No matter how wonderful the beginning of a family relationship may be, no woman is immune from the fact that her husband will give his heart to another. Unfortunately, marriage is not a guarantee of fidelity and happiness. At some point, the spouse may suddenly lose interest in the one to whom he swore eternal love. Most often, the reason for this is feelings for another woman. It can be very difficult to recognize a husband's love, since representatives of the stronger sex are not very emotional. They often deliberately hide their new passion.
How to recognize that your husband has fallen in love with someone else?
So, a husband’s love can be open or secret. In the first case, it can be recognized by the following signs:
1. The husband does not hide from his wife the fact of communication with his colleague or friend with similar interests. When he and his wife discuss his affairs, he talks a lot not about the affairs themselves, but about his girlfriend, how wonderfully she copes with everything, what a huge contribution she makes. Sometimes reviews about a woman are not at all positive. He can criticize and discuss her, thereby trying to either avert suspicion from himself or “protect himself” from loving thoughts addressed to her. In any case, one thing is obvious - he is not indifferent to her.
2. The husband regularly gives or takes another woman, meets her in a cafe or in another informal setting to chat about interests. All this can be taken as a simple display of gallantry. But if the husband constantly refuses to take his wife to the store or solve some everyday problems, and instead communicates with another, this is already a reason to think about it.
3. Constant correspondence via the Internet or SMS. If a man and a woman chat every day on social media, it is likely that there is some kind of chemistry between them. Of course, you can communicate in a friendly way, but to a reasonable extent. If your spouse has become inseparable from his phone or tablet, constantly checking for messages, you can suspect that he is in love with someone else.
4. The husband prefers to spend time with his girlfriend to the detriment of the marital relationship. He always finds a reason to meet his passion, but refuses to let his wife go to the movies or just be at home together.
The “open form” of falling in love is quite rare, because husbands, for various reasons, hide their sympathy for other women. Now consider the option when the husband is secretly in love with another.
1. He moves away from his wife and stops caring about her. He is not interested in her affairs and does not want to let her know about his. He changes in behavior. His mood can be unusually high if it is not spoiled. If the spouse begins to make comments or ask about something, this greatly irritates him.
2. The husband loses intimate interest in his wife. He does not want to share a bed with her, and if he does fulfill his marital duty, he does so very reluctantly.
3. He does not allow his wife access to communications: he hides his mobile phone and sets passwords on the computer. And his beloved, most likely, is recorded in the phone under the name of a friend whose existence his wife does not know.
4. My husband takes more care of himself than usual., and every time he leaves the house, he preens himself as if he were going on a date.
5. He avoids his wife and doesn’t want to talk to her., tell how your day went. He pretends to be tired so as not to share his thoughts.
What to do if your husband falls in love with someone else?
First you need to figure out what the wife herself wants. Is she ready to close her eyes to her husband’s affair and forgive him for the sake of saving the family? Here you need to take into account what family relationships were like before, take into account the characters and worldview of the spouses themselves. There are amorous people who constantly need fresh impressions. And yet, they are able to maintain their own families.
What you definitely cannot do is openly reproach your husband, sort things out and create scenes of jealousy. Most often, a woman’s jealousy turns out to be in vain, and the signs of a man’s falling in love turn out to be non-binding flirting. Perhaps excessive attention to the fairer sex is due to the person’s cheerful and open character.
What to do if you are convinced that your husband is in love? The surest behavior tactic for a wife is to pretend that nothing happened. You need to remain prudent and calm. “Crush” does not always mean “love.” A banal affair on the side can be a reason to shake up family relationships. The wife should pay more attention to herself: update her wardrobe, get a beautiful haircut, become interesting and mysterious.
The husband will see that a beautiful, luxurious woman is near him, and will again pay attention to his wife. After all, a passing hobby can very rarely destroy a good marital relationship. A wife needs to love herself and not become a victim. Constant worries and self-pity will only make the situation worse. And only female wisdom is able to return the husband’s favor and save the family.
