A very bad trend has emerged in society: women have begun to drink more. Not only in Russia, not only among the marginalized. Female alcoholism is becoming a serious global problem.
According to statistics, the number of Russian women addicted to alcohol has grown over the past few years from 11.3% to 15.8%.
Scandinavians and Americans believe that the number of victims of female alcoholism in their countries is at least 30%, the British call a terrible figure of 50%.
In fact, there are much more women who drink than official statistics show: it is difficult for a woman to admit that she has such a problem.
Every year, female alcoholism is rapidly becoming younger. If during my childhood older ladies drank too much, today 82% of Russian women who regularly drink alcohol have not reached the age of thirty.
Just think about it: today in Russia only 18% of women with problems with alcohol are over 30 years old. Everyone else is younger.
Take a look at these numbers. Let these percentages pass through yourself. Be horrified.
Even 30 years ago, the women who drank alcohol every day were the overwhelming majority of degenerate ones: eternal prisoners, prostitutes and other near-criminal unemployed riffraff.
Today, women have problems with alcohol; looking at them, you wouldn’t think that they have a hangover in the morning.
They work, take care of their appearance - often, in order to hide the problem, they do it even harder than non-drinking women - but at some point they come to the point that not a single evening is complete without alcohol. First, a glass of wine becomes the daily norm, then two, then a bottle or more.
“The limit comes when you can’t get up and go to work in the morning. And therefore there are a lot of excuses, that this hurts, this hurts... But colleagues are just starting to guess. Because it is common for many alcoholics that outwardly they look like quite respectable people: you will meet him and you won’t be able to tell that he drinks; in principle, these are people who do not stand out from the crowd. Those who are already degraded stand out from the crowd. And when a person has not degenerated, only those close to you can see that not everything is okay with you,” - from the revelations of a woman who suffered from alcohol addiction.
We do not know her name and will never know. She shared her story in a book by clinical psychologist Yuri Sorokin, who helped her recover from alcohol addiction. The book is called “Is it easy to stop drinking.”
“My daughter tried to do everything: she took pictures of me at the moment when there were binges. And when I came out of this state, I looked and thought - is it really me?
It was terrible! But I looked at it with sober eyes and, of course, said to myself: no, this will never happen again, that’s it! But it was enough to knock over a hundred grams, and it all started again. Everything started to wear off, but it seemed to me that I looked normal and everything was fine. From the outside you already catch a sidelong glance and feel: something is wrong. Some people, especially those who didn’t know, somehow didn’t realize that there was something wrong with me. Well, I seem to have such a respectable appearance, I’m expressing some thoughts... But I felt: something was wrong. And you resort to all sorts of tricks...” says the woman.
It is precisely these very “tricks” that become, as it seems to me, the very trap into which a woman addicted to alcohol falls.
The man drinks openly. He can fall out of a taxi drunk at night in front of his neighbors, and the next morning none of them will even remember it. A man can breathe fumes on his colleagues in the elevator - they will only laugh at him. A man can easily explain his rumpled appearance by saying that he has been drinking since his mistress left for someone else. If his friends feel that he is going too far, they will tell him: “Hare, old man. Stop it." And they will do everything to help you get started: they will take you on a hike, introduce you to a new girl, invite you to a sports club to box.
If a woman falls out of a taxi drunk, the neighbors will have something to talk about for a whole week. If a woman blows her fumes at her colleagues a couple of times, she will be firmly labeled as a drunkard. Knowing this, the woman tries her best to hide the fact that she abuses alcohol.
No matter how much the hangover torments her, before going out in public, a woman will definitely put herself in order: take a shower, style her hair, apply makeup, sanitize her mouth, use other “tricks” known to her alone, so that no one would think, so that no one would I believed that the day before she had gotten so drunk that she didn’t even remember how she fell asleep.
The man doesn’t know these “tricks,” so his alcohol abuse quickly marks his appearance with swelling, fumes, and three-day stubble. Seeing these “prints”, those around him can “catch” a man, stop him in time, and help him come to his senses.
A drinking woman carefully ensures that alcohol does not leave imprints on her face. As a result, when they still remain and become obvious to others and to herself, it becomes difficult to help the woman: she is stuck in an alcohol problem up to her eyebrows.
It's difficult, but it's possible. So says Yuri Sorokin, who has been involved in the rehabilitation of alcohol and drug addicts for more than 25 years.
“All drinkers have moments when they want to “stop,” but, unfortunately, they are very short in time. However, if it is at such a moment that a person seeks help, his chances of being able to return to a sober life increase many times over,” - - writes Sorokin.
The question is who to turn to. Where should a woman go who feels like she’s drowning in a glass of booze, wants to swim out, but can’t do it on her own?
There is a center for the treatment of female alcoholism in Moscow. It's called Discovery. It was created on the basis of the famous “Yuri Sorokin Medical Center”.
In this center, Yuri Stepanovich with a team of professionals - narcologists, psychologists, neurologists, therapists, cardiologists - helps women in trouble.
The center's motto: “Women's alcoholism can be cured!”
Sorokin not only believes, but also proves in practice that the incurability of “female alcoholism” is a myth. The myth is harmful. A myth that becomes another obstacle to a woman’s recovery from alcohol addiction.
Drinking women think that since they can no longer be helped, there is no point in trying, that alcohol is now their companion forever.
This is wrong. This is far from true.
Sorokin is sure: alcohol addiction is the same: both in men and in women. It’s just more difficult for a woman to admit that she has an alcohol addiction and, as a result, begin to get rid of it. Women often develop this problem, but this does not mean that it cannot be solved.
“I didn’t want to see anyone, because somewhere in the subconscious there was some kind of anger or envy: others are fine, they can drink, get up and go to work the next day, but that didn’t work out for me! I just wanted to isolate myself, leave, close myself off from everything, hide. Like an ostrich, bury yourself in the sand...,” writes one of Sorokin’s patients.
She was lucky: she came to his center and is now healthy.
What is the Otkritie Center?
Firstly, this is a place where specialists help exclusively women, knowing about all the subtleties and features of female alcoholism.
Secondly, the center is completely different from a hospital overcrowded with patients, where you risk running into acquaintances or getting lost among others in need of help.
“Otkritie” is more reminiscent of a sanatorium or mini-resort hotel.
Strangers don't come here. The center is designed for only seven people. You can stay in one of four cozy single rooms.
If you cannot stand loneliness, you can share a spacious triple room with two neighbors. The Center feels cozy and homely:
Clients of the Center are guaranteed complete confidentiality. You can even get treatment under your last name. Journalists, paparazzi and other “curious Barbarians” are prohibited from entering Otkritie. The territory is guarded around the clock around the perimeter.
The Center also offers the possibility of undergoing treatment in separate comfortable apartments located outside the perimeter of the clinic. In this case, any possibility of contact with unauthorized persons is excluded. This opportunity is used mainly by “media persons”.
In general, don’t drown the problem in wine.
Alcoholism in the family is always a tragedy. And for women it’s doubly woeful. After all, a woman is a mother by nature and is called upon to take care of the family hearth. If a wife drinks, this threatens the breakdown of the family, and it is very difficult for loved ones all the time. Unfortunately, according to statistics, more and more representatives of the fair sex are drawn into alcohol addiction, regardless of their social status. How to help a loved one, are there effective ways against female alcoholism? Why did this problem arise? What should the husband do in this case? There are answers to these questions.
When to start sounding the alarm
Unlike men, ladies go into the stage of deep drinking much more quickly. If the husband manages to see the first signs of addiction and take action, then there is a much greater chance of “pulling the dying woman” out of this swamp. Sometimes loved ones do not notice the seriousness of what is happening. It usually starts with get-togethers with girlfriends and friends, then the frequency of such meetings gradually increases, and soon, she no longer needs company, she drinks alone and every day. And the husband realizes that his wife is an alcoholic even when she is seriously ill. But you can’t call it anything other than a disease. How not to miss this line?
Signs that the wife drinks and is already dependent:
- The woman becomes irritable, even aggressive.
- Stops spending time on family and household chores.
- She becomes sloppy and doesn’t take care of herself.
- Swelling appears on the face, dark circles under the eyes.
- May be absent from home for a long time.
- Starts to have a hangover in the morning.
- May drink alone at home.
If you notice several of these signs, it’s time to sound the alarm and take action. But before you answer the question of how to force your wife to stop drinking, how to cure her, find out what not to do. What mistakes should you not make to help a loved one in such trouble?
What not to do
- Don't blame your spouse; most likely, she is aware of her problem, but is unable to stop herself.
- Do not threaten forced treatment. According to statistics, it is mainly those who voluntarily go to the clinic who are completely freed from alcohol addiction.
- Don't try to protect her from alcohol by depriving her of money or the opportunity to go out. This will only lead to worse results. Nothing stops those who are highly dependent; they will find a way to do their job in any situation.
- Don’t give up, there is always a chance to fix everything and help a person get out of trouble.
How to be
To know how to stop your wife from drinking, you need to understand why she started doing it. These things don't happen in a vacuum. The reasons may be on the surface or deeply hidden, and the husband’s task is to try to find them. Here it is important to have patience and not neglect attempts to have an open conversation with your betrothed. Find out what really bothers her, what wounds, worries, grievances or fears she hides behind a glass.
Contrary to the belief that it is mainly poor, dysfunctional families who start “using”, this is far from the case. Rich and successful people and those who seem to have a strong, friendly family often become drunkards. The insides of the human soul can be very different from the way of life he created, so the reason must be sought precisely in the psychological aspect.
Causes of female alcoholism
An alcoholic wife may in fact simply be a severely traumatized person whose psyche could not withstand stress, a negative situation, or emotional pain. Among the most common causes of this disease are the following:
- Previously suffered loss (death of a child, less often a relative).
- Unfulfillment in the work sphere, loss of oneself as a specialist, a sought-after employee.
- Mental loneliness (there is no emotional and spiritual intimacy between spouses, so the wife drinks).
- Frequent quarrels in the family, the woman feels pressure and humiliation.
- Boredom (usually happens in families where the husband earns well and insists that his “half” stay at home).
- Lack of understanding and mutual support in the family.
- Excessive stress (a difficult job or a large family where everything rests on fragile shoulders).
- Weak character, susceptibility to influence (here friends or company can drag you into drinking alcohol).
- Severe sudden stress (I found out about my husband’s infidelity, lost my job, etc.).
- Feeling of hopelessness, doom, lack of self-confidence.
- Predisposition to depression, tendency to dramatize everything.
- Heredity.
- Alcoholism of someone close to you.
Treatment options
Undoubtedly, the husband should talk with his wife and try to find out the reasons why she became addicted to the glass. To know how to get your wife to stop drinking, you need to find out what positive experiences alcohol gives her. What is drowned out by alcohol vapors. Doing this on your own can be difficult. A person can repress some traumas into the unconscious and with consciousness he will no longer perceive them as a problem. Therefore, some cannot accurately articulate what makes them do such things. Here the best solution is to consult a psychologist.
The most effective way to cure a person from drunkenness is to combine medication and psychotherapy. If the wife of an alcoholic does not admit the problem and refuses to go to the clinic, first try to just be around more often. Chat, show concern. Offer to see a psychologist, motivating her that the doctor will help resolve problems between you (they undoubtedly exist; people don’t drink when the relationship is ideal). Knowing that the husband is also trying to correct mistakes, the wife will most likely agree to a visit to a specialist.
A psychologist can quickly and efficiently lead the unfortunate person to drug treatment. As a result of these two therapies, a person can be cured within 2-3 months. In addition, the psychotherapist will help not only solve the addict’s problem, but also find within himself the incentive not to resort to this method of “escaping reality” anymore. Having worked through internal traumas, you can forever get rid of cravings for alcohol and drugs.
Self help
If, nevertheless, the alcoholic wife flatly refuses to visit doctors, even a psychologist, then it is useless to force her there, the result will be minimal and the woman will soon relapse again.
In this case, try the following:
- Give your wife a nice dinner and don’t forbid her to drink a little. Have a heart-to-heart talk, try to get her to reveal her pain to you and voice her experiences. Under the influence of alcohol, she can tell more than she can say when sober. Listen carefully and try to understand. Perhaps by giving her what she is missing, you can greatly help your spouse.
- Spend time with your family, be together more often, walk in parks, theaters, wherever, most importantly, together. But it’s better to avoid cafes and restaurants in such a situation. Don't skimp on entertainment. Organize a romantic vacation trip or invite your partner on a date and make a pleasant surprise.
- If you have children, remind your spouse more often that she is needed as a mother and that only with her attention and care can they grow up happy.
- Try to “slip” her some useful literature. Not about how to get rid of alcoholism, but how to find yourself. There are many useful positive psychology manuals on this subject that can help you independently work through your problems and traumas and begin to look at the world differently.
- Try to protect your spouse from communicating with those with whom she drinks.
- Prove to your wife that you are not ashamed of her illness and support her in everything, especially in treatment.
It is important to understand that representatives of beauty themselves are very vulnerable and sensitive, although today it is fashionable to hide these natural qualities under the steel mask of “iron ladies”. What may seem trivial to a man can be a real shock to a woman. With the help of the “green serpent” a person always makes up for something that he cannot receive. More precisely, it drowns out the pain felt from the lack of something in this life. There are no other reasons.
Even genetic disposition acts completely differently here - it does not form a direct craving for alcohol, but precisely this way of solving problems. That is, if a girl grew up in a family where the mother drank, say, out of loneliness, because the husband was at work all the time, then, having found herself in the same situation, the daughter will also start drinking, because this is precisely the behavior she adopted from her mother. And the most effective thing that can be done to treat a drinking wife is to understand her, help her understand herself and find a solution together.
There is a myth that if a wife is an alcoholic, then she cannot be saved, but this is not true. Female addiction can be treated, but it is just much more difficult to cope with due to some physiological and psychological characteristics, which we will discuss further.
To start drinking, a woman does not have to be homeless or a prostitute. Often, a seemingly successful woman with a good job, a spouse and children turns out to be dependent on alcohol.
Understanding her personal problems is the first step in helping your wife quit drinking. You need to look for them in the structural features of her body and soul.
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Physical and psychological causes of female alcoholism
Physical alcohol independence is always coupled with psychological independence. Women are more emotional than men and experience life’s adversities more seriously.
In drinking, they look for a way to relax and have fun, while alcohol dependence occurs much faster than in men. The answer to the question why wives drink must be sought in physiological characteristics:
- Women have less muscle mass, which means they get drunk more;
- due to the lower concentration of water in the body, the concentration of alcohol is higher;
- hormonal characteristics of organisms lead to rapid absorption of ethanol;
- women need a smaller dose of alcohol, and hence the illusion of its safe use.
The fact that a wife drinks every day and does not seek help is caused not only by physiological, but also by psychological factors.
Condemnation and hostility towards drinking girls, increased stress characteristic of the weaker sex and the search for a way to relieve it slowly but surely lead a woman to alcohol abuse.
Psychologists identify 10 reasons why women drink alcohol
- lack of support from loved ones during life's troubles;
- loneliness and depression, a woman does not know how to live and what to do; death of a loved one;
- a drinking wife may appear in the family due to boredom;
- because of the feeling of resentment and fear of the future, the ex-wife, and now a lonely girl, often drinks;
- the onset of menopause;
- heredity;
- the formation of alcohol addiction is greatly influenced by bad company;
- having a husband suffering from alcoholism;
- insomnia and depletion of vitality.
All this can break a girl and make her reach for the bottle. But it is important to understand that alcoholism does not occur overnight. At first, the wife drinks champagne in the kitchen with her friends, smokes and discusses the latest fashion news.
After just six months, her husband may notice that she began to drink a lot alone, does not work, behaves like a hysteric, forgets about the children, goes out or does not spend the night at home. If a wife starts drinking and begins to bring problems to the family, she is sick and requires help.
Often a woman does not share her experiences with her husband. The husband is constantly at work, the children are at school, and boredom and everyday life gradually fill a woman’s life, and she is looking for a way to decorate it. When a wife drinks every day, she stops taking care of herself and becomes unrestrained towards her loved ones. This may seem like a hopeless situation, but psychologists know how to solve the problem.
The reasons for female drunkenness may be different, but there is one algorithm for what to do if a wife becomes an alcoholic. In this case, you need to act in this order:
Understand the reason for your loved one’s drunkenness and eliminate it. Try to talk seriously and, most importantly, without judgment with your spouse, find out why she is upset or depressed. If you are having trouble having a constructive conversation, suggest visiting a psychologist.
2. If your wife drinks beer every day and does not see a problem in this and reacts aggressively to attempts to help, try threatening her with divorce and deprivation of parental rights. Most often this works. However, this method can be used as a last resort and only once. If you constantly threaten this, the patient will quickly understand that they are simply trying to scare her.
3. Only when the spouse herself has realized the existence of a problem and admitted her inability to solve it on her own, can treatment begin. Either on your own, or with the help of a narcologist and a specialized clinic. Read about home and clinical methods of treating alcoholism in the article about.
4. In parallel with treatment with medications or folk remedies, you need to find some interesting activity for the woman that she could switch to. Positive emotions are what a person lacks; this is what he looks for in alcohol. Relaxing with your family in nature, doing handicrafts, cooking, and learning something new always brings pleasure. A husband can help his drinking wife by enrolling her in courses or offering her a trip out of town.
Women's chronic alcoholism is less treatable, but binge drinking can be done less frequently if you follow simple rules. The main thing is to remove all alcohol from the house and morally support your spouse not only with kind words, but also with deeds. Agree, it is wrong if a woman sips orange juice, and her husband constantly drinks beer, thinking about the dangers of alcohol.
The solution to their situation and the answer to the question of how to help his wife is clear - you need to stop drinking alcohol together with her and find an interesting activity for two.
What a husband should do with a drinking wife who has just quit drinking is to prevent her from drinking again. You can switch to home renovations or schedule a tour. Unwinding and getting new impressions is exactly what a woman needs to get joyful emotions.
The saying says that an alcoholic wife is a grief in the family and this is true. However, believe me, if the spouse can withstand the fatigue of a drunkard’s wife, goes to the end and helps overcome the illness, then in the future this family will withstand any everyday adversity.
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Alcoholism is a serious disease. Many families are breaking up due to addiction. It takes men a long time to become alcoholics, which cannot be said about women who drink. Their alcoholic drinks are consumed much faster. And then, it is much more problematic for ladies to give up a bad habit than for men. What is female alcoholism, what are its causes and how is the disease treated? This will be discussed in this article.
Features of female alcoholism
It is not always possible for a woman who drinks to give up the bad habit on her own. What is the reason? Women are physically weaker than the stronger sex. The liver and other internal organs of women are smaller than those of men. As a result, the pancreas cannot withstand heavy loads and is not able to metabolize large doses of alcoholic beverages.
In the female stomach, ethyl alcohol is contained in higher concentrations than in the male stomach. The reason is that women have 10 percent less water in their bodies. Another factor is a certain enzyme that is responsible for cleansing. It is present only in the male body, it is not present in the female body. As a result, women become addicted to alcohol much more often and faster.
First, alcohol is drunk secretly from others. Unlike men, women are harshly condemned by society for their addiction to alcohol. That's why ladies prefer to drink without anyone seeing it. For this reason, female alcoholism is revealed already in the final stages, when the opinion of her husband and children around her no longer matters to the woman.
Over time, alcohol becomes your only “friend.” The more women are accused of alcoholism, the more they inflame their desire to calm their nerves with wine again. Wanting to avoid this, they again plunge into the ghostly world. The next morning a hangover begins, which, again, women tolerate much worse than men. Even though ladies claim that they are strong and can handle their addiction without support, it is still very important.
It must be remembered that women are much more emotional than men. Therefore, the fair sex takes all problems, disappointments and troubles much closer to their hearts. At these moments, men need to be more attentive to women. Then there is a chance to avoid harmful consequences. Otherwise, the woman begins to seek salvation in alcohol. If she really gets a release from him, then over time this can turn into a bad habit.
Harm from alcohol to the female body
Can a woman drink alcohol? If in small quantities and infrequently, then there will be no harm from alcohol. Especially from light alcoholic drinks. But with regular consumption (and even more so in significant doses) of alcohol, serious consequences can occur.
The timbre of the lady's voice changes to rough, hoarse, close to a man's. A woman begins to produce male hormones. As a result, a mustache begins to grow. Since alcohol contains many calories, the body quickly gains excess weight. The lady's appearance deteriorates. Women who drink and smoke are distinguished by yellowish skin, brittle nail plates, and sloppiness. Hair suffers greatly from alcohol and cigarettes and begins to thin out quickly.
In women, the hormonal cycle is disrupted, resulting in early menopause. Conception becomes difficult. Alcoholism can lead to infertility. A pregnant woman who drinks risks harming her fetus. Alcohol can cause miscarriage. If you continue to drink alcohol after childbirth, during breastfeeding, then the baby’s health is at risk.
In women who drink, the functioning of internal organs is disrupted, chronic diseases develop, and intelligence and memory decrease. Alcohol has a strong effect on the nervous system and brain. In women they are more vulnerable and sensitive than in men. Long-term alcohol consumption can lead to frigidity.
The emotional background also changes. Alcoholic women become irritable and nervous. Any negative little thing can easily lead to a scandal in the family. Children often suffer from this. In the latter case, the maternal instinct may disappear.
Causes of female alcoholism
There can be many reasons why women drink. Most often these are problems at work, at home, or an unsettled personal life. Alcoholism often occurs due to loneliness. The craving for alcohol appears against the background of difficult life trials or grief. There are other reasons:
- dysfunctional company;
- alcoholic husband;
- bad heredity;
- frequent attacks of insomnia;
- single-parent family;
- menopause period;
- temperament;
- boredom;
- divorce;
- depression;
- separation from a loved one;
- yearning.
The craving for alcohol can arise against the background of scandals with children or husband, when misunderstanding arises. Ladies can drink out of hopelessness, despair, a feeling of inner emptiness, and unfulfilled potential in life. There are many options why women drink. Often they are unable to overcome physiological, everyday and social factors alone.
Why do women find it difficult to give up alcohol?
Society has already become accustomed to drunken representatives of the stronger sex. But when a woman drinks, it is perceived as a blatant disgrace, a shame. Instead of help, she immediately receives condemnation, insults and contempt from others, acquaintances, and even close people. As a result, the woman's hand reaches for the bottle again. Although, to stop incipient alcoholism, sometimes it is enough to simply listen, understand and provide moral support.
Stages of alcoholism
A drinking woman in most cases does not admit her dependence on alcohol. It seems to her that she can give up the addiction at any time. But that's not true. Alcohol relaxes, and you lose control over your own actions and actions. Then comes an uncontrollable craving for alcohol. Female alcoholism has several stages:
- The first begins in youth. Most girls spend it in noisy companies, with wine and strong drinks.
- Then comes the second stage - youth. At this time, women have not yet decided on their limit, beyond which the loss of awareness of actions begins. Therefore, as an experiment, different types of alcohol and different doses are tried.
- Alcohol consumption begins in the workplace. Meetings with friends are not complete without alcohol. Often women begin to increasingly
- Alcohol becomes a daily habit.
- A woman starts drinking every day and cannot stop. The dosage of alcohol is gradually increased.
- A persistent dependence on alcohol appears. The disease is completely formed.
In the early stages, until alcohol becomes a daily habit and need, a woman can overcome her dependence on alcohol on her own. If she cannot cope alone, then the help of others is important, but not their condemnation. But if alcoholism is an already formed disease, in this case it is very difficult for a woman to get rid of the addiction on her own. In this case, the help of a narcologist and psychologist is required.
What should a man do if his wife starts drinking?
If a woman drinks, what should her spouse or children do? First of all, you need to remember that alcoholism is a consequence, so it is necessary to find the cause of addiction to alcohol. If this negative factor is eliminated or helped to cope with it, the woman herself will be able to give up alcohol.
If the spouse (mother) does not agree to a frank conversation, her friends or acquaintances are asked. When a woman drinks every day, a man needs to talk with her about her appearance and how alcohol affects her. Sometimes this is a compelling argument for a spouse to give up alcohol. What else can you do:
- Try not to have parties at home and avoid feasting at a party.
- Persuade a woman to sign up and go to Alcoholics Anonymous.
- Try not to drink alcohol in the presence of your spouse. There is an opinion that in this way a person minimizes the alcoholic drinks his drinking buddy drinks. But that's not true. Firstly, alcoholics often need company, and the wife will only be happy for her husband to join her. Secondly, alcohol will run out faster, which means a woman will buy it in large quantities. Drinking drinks together can lead to mass alcoholism in the family. Children sometimes join in the feast.
- When a woman drinks, you cannot make scandals and assault her. This will only give her another reason to drink the bottle. The woman will try once again to “drown her sorrows in wine.”
- You can’t blame her for alcohol addiction. It is necessary to find the reason why she drinks and invite her to cope with the problem together.
It is impossible to force a woman to give up alcohol until she herself expresses such a desire. A man can only make every effort to ensure that his wife wants to voluntarily get rid of the addiction. Children are often a big motivator. Not every woman can withstand their tearful pleas.
Beer alcoholism
Beer alcoholism is a separate type of disease. Women who drink beer are sure that it is not addictive, since it is a low-alcohol drink and there is no harm to the body. But this is a misleading opinion. If you drink beer occasionally (no more than once a week), it will not harm your health. But this is an insidious drink that quickly becomes addictive.
Mostly timid and shy women who have any problems become addicted to beer. Among strong-willed ladies there are practically no alcoholics of this type. Initial signs of beer alcoholism:
- drink more than a liter of drink per day;
- It’s impossible to rest and relax without beer;
- a woman, until she drinks alcohol, feels angry and irritated;
- morning headaches appear that go away after drinking beer;
- Without this drink, a restful and sound sleep becomes impossible.
Gradually, the woman falls into a beer addiction, but cannot appreciate its depth. The lady's appearance changes for the worse, wrinkles appear, and the skin ages. Puffiness is observed on the face and body. The legs, on the contrary, become very thin. Lips acquire a bluish tint. The face begins to swell. Hair growth may begin above the lips and on the chest.
Drinks containing a small dose of alcohol do not lead to severe intoxication. Therefore, no one considers himself an alcoholic, even if a woman drinks beer every day. What to do in this case? To treat anyone, standard methods and drugs are used. Patients observe the fastest effect after visiting drug treatment clinics.
Treatment of alcoholism
Photos of women drinking look repulsive. Many ladies, realizing that they have become dependent on alcohol, begin treatment. But in most cases, no alcoholic will agree with such a diagnosis. If a person cannot stop on his own, he is sent to a drug treatment clinic for treatment.
But often the husband and children cannot persuade the woman to go to this institution. In this case, the help of a psychotherapist is necessary. He will be able to do what his family and friends failed to do - persuade him to agree to treatment in a special clinic or drug treatment center. Getting rid of addiction begins with finding and eliminating the causes that led to this disease.
An effective method is a blockade, during which a drug is introduced into the body that causes nausea and vomiting every time the alcoholic tries to take a sip of alcohol. The method is valid for a certain period. But during this time, the patient already gets the opportunity to compare and benefit from his sober state. Therefore, repeated blockade is rarely required.
It is impossible to place an alcoholic in a drug treatment center or clinic without his consent. In this case, treatment takes place at home. To make it easier to break out of binge drinking, the drugs Medichronal and Alkazeltser are prescribed. The products are quite expensive, but there are no domestically produced analogues yet.
To reduce cravings for alcohol, Proproten-100 is prescribed. This is a domestically produced drug that partially relieves dependence on alcohol. In rare cases, the medicine completely relieves alcoholism. There are foreign analogues of Proproten-100, but they are not yet imported to Russia.
There are certain drugs that create intolerance to alcohol - “Esperal”, “Tetauram”, “Lidevin”. When taken simultaneously with alcoholic drinks, a person experiences nausea, vomiting, and headache. There is a rapid heartbeat. With the help of such drugs, a blockade is made.
Sequence of actions for home treatment of alcoholism
If a woman drinks and her husband managed to persuade her to give up the addiction, his help will be needed. In this case, hospitalization is not necessary. But rehabilitation will take a long time. All drinks containing alcohol are removed from the house. It cannot be bought at the request of the wife.
Her husband should not keep her company. Visiting people should be avoided. For the wife, the husband creates a period of complete isolation from others. It is necessary to temporarily refuse any guests who may come with alcoholic beverages. The rooms are ventilated daily. The brain cells must constantly receive fresh air.
During the period of treatment for alcoholism, a woman should not experience stress, shock, or any negative emotions. All domestic scandals are prohibited. At the same time, the narcologist prescribes the necessary medications and additional folk remedies.
Can a woman drink wine?
Even if a woman drinks only wine, this does not mean that she will not become an alcoholic. In the initial stage, most ladies are confident that a glass of light alcohol-containing drink will not cause a bad habit. But this is a mistaken opinion. Indeed, many women drink only wine or liqueurs. For those who know how to stop in time and drink drinks only periodically and infrequently, it is safe. But such ladies are still at risk.
A woman can drink 200-400 ml of wine per day for dinner. After a few years, there is a desire to drink the drink during the lunch break. Over time, the desire to drink a little appears in the morning. This is justified by a hangover. After drinking, the woman feels better. Attacks of insomnia appear, and the lady pours wine at night “for a good sleep.” This morning hangover is the first sign of alcoholism.
Then alcohol begins to occupy an increasing place in a woman’s life. She becomes indifferent to others, even close people. At the very least, she can no longer work without a bottle of wine. Health problems begin. A woman loses her attractiveness and her body rapidly ages. First of all, this is reflected on the face.
Women can drink small amounts of alcohol if they stop in time. A glass of wine, a couple of glasses of vodka or 100 grams of cognac will not harm your health if you drink it infrequently. At the first signs of craving for alcoholic beverages, a woman needs to sharply limit her alcohol consumption. If she is not going to give up wine completely, then at a minimum it is necessary to interrupt its use for some time.
Treatment in clinics
A woman who drinks wine daily and in large quantities, who is already “attached” to alcohol, is diagnosed as an “alcoholic.” Despite the fact that she drinks light alcoholic drinks, the essence of the problem does not change. A woman becomes dependent on alcohol, and cannot cope with this habit on her own. Problems begin in the family, depression appears, and health deteriorates.
Treatment of alcoholics is successfully carried out in specialized clinics using a set of therapeutic measures. They include:
- drug treatment;
- cleansing the body poisoned by alcohol;
- psychological help.
During therapy, a woman learns to overcome cravings for alcohol. Psychologists help you understand that you can cope with life’s problems without alcoholic beverages. The effectiveness of therapy directly depends on the degree of a woman’s desire to get rid of cravings for alcohol. In this case, any methods of pressure or threats are completely excluded.
Traditional methods for alcoholism
How can a woman drink alcohol using traditional methods? There is an old and very effective remedy - green bugs. A tincture is made from them. Take 15-30 pieces of insects, which are filled with 500 ml of vodka. The liquid is infused for 2 to 3 days.
The tincture is then given to the alcoholic. To eliminate cravings for alcohol, 50 grams of the product is enough. The only problem is that finding and catching the right number of green bugs is very problematic.
Another original way is to give an alcoholic a dish of dung mushrooms. By themselves they are absolutely harmless. But when mushrooms are consumed simultaneously with alcohol, signs of poisoning appear. This effect will last for several days. This will help the woman at least get out of the binge.
There is no cure for alcohol addiction, but regular green tea can help significantly reduce it. Even a pregnant woman who drinks can use this method. But the method does not give quick results. A woman should drink at least 4 cups of the drink per day. After 1-2 months, the need for alcohol will decrease significantly.
Self Help Groups
On your own for a woman? There are self-help groups for this. Or a woman can join Alcoholics Anonymous. There are no addiction recovery specialists in self-help groups. In an anonymous society, group members simply receive the necessary moral support and motivation for sobriety.
Women alcoholics can talk to people who have already recovered or are on this path. After regularly visiting such groups and societies, patients are inspired by the examples of others. As a result, a woman has a desire to resist addiction.
The Alcoholics Anonymous program consists of twelve steps. Each of them is a recognition of a new problem, of which drinkers have many. Narcologists are skeptical about such societies. Nevertheless, many women and men were able to achieve stable results. But this sometimes takes years.
There is only one way to overcome an addiction to alcohol - to completely give up alcohol. But for this, the husband and children of a drinking woman will have to stock up on great patience and maintain boundless love for her. Only in this case will she understand how much her family and friends need her. Then the woman herself will try to get rid of alcoholism.
Alcoholic patient. If a woman experiences severe pressure on her psyche, an acute lack of love, mental discomfort, she will look for a way to relieve stress and relieve mental pain. If she is surrounded by love and attention, the desire for alcohol may weaken, or even disappear altogether. We must understand that women who drink are people with unstable psyches, so it is very important to create an environment around women that promotes a sober lifestyle and mental balance. And ideally, a loving man next to such a woman should be prepared for the fact that he will often have to play the role of her personal psychologist. But not many people are capable of this.
Every misfortune has a reason. A disease can be cured, first of all, by understanding the deep causes of its occurrence. Only then can we talk about healing.
The reasons leading to alcohol dependence in women are often complex and do not lie on the surface. This could be bad heredity, trauma experienced in youth, the death of a loved one, or psychological problems - self-doubt, jealousy, a feeling of inner loneliness.
In short, a person has many reasons for drinking. But some people drink, others don’t. So the main reason for female alcoholism is still weakness of character. All that a loving man can do for her is to protect her from breakdowns and make sure that the woman does not have the desire to get drunk. In other words, you need to try to traumatize her psyche as little as possible. And this is often not easy, since women prone to alcoholism themselves look for a reason to relapse, are provocateurs of conflicts, and subconsciously create a situation that can “justify” drinking alcohol.
The best way to combat a woman’s alcoholism is constant prevention. It is necessary to create conditions under which she cannot drink, even if she wants to. A man must remember that there should be no alcohol in the house in which a drinking woman lives. A woman prone to alcoholism should not even smell the smell of alcohol. He himself must give up alcohol. This is difficult to do, because the world around you, colleagues, friends - everything will provoke, tease, seduce. It takes enormous will and toughness to resolve such issues. Most likely, the problem couple will even have to lose most of their friendly contacts. Understanding friends will not even allow the thought that you can come into the house with a drink or even simply drunk. And those who don’t care what happens to a problematic couple simply shouldn’t come into the house. It’s worth thinking about whether “friendships” are necessary at all, thanks to which the life of a loving problem couple includes the following: health and psychological comfort.
Often the need for alcohol provokes aggressiveness. It is in almost every person. With the right approach, aggressiveness is processed in an effort to influence the world around us. Someone, like Adriano Celentano in the film "The Taming", chops wood - and someone draws pictures, hunts, devotes free time to activities related to the processing of excess adrenaline.
Excellently reduces internal aggression sex.
A loving man can remove his beloved woman’s dependence on alcohol in a radical way: for example, take a vacation at his own expense, take his beloved to a secluded place where there will be no opportunity to drink alcohol, and devote time to strengthening relationships, romance and sex. If the relationship of a problem couple is based on mutual attraction, on love, a woman with a weakness for alcohol will find it much more interesting to study the Kama Sutra with her beloved than to taste the most exquisite alcoholic drinks. As a rule, such a “vacation for two” puts internal psychological mechanisms in order and makes it possible for a woman to completely recover from alcohol addiction.
Please note
Love can perform miracles. A loving man should understand: a woman will not stop drinking until she wants it herself. It is important to create the prerequisites for her to want to do this herself. A strong lever for this can be a woman’s attachment to a man and the fear of losing him. True, this psychological mechanism works as long as a woman sees a man as an object of love and passion. When relationships are spoiled and come to naught, disappointment or hatred appears - you cannot do without the help of a good psychologist.
Useful advice
If for a woman prone to alcoholism it matters how others treat her, a home video can be an excellent way to bring her to her senses. A man with strong nerves can arrange such a shoot, and then show a woman what she looks like from the outside when she’s drunk. This lesson is cruel in its own way and requires a certain cynicism from a man. And its effect depends on how deeply rooted the “disease” is in the female psyche. Sometimes the shock caused by watching such a video is so strong that a woman can stop drinking. However, in cases where the disease is advanced, the video will not help, and the help of a professional narcologist and psychologist will be required.
