Women often wonder why male behavior not always worthy. How can he behave like this? But there is nothing to be surprised about - the current mass culture only encourages ill-mannered and arrogant men; the standards of behavior accepted now would have horrified people just thirty years ago.
Many will say that this time is gone forever, and gentleman Now you can’t find it during the day with fire. Let's change this together! It's time for men to think about the fact that noble and well-mannered behavior is always in fashion.
If you behave as described below, women will line up in droves to get some of your precious attention.
And women need to understand that allowing their man to lead him anyhow- a disservice to yourself. Know how to guide your man so that he is always on top!
Rules of conduct for a true gentleman
A gentleman opens the door for a lady
Opening the door is not a gesture of condescension, but politeness and respect. When letting a lady go ahead, you can always admire what she looks like from behind!
It is also important to open the car door - this is also a great opportunity to control a woman who might slam the door of your favorite car too hard.
A gentleman chooses a roadside path
When a man walks along the sidewalk and takes a position by the side of the road, he protects the woman from rapidly passing cars, from debris and splashes of water from puddles.
Gentleman watching the amount of alcohol
This is one of the first points to remember to avoid awkward situations. A man controls what and how much the woman next to him drinks - he maintains a balance between an empty glass and the desire of the fair half to drink more than is necessary just for a good mood.
Good afternoon to you, if you haven't bothered me yet :)
Today I would like to talk about the so-called Code of a Gentleman - an Elegant Aristocrat. Of course, I have no doubt that many, if not all, of the gentlemen present here know these simple rules. :)
Strict adherence to the rules of etiquette and social norms made the Englishman of the 19th century an example to follow, a model of good manners and decency in the eyes of all subsequent generations.
And so, I present to you... in the end we got 24 basic rules from the “gentleman’s pocket code” according to TrendyMen magazine (Trendymen.ru). Some of them have still not lost their relevance, and some, alas, are a thing of the past.
1. Modesty in a suit is always preferable, as it endears others to the wearer.
A modest person is rarely the object of envy. 
3. Being a good listener is a great talent, which is not easy to develop. A well-educated person should possess it, no matter how hard it may be for him. 
4. Every well-mannered person knows how to remove his hat gracefully.
5. Well-mannered people rarely wear things themselves. latest fashion. This is the privilege of dandies and posers. However, dressing well is a great virtue.
Lord Chesterfield said: “Excessive clothing implies an erroneous perception of the world.”
6. Prudence and honorable behavior, like silver money, are always valuable. 
7. Every parent should teach their child the art of using cutlery. There is nothing more frustrating than finding yourself in front of a dish that you don't know how to eat correctly. 
8. Lord Chesterfield said: “Dancing is a trifling and stupid activity, but it is a form of social madness into which even sensible people must plunge from time to time.”
If you accompany your wife to a dance party, never dance with her except for the very first dance*. 
9. The women's restroom is a place where no gentleman should ever go. 
10. Gentlemen should not gather in groups and leave ladies unattended. 
11. When walking up stairs with ladies, walk to their side or in front, but not behind them. 
12. When passing lonely ladies on the street, do not speed up or slow down your pace. Do not look too closely at the dress of such ladies. 
13. When receiving guests, do everything possible to make them feel at home. Simply inviting them to feel at home is not enough. 
14. Talking to an idle person once is enough to hear everything he knows in this life.
15. It is not enough to simply nod to a lady you meet on the street, or simply touch your hat. The headdress must be removed; this is a sign of basic respect for her gender. 
16. A man who accompanies a lady while smoking a cigar questions her reputation. 
17. A gentleman should not stand in hotel doorways or on street corners watching ladies pass by. 
18. When a man marries, all his past relationships should end, unless he hints at a desire to renew them.
19. Don't be selfish, but give in on small things. 
20. If you are introduced to someone taller social status, having met him again, you should not pretend that you recognized him until he himself shows signs of recognition. 
21. Never talk about the musical talents of one lady to another. 
22. To ridicule a person in his presence or absence is humiliating for a gentleman. Witty ridicule may make others laugh, but will not earn their respect. 
23. Never read in public. 
24. When alone, watch your thoughts; with your family, watch your character; among friends, watch your language. 
* According to paragraph 8, a small addition: with the lady with whom the gentleman came to the dance evening, it was appropriate to dance no more than three dances. At least this rule is now followed at historical balls
The art of being a gentleman is slowly dying out. Modern ways of thinking are aimed at becoming more progressive, advanced in terms of technology, but true values have somehow been forgotten. There is nothing wrong with living by today's concepts and keeping up with the times. But knowing and remembering some fundamental principles of behavior will not be superfluous for anyone.
The article will talk about how to become a gentleman. We'll use the gentleman's manual from almost two centuries ago - and see that these rules are quite applicable to today's relationships.
What does it mean to be a gentleman?
This means, first of all, to be a good and well-mannered person. This is the good attitude of others, priority when hiring, the favorable attitude of colleagues. Women prefer men with a stable and strong character, because this is a sign of stability and serious intentions. Read on for more tips on how to become a gentleman. These tips may seem old-fashioned and irrelevant to some, but they will make others smile, but they still make a lot of sense.