Dear experts! My husband and I lived happily, as they say, both in trouble and in joy, for 13 years. My husband first cheated on me, I forgave, overcame my pain. And half a month ago he admitted that he still loved her, but said that he loved me too, that he was rushing between two fires. This confession did not happen on its own, but I simply pulled it out. Because you can see that he is rushing about: he is cheerful, joking with the children, then he sits down at the computer, logs in, and is gloomy. He tries not to maintain a relationship with her, but he works together and sees her every day. We talked all day, I asked to think about children. He decided to stay with me and the children, I think that I put pressure after all, I wrote that with time the other one would be the same, you will not fly on wings every day out of love, you will never be a dad for her child, and their two will be forgotten under her own pressure (no one will like it that the husband will go to his first wife, even if it is meetings with children). He is with us, I have taken care of myself, I go to the gym, my youngest child has already grown up, my husband and I have the opportunity to go somewhere together. Now he is already saying that he didn’t have love for her, but was some kind of whim. He says that he loves me very much and has always loved only me. I try to be affectionate, gentle, kind, sincere with him, to pay more attention to him - after all, you, psychologists, write that the husband will not escape peace in the family. But in my heart I try to figure out how we will live without him, what we will do, I figure out how I will wake up alone in the morning, i.e. It’s as if I’m preparing myself if he leaves, so as not to go crazy. I am a self-sufficient person, at work I head a serious department, I have always considered myself strong, I am beautiful, slim, smart. And it turns out that he cheated on me, loves someone else, and I am so forgiving, I care about him even more, I show my love even more... Is this correct? Another thing - our second child is 3 years old, he constantly demands my attention, in the evening he constantly whines, if anything goes wrong - he yells, freaks out, he is restless, with a stubborn character. This also infuriates my husband, it seems like we all give him no peace We give: neither watch a movie in peace nor play computer games. Although, of course, he loves him. And my husband doesn’t want to do anything around the house; he’s probably depressed. It turns out that I have forgiven everything, I carry the entire household on my shoulders. And I try to make him calm. There is resentment and anger, and I don’t want to lose him. It's very difficult for me. Please answer me just a few questions, but just know that I love him very, very much and I don’t want to part with him. 1. Can a man love two women? 2. How to distract yourself in a small town at a time when nothing is interesting. 3. Should we try to save such a family? 4. If the husband is stressed (and I, of course, think that at this moment he is thinking about her) - should I ask what is on his soul or not pay attention?
“My husband loves someone else, but lives with me” - you can often find a headline on forums in which a woman asks for help with advice in a similar situation.
And how harshly we can sometimes think or speak out about this, not realizing that this could happen to everyone.
But in fact, this development of events baffles every woman. What to do if your loved one has someone else?
Assessment of the situation
What should be taken away from what happened is that this is not just cheating in order to diversify routine life if a man fell in love with another woman.
That is why the legal wife should be especially careful in this case.
First of all, you need to try to look at everything that happened with different eyes and identify possible causes.
Why doesn't he leave?
What to do if the husband said that he loves someone else, but he has no intention of leaving at all?
It is worth considering the reasons why a man usually does not intend to leave his family, in more detail:
- Children. If they are still small, then he, of course, will want to participate in their upbringing. But if they are big, then he may just want to avoid condemnation, remaining in their eyes the same exemplary father.
- Relatives. Women often claim that their family is considered exemplary and if it breaks up, then “what will their relatives say?” Husbands think the same way, fearing that they will be turned away from them by standing in defense of their legal wife, as the most injured party.
- Convenience of life. No matter how cynical this may sound, this is actually true. Everyday life is organized at home, dinner is cooked, his wife takes care of him: irons his shirts, cleans, and washes his clothes. And at the same time, the husband loves another, with her he takes a break from work and routine. Often a man is completely satisfied with this state of affairs. Is the wife ready to put up with this? Only she herself can answer this question.
