Jewish Autonomous Region - Nikolay Volkov, President of the Republic of Bashkortostan Murtaza Rakhimov, Sakha (Yakutia) - Vyacheslav Shtyrov, Komi - Vladimir Torlopov, Udmurt Republic - Alexander Volkov, Chairman of the Supreme Council of the Republic of Khakassia Vladimir Shtygashev, Chairman Government of the Republic of Khakassia Viktor Zimin, Governor-Chairman of the Government of the Ulyanovsk Region Sergei Morozov, Chairman of the Legislative Assembly of the Amur Region Alexander Bashun, Chairman of the State Duma of the Tomsk Region Boris Maltsev, Governor of the Yamalo-Nenets Autonomous Okrug - Yuri Neelov, Council of People's Deputies of the Kemerovo Region, Chairman of the People's Khural Republic of Buryatia Matvey Gershevich, mayor of the city of Tolyatti Anatoly Pushkov.

Telegrams of condolences come from all the municipalities of the Angara region, from various institutions and enterprises of the region: the administration of the Angarsk municipal formation, the Kirensky district, the Angarsk petrochemical company, the Irkutsk regional public organization of hunters and fishermen, the East Siberian Trust for Engineering and Construction Surveys, scientists of the Siberian Institute of Physiology and biochemistry of plants of the SB RAS, a branch of TransCreditBank, the team of the Office of the Federal Bailiff Service for the Irkutsk Region, deputies of the Olkhonsky Duma

district, branches of the Pension Fund of the Russian Federation in the Irkutsk region, JV Igirma-Tairiku LLC, Korshunovsky Mining and Processing Plant OJSC, Holding Company Sibcem OJSC, Mechel Mining OJSC.

The telegram from Patriarch Kirill of Moscow and All Rus' says: “May the Lord rest in peace the deceased and those who accompanied him on the tragically ended flight, in eternal and blessed memory.”

Condolences came from Deputy Chairman of the Federation Council of the Federal Assembly of Russia Dmitry Mezentsev, Deputy Chairman of the State Duma of the Russian Federation Vladimir Zhirinovsky, Ambassador Extraordinary and Plenipotentiary of Mongolia to the Russian Federation Khangai Luvsandandaryn, Minister of Civil Defense and Emergency Situations Sergei Shoigu.

Words of grief and compassion were conveyed to the families and friends of the victims by the Minister of Natural Resources and Ecology of the Russian Federation Yuri Trutnev, the head of the Federal State Statistics Service Vladimir Sokolin, the Chairman of the Board of the Pension Fund of the Russian Federation Anton Drozdov, the Chairman of the Federation of Independent Trade Unions of Russia Mikhail Shmakov, members of the Federation Council of the Russian Federation Andrei Guryev, Viktor Orlov, deputies of the State Duma of the Russian Federation Artur Chilingarov, Yuri Maslyukov, Alexey Lebed, Natalya Pugacheva, Viktor Zubarev, Andrey Lugovoy, Vitaly Shuba, Tatyana Voronova, Konstantin Zaitsev, Sergey Kolesnikov, Valery Maleev, Chairman of the Irkutsk Regional Communist Party Irina Morokhoeva.

Telegrams of condolences were sent by General Director of Russian Aluminum UC Oleg Deripaska, Chairman of the Supervisory Committee of the RENOVA Group of Companies Viktor Vekselberg, Executive Director of TNK-BP Management OJSC German Khan, President of Rosneft Oil Company OJSC Eduard Khudainatov, Director of Mechel OJSC » Igor Zyuzin, Chairman of the Board of Directors of the investment company Continental Invest Nikolai Makarov, General Director of the National Investment Group Alexander Abelson, General Director of SIBUR-Mineral Fertilizers OJSC Andrey Teterkin, General Director of KAMAZ OJSC Sergey Kogogin, Chairman of the Board of OJSC "URALSIB" Andrey Donskikh, General Director of OJSC IDGC Holding Nikolay Shvets, President and Chairman of the Board of OJSC VTB Bank Andrey Kostin, General Director of the Izhevsk Machine Plant Vladimir Grodetsky, the workforce of OJSC "Avto VAZ", Director of the International School of Management "Intensive" Viktor Voronov.