Ladies and gentlemen
At all times, the attitude towards a woman has been determined by the upbringing that a man has. "73 Things a Gentleman Should Know" is a complete guide containing advice for all situations that can happen in relationships between the two sexes. Many pieces of advice today sound naive, but it’s worth thinking about: isn’t that what still holds peace in the family, in love?
Here are some rules of behavior for a gentleman that a person who considers himself one should observe.
Loyalty, ability to yield and much more
The set of rules begins with the fact that you should remain faithful to your chosen one. It is indecent for a gentleman to look around at other beauties if his lady is nearby. And number two is the courage to admit your mistake if you are wrong. And even if you are right more often, do not be afraid to give in to your weaker half.
What if she cries? “Don’t dare lose your composure,” the management demands, “better comfort her, take her hand affectionately so that she feels calm and safe.”
What is love?
“Love is complete trust,” the gentleman’s guide tells us. If you love, you must trust, without remembering that someone betrayed you in the past. And God forbid to compare her with other girls! And comparison with those who were with you before is generally dangerous! Moreover, a gentleman will never ask his lady love about the men from her past life. And one more thing useful advice: a real man does not make promises that he cannot then keep.
And write to her more often, as our experienced ancestors advise. Let it be just a note with wishes good morning or good night - it will touch her. Yes, nowadays people more often write messages by phone or email, but the essence does not change! We are learning how to be a gentleman today, not a hundred years ago.
What about friendship?
Yes, it also happens that, carried away by a young lady, a young man forgets about everything, and even about best friends. The manual for gentlemen also mentions this: “Spend a lot of wonderful time with her, but don’t ruin your friendship in the meantime! After all, a gentleman is a knight, and knights put friendship and loyalty above all else.”
By the way, it is recommended to behave like a knight with a lady. For example, one should not forget to open the door of a carriage (today a car), give her a hand, helping her get in or out of a vehicle, or cross the street. Is this an outdated custom?
If the lady is your wife, treat her with constant respect. Be tactful. Take care of her and take care of her, and then she will take care of you. 
Women love with their ears
Everyone knows this expression - ladies love to hear pleasant things, compliments, declarations of love. But that’s not what we’re talking about here. A gentleman must be able not only to speak, but also to listen. Listen to her, don't ignore what she tells you. Otherwise you won’t end up with a big offense. Yes, the old manual will come in handy for a gentleman who needs to learn to be a good listener!
Politeness - what is it?
Actually, any rule in this guide is based on politeness. For example, it contains the following advice: laugh at her jokes, even if you don’t find it funny! And if she makes mistakes, or they were in her past, don’t even think about blaming or reproaching her. And never make excuses if you yourself have made a mistake, it is better to admit it.
It's rude to be late for a date. The manual describes it this way: “She comes first. Always. From time to time. End of story."
Something with humor
The Gentleman's Guide also gives some funny advice. For example: “Have pillow fights with her, but don’t get too carried away.” But about the bad habit of some gentlemen of speaking badly behind their lady’s back, it is written extremely succinctly: “Bad idea, my friend!”
And what is not a modern reminder: a gentleman will never ask his lady to give him something, and at the same time he will never forget about her birthday.
A gentleman is always neat
No, this is not a reminder for children. This is a reminder to gentlemen to always keep their hair clean and their nails neatly trimmed. Hygiene of the whole body is an important component of your image. Women don't like guys who are sloppy and stupid, it's written in the gentleman's manual.
Don't force her!
This is exactly what one of the points in the guide for true gentlemen says. If you want to sit with a pint of beer (or watch a football match - for our contemporaries), and she wants to go shopping in an expensive store, you will have to agree with her. Shopping is more important.
What does a gentleman do if his lady can't sleep? He doesn’t offer her whiskey or vodka, no, he starts telling her interesting stories that will make her sleepy!
And certainly useful advice for a gentleman: never spank your woman! And if she spanks you, well, maybe you deserve it. I really want to hope that in all cases it will be about playful spanking. Hitting a woman - there is not a word about this in this manual, because at all times it was considered a disgrace for a man. And for someone who considers himself a gentleman - even more so.
And in general, if you love her...
If you love her, and you are a gentleman, you will not only tell her about it, but also show her - always, in everything! Don't let her go home alone, kiss her hands, watch the sunset with her. And the wisdom of all times and peoples: accept your lady as she is.
Rules of conduct for a gentleman are an endless list of recommendations that contain some jokes, some humor, but mostly they are useful to young (and not so young) men for all occasions. Do you want an ideal relationship with your girlfriend, wife, or just a friend? Be attentive, helpful, forgive her minor whims and give in to little things. And then you will get much more in return.
Finally
You won't believe what the last, 73rd paragraph of the set of rules of a true gentleman says. He encourages... tickling each other with your lady and in the end letting her win. And this is not without reason. This suggests that these rules, despite all their seriousness, contain a large amount of irony. Although this is not a reason not to take them seriously.