- Material wealth. The fear of losing what they have acquired also drives men. Either he or his wife can support the family. And if everything is clear with the second case, then, you ask, why should a man be afraid for his wealth in the first case? But after a divorce, he will have to part with a lot. And this happens a lot.
- Hobby is not serious. Despite declaring his love for another woman to his wife, it may happen that on a subconscious level the man understands that his infatuation is not serious, and that his love will soon pass. In this case, he does not want to lose his family, expecting to break the connection soon.
How to get your husband back?
If you have the strength to forgive and accept, then you should endure and try to take various measures.
It is important to avoid quarrels, ultimatums, threats, demands to immediately leave the homewrecker, spoken in a categorical tone.
Remember the immortal painting “Love and Doves”, in which a similar classic triangle is considered. What attracted a married man to his mistress first of all?
Unusual character, beauty, intelligence and precisely the dissimilarity of that other woman from a wife who is not only simple, but has also been thoroughly studied over the years of living together.
However, every man values his own family, which means that he will return.
To this we can add statistical figures, according to which 90% of husbands return to their legal and natural wife.
But in this situation, it is you who should decide what is supposed to be done - save the family or let your husband go.
Not only eminent psychologists, but also life experience speak about the fact that only a woman can decide such issues.
Assessing your chances
“He loves someone else” - these words not only sound bitter, but usually cause disappointing damage to a woman’s self-esteem.
In many cases, self-esteem drops greatly and one gives up. After all, in addition to work and home, the wife is entrusted with taking care of the children and the husband himself; in many cases there is not enough time for herself.
But if there is still love and it is complemented by the desire to return the husband to the family, then change must begin with oneself.
What should be changed?
- Appearance. Drastically. It’s worth trying on a new look, dyeing your hair a new shade, losing weight. First, of course, you need to consult with a hair stylist, or try to independently assess whether the new style will suit you. The main rule is to not become too ridiculous in trying to look good. If a woman is older, then it is better to emphasize her elegance with outfits, appropriate care and haircut. This look will be luxurious. And it’s better for young girls to change their style and take better care of themselves.
- Character. Yes, yes, that’s exactly what needs to be changed! But you should never “break” yourself through force and towards accepting the situation as it is! On the contrary, you need to appear strong-willed, try to remove notes of hysteria and scandalism, if any, and be more balanced.
- Find a hobby. It will allow you to take your mind off the situation for a long time. Believe me, in a difficult situation, after betrayal, and even being almost on the verge of divorce, a woman simply needs an outlet. You can choose whatever you like as an activity. Scrapbooking, origami, embroidery, sand painting and much more. By focusing on their creation and distracting yourself from the situation, you can soon feel full of strength and rested. This is very important.
- Engage in self-development. Sign up for dancing, read, go to trainings, learn languages - do everything that you once could not do due to lack of time. Reduce household chores as much as possible, and spend the free time on yourself, walking with your children, having fun with them, and taking care of yourself. In this way, let your husband understand that you can cope with everything together without him. In addition, the long absence of his wife from home can cause jealousy even in a man who considers himself in love with another woman. After all, how can it be that his wife could please anyone else?
- The last fact stems from the previous one. Get yourself a fan. If this is unacceptable for you, then just dress in such a way as to please other men. Jealousy, it’s worth repeating, is considered one of the most reliable ways to regain your husband’s interest. He will soon be able to completely forget about the other woman, again and again trying to win his wife.
Believe me, all the beneficial changes will become noticeable not only to you, and your efforts will not be in vain.
Having felt the full taste of life and once again become fragrant and smiling, you will again become the woman whom your husband once loved.
In addition to this, surround him with care, but not too visible. Prepare delicious dishes, give him unobtrusive and, most importantly, sincere compliments.
Ultimately, make him feel like a man. Not only women are able to “love with their ears.”
Feeling that he is needed, irreplaceable, realizing that he is needed here more than in another, someone else’s family, he will soon be able to understand that his feelings for another woman were just a momentary infatuation.
