In this article I will explain how to relieve stress and tension without the help of medications or. In the first part of the article, without any substantive theoretical calculations, I will immediately give 8 tips on how to relieve stress. You can try these recommendations on yourself today and check how effective they are.
Also, in Part 2, I think it's important to touch on a little bit about how to minimize your daily stress levels and how to become less stressed. For some reason, many tips for getting rid of stress do not pay enough attention to this. But I am focused on long-term results and it is obvious to me that The lower the level of stress you receive, the easier it is to cope with it.
Have you heard the slogan “it’s easier to prevent a fire than to put it out”? Everyone needs to know what measures need to be taken to extinguish a fire, but it is even more important to understand what needs to be done to prevent a fire (for example, do not sleep with a cigarette in your mouth and with an iron and a boiler working in your arms). It’s the same with stress: you need to be able to prevent it.
Fatigue, nervous tension, responsible affairs, relationships with people, the bustle of the city, family squabbles - all these are stress factors. The consequences of which make themselves felt during and at the end of the day, affecting us with fatigue, nervous exhaustion, bad mood and nervousness. But you can cope with all this, you just need to know, as I assure you, without sedatives and alcohol.
The latter provide only short-term relief and weaken your body's ability to cope with stress on its own. I discussed this nuance in more detail in the article. At this stage, it is important to understand that I categorically do not advise relieving stress with any drugs and in this article we will not talk about any drugs, we will learn to relieve stress using natural relaxation methods. So let's get started.
Although it sounds banal, not everyone manages to always remember this and we begin to chew the annoying cud of thoughts in our brains about the unpleasant events of the current day and cannot stop. This is very exhausting and depressing and does nothing to relieve stress. At such moments, we are simply worried about something or trying to find some solution for ourselves to the current situation.
The key is to think about tomorrow, but now, turn your attention to something else. I have long noticed how the perception of life's problems differs depending on our physical and psychological state. In the morning, being cheerful and fresh, everything seems within our reach, we can figure everything out, but in the evening, when fatigue and stress fall on us, problems begin to take on terrifying proportions, as if you are looking at them through a magnifying glass.
It seems as if you are a different person. But it’s just fatigue and exhaustion that distorts your view of many things, you must be aware of this when assessing your current state: “now I’m exhausted and tired, both mentally and physically, so I don’t quite adequately perceive many things, therefore, I won’t now think about them." It’s easy to say, but sometimes it’s difficult to give ourselves such a sober account, since negative thoughts seem to creep into our heads themselves and don’t want to leave.
But there is a little trick on how you can deceive your mind, which wants to immediately begin thinking about a problem that now seems extremely important to it. Promise yourself that you will think about it tomorrow morning, as soon as you wake up and open your eyes, and before you wash your face, sit down and think about it intensively. This way you lull the vigilance of the mind, which will “agree” to make a concession and postpone the solution to this situation until later. I did this many times and was surprised to discover that in the morning an amazing metamorphosis took place with yesterday’s “big problem” - it lost its significance, I even stopped wanting to think about it, it seemed so insignificant in the new perspective.
Get rid of negative thoughts. Clear your head. It may not seem so easy, but the ability to control your mind comes during meditation.
A lot has been said about this in my blog, I won’t repeat it. If you want to relieve stress immediately, then this is a great time to try or start practicing different ones and see how well they relieve you of stress. But there is a second good feature here, the more you meditate, the better you become at abstracting from problems and clearing your head of thoughts, and the less stress you get every day as a result of the fact that your mind becomes calmer.
It becomes easier for you to bear the influence of stress factors, and those things that once brought you into great excitement and tension will become mere trifles for you as you practice: suddenly traffic jams, city noise, squabbles at work will no longer be problems and have an impact on you. negative impact on you. You will begin to be surprised at how the people around you take these trifles seriously and dramatically and also worry about them, as if the whole world had collapsed before their eyes! Although some time ago we ourselves were upset because of little things...