Condolences were sent by Chairman of the Legislative Assembly of the Krasnoyarsk Territory Alexander Uss, Governor of the Novgorod Region Sergei Mitin, Governor of the Leningrad Region Valery Serdyukov, Governor of the Vladimir Region Nikolai Vinogradov, Head of the Republic of North Ossetia-Alania Taimuraz Mamsurov, Governor of the Kirov Region Nikita Belykh, Chairman of the Moscow City Duma Vladimir Platonov, Chairman of the Legislative Chamber of the Great Khural of the Republic of Tyva Vasily Oyun, Governor of the Kaluga Region Anatoly Artamonov, Governor of the Voronezh Region Alexey Gordeev, Chairman of the Samara Provincial Duma Viktor Sazonov, Governor of the Pskov Region Andrey Turchak, Chairman of the Government of the Karachay-Cherkess Republic Vladimir Kaishev, Governor of the Vologda Region Vyacheslav Pozgalev, President of the Republic of Ingushetia Yunus-bek Evkurov, President of the Republic of Adygea Aslan Tkhakushinov, Governor of the Astrakhan Region Alexander Zhilkin, Chairman of the Tula Regional Duma Oleg Tatarinov Duma of the Chukotka Autonomous Okrug, President of the Chuvash Republic Nikolai Fedorov, Governor of the Ryazan Region Oleg Kovalev, President of the Republic of Dagestan Mukhu Aliev, Governor Kaliningrad Region Georgy Boss, Governor of the Belgorod Region Evgeny Savchenko, Governor of the Altai Republic Alexander Berdnikov, Head of the Republic of Kalmykia Kirsan Ilyumzhinov.

Words of support for the families and friends of the victims were expressed by the President of the Japan National Oil, Gas and Metals Corporation (JOGMEC) Hirobumi Kawanto, the Irkutsk Oil Company, OJSC Promsvyazbank, the team of the company “1000 little things”,

Irkutsk regional branch of the Social Insurance Fund of the Russian Federation, the staff of the Main Directorate of the Federal Penitentiary Service of Russia for the Krasnoyarsk Territory, the head of the East Siberian Institute of the Ministry of Internal Affairs of Russia, Major General of Police Anatoly Chernov, acting. the head of Vladikavkaz (North Ossetia-Alania) Mairam Tamaev, the mayor of the Alar region Alexander Futorny, the head of Bodaibo Andrey Dudarik.

Condolences. How to sincerely express condolences to the relatives of the deceased? Short words of grief over death and support in difficult times. "My condolences…"

Words of grief and support in difficult times

Sincere words of sorrow and sensitive behavior express a willingness to share grief, support a neighbor with their presence or shared memory of the deceased. What is even more important is action participation, willingness to help, give your time and effort to a friend or friend at a time when he is vulnerable, depressed and needs participation. It’s good if you can guess what exactly it is: material assistance, organizational, physical. Maybe you need a ride or shelter for someone for a couple of days. Offer your services For example:

How can I help you these days?
If/when you need anything, contact me right away!
A lot has fallen on you right now. What can I do for you?
I think you might need some help. I would like to participate.

My condolences…

How to find the right words of grief? If you know the relatives of the deceased closely, then it is better to think of a more personal, personal sympathetic phrase. While thinking through words of condolences, we recommend that you look. Each obituary ends with words of condolences from the celebrity's family and friends. We have given some words of condolences to celebrities at the end of this article. The website “Making Monuments.ru” provides 100 specific examples words of sorrow on the occasion of death.

Please accept my condolences!

Delicacy and sincerity- this is what you need to remember when pronouncing words of sympathy. In grief, the feeling of sincerity and falsehood intensifies. Feel free to select in advance, and Housesseveral timesaloudtalk phrase of condolences. This will allow the right moment not to think about the wording and concentrate on the person and circumstances. Don't be shy about your feelings. If you want to hug a friend, touch her shoulder or hug her; shake a friend’s hand – shake it. A tear rolls down - don’t turn away, but brush it away. Take a bag of clean napkins with you - they may be useful to you or someone present.

Death is the final reconciliation... If you harbor a grudge against the deceased, find strength in yourself forgive. Having cleansed your soul and thoughts of negativity, words of sympathy will sound from the heart, sincerely! If you had a conflict with the deceased, then sincere regret, an apology, and a request for forgiveness will be in order.

Examples of short verbal condolences

Format verbal condolences depends on the context. In a close circle, you can allow soulful. But at a funeral or, during a farewell to the body or during a funeral service, only short sayings. Many more invitees must express their condolences.