You can't pardon
If a husband loves another, but does not leave, then for the wife such a situation is several times more painful.
Firstly, serious torment begins, a search for reasons begins, and secondly, the woman is in constant stress that the man is about to get tired of it and leave her.
Accepting betrayal can be difficult, but such a development of events in which the husband does not make the final choice is much more difficult.
In this case, the wife will know about the other woman and will morally have to accept her. Most often, this is tolerated for the sake of children, prosperity, or simply fear of condemnation from relatives.
But if there is no more love and you don’t want to accept the humiliating development of events, then there is only one way out - to leave, without looking at the opinions of strangers.
Such a decision is worth making if you just want freedom, there is no desire to endure the situation, betrayal, or the attitude of a man.
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Decide everything yourself, pack your bags and throw your unfaithful hubby out the door. Take care of yourself and your happiness will soon find you.
The main thing is not to dwell on your worries for too long. As soon as you say goodbye to the past, new events will be ready to enter your life, filling it with new meaning.
Hello, dear readers! Today you can't be 100 percent sure of anything. You get married, you think that everything in your life is going right and good, everything seems to have settled down, and then this happens!
If your husband fell in love with someone else, what should you do? The answer to this question is not so easy to find. On the one hand, it’s scary to start life again, but alone, and on the other hand, is it possible to save the family after everything that happened. It’s quite difficult to do without the advice of a psychologist. Which answer is correct?
Who's to blame
You are in a very unenviable position, but blaming others is the stupidest thing you can do right now. This is the first step into the abyss. You are at great risk of wallowing in regret that leads nowhere. You may begin to blame yourself, him, another woman, worry about unfulfilled hopes, or, in other words, simply mourn your unfortunate fate.
Indeed, a very unpleasant event happened to you. That's true. And you have the right to be sad and worried, but how long can they last and what will they ultimately lead to? Low self-esteem, bad mood and endless sadness. Do you need such companions in life? Don't think.
You know your husband best and try, in this difficult situation, to observe him. Does his confession sound like repentance and a way to talk about problems in the relationship? Or he actually stated this as a clear intention to leave.
It would seem, what's the difference? But it really is, for example, read. Sometimes a partner, no matter husband or wife, commits infidelity while running away from family difficulties and, unfortunately, sees the only way out. Everything stems from a difficult understanding of the primary problems and this is realized much later.
I believe that in any case, you simply have to clarify whether this is a hobby or whether your spouse is serious. A conversation is necessary for both of you, and without it you may be left with the feeling that this could have been resolved somehow. But it usually comes when nothing can be fixed.
If you understand that the family cannot be saved, your husband’s intentions to leave are firm and you do not see his doubts and repentance in the conversation, then this is truly irreversible. Feel free to move on to the following paragraphs, which will help you prepare for separation.
Quit can't give up
Only you have the right to choose where to put a comma in the phrase “You can’t quit.” Can you be completely sure of it? Do you guarantee that some time will pass and the situation will not repeat itself, only with a new participant in this love triangle?
In addition, you will have to prepare for a real war for the attention of this man who loves another woman and has decided to give up the role of a happy and worthy family man. What might your actions be?
You will need to try to forget about the grievances, surround him with attention, in no case try to reproach him for what he has done and show your strengths in every possible way, become the most understanding, beautiful and caring in the world. Is he really worthy of it, after everything that's happened?
Are you willing to be better than your previous self for the sake of a person who didn't appreciate you?
By the way, if your husband confessed his love for another woman, but continues to live with you, you still have to try to carefully “show him out.” He must see another life, be able to compare and even miss his “ex-wife”.
You can find a lot of interesting information on this topic in the book. Niki Nabokova “#In bed with your husband. Notes from a lover. A must read for wives!”. The book will give you strength no matter what conclusion you come to. Either way, you'll like what you read.