But one single meditation session also has benefits- you experience strong relaxation and forget about problems, the main thing is to concentrate and not let thoughts about what happened to you today into your head. This is very difficult to do: thoughts will still come, but try not to think about anything at least for a while and switch your attention to the mantra or image.
During exercise, endorphins are released- hormones of happiness. By playing sports you get a surge of good mood and strengthen your body. This is a much more effective remedy than drinking beer, since the latter only weakens your ability to cope with stress, which I have already talked about and will talk about in the next article. And sport strengthens you morally: a healthy body means a healthy mind. That is, playing sports, as well as practicing meditation, builds your long-term ability to resist stress during the day.
Have you ever thought about what attracts some people to hardening with cold water? What makes them, in severe frosts, commit such, at first glance, self-mockery as swimming in an ice hole? And what brings a satisfied smile to the bather’s rosy face? The answer is endorphins, the well-known “hormones of happiness” (this is a journalistic term; in fact, these are not hormones, but neurotransmitters), which are released when the body suddenly cools down. It would seem that why should they stand out here?
But now I’m going to add a little to your erudition. Extreme sports are believed to be associated with adrenaline. That's true. But it is not adrenaline that provokes people to perform dizzying jumps and stunts; it is not for the sake of it that everything happens, as many mistakenly believe. Adrenaline only makes your heart beat faster, increases your endurance and reaction speed. But those same thrills, the “high” after a parachute jump, come from endorphins.
These are not only “hormones of happiness”, they help relieve pain; the body begins to release them in an extreme situation, which it perceives as threatening, and in order to partially eliminate the possibility of death from painful shock as a result of a possible injury, the release of this hormone begins, which has such a pleasant side effect.
Perhaps a similar mechanism is triggered by cooling the body, since this is also stress for the body (not to be confused with the stress discussed in the article).
A contrast shower is a much gentler and more accessible means of hardening the body than winter swimming, anyone can do it. This procedure is not only can relieve stress and improve mood, but it also greatly strengthens the body (I have stopped getting colds AT ALL since I’ve been taking a contrast shower, and my grandfather took it all his life and never got a cold, despite his old age).
Not only a contrast shower, but also any water procedures can help in relieving tension, such as a hot bath, swimming in a pond, visiting a pool, etc.
Any one you like. The pleasure you get from is also directly related to chemical processes in the brain. They are triggered by a harmonious sequence of sounds (or not entirely harmonious - depending on your taste) and cause a feeling of happiness and euphoria. Even sad and gloomy music can lift your spirits, provided that you like it, no matter how paradoxical it may sound (at least for me).
But specifically for relaxation, I personally use smooth monotonous and slow sound, the so-called ambient musical style. To many, such music may seem very tedious and boring, but that’s the whole point. Many other musical styles are characterized by intense pressure of emotions in compositions, fast rhythm and tempo, and sharp changes in mood shades. Although all this can entertain and give you pleasure, in my opinion, it does not always contribute to relaxation due to the fact that such music bombards your brain with an abundance of notes and musical intonations.
If you are tired and want to relax, then it is better to listen to something more contemplative and “enveloping”; you may not like this music at first, but at least you will relax. You can listen to an example of compositions from the ambient genre in the audio recordings of my group in contact. To do this, you just need to join it (you should have seen the link to it on the right side of the site) and click on play, having first taken a lying position in a comfortable position. At the same time, try to relax and “stand” for at least 20 minutes, try to forget about all the problems and don’t think about anything, “dissolve” in the music.
To relieve stress, you can walk a little and breathe. It is better to choose a calm and quiet place, such as a park. Avoid noise and large crowds. While walking, again, try to relax, free yourself from thoughts, look around more, direct your gaze outward, and not inside yourself and your problems. Contemplative Exercises good for calming. Sit on a bench and look at the tree, peer into every bend, try not to let anything else occupy your attention for a certain time. This is a subtype of meditation practice that you can do anytime, even during your lunch break at work.