[Name] was a man of great soul. We sincerely sympathize with you!
Be strong!/(Be strong, friend)!
He was a bright/kind/powerful/talented person. An example for all of us. We will always remember!
I loved him/(her)/[Name]. My condolences!
How much good she did for her neighbors! How she was loved and appreciated during her lifetime! With her passing, we lost a piece of ourselves. We really feel for you!
This is a tragedy: we are in great pain at this hour. But it’s hardest for you! If we can help you with anything, please contact us immediately!
He has meant/done/helped me a lot in my life. I mourn with you!
He left so much of his soul in all of us! It's forever as long as we're alive!
Our entire family sympathizes with your grief. Our condolences... Be strong!
His role in my life is huge! How small those disagreements were, and the goodness and deeds that he did for me, I will never forget. My condolences to you!
What a loss! Man of God! I pray for him, I pray for all of you!
What a pity that I didn’t have time to tell him “I’m sorry!” He opened a new world for me, and I will always remember it! My sincere condolences!

Religious Condolence

Is it right to express condolences using religious rhetoric? When is it appropriate and when is it not appropriate to refer to quotations from holy books? How should you use the words of prayers if you express your condolences to a person of a different faith or an atheist?

If both the sympathizer and the mourner are atheists or agnostics, then there is no point in resorting to religious rhetoric. Ideas for short phrases of sympathy can be gleaned from the section.
If a person someone who has lost a loved one is a believer, but you are not, then briefly addressing the topic of a better life in another world will be correct, but the use of church language will seem false. Ideas for phrases can be found in the section.
On the contrary, when the person grieving is an atheist or agnostic, and you are a believer, then an appeal on your part to or to the dogmas of your religion will look like a sincere form of sympathy. Only the measure is important.
If you and the bereaved person - both fellow believers, then turning to common sources, general and observance of canonical rites of remembrance are appropriate.

Even if the grieving person is himself a lover of rhyme, still the moment of condolences is not the right time for your own poetry.
Poetic text in the context of condolences is devalued and can be perceived as verbal exercises during grief.
If it’s popular, then it’s already exotic, but condolence poems- this is the risk of being misunderstood.

Condolences via SMS? No.

The message may arrive at the wrong time.
Even if your condolences are terse, the very image of the SMS channel suggests the transmission of facts, not feelings.
If you send condolences via SMS, then you have a phone in your hand. — Was it difficult to call? - this is what a person who has suffered a loss will think about.
If you do not meet in person in the coming days, then express your condolences by phone or email.

What should you not say when expressing condolences?

Comfort with the prospect. Pain is here and now, and against its background, turning to the future means either showing your tactlessness, or hurting a loved one, or, at the very least, being unheard or misunderstood. Inappropriate words: “Everything will be fine...”, “Don’t worry, you’ll get married in a couple of years”, “Everything will pass, and this is pain too”, “Time heals...”, “Nothing, you’re young, you’ll give birth again”, “I wish you faster survive the grief...
Demonstrate positive circumstances associated with the loss. Examples of tactless phrases: “Be strong, friend! After all, it can also happen (so/worse/more terrible...)”, “With such torment, death is a relief”, “It’s good that at least (something worse) didn’t happen”, “The child will have his own room”, “You the opportunity arises (to do something).”
Point out the culprit, “find the last one”. For example, “God gave - God took”, “If you... (went to the doctor), would not have let him go, listened to the advice...”, “Such doctors should be put on trial,” “Given his lifestyle, it is not surprising.”
Don’t ask how and under what circumstances it happened. This is not the time or place to ask for details.
You shouldn't at this moment talk about any topic not related to the experience. Neither about work, nor about mutual acquaintances, nor on any extraneous topics.
Don't appeal to your experience, even if you experienced a similar grief. “Girlfriend, I know how hard it is for you, I also lost...”, even if said sincerely, at the moment of grief it can be perceived inadequately.
Intrusive or banal advice, like “You must live for the sake of...”, “You need to calm down, wait out the time”, etc. - all this is stupid and unnecessary in moments of grief.

It’s impossible not to list all the “impossible” ones. Use common sense, a sense of proportion, be sincere and sympathetic. Be short and concise. Remember that sometimes it is better to remain silent and abstain than to talk idle talk or be tactless.

How to write a letter of condolence

It is not always possible to express condolences in person, and then in the very first days after death a letter of sympathy should be sent.

Written condolences on a postcard appropriate as an addition to a discreet funeral bouquet (red, white colors) or together with some amount of money, if it is, say, a benefit or just financial assistance from an enterprise. Design matters: you cannot write condolences on a bright holiday or greeting card. Use special ones, or take a completely neutral card with a restrained design.