Leave everything to chance
The best solution would be to try to live on, but with another man or by learning to be independent. You may be familiar with the story of Olga Buzova, who, after breaking up with a famous football player, was able to take the path of least resistance and did the two truest things she could.
- She managed to distract herself, and more specifically, took up her singing career.
- She benefited from what happened - the necessary PR, which only helped her gain a foothold in the charts.
You may not have worldwide fame or popularity within the Russian Federation, but you have long known what to do if your husband fell in love with someone else, although perhaps these tips seem so simple to you that they do not attract too much attention.
First, try to distract yourself. Find a new hobby, take care of yourself, finally sign up for the courses you have long dreamed of. You have free time and you need to spend it on something. The faster you find where to put your energy, the less of it will be left for worries, unnecessary and thoughtless actions.
The second rule is to look for benefits in everything. Look at breaking up with your husband not from the position of a victim. Sorry, but happy families rarely leave. You may be in this 0.001%, but most likely the problems started a long time ago.
Try to view what happened as a release of a burden. You yourself would hardly dare to put an end to an unsuccessful romance. They did it for you. You are in a more advantageous position than your spouse: those around you are trying to support you, everyone is happy to spend their free time with you.
Perhaps pity is not the best feeling, but sometimes it is felt not for a person (I’m talking about “victims”), but for a situation. This is a completely different matter. You have a chance to prove yourself as a strong woman, so why not become one now?
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Rare relationships between a man and a woman can be called easy, uncomplicated. It’s not for nothing that they say: where feelings begin, logic ends there. Everything seems to be fine, family, children, a well-established life together, a joint vacation, and so on. What more could you want? And what else do you need?
And then, like a bolt from the blue, betrayal bursts in, and not just betrayal for the sake of sex, but out of great and pure love. The relationships in the love triangle are very complex; there are three main characters on stage - she, he and she. So what is the right thing to do? How to understand this difficult situation? Many women ask these, and not only, questions, but to be honest, the most important question is: how to return the man you love, how to return love? That love that was there when we first met!?
I think he's cheating on me...
Sooner or later, every woman has such thoughts; in some cases they may not be justified, but sometimes they turn out to be true. Unfortunately, the presence of a stamp in a passport, an oath, is not a guarantee that a man will always love his wife, and most importantly, will be forever devoted and faithful. This only happens in fairy tales, and with very rare exceptions.
In real life, everything is different; over the years of marriage, many women are faced with their husband falling in love with another woman, and, accordingly, cheating. But you shouldn’t rush headlong into the pool; first of all, you need to make sure that your fears and suspicions are justified. And not mere speculation - after all, we young ladies can be very impressionable. So what are the signs of falling in love?
Each situation and family is unique, each man has his own character and his own attitude to life, values, etc. But still, in most cases, male love manifests itself in the same way, only some nuances appear. As psychologists say, falling in love can be with a woman in an open or closed relationship.
An open relationship implies the wife's knowledge of the presence of some young lady with whom her husband is connected through work, interests, children's friendship, etc. They are forced to spend time together, and periodically the husband and wife discuss their joint affairs and achievements.
Closed relationships are hidden from the wife; she cannot assume her husband’s passion. The husband himself is silent and does not reveal the presence of a girlfriend with a single word. In each case, the signs of falling in love are slightly different.
Signs of open love
In this case, the husband can’t get his girlfriend off his tongue. In discussing general achievements at work or a hobby, exclusively the contribution of the passion is discussed. In conversation all you can hear is: “Irochka this...”, “Irochka that...”. As a result of the conversation, more is known not about the successes in the affairs of her husband or the general company, but about the personal successes of “Irochka”.
There is also a second side to the coin; people can speak negatively about “Irochka”. Sometimes a husband can tell how bad she is, but at the same time remember her every half hour. We can say that this is a sincere attempt to protect himself from feelings for “Irochka”, or a deliberate deception - so that no suspicions arise.