When you walk, your pace is slow, don’t run anywhere and don’t rush. You can combine it with sports, take a walk, breathe, get to the horizontal bars and parallel bars - hang, pull yourself up and the stress is gone!
If such walks cause a feeling of boredom, then
Tip 7 - Start relaxing on the road after work
I know from myself that even if the day did not turn out to be particularly difficult in terms of nervous stress, then all the same, the road home can be very tiring or ruin your mood. Many people don't know how to relieve stress after work and continue to accumulate it on the way home. Therefore, already on the road, start turning off thoughts about work and current problems, abstract yourself from what is happening, do not succumb to the general anger and nervousness, the atmosphere of which, as a rule, reigns in public transport and on the roads. Be calm, try to suppress within yourself those impulses that lead to you starting to get angry at someone and swear out loud or to yourself. Because all this negativity can add the final touches to your evening picture of stress and tension and completely exhaust you. Let others be angry and nervous to their own detriment, but not you!
Here is the golden rule you must learn. In order not to have to get rid of stress with any killer means like pills or alcohol, it is better to generally minimize its manifestations throughout your day, starting in the morning. How can this be done and can it be done at all? In order to find out, first let's talk about what stress is and how it accumulates in you.
The nature of stress
First, briefly about what stress is. There is one fundamental point here. It is a mistake to perceive stress as an external phenomenon. It is wrong to think that it is caused by a stressful situation. It arises within us as a reaction to external circumstances that we perceive as stressful. Do you feel the difference? This means that stress depends on us, on our reaction, this is what explains why all people react differently to the same things: someone can fall into depression from one unfriendly look from a passerby, while another remains iron calm, when everything around is falling apart.
Based on this, one very important conclusion arises, which is that how much stress we received depends more on ourselves than on what happened to us. This is a fundamental position. It turns out that, although external circumstances cannot always be adjusted to the considerations of our comfort and balance (finding a less stressful job is not always possible or leaving the city to a quieter place is not possible for everyone), but you can always change your perception of what is happening, so that it does not create nervous tension in us. And this is all real.
How to minimize daily stress
I have already partially answered this question in my advice: meditate, this can reduce your sensitivity to external stress factors to a minimum level. Also, exercise and spend more time outdoors, this will strengthen your nervous system. If you’re too lazy to do the latter, then at least start with meditation; this is a must if you want to become calmer and less stressed! Don't, it will only harm your nervous system, so mental fatigue will only accumulate faster in the future!
You can also read my article about that. Because the less nervous you are, the less tension accumulates. It is better for you to use the lessons that are given in this article, especially pay attention to the breathing exercises, their use is precisely related to the answer to the question how to relieve stress quickly without spending a lot of time.
And finally, something very important. Be calm and calm. Remember that many of the things that happen to you on a daily basis: things at work, the reaction of others to you, random conflicts - this is all sheer nonsense!
Work is bullshit
Work is just a way to get money, don't take it seriously.(This does not mean that you should not approach it responsibly, it means that you need to determine a place for it in your life, and not allow it to go beyond the boundaries of the area where you localized it) Your failures at work cannot always be identified with personal failures: there is often a huge gap between a person and his profession, so if you can’t cope with something at work, this does not mean that you are a worthless person (of course, many companies try to form the opposite opinion in their employees: it is not beneficial for them that the employee stopped identifying with your work and became so philosophical about your failures, they want to see that you perceive corporate goals as personal goals).
Human relationships are nothing
All relationships with strangers, intrigues are also nonsense and trifles that should not be paid attention to. What others think about you, your colleagues, is their own business and their perception of you, moreover, it can be distorted by the personality characteristics of the perceiver. Worry less about what strangers around you think about you.
You shouldn’t exhaust yourself and prove something to someone for the sake of principle, since you won’t prove anything anyway, everyone will remain with their own, the only thing they will receive is a large portion of negativity. Some bad economy! Do not take part in squabbles and showdowns, where everyone does nothing but stick out their ego, their beliefs, their character. These are not the debates in which the truth is born, this is controversy for the sake of argument itself!