Email condolences it should also be concise, sincere, but restrained. The title should already contain words of condolences. So, it is incorrect to indicate “Condolences on the death of so-and-so” in the subject line of the letter, but the correct one would be: “[Name], my condolences on the death of your father/(mother).” Before you press the “send” button, read the condolences through the eyes of a grieving person. It should be short, to the point, without fluff or tactlessness. Below are examples of written condolences.

Examples of written condolences

Sample condolences on a card about the death of a mother

Dear/Dear [Name]!

It was difficult for us to accept the news of the death of your/your mother, [Name and Patronymic of the deceased]. The more we sympathize with your/your loss. We deeply mourn the death of [Name and Patronymic]. For us, she has always been an example of care, sensitivity, and attention to one’s neighbor. (or other positive qualities inherent in the deceased) and conquered with her kind disposition and love of humanity. We are very sad for her and can only imagine what a heavy blow her passing was for you. More than once we remembered her words: [such and such]. And in this she served as an example of [something], thanks to her we became/understood [how the deceased influenced us]. Your mother, [Name and Patronymic], raised and raised you - a worthy person, of whom, we are sure, she was proud. We are happy that we had the chance to know her.

With deep and sincere sympathy, the [So-and-so] family

Sample of condolences by e-mail about the death of mother

Email header:[Name], my condolences to you on the death of [Name and Patronymic]!

Text of the letter: Dear [Name]! Today I sadly learned about the death of your mother, [Name and Patronymic]. It’s hard to believe - after all, not so long ago she warmly welcomed us as guests. I remembered her as (positive qualities of the deceased) . It is difficult for me to imagine the depth of grief that you are experiencing right now. My sincere condolences!

Perhaps these days you will have troubles associated with mourning events. I want to offer you my help: maybe you need to meet someone, help with a car, or notify someone... Contact me! I would like to help in some way during this difficult moment for all of us!

I sympathize with your loss! Signature.

Condolences on the death of father

Structure of a letter (postcard, email) of condolences on the death of a father girlfriend or friend - the same as in the case of condolences for the death of a mother (see above). However, society values slightly different qualities in a man than in a mother or wife. Words and phrases that are appropriate to express condolences on the death of dad, the head of the family, are given below. If more precise words of consolation come to mind that reflect the characteristics of this particular person, then it is better to use them.

As soon as I met your father, that same day I realized that he was a man of [such and such qualities]
He was a real man, a responsible head of the family and a caring person.
I didn’t know your father personally, but I can imagine how much he meant to you.
He was an example for me in this and that.
He admired everyone for his foresight, erudition, and sharp mind.
I realized that I knew little about him. When the time is right, tell me more about your dad!
Knowing you, I can guess how much your father gave to his family and children!

Samples of condolences for the death of a friend, colleague

Condolences to a colleague, employee, subordinate - not only a sign of good relations in the team, but also an element of business ethics in a healthy company. Condolences for a colleague are expressed in the same way as condolences for a friend, relative, or someone close to you. The examples below focus attention precisely on a professional status- boss, responsible specialist, prominent official, public figure...

It is with deep regret that I learned about the tragic/untimely/sudden death of the president of your company, Mr. [Last Name-Patronymic]. His contribution to the formation/development/prosperity of your company is well known and indisputable. The management of [Company Name] and our colleagues, saddened by the bitter news, convey their condolences for the loss of a respected and talented leader.
Let me express to you our deep feelings regarding the death of [position] Mrs. [Last name-First name-Patronymic]. Her professionalism, competence and dedication earned her the genuine respect of all who worked with her. Please accept our sincere condolences for your grief and sympathy for your irreparable loss.
I am deeply shocked by the news of the death of [position, First Name and Patronymic]. Let me express my most sincere sympathy to you personally and all the employees of your company. My colleagues, having learned of the tragedy/grief/misfortune, share deep sadness at his/her passing.

When a loved one dies, those around them rush to express their regret to his relatives. But how to properly show your gratitude to them and respond to condolences, because the word “thank you” is not very appropriate now?

Mourning etiquette

If a person dies in your family, it is a time of difficult worries. First of all, you will have to inform everyone about the incident. This is not easy to do, but it is necessary.

According to mourning etiquette, you need to notify all your acquaintances, even if they are far away and even those whom you personally do not like, but may have had a good relationship with the deceased.