Every woman should be wary of the fact when her husband meets, brings, takes, and meets “Irochka” outside of working hours. Fears can be in vain only if the husband is a personal driver and this is his job. Although in this situation there may be suspicions.
Of course, you can justify your husband with his kindness and gallantry, but if the husband does not find time to go to the grocery store and do his household chores, then everything is clear. This is already a clear concern for another woman to the detriment of his own wife and family.
It is worth paying attention to constant SMS, private calls and correspondence on the Internet. Especially if the correspondence on social networks is under provocative pictures with subtle hints, or the correspondence contains gentle emoticons. In this case, you need to be wary.
It is especially alarming when meetings with “Irochka” take place to the detriment of the relationship with his wife. For a better understanding: for example, a cultural vacation was planned, but suddenly my husband needed to urgently leave for work, urgently meet and discuss some matters.
It would seem that everything is elementary - possible! Determining whether a man is in love in an open relationship can be simple. But there is a more complex option - closed relationships.
Signs of closed love
In order to understand and guess about hidden love, you need to show spy qualities and awaken the Sherlock Holmes in yourself. The husband will not say a word about any woman, will not show his feelings.
The most important sign is a change in the husband, from his mood to his appearance. Falling in love changes not only a woman, giving her wings, but also men. The saddest thing is that the husband begins to gradually move away, he loses interest in communication, sex, and solving family difficulties.
If there is a hidden relationship, all men try to hide their means of communication, the phone is always with them, social networks are “password-protected,” and even when going to the toilet, correspondence is hidden. The husband’s mood is high, even despite the overtime work and frequent business trips, which the husband is going on as if on a date.
Sooner or later, if a man has another love, there comes a lull in his sex life. At first, excuses: tired at work, something hurts, etc., seemingly little things in life, happen to everyone. But gradually sex generally fades into the background and the husband can speak and openly express his reluctance.
Against this background, reproaches are added, and seemingly harmless ones, for washing dishes not clockwise, for under-salted or over-salted soup, with the obligatory “prefix” like this always, for pink toilet paper and other “delights.”
These points indicate not only that the husband is in love, but also that the previous relationship, and the very concept of family, is going to hell. So what to do? And what is the plan of action?
My husband loves someone else: what to do?
The most practical advice is, is it necessary to return love? Will a woman be able to survive betrayal and not once reproach her? Or is the purpose of forgiving the betrayal of love for another hidden in the possibility of constant reproaches? If so, then it's not worth it!
In order to understand whether a man is needed, you need to think about how life will change without him? You need to be honest with yourself and put aside the financial side of the issue, and analyze only from the position of feelings, think carefully about betrayal, and is complete forgiveness acceptable?
If parting is acceptable, and those relationships, oppression, and simply indifference turned out to be the last, decisive straw, then you can safely cut the ropes. And go on a free voyage. But if it is not possible to breathe without your beloved husband, then you will have to work hard and fight to the bitter end.
In the fight to return your husband’s love, you need to start not with calling your rival and sorting out the relationship, but with yourself, and initially you need to work on your wounded pride and self-esteem.
What is the main thing in building self-esteem and self-esteem? No, not knowing all the poems of A.S. Pushkin, and quoting Goethe, and, first of all, appearance. Approaching the mirror, you need to evaluate yourself, not the extra centimeters on your waist, but find in yourself those virtues and advantages that have faded for various reasons. By collecting all your advantages in a heap, you thereby obtain a “weapon” that will help return a man’s love. The most important advantage of a woman is that it was her man who took her to the registry office and legitimized the relationship.
Changing your wardrobe, changing your hairstyle, radically dyeing your hair, and buying stylish accessories can greatly improve your self-esteem. Moreover, changing the image has a double benefit, as they say - we combine business with pleasure. The wife's self-esteem and sense of self increase, the husband sees in front of him that beautiful woman whom he once led down the aisle.
Changing mood and behavior is also a weapon that must be used. How to hide sleepless nights with tears in your pillow? Good makeup and a constant smile. Of course, it's hard to smile when you've been betrayed. But who said it would be easy?