Try to behave so that the negativity of other people does not cling to you: smile at rudeness. This is not a call to turn your left cheek when you are hit on the right. Still, it’s not a bad idea to put people in their place in certain situations and not allow them to treat you as they please.
This advice concerns the fact that you do not need to take part in senseless swearing and showdowns in response to rudeness in transport, at work or on the street from colleagues, drivers, random passers-by, etc. In those situations from which you can leave with a smile , maintaining a good mood and not getting dirty with someone else’s dirt and without losing your position, do this (come out with a smile - a winner!), and don’t waste your energy trying to prove something to someone.
In short, if a colleague is systematically rude to you, you need to tactfully put him in his place and not sort things out anymore, but you don’t need to quarrel with all sorts of cleaners, security guards and other barrier bosses whom you see for the first and last time. Judge the situation.
Smile more!
And in general, smile more often!. A smile is a magical thing! It can disarm anyone and discourage them from sending waves of negativity in your direction. Believe me, if you need to achieve something from someone, with the exception of some special cases, “attacking” a person will not have the same effect as a symbol of goodwill - a smile. In response to a “collision,” a person activates a defensive reaction and he begins to answer you in kind, even if he knows that you are right, he simply cannot do otherwise, since he is offended and forced to defend himself. Negativity only causes negativity!
But at the same time, you yourself should treat people filled with tension and negativity with condescension, who do not know how to
restrain your emotions and keep the situation under control: there is no need to respond with immediate rebuff to their abuse and attacks. I have already spoken about this, if the situation can be resolved without quarrels, then try to contribute to this. Smile at swearing and ignore it where possible. Let your thoughts not be occupied by some petty disputes.
That's probably all. In the next article I will write about why you should not drink alcohol or sedatives to relieve stress and tension.
Our world is dynamic, and sometimes it changes too often. Stress becomes a common part of everyday life. It is so familiar that we stop noticing it. But to maintain your own peace of mind, you need to give yourself the opportunity to relax and relieve stress. Below are effective ways to help you do this. Many of them are quite ordinary, but some will seem a little unconventional to you. But use them, because you deserve a rest.
1. Keep moving
It will seem strange to you, but it works. Perhaps the only thing you want is to just lie down on the couch and relax, but believe me, movement will energize you and give you a good mood. Take a leisurely walk after a hard day at work and you will feel your fatigue go away.
2. Love tea
Especially green. It is rich in L-theanine, and this substance has been scientifically proven to help fight anger.
3. Use mental visualizations
This method helps you calm down. Just imagine yourself in your favorite place, such as the beach or a quiet cafe, and you will feel a sense of peace.
4. Turn to nature
The green color of leaves and grass is calming, in contrast to the similar shade of pixels on the screen.
5. Keep a diary
Well, or a blog, if this option suits you better. By throwing out your feelings and emotions on paper, you can analyze your actions and understand what to do next.
6. Don't run away from boredom
The next time you feel bored, don't go online to find a new movie or TV series. Think about the real world, your immediate material surroundings. What would you like to change about it? Take action! As you can see, boredom can spark creativity.
7. Make time for your interests
Do you like cross stitch? So do it. Do you like to cook? So bake a pie. Spend time on activities that bring you joy.
8. Take a nap
Sometimes, to calm down, you just need to sleep for an hour during the day. And then you begin to look at all the problems and troubles differently, and they no longer seem so daunting.
9. Get off the Internet
This will help you focus on what is happening here and now. And with constantly pop-up notifications about messages on social networks, peace of mind is unlikely to be achieved.
10. Meditate
This method of achieving harmony with oneself has been known for a long time. And it just works.
11. Do yoga
Yoga is the same meditation, but only supplemented with an important physical component. And it works too.
12. Clean up
Cleanliness and order around will bring harmony and peace to your inner world. It is hardly possible to achieve peace while in chaos.
