Dear, sweet and beautiful girl! All people have their own established duty: in this case, the guy is, first of all, your future defender and defender of his Motherland. And no one has yet abolished universal conscription. Therefore, your first step towards accepting this important event should be the moral support of your loved one (by setting him up in a positive way, you yourself will feel better).
Step 2
You can take upon yourself the organization of the evening on the occasion of your boyfriend's military service. Arrange everything just wonderfully, think about what could leave him with a warm and pleasant impression. So you will find something to do that will distract you from the thought of a long separation, and you will give your guy an amazing surprise that he will often remember with love in his soul)
Step 3
And so. He left. The main thing now is not to panic and not get into loneliness. Your main activities should be study, work, and creative activity! Plunge into them and get lost! But if one evening you are completely overwhelmed by sadness and a feeling of loneliness, then try to take an ordinary piece of paper and write on it as if a letter to your loved one and put all your emotions and feelings in it. And when the guy returns from the army, show him these letters, he will be only glad to understand how dear he is to you and how much you love him. And most importantly: DO NOT CHANGE UNDER ANY CONDITIONS!!! RESPECT YOUR BOYFRIEND'S FEELINGS AND DIGNITY! (and therefore don’t get drunk in any company, so that later “OH!” incidents don’t happen.)
Good luck)))))
Your boyfriend was drafted into the army? Don’t you know how to behave in such a situation? This is not surprising, this situation is not standard, and it is quite normal that a girl is confused and does not know what to do if her boyfriend is in the army. We will try to help you understand your feelings and actions, and make the right decisions.
Probably the most common question that torments girls is the question: “How to wait for a guy from the army?” The answer is complex and simple at the same time: just wait and remember that soon his service will end and your loved one will return. There is no need to turn the expectation of a guy from the army into imprisoning yourself within four walls. Continue to lead a normal life, go to the movies, meet friends, take walks. After all, if your boyfriend went to the army, then your life should not stop. You lived somehow before meeting him, right? Just accept his absence as something necessary and wait for everything to return to normal.
Should I wait for a guy from the army?
You should start with the fact that if such a question appeared in your head, it means that somewhere deep down in your soul, you accept this scenario. It could be uncertainty about your feelings, that is, you doubt that you will want to continue the relationship with this guy after he returns. In this case, we can advise you to forget for a while that you have a boyfriend and do as you want. During this time, you will be able to figure out for yourself what you really need: wait for a guy from the army or look for a new one.
What should I write to a guy in the army?
Yes, anything. Starting from the latest events that happened in your city, and ending with a description of personal feelings. And it’s not so important what you write to the guy in the army, but how often you do it. With the advent of mobile phones, everything has become much easier. Letters can easily be replaced with calls and SMS. You can safely send 1 SMS a day – that’s not a lot. You can have one message every two days. If you write and call less often, the guy may have doubts that you are still waiting for him. But try not to forget about paper letters, write at least 2-3 letters a month - it won’t be tiring for you, and the guy will be pleased.
What should a guy bring to the army?
The most correct decision would be to find out personally from the guy what he is missing. This can be both food and household items. Of course, there is no need to bring perishable foods (cakes, sausages, etc.). It is better to bring nuts, dried fruits (dried apricots, prunes, raisins), pies, gingerbread cookies, and sweets. Ask if the guy needs shaving or hygiene supplies; in the army there are often shortages of such household items.
How to support a guy in the army?
You can support a guy in the army by charging him with optimism and confidence that he is loved and welcomed at home. What should I do for this? Don’t forget to write letters to the guy (as an option – SMS), take an interest in his affairs, and, if possible, visit him more often. 
But the main thing is that you need to continue your normal life. If a guy thinks that because of him you sit at home all the time and shed tears, then it will only be harder for him. Moreover, this way you can instill in him a feeling of guilt.
This is probably the only case when it is better to give some trinket, but one that will remind you of you even after a few years. But don’t rush to buy figurines and keychains. Better think about options such as a guitar, a painting, a flask, chess, etc. That is, the gift should not just be stored on a shelf, but at least used periodically.
In the life of every young man there comes a time when he receives a summons to the military registration and enlistment office. For some, this is an important and responsible stage in life, for others it is an inevitable fate, for others it is an undesirable event. But no matter how the guy himself feels about it, for his loved ones this moment inevitably causes a stressful situation. The conscript girls are especially worried about their beloved ones.
What to do if a guy is drafted into the army?
There is no need to panic if you find out that your boyfriend is being drafted into the army or his deferment has expired. Immediately after receiving a summons, no one has the right to take it away. First, the conscript must undergo a test, during which doctors will determine whether his health allows him to serve. If the guy is found to have any diseases, he will be sent for additional examination. Only after this will the members of the military medical commission know which one to give the young man.
Even if a young man is found fit, he still has a chance to be exempt from conscription. If the category “A” or “B” is assigned, the decision of the draft commission can be challenged. It is advisable to do this if you are sure that the young man’s illness will exempt him from the army. If the young man is completely healthy, he must be drafted into the army. All you have to do is decide whether you are ready to wait for him.
Don’t shed tears or throw hysterics: this will make it more difficult for him to go to work. Don’t worry, now military units have very loyal conditions of service, so you can call each other every weekend. Some soldiers are resourceful and leave their phones with them not only on weekends, but on weekdays. In this case, you will be able to correspond and talk at any free time. And since many conscripts remain to serve within their city or region, you will be able to visit your soldier in the military unit.
I don’t want to let me go into the army: what should I do?
How we do this: our lawyers determine the grounds for releasing a conscript from the army, help him properly prepare for a medical examination, and go through conscription events together with the conscript. Independent medical experts are involved in consultations with the client. If a young man has received a summons, lawyers will help him appeal the illegal decision to draft him into the army.
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Expert opinion
The Conscript Assistance Service is a federal law firm that helps conscripts obtain a military ID for health reasons. Get a one-time free consultation or trust us to represent your interests at the military commissariat. Read the real stories of conscripts who received a military ID with us in the “” section
Ekaterina Mikheeva, head of the legal department of the Assistance Service for Conscripts
I'm afraid the army will change him
Sometimes conscript girls have doubts whether it is worth waiting for a guy from the army: what if the service changes him, and the soldier returns as a different person? There is no clear answer to this question. Only knowledge of the character of a young man will help determine how much impact being in a military unit will have. For some, the service passes without a trace. It influences others positively. The guy grows up and learns independence, gets used to taking responsibility and making informed decisions.
But we cannot deny the possibility of the appearance of negative character traits. It is human nature to adapt to the crowd. This is especially true for soft or weak-willed people who are not ready to defend their opinion. But even strong-willed soldiers can change their behavior and become rude and withdrawn. To avoid this, try to maintain an open, trusting relationship. Try to be understanding of such changes. And if some acquired manners seem unacceptable to you, talk directly about it with the young man.
What if the guy doesn’t want to serve?
Some girls love guys in uniform and dream about how they will wait for their soldier from the army. But the guy may have other plans, and military service has no place in them. What to do in such a situation?
First of all, you need to understand your young man and accept his point of view. All people have different interests, desires and views, so do not try to force your opinion on him. Such an act is ineffective and can only lead to a quarrel. Instead, calmly talk together, find out what caused the reluctance to serve.
If the reason is related to fears, tell us about innovations in the army structure. Talk to his friends who served in the army. A friend's opinion may be authoritative and will change your boyfriend's point of view.
If the reluctance is due to the fact that the young man does not want to spend one year of his life on a useless activity, in his opinion, you can try to explain to him that military service is an honorable duty. But usually such conversations are meaningless, so all you can do is support your young man. He has the right to his own opinion and beliefs. Help him prepare for conscription: undergo examinations before reporting to the military registration and enlistment office and collect the necessary medical documents in order to exercise the right to be exempt from conscription.
With respect to you, Ekaterina Mikheeva, head of the legal department of the Assistance Service for Conscripts.
Almost every second girl sooner or later is overcome by the question: how to wait for a guy from the army? It’s good if she is in a relationship with someone who has already served. But if a guy is just about to be sent to the army, then a girl should prepare for a year of expectations and melancholy. Although you can make these 365 days productive. And then the year will fly by quickly.
Morale
When a girl sends a guy off to the army, she will, of course, feel sad, lonely and sad. And this is understandable. However, not everything is as bad as it may seem. After all, they will have the opportunity to see the young man!
Firstly, after a couple of weeks, each recruit will have a special event, which happens only once in a man’s life. Therefore, it is very important that people dear to him come to the oath. And naturally, my beloved girl. If she comes, the soldier will definitely appreciate this action. In addition, the girl will be able to provide him with moral support. And once again convince her that she intends to wait for him.
And after the oath they usually give a dismissal. True, on the security of the passport of one of the soldier’s parents. But if the girl goes to the oath with them, then everything will work out. And they can spend the weekend together.
In the future, soldiers are also allowed to take leave. If the girl lives not far from the unit and has the opportunity to come, then they will also be able to see each other. Regular meetings, even short ones, can ease the wait. And it will be easier for both of them to get through this year.
What to do with yourself?
Many girls are more worried not about how to wait for a guy from the army, but about this year. Let's say her main activity is study or work. Or maybe both. But what to do in your free time? After all, previously it was filled with meetings with loved ones and spending time together.
Well, you need to occupy yourself with something as useful as possible. For example, start going to the gym. So that when the guy returns from the army, he sees his prettier beloved and is pleasantly surprised by her external transformation.
You can start learning a foreign language or improve your command of it. Find another part-time job to save money for a vacation with your loved one. And you can stop thinking about a gift on the occasion of your demobilization, because a vacation in some picturesque place will be a good present. If a girl is weak in cooking, then it would be a good idea to start learning how to cook dishes that her husband loves. Upon arrival, she will be able to please the hungry soldier with something tasty. In general, it is better not to miss your loved one, but to get carried away with something interesting and at the same time useful.
News from home
Despite the fact that her beloved is far from the girl, she wants to somehow show her feelings for him. Then you can (even need) write a letter to the army. And it’s better to put as many thoughts as possible on paper. Soldiers have little entertainment in their service, and receiving a large letter is only a joy for them. What should you tell in your newsletter? Everything and about everything. What is happening at home, in your hometown, what changes and news are there. You can talk about your plans, about what the girl decided to do while her husband is away. And of course, you can’t do without pleasant words. You definitely need to write a couple of lines about your feelings and how the girl is looking forward to her soldier and misses him a lot. Moral support is very important.
To boost morale
When sending a letter to the army, it is worth putting a small gift inside. The best option is a small-format joint photograph. It is better to laminate it so that the soldier can carry it in his pocket and not worry about it getting wet if it rains. There is no need to send several large photographs and all sorts of tokens with chains and other souvenirs - ordinary people are not allowed to store personal belongings in their nightstand (and it’s unlikely that they can fit everything listed in their pocket). In addition, if the envelope is too heavy, it may be opened and everything found taken away.
By the way, a parcel can also be sent. You just need to find out in advance what the soldier needs. Of course, shaving foam, shampoo, and something tasty, such as chocolates, will not be superfluous. It’s better to put in more, since soldiers always share everything with their colleagues. You can also put a chevron for the uniform, a buttonhole and initials with his last name on the left chest. This is not issued in the army.
What do experts suggest?
In the question of how to wait for a guy from the army, the advice of a psychologist turns out to be a good help. Some girls find it difficult to cope with this period. And the help turns out to be useful.
First, you need to understand that your loved one is in the army. This is not a children's camp. There are strict rules and regulations there. You need to get used to calls that will only be on weekends, and to the absence of your spouse on social networks. Soldiers are not allowed to use the Internet or telephone during exercises and combat training. Mobile phones are issued to them only on Saturday and Sunday. Therefore, there is no need to bombard your loved one with questions about why he didn’t call, and fight in hysterics over this. It’s not easy for him already. Psychologists advise that it is better to write down in a separate notebook during the week questions that a girl would like to ask her soldier, and news that is important and interesting. Because when the guy finally calls, everything can fly out of your head out of excitement. And there will be little time.
Search for friends in misfortune
Many girls think about only one thing around the clock - how to wait for a guy from the army. The advice of a psychologist assures: if this topic really haunts you, then it’s time to find friends in misfortune. Fortunately, in the age of modern technology this is not difficult. There are many social networks, and there are a lot of communities on them. It is enough to enter the number of the unit in which your loved one serves and go to the group issued by the search engine. There you can communicate, read interesting stories, and mark useful information. In general, you will be able to find an interlocutor in any case. And it will be possible to decide together what to do when the guy is in the army.
What else is worth knowing?
If a girl is thinking about how to wait for a guy from the army, not because she doesn’t know what to do with herself at this time, but because of her own uncertainty about this, then it’s better not to tempt fate. But this happens often. The girl, as they say, has not had enough, she wants to spend every day with a guy, receive gifts and bright emotions, and not be bored and sad. Then there is no need to make false promises and deceive the soldier. After all, he will believe that he is loved and expected. And in general, there is no need to start a relationship if you haven’t worked up. Many people need to understand this.
But if a girl sent a guy off to the army and intends to wait, then there is a way to spice up her days without her loved one. You can make your own demobilization calendar. As a rule, at the very top, where the year is usually indicated (2016, 2017, etc.), they write: “Just wait.” And below, instead of months, is the number of days. It starts with the 365th and ends with the first. Every day the girl will be able to cross out with a pen one more day lived without her husband and count how much is left. Many people still decorate the calendar with photos of them together.
In general, if the time has come in a girl’s life when she is thinking about how to wait for a guy from the army, it is better not to feel sad. And plan the year so that it passes quickly and profitably.
In reality, you will have to defend your rightness, honor and dignity - dream books are sure, interpreting why you dream of being called up for military service. Seeing that a loved one was taken into the army in a dream means temporary detachment, coldness between lovers.
A psychologist compares a call to serve in the military in a dream with the fears and uncertainty of the sleeping person in his own decisions. If you dreamed that a summons came to your husband, who had long ago repaid his debt to the Motherland, it means that in reality the spouse was bored with the monotonous and monotonous life.
The child has become a man!
The interpretation of a dream in which a guy was drafted into the army for parents heralds the maturity and independence of the child. Hasse's dream book speaks of the son's adult position and his intention to leave his father's house.
Understand and accept your child’s position, and in order to avoid serious conflicts, try not to put pressure on your son with your authority and life experience.
A young lady, who in a dream has to organize a send-off for her boyfriend into the army, needs to listen to the words of her chosen one and take them seriously. There is no need to reproach your loved one for insolvency and lack of independence.
Rival?
The dream book for the Bitch advises married ladies to take off their rose-colored glasses, explaining why they dream about how their husband was drafted into the army. The dream plot serves as a warning about a possible affair of the faithful. If you do not take decisive measures in time, the consequences may become irreversible.
If a young girl dreams of seeing off her beloved guy, it means that in reality, the dreamer will have to go through a small crisis in her relationship with her chosen one. Perhaps at this moment a spectacular rival will appear on the way, capable of fighting off her lover. Only your cunning and patience can prevent your competitor.
Take the first step!
But if on the eve of such a dream you quarreled with a friend, then take the first step towards reconciliation, the dream book advises for the whole family. Esotericists interpret a little differently what it means to dream of seeing a friend being drafted into the army, hinting at the abundance of problems that have fallen on the shoulders of a comrade.
In the English dream book, you can see the opposite meaning of a dream in which a friend was taken into the army. Sometimes, such a plot heralds the opportunity to turn to a friend for support.
Lend your shoulder!
Seeing your husband being drafted into military service in a dream is identified with difficulties awaiting your spouse in the near future. Perhaps your loved one will have to defend his good name or non-involvement in some unseemly matter. Medea's dream book advises supporting your spouse, casting aside your own doubts and mistrust.
Details: emotions
But when interpreting for the dreamer why he dreams that he was drafted into the army, the dream book draws attention to emotions in the dream and unusual moments in the plot of the dream. So.