The concept of the word “gentleman” has changed and developed over time, going from denoting a representative of a necessarily high class to simply a well-mannered, balanced and imperturbable person who adheres to certain rules of behavior. This phenomenon became especially widespread in England in the 19th century, giving rise to stable associations of this word with images of mustachioed men in high top hats and tails. But, of course, the main distinguishing feature of a gentleman was not his clothes and hat, but his strict adherence to the principles, the so-called “gentleman’s code.”
We want to introduce you to the basic rules of communication for gentlemen who came to us from that era. Some of them will seem funny today, others, on the contrary, are completely relevant. First published in 1875 year in A Gentleman’s Guide to Etiquette by the author Cecil B. Hartley.
- Even if you are sure that your opponent is completely wrong, keep the discussion calm, express arguments and counter-arguments without getting personal. If you see that the interlocutor is adamant in his delusion, then cleverly move the conversation to another subject, leaving him the opportunity to save face and you to avoid anger and irritation.
- Have, if you like, strong political convictions. But do not stick them out on any occasion and, under no circumstances, do not force other people to agree with you. Calmly listen to other opinions on politics and do not get involved in heated arguments. Let your interlocutor think that you are a bad politician, but do not give him reason to doubt that you are a gentleman.
- Never interrupt someone who is speaking. Even simply clarifying the wrong date can be impolite if no one asked you to do so. It’s even worse to finish a person’s thought for a person or to rush him in any way. Listen to the end of an anecdote or story, even one you already know.
- It is the height of bad manners to be distracted by your watch, handset or notebook during a conversation. Even if you are tired and bored, don't show it.
- Never try to prove your point by raising your voice, being arrogant, or using derogatory language. Be always kind and frank, free from any dictatorship.
- Never, unless asked to do so, talk about your own business or profession in public. At all pay less attention to yourself.
- A gentleman of real intelligence and culture is usually modest. He may feel, when in the company of ordinary people, that he is intellectually superior to those around him, but he will not strive to show his superiority over them. He will not seek to touch upon topics in which the interlocutors do not have relevant knowledge. Everything he says is always marked by politeness and respect for the feelings and opinions of others.
- No less important than the ability to speak well is the ability to listen with interest. This is what makes a person an excellent conversationalist and distinguishes a person from good society.
- Never listen to a conversation between two people that is not intended for you. If they are so close that you can't help but hear them, you can respectfully just move to another location.
- Try to be as brief and to the point as possible. Avoid prolonged distractions and irrelevant comments.
- If you listen to flattery, then you must also open the gates of stupidity and excessive self-conceit.
- When talking about your friends, don't compare them to each other. Talk about the virtues of each, but do not try to enhance the virtues of one by contrasting the vices of the other.
- Avoid any topics in conversation that could traumatize those who are absent. A gentleman will never slander or listen to slander.
- Even a witty person becomes tiresome and ill-mannered when he tries to completely absorb the attention of a company.
- Avoid using quotes and thoughts of great people too often. As a seasoning for food, they can brighten a conversation, but too much of them spoils the dish.
- Avoid pedantry. This is not a sign of intelligence, but of stupidity.
- Speak in native language Right, at the same time, do not be too big a supporter of the formal correctness of phrases.
- Never make comments when others make mistakes in their speech. Drawing attention by word or other action to such mistakes of the interlocutor is a sign of bad manners.
- If you are a specialist or scientist, avoid using technical terms. This is in bad taste because many will not understand them. If, however, you happen to use such a word or phrase, an even greater mistake would be to immediately rush to explain its meaning. No one will thank you for highlighting their ignorance in this way.
- Never try to play the role of a jester in a company, because very quickly you will become known as the “funny person” for parties. This role is unacceptable for a true gentleman. Strive to ensure that your interlocutors laugh with you, but not at you.
- Avoid bragging. Talking about your money, connections, opportunities is very bad taste. In the same way, you cannot be proud of your closeness with outstanding people, even if it occurs. Constantly emphasizing “my friend, Governor X,” or “my close acquaintance, President Y” is pompous and unacceptable.
- Do not try to give your image excessive depth and sophistication, contemptuously refusing cheerful conversations, jokes and entertainment. Try to act in accordance with the society you are in, as long as it does not conflict with other rules of a gentleman.
- It is completely rude, indecent and stupid to insert quotes, expressions and terms in a foreign language into your speech.
- If you feel yourself getting angry in a conversation, either move on to another topic or shut up. You may utter words in the heat of passion that you would never use in a calm state of mind, and for which you will later bitterly repent.
- “Never talk about a rope in the presence of a person whose relative has been hanged” - this, although rude, is true folk proverb. Carefully avoid topics that may be too personal for the interlocutor, and do not interfere in other people's family affairs. Do not seek to discuss other people's secrets, but if you are still entrusted with them. then consider this as a very valuable sign and never transfer your knowledge to a third party.
- Although travel contributes to the development of a gentleman’s mind and outlook, you should still not insert phrases in any case: “when I was in Paris...”, “they don’t wear this in Italy...” and so on.
- Avoid gossip. This looks disgusting in a woman, but for a man it is absolutely vile.
What traditions of the past would be useful, in your opinion, in our time?