13. Take a walk
A walk will give you a sunny mood, and at the same time stress will subside. Admire the city, the people around you and recharge yourself with positivity.
14. Read
Imagine an evening, a soft blanket, an interesting book... Is it calming? Then make it a reality this evening. By the way, you have now used the visualization technique described in point 3. Are you convinced that it works?
15. Dance when no one can see you
Sounds stupid? That's true. But dancing helps to cope with stress, not only mental, but also physical.
16. Talk to yourself
Before you doubt the adequacy of the author of the article, just try this. You can talk to your reflection in the mirror about yourself, about the people around you, and even about how your day went. When we verbalize our own experiences and thoughts, it becomes easier to find a way out of difficult situations.
17. Hug your pet
This method will not suit you if you only have aquarium fish at home. And for owners of cats and dogs, such hugs with their pets help them cope with stress. In addition, it lowers blood pressure and calms you down.
18. Listen to music
You just have to like the melody. In this case, the emotions from listening to it will be extremely positive.
19. Chat with friends
Man is a social being. He can't be alone and still be happy. So invite your friends over and just chat.
20. Learn something new
Have you always wanted to learn how to shoot a bow or weave macrame? So why not do it today?
21. Say no
Helping people is okay. Moreover, it is noble and truly humane. But know how to refuse help if this altruism brings negative results primarily to you personally. And don't do anything that is beyond your strength.
22. Stretch!
Stretching will not only help relieve tension, but also gain flexibility. In addition, it has a beneficial effect on the health of the body’s circulatory and lymphatic systems.
23. Take a bubble bath
Warm water will help you relieve stress after a long hard day. And the bubbles are soothing.
24. Buy a special ball
A simple small ball is an excellent exercise machine for the muscles of the hands. It also helps relieve stress.
25. Look out the window
This is a great way to let go of worries and calm down in a short period of time for those who cannot get up and leave work right now.
Popcorn, a warm blanket and a good movie are one of the best ways to relax.
28. Eat chocolate
Scientists have proven that dark chocolate actually helps reduce stress levels. But remember to have a sense of proportion when relaxing in this sweet way.
29. Smile
Try to smile more often. Look for reasons for this in everything. Stress goes away if you look at the world with a smile.
30. Walk barefoot
You might be mistaken for a hippie. But this method really works, because by feeling the soil, grass or even warm asphalt on your skin, you strengthen your own unity with nature. And this is calming.
31. Sing to yourself
Channel your inner Beyoncé and sing along. This method is ideal when used with option 15 (“Dance when no one is watching”).
32. Treat yourself
It doesn’t matter what it is, a chocolate bar or a ticket to a concert of a famous rock band. Just allow yourself something that you really want for a long time.
33. Try aromatherapy
Some scents, such as jasmine or lavender, are soothing and romantic.
34. Find the reason
Knowing how to relax is very important. But sometimes you just need to find the cause of stress in order to cope with it. Do this, but remember: what escapes the gaze may actually be hiding in plain sight.
35. Chew gum
Yes, yes, that's right. Chewing gum really helps cope with stress. Just put it in your mouth, what could be easier?
36. Find your relaxation mentor
This could be your colleague who steadfastly endures all the difficulties of work and personal life, or another hero from an American film who remains calm no matter what happens around him.
37. Be spontaneous!
No, this does not mean at all that you should quit your job, home and go to live in Tibet right now. Just add a little surprise to something quite ordinary. For example, take a different route to work or go to a store on the other side of town for something tasty.
38. Forgive yourself
Are you again tormented by incomprehensible emotional tension? Let go of the situation, forgive others and yourself. By staying in the past, we become “missing” in the future.
39. Breathe
This is perhaps the easiest way. No matter where you are, you can always just take a few deep breaths. And this will definitely calm you down.
40. Remember: everything is fine
We all make mistakes. Whatever it is, everything changes, and usually for the better.