For those who live nearby, it is better to inform them when you meet, but it is impossible to get around everyone; there is an option to send messages by email or SMS, but this is not very polite, and suddenly the person does not receive them. Therefore, it is better to call in person and say at least a few words. And also be sure to tell us where and when the funeral will be, leave your contact information so that people can clarify the information.

It turns out that you are in grief and you have to do a lot of things: communicate, run around shops and funeral homes. Nothing can be done, gather your will into a fist. Now this is the best thing you can do for the deceased - to see him off with dignity on his last journey.

People will come to the ceremony, some you don’t even know, they will want to express words of sympathy, think about how to react to them.

How to respond to condolences regarding a death?

There are no special rules on this topic; it is often difficult to find words in such situations. You can remain silent in response or simply nod, rest assured, everyone will understand your condition.

Or use template phrases:

"Thank you";
“You are very attentive”;
“I try not to lose heart, thanks to you it’s easier for me.”

Everyone has different characters, some want to spend these minutes alone, while others, on the contrary, are uncomfortable being left alone with their own thoughts. If you belong to the first category of people, don’t be shy.

Of course, you will have to worry about organizing the funeral, welcoming guests, everyone will be interested in knowing the details of what happened, especially when the death was unexpected.

But this does not mean that you should now talk a lot and listen to the lamentations of some aunt from a distant province. Accept her support and go about your business. Even if she is a little surprised by this behavior, it’s okay, explain later.

When you come to a funeral...

The opposite situation - you are paying a condolence visit, how to behave correctly? Remember some simple rules:

Do not dress flashily and brightly; dark colors are appropriate now: women in long skirts, men in suits;
Bring napkins or a handkerchief so you can wipe away your tears when your feelings become overwhelming. Or maybe someone present will need the supplies;
Remove large jewelry and leave large bags at home;
Have a conversation, but keep silence;
And don’t follow the coffin, let your relatives go ahead.

Do you understand that you need to approach your loved ones and communicate, show your participation, but you don’t know what words to use when expressing condolences? Take simple phrases:

« It’s difficult for me to find the right words to console, but I sincerely sympathize with your grief»;
« I'm deeply shocked by what happened, hang in there…»;
« Let me offer you my condolences».

If you are far away at the time of the funeral, it’s okay; it is believed that you can communicate with your family at another time. This will not look like a belated reaction, on the contrary, you came as soon as you could, which means you remember and worry.

How should you respond to condolences about death?

Colleagues, friends and acquaintances will begin to offer financial assistance or any other kind: transportation, a room for a funeral - whoever can.

It should be accepted - this is normal, you will agree that it is not superfluous. The main thing is not to bow out in gratitude and do not shower yourself with compliments, thank calmly. In this situation, you would have done the same.

And I would also like to warn you - the modern funeral industry works very quickly and with pressure. You will be surprised, but sometimes, before they have time to send the deceased to the morgue, people answer phone calls from funeral agencies who are in a hurry to express sympathy and offer services.

Take your time to take advantage of these offers, come to your senses first. The prices and capabilities of funeral companies are very different. In a couple of hours, when your thoughts have recovered a little, you will be able to more adequately evaluate the price list. Talk to your friends, they may offer advice or be able to help with transportation and other matters.

Funeral meal

After the burial, it is customary to invite people to the wake; everyone comes. Christians traditionally serve pancakes and kutya (a dish with wheat, nuts and raisins).

At a wake, those who want to talk about the deceased, but it is not customary to say bad things; it is better to remain silent. What can you tell those present and how?

It is better to perform standing;
Start with the address: “Friends”, “Dear relatives”;
Introduce yourself, tell us how you know the deceased;
List his positive qualities. Even if you think that there were not many of them, the negative ones can be presented from the opposite side: grumpy- was critical of life, silly- trusting, stubborn- principled;
You can remember interesting incidents from life. Sometimes people read corresponding poems, their own or the author's.

The main thing is not to delay the speech, there are others who want to, and this is not the case. Draw conclusions that the person did not live in vain, offer words of condolences, and give way to the next one.

The death of a loved one is always a difficult event, but you have to take care of business, organize the funeral process - you have to pull yourself together. To make it a little easier for you to come up with how to respond to condolences, use the phrase templates that we have offered you.

The main thing is to remember - life goes on, a good memory of a deceased person can become his reward for everything he did.

Video: how to express condolences correctly?

In this video, Islam Abaev will tell you how best to express condolences regarding the death: