Our whole life consists of human relationships: family, work, social. But the deepest and most important for us are relationships with loved ones. Very often, discord, misunderstandings, and various changes in relationships occur between them. But what to do when you feel that the relationship has exhausted itself and is coming to an end? You no longer value this person as much as before, mutual understanding has disappeared between you, and you quarrel endlessly? How can you let go of each other correctly and painlessly for both of you?
Should we let each other go?
Of course, this is not easy to do; some kind of emptiness and disappointment always comes after a breakup. But if you look at this situation from the other side, you will see the experience, wisdom, knowledge that you have acquired through this relationship. This is the end of only a certain stage in your life, but not love. When you understand this and can accept it, then except for the feeling of gratitude towards this person, you will have nothing else left.
Absolutely, all the people who come into your life are not an accident, everyone has their own purpose, why they appeared in your life. They bring with them life lessons that you need to learn. This develops in you the qualities that you lack, thus you grow as a person, I am talking about evolutionary growth.
You were dear people to each other, experienced strong feelings, spent unforgettable moments of your life together. Of course, all this will remain in your memory, but it will be like a day gone by. And you will be sorry to leave or let the person out of your life. But life never stands still, it is constantly moving, changing, bringing changes and changes. Also your relationships, they will constantly change, enriched with new feelings and experiences. Don't be afraid to move on and let new people into your life again.
Nothing can last forever. You gave each other everything you could, you tried to maintain the relationship. But if you have exhausted each other, are tired of moving on together, or simply stopped loving, then it is better to let the person go. Most likely, you have reached the limit of your relationship; this cannot continue. You will feel when the relationship becomes an unbearable burden for you. Then let the person go, you don’t need to keep him near you. By doing this you will only hurt him, as he will see your indifference.
How to let go of a loved one?
Thank this person, because he unknowingly taught you something, gave you invaluable experience, his time, his feelings. And continue to live, there is no need to cling to what is already gone, learn to let go. You have changed thanks to this relationship, and new acquaintances and meetings are probably waiting for you.
If you still haven’t decided to take such a step, but are trying to mend a falling apart relationship, by doing this you are slowly killing each other. Apart from deep pain and disappointment in the relationship, it will bring you nothing more. Your relationship will lose value and reverence; it will turn into a sad, shared existence. Every day you and your partner will grow in hostility, irritation and claims towards each other. A series of quarrels, showdowns, a search for those responsible, and everything like that will follow. Believe me, the further you stretch such a relationship, the greater the likelihood that you will part as enemies, full of hatred for each other. This is mentally draining, takes so much of your energy that after breaking up, you are left lifeless and broken.
Relationships should bring you joy and happiness. You should glow with love, your eyes should glow, sparkle with happiness. When it's gone, is it worth continuing? Think about it, does this relationship bring me happiness, ease, joy?
And yet you stubbornly do not want to let this person go. Why?
It takes courage to stop a relationship. One of you should be the first to realize this and talk about it. But not every person is able to speak openly even with their partner. Then the game of silence begins, hidden grievances, endless quarrels over trifles. And real hell begins, when being together is not just impossible, but becomes real torture.
Sooner or later, your relationship will still come to an end, but in what way and what will it cost you? Most likely, after breaking up, you will be left with a baggage of claims against each other and unspoken grievances. Everyone will suffer from such a relationship. It will take you a lot of time and effort to recover from such a breakup.
Don't resist if you see your relationship floating towards the end. So this is how it should be, this is how it should happen. When this person leaves your life, just let him go, don't hold on to him.
The best ending to a breakup is to express gratitude to this person for everything he has done for you, for the moments of happiness and joy he has given you. Try to do it from the heart, sincerely. In this way, you will soften the pain of parting and the feeling of disappointment and resentment will go away.
Of course, at first, it will be difficult for you to move on without this person. But time heals any wounds. You will have a period when you can evaluate past relationships and learn lessons from them. And then you realize that any person leaving makes room for a new person to come. So, step by step, you are approaching the one who is destined for you in life.
Look at any ending as a great beginning of something new, joyful and happy!
“Some people consider persistence and holding on to something to be signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes a lot more will to know when to let go and then do it.”
- Ann Landers
When we let go of something or someone, it doesn't mean we no longer care about them. It just dawns on us that the only thing we can truly control is ourselves, right here, right now. It is a necessary process of adaptation to the ever-changing realities of life - leaving the past behind to make way for the present.
Here are 50 quotes from various articles that will help you let go and start living happily.
1. As we get older and wiser, we begin to understand what we need and what we need to leave behind. Sometimes leaving is a step forward.
2. You will never achieve what you are capable of if you are too attached to things that you need to let go of.
3. Sometimes something appears in our lives that should not linger. Sometimes unwanted changes are necessary changes for our growth.
4. Growth and change can sometimes be painful, but the most painful thing in life is staying out of place.
5. The hardest part of growing up is letting go of what you're used to and moving on with something new.
6. Accept what is, let go of what was, and believe in what can be.
7. Don't be afraid of change. There is a reason for everything. Deal with it. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.
9. Never let fear determine your future.
10. Fear is just a figment of your imagination. Sometimes it is difficult to decide to follow your heart, but you will make a huge mistake if you allow false fears to stop you.
11. You can't wait forever for the perfect moment. Sometimes you have to let go of doubt and take risks because life is too short to wonder about what could have been.
12. You are not the same person you were a year ago, last month or last week. You are constantly evolving. Nothing stands still. That's life.
13. One of the most pleasant moments in life is when you finally find the courage to let go of what you cannot change.
14. You should never force things. Do everything that is required of you and let life take its course. If something is supposed to happen, it will happen. Don't tie yourself to something you can't control.
15. When you stop expecting people and events to be perfect, you can begin to appreciate them for who they are.
16. Live simply. Love with all your soul. Speak sincerely. Breathe deeply. Try your best. Leave everything else for something that is higher than us.
17. Surrender and letting go are two completely different things.
19. Giving up does not always mean showing weakness. Sometimes it just means that you are strong and smart enough to let go and move forward.
20. Stop focusing on your stress level and remember how lucky you are. Things could have been much worse.
21. Whatever upsets you, let it go! There is no need to accumulate negativity. Stay calm and have a positive outlook on life. Something good will definitely happen to you.
22. Some people cannot accept the fact that you are moving forward in life, and therefore they will try to cling to your common past. Don't condone their behavior. Keep moving forward.
23. No matter what you do, someone will always be unhappy. So live by your principles and make sure that you yourself do not end up disappointed.
24. Love yourself! Forgive yourself! Accept yourself! You are you, this is the beginning and the end - and no regrets.
25. You are good enough, smart enough and strong enough. You don't need anyone else's approval to know that you are valuable.
26. One of the most liberating things life teaches us is that we don’t have to love everyone, everyone doesn’t have to love us, and that’s absolutely okay.
27. Try not to take too seriously what other people say about you. What they think and say is a reflection of themselves, not you.
28. If you worry too much about what other people think of you, in some way, you will always be their prisoner.
29. Sometimes we expect more from others because we ourselves would do the same for them. Keep loving. Eventually you will find out who is worthy.
30. Not everyone is able to appreciate what you do for them. You must understand who is truly worthy of your attention and who is just trying to take advantage of you.
31. To say “yes” to happiness, you must learn to say “no” to people and things that cause you pain. Be wise to avoid negativity.
32. If you allow something, it will continue. It's better to be alone than to let negative people and their judgments influence your life.
33. If you feel like your ship is going down, perhaps it's time to throw away everything that weighs you down. Let go of the people who bring you down and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
34. Just because someone has been a part of your life for many years does not guarantee that one day the moment will not come when you finally decide to let them go.
35. One of the most difficult tasks in life is to cut someone out of your heart.
36. You must understand that people come and go. That's life. Stop holding on to those who let you go a long time ago.
37. Sometimes we forgive others not because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it, because we ourselves need it, and because without it we cannot let go and move on.
38. The one who asks for forgiveness first is the bravest. The one who forgives first is the strongest. The happiest one moves forward first.
39. Don't be sad about the past, it won't come back. Don't worry about the future, it hasn't come yet. Try to live in the present and make it beautiful.
40. Be wise enough to let go when necessary and strong enough to hold on when required.
41. Don't let minor troubles overshadow your happiness. True wealth is the ability to feel and appreciate every moment for what it brings.
42. Life is too short to spend it at war with yourself. Learn to accept and forgive. By letting go of yesterday's troubles, you take the first step towards happiness today.
43. Worry casts a big shadow over small matters. In the end, you can focus either on what is tearing you apart, or on something that helps you pull yourself together.
44. Old concerns - down payments on problems you may never have to deal with. Let them go. Today is a new beginning, take a deep breath and start again.
45. Smile even when everything seems to be falling apart. Smiling doesn't always mean you're happy. Sometimes it just means that you are strong.
46. There comes a time when you stop thinking about your mistakes and move on. No regrets - just life lessons that show you the way.
47. Remember the good times, be strong in difficult times, love every moment, laugh more often, live honestly and be grateful for every new day
48. You can't let one bad thing ruin a bunch of good times. Don't let silly daily dramas get you down.
49. If you are diligent and patient, everything you really need in life will come to you at the right time.
50. In the end, everything will fall into place. Until then, learn everything you can, laugh as much as you can, enjoy every moment and remember that it is worth it.
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And for girls, they can be suitable for forgetting
When people leave, let them go.
Fate excludes the superfluous.
This doesn't mean they are bad.
This means that their role in your life has already been played!
It's hard to let someone go from your life when it's time to move on.
11 signs that such a time has already arrived:
1. In response to your requests, you increasingly receive the answer: “I have no time.”
Learn to let go of people who don't find time for you. This means your relationship is no longer as important to the other person as it used to be.
2. You find yourself trying to force someone else to love you.
You know the saying: “You can’t be nice by force,” and that’s true. And if the other wants to leave, we cannot ask him to stay, because the essence of love is freedom. When a loved one leaves, life does not end, and past love always leaves behind something valuable.
3. The other person wants you to become someone you are not.
Losing another is not so scary, losing your essence is worse. You shouldn’t lose yourself for anyone - it’s very difficult to piece together your personality; it’s much easier to heal a wounded heart.
4. There are no heart-to-heart conversations between you.
Sometimes you need to quarrel to save a relationship, because if you remain silent, you can destroy it. There will be no regrets left if you communicate with people from the bottom of your heart, heart to heart. In this world you need to be honest.
5. Words are noticeably at odds with deeds.
You need someone nearby who helps you look into the future with hope, and if you feel the opposite influence, and his words do not coincide with his actions, it’s time to end such a relationship. People can say whatever they want, their actions are much more important.
6. Physical attractiveness is a priority in your relationship.
We must not forget that the main beauty of a person lies not in appearance, but in what is hidden in the depths of the heart, what makes us unique. It is unlikely that those who are attracted only by your appearance will stay with you for a long time, but people who are able to see the beauty of your soul will be with you all your life.
7. Your trust is repeatedly betrayed.
True love presupposes trust, openness - when you believe that another person cannot hurt your soul and open it to him. In this case, perhaps your relationship will last a lifetime, or you will learn a bitter lesson. Both developments are positive. You will have the opportunity to make sure that the person is worthy of your trust or to look for someone more worthy.
8. You are forced to constantly sacrifice your happiness.
Try to quickly realize that it’s time to snatch your life from the greedy hands of others. If other people demand more from you than you give, you will quickly lose self-esteem.
9. You are underestimated.
When you are in a close relationship with a person who does not respect you, you willfully tear off a piece of your soul that cannot grow back. One day there comes a time when you need to stop keeping a person next to you; if he truly wants you to remain in his life, he will certainly find a way to do this. If a person wants to leave, let him go. Only at first it hurts, and later you ask yourself the question: “Why did I waste so much time and didn’t do this sooner?”
10. You don't like the current situation.
Go through life obeying the call of your heart. Take risks. You can’t “go with the flow” just because you’re afraid of change. Because there will be no changes on this path - learn from your mistakes, only in this way can you gain experience and find your path, come to your peak, which is worth the effort.
11. The past does not let go.
Someday your tears and pain will be forgotten, and you will understand that happiness lies not in revenge or power, but in letting life go on as usual, and you have time to learn everything you can from it. In the end, the most important chapter of your life will be the last one, when you realize what a wonderful story you have written by living your journey. So let go of your past to see new possibilities.
Having let go of a person, do not let go of just hope, continue to live and believe that someday in your life everything will work out and you will find your happiness.
Remember that a lot of people can say the three cherished words “I love you”, but not every one of them will remain in your life to prove them. Sometimes you have to try really hard to find such a person, but it's worth it. Always.
For those who have already found “that” person and are not going to leave, I recommend reading this wonderful, and most importantly, very useful book.
Make a wish and let it go? Or constantly keep your desire in your head, visualize it.
This question worries many, but there is no correct answer.It all depends only on you and your emotional perception.
Regular visualization of your desire works great; focusing your attention helps you stay on track with your goal and not miss opportunities to achieve it. There is only one nuance - this method is suitable only if you do not show excessive importance and do not get hung up on your desire. When the fulfillment of a desire turns into an obsession, then everything stops working. The more fixated you are, the more obstacles there are along the way.
Obsession is when you can no longer imagine that your wish will not come true. Try to take it easier, perceive any events from the position of “Everything is always for the better!”
It is for this reason that the “Make it and forget it” method also works great. The task has been set for the subconscious, the importance has been reset, and then all that remains is to grab the opportunities that appear along the way.
Also choose a method depending on your goals. If these are small desires, then you don’t need to think about them every day. If this is some kind of global goal that you are moving towards every day, then constant focus on it will help you stay on track. As in the story with Jim Carrey, when he was still an unknown aspiring actor, he came to the Hollywood hills every day and visualized himself as a famous and successful actor, with millions in fees. You know the result of his efforts).
Result:
As soon as you feel that you are becoming overgrown with doubts and fears, then immediately let go of your desire, change your focus to something else. If your desire evokes only pleasant, positive emotions and a surge of inspiration, feel free to work with it regularly.Life is a series of partings and meetings. Sometimes even with dearly loved and close people our paths diverge. At such a moment, you need to gain strength and let the person go from your thoughts. But how to do this if your heart is torn to pieces?
What does it mean to let someone go?
Contrary to popular belief, letting go of a person does not mean forgetting or falling out of love. This process can be rather compared to a balloon that you like, but at a certain moment you let go of the string and it flies into the sky. Did you stop liking him because of this, should you forget about him? No. Now let's try to figure out what it means to let a person go:
The opinion of psychologists. Letting go of a person means allowing him to live his own life, recognizing the fact that he has the right to dispose of it as he wants. It is very difficult for egocentric people to do this; they tend to quickly become attached and not let go of a person for a long time - to suffer, to follow him, to beg him to return, and even to blackmail him with suicide. All they need is for the “trophy” to be back on the shelf. Selfish people don't care about the feelings of others.
Why do you need to learn to let go?
Many people don't understand how you can let go of the person you love. They quite sincerely believe that with the right efforts they can achieve a reciprocal feeling. In other words, make a person fall in love. This is where the main mistake lies.
No matter how many times you are offered apples or other foods that you hate, you will not be able to love them. Perhaps, out of pity or respect, you will eat a piece, but eat them every day? Well, no. Even if you paint apples orange and pretend that they are oranges, you won’t be able to deceive your taste preferences for long.
If these arguments don't seem compelling enough to you, consider this:
Important. Relationships should bring joy and happiness. Remember, every person is worthy of love. You should not try to please, change yourself for the sake of another. Hundreds of people are ready to love you for real.
How to do this?
Now do you understand how important it is to let a person go? If yes, then you are already halfway there. All that is required of you next is not to resist, to allow the inevitable to happen.
Let the person go, don't hold him. Try to forgive him and wish him happiness. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Which one of us is ideal? Everything happened as it should have.
Be able to say thank you. With the departure of a person, you did not lose, but gained. He gave you invaluable experience. Even if it is pain and suffering, do not complain about fate. Take painful sensations as a chance to grow above yourself, stop getting attached to people, and learn to build happy, harmonious relationships.
Useful practice
Most likely, you think that when the person leaves, you will lose the ability to love (“he broke my heart,” “he tore it out and took it with him”). It is important to realize that this is not the case. Love is a wonderful feeling that will always be with you . To get back to a healthy feeling of love and happiness, try the following exercise:
- When left alone, sit comfortably in a chair (there should be no extraneous noise or bright light).
- Close your eyes and concentrate. Where is your feeling, your ability to love?
- Find this place and then fix your attention.
- Now imagine that there is a glow emanating from this point. Point it at a cat or dog, a child, a wall, or a plant.
- What do you want to do?
Surely you will feel the desire to clean up the house, please your child with sweets, or walk the dog (depending on where the “light” was directed). Do the practice daily, and soon the painful feeling of resentment will replace real, joyful love for others.
Experts say that you need to let a person go from your thoughts and heart gradually.
It is very important to go through all the stages of a breakup, otherwise all the suppressed emotions will emerge at the most inopportune moment. So, how to let someone go correctly:
Make plans for the future. You can draw a “wish poster”.
- Now you can look back and rethink the past. Think about what lesson fate taught you? What mistakes did you make?
After going through all the stages, you will feel like a different person. The pain will definitely subside. Sometimes it may take a month, sometimes a year. The sooner you listen to advice, the sooner you will free yourself from the burden.
Author's advice. The main thing is to overcome self-pity. Try not to think how unhappy, abandoned, lonely you are. Turn your attention to those who have it harder - a family whose head died, lonely old people, children growing up in an orphanage without love and affection. Start helping others and you will heal yourself.
Practice from Jack Macania “Liberation from addiction”
The following exercise will be useful to anyone who has a painful experience of separation and does not know how to forgive and let go of a person.
Practice helps to cut the connection and stop experiencing negativity.
Let's get started:
Note. Practice allows you to cut even old connections. This usually requires a one-time execution, but can be repeated several times if necessary.
No matter how much we love a person, at some point we need to be able to let him go. Each of us has our own tasks, our own destiny. Sometimes you shouldn't resist something new. You just need to let go of the reins and trust the flow.
Olga, St. Petersburg