Returning lost love: instructions for use.
Quite often, men mistake falling in love and all the charm of the bouquet and candy period for love. But the real feeling with my wife, which had been tested over the years, crashed against the rocks of living together. In the arms of another woman, with whom there was simply no time to start arguing or face any problems - good. How else? All new relationships are wonderful and seem to last forever.
But in reality this is a mirage. And psychologists advise letting go for a while, don’t hold on to it. Let the husband plunge into this relationship. Let him evaluate the housekeeping of another woman. Many men find it difficult to get used to other arrangements if for many years their socks have been on the third shelf on the left, but for their new “love” they are at the very bottom, in the chest of drawers. Sooner or later this will become the subject of, perhaps not a scandal, but definitely a conversation.
And once again, when the unfaithful husband comes home, he sees the already familiar order, the smell of his favorite dishes, this will make him think. Even if he left immediately, there is no need to cry and scream after him. On the contrary, this is an excellent sign – the ice has broken. The next time the husband returns home for something, he will remember the smell of his home, its structure and way of life, which was built together over the years. He will remember his wife, whom, by the way, he did not hide from prying eyes, whom he was proud of and boasted about to his friends. Memories of past comfort, stability, old pleasant memories will make you think about whether this is love?
The most important task of a woman is not to throw tantrums, but to let go for a while. Lack of drive, adrenaline, fear of being exposed greatly affects the acuity of feelings. And they give a man the opportunity to understand, is this love? All romance and imaginary love may slowly but surely disappear.
And one day the door will open, and the faithful will stand on the threshold, asking to be accepted back into the family. But don't think that this is a victory. Everything is just beginning. You can’t bring down your anger on your husband, shouting: “Well, have you had enough? “Irochka” turned out to be bad... Did you under-salt the borscht?” From such scandals and mutual reproaches, a man may doubt the correctness of his choice.
The husband has already made his choice, he returned, he realized that the family is better, and his arrival is nothing more than a request to be let back in, and, if possible, to start all over again.
Basic mistakes
The most common mistake many women make when faced with infidelity is hysterics. This happens on a whim, as a matter of course. Scandals, showdowns, tears, threats, sometimes even fights - these are situations that are typical in 90% of cases.
This situation “has remained at the genetic level” since the times of socialism. When a walking man was disgraced at a general meeting at work. And under pain of dismissal and surrendering my membership card, I had to return to my family. The main thing is done - the husband is in the family, but by what methods and with what consequences?
Today the situation is the same, only instead of the boss, friends are used, to whom all the dirty linen is turned out, all the family secrets are told. Many women resort to blackmail, any of them – with their children, with their own lives. It’s not for nothing that they say that you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t force him to drink. Worth thinking about!
Therefore, in order for a man to fully return home, not only with his body, under the pressure of circumstances, but also with his soul, it is necessary to use feminine tricks. Female affection should be turned on at full capacity, because in most cases this is what the man was looking for on the side. And don't be afraid to look stupid.
Perhaps the man on the side was looking to share his own interests, therefore, you can begin to delve into his hobby, perhaps even doing it together. All topics discussed with your husband should be carefully chosen. Ideally, in this area, a man should be the strongest and have a better understanding than his wife. Men love to feel smarter and more important. He is the protector - the head of the family.
Before you try to return your beloved husband to the family, you need to realize that the old relationship is in the past. They are over. We need to build a new relationship, in any case, even if the husband is the same.
In building a new relationship with your old husband, you need to lock all your grievances in a dark closet and hang a barn lock. New relationships should begin with a light heart. A woman should always remain a woman, and this is not necessary for someone, but for a woman.
You need to be gentle, purposeful, to be the kind of woman that more than one man will not miss. And even after getting married, you should not give in and relax - this is necessary, first of all, for the woman herself. Once this simple truth gets into your head, no man will allow a relationship on the side.