Men's reactions to stress differ significantly from women's. This is due to the physiology and characteristics of the emotional-volitional sphere. Men tend to recover differently from experiences of excitement or fright. How to act in order to relieve tension? To develop recommendations, it is worth understanding the characteristics of the impact of a traumatic factor on male representatives.
How stress manifests itself in men
The peculiarity of experiencing stress in the strong half of humanity is the hushing up of problems. Most men try not to notice the impact of traumatic circumstances on their health. At the same time, symptoms of prolonged stress begin to negatively affect the quality of life. The main signs of male stress:
- Low energy potential. Constant anxiety depletes the male body, it does not have the strength for full and effective activity. A person gets tired both during mental and physical work. It is difficult to restore a full rhythm of life.
- Sleep problems. Prolonged stress causes drowsiness, or, conversely, insomnia. Men develop anxiety before a night's rest, some of them replace sleep with computer games until the morning or meaningless communication on the Internet. But it is not easy to relieve stress in this way, since the root cause of anxiety has not been eliminated.
- Behavioral symptoms. A person becomes irritable, hot-tempered, he is tormented by fears and constant worry about little things. Many refuse to communicate with former friends, and some men develop aggressive outbursts. This behavior is typical for people with a certain type of temperament and character.
- Decreased self-esteem and feelings of inferiority. Such symptoms are associated with failures in work activity, long-term unemployment, unexpected dismissal, and separation from a loved one. Anything that affects the respect and self-sufficiency of men affects a decrease in self-confidence.
In addition, men under stress are characterized by increased sweating, overeating, and decreased libido. Some representatives suffer from severe headaches and muscle pain, arrhythmia, and problems with the gastrointestinal tract.
For men's health:
- muscle spasms;
- stomach ulcer;
- cardiovascular diseases;
- arterial hypertension.
You should not exclude skin diseases, nervous diseases, and sexual problems from the list. Thus, the symptoms of male stress indicate that accumulated tension needs to be relieved.
Irritated Man Syndrome
New medical research shows that men have a period during which they become irritable and aggressive. Experts associate this behavior with a sharp decrease in a hormone called testosterone.
Low testosterone affects the mental state of men, as well as potency. One of the reasons for the decrease in the hormone is stress and prolonged emotional stress.
Testosterone is called the male hormone, it is responsible for confidence, energy, and an active sex life. It is associated with hair growth, voice timbre, and general appearance. When testosterone is at a low level, which provokes isolation, nervousness, and most importantly, poor potency occurs.
Testosterone is the conquering hormone and is associated with victory and confidence. With any success, its level increases. In case of regular failures, testosterone decreases, the person becomes vulnerable.
The impact of stress on sex life
Prolonged stressful situations can affect the quality of sex life. Previously, it was believed that weak potency occurs after 40 years. Today, strong experiences can result in erectile dysfunction after 30 years. In addition, the influence of stress provokes a vicious circle. Nervous experiences reduced potency, the man received a new portion of stress, testosterone decreased, which in no way contributes to solving sexual problems. This is how constant tension is born with thoughts of inferiority and impotence.
How do most men try to resolve the situation? In one case, they give up trying to establish good potency, and in the other they try special stimulants for a good erection. Neither method brings satisfaction. How to restore potency and relieve tension?
- Sexual problems may lie hidden in your relationship with your partner. Conflicts, personal stress, and insults about sexual abilities do not help resolve problems. Sometimes just a simple improvement in relationships or new love causes an influx of sexual energy.
- The burden of unresolved difficulties in the workplace reduces potency and testosterone. Some men carry the psychological stress accumulated during the day home. As a result, negative experiences are replayed in bed, which affects sexual performance. It is necessary to learn ways to recover from nervous experiences; breathing practices and muscle relaxation help relieve stress.
- Psychological impotence due to stress is treated with rest, strengthening the body, and creating a rational regimen. In addition, testosterone and potency increase when the source of anxiety is found and eliminated.
It is common for men to accumulate tension, which over time results in health problems. To relieve stress, representatives of the stronger sex make a number of mistakes that worsen their general condition.
The main mistakes that worsen the condition:
- Stress is relieved by regular consumption of alcohol. Yes, at the initial stage, alcohol helps to relax and restore strength, but after a certain period, alcohol intoxication changes behavior, addiction appears, and since a person cannot do it any other way, regression in emotions occurs and health deteriorates.
- Lack of desire to talk about your problems. Unlike women, some men do not know how to share their experiences. At the same time, psychologists advise talking about difficulties; sometimes such a conversation helps restore strength and relieve tension.
- Ignoring symptoms of stress. It is difficult for a man to associate deterioration in well-being with. Stress increases symptoms, testosterone decreases, and negative traits appear in behavior.
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How to relieve tension? We offer several psychological recommendations.
- Switching. You can relieve stress by switching from mental activity to physical work. Any outburst of negativity through physical activity will help restore your emotional state.
- Enthusiasm. According to research, men who have a hobby or the opportunity to do what they love cope with life's worries more calmly. To relieve fatigue and negative emotions, you can build a summer house, get a dog, regularly go for bike rides, or simply carve wooden figures. The main thing is that the activity brings pleasure.
- The acute stage of stress should be removed with the involvement of specialists. The doctor will prescribe psychotherapy, pharmacotherapy, and provide crisis support.
The behavior of men and women when experiencing anxiety is strikingly different. Doctors recommend not delaying help if there are severe signs of stress. You should learn to express your emotions in a constructive way, follow a routine, and establish positive interpersonal communication. Living in constant worry is unnatural, even if it is difficult for a man to recognize the negative impact of a traumatic factor on health.
Step 1: Relax him. Relaxation should always precede excitement. Don't be lazy to spend time on a massage, even if it takes you 1 hour. It’s hard to imagine how much tension men accumulate throughout the day. Start the massage with circular movements in the temple area, continue the massage in the eye area, then move along the chin.
If you want to pamper him, then prepare a bath for him, rub shampoo in a circular motion, play with his hair: take the hair between your fingers and throw it away. This game is a good head massage and good relaxation after a hard day.
Palms and soles have enormous erogenous potential, so they cannot be left unattended and without massage. Next, proceed to massage the back, arms, buttocks of the legs. During the massage, you can use various warm massage oils. Once you relax your man, he will be completely in your hands, ready for passionate pleasures.
Step 2: Maintain the fire. Massage is good, but do not forget to change tactics, since only a massage can simply put your man to sleep. Hand massage is relaxing, hand massage plus touching with lips to various parts of the body is relaxing and erotic. It is good to alternate the massage with touching various erogenous zones: neck, ears, nipples. Such touches cause trembling and awaken tenderness.
If you are looking for new erogenous zones, then try touching your stomach just below the navel, touching the inside of your arm and the areas behind your knees. Intentional light blows in these areas cause a "goosebumps" sensation. Remember that if your massage movements are too strong, then they are good for stretching the deep muscles and... desensitizing the skin. While light touches affect the entire spectrum of nerve endings. Do not forget also that in addition to your fingers, you can use almost any part of your body in a massage. Freedom to experiment.
When the massage is almost over, do not immediately move on to the next stage, make the man wait a little. Ask him to close his eyes and stop physical contact. Such a moment's respite will leave him guessing and sharpen his senses.
Step 3: Pique his interest. First you can address his erogenous zones. You can act at random, asking if he likes what you do with this or that part of his body. You can ask your man which areas of his body he would like you to experiment with.
To experience some special sensations, you can use various sexual devices, and not necessarily modern ones. You can turn to old proven methods: ice cubes, a small feather, a silk scarf, silk stockings on your partner, etc.
Again, when you feel that your man has warmed up enough and is trying to speed things up, hold back his ardor. The longer the foreplay lasts, the stronger the sensations received during orgasm. When you get excited and then dampen the sensations somewhat, it is good for your health, according to sexologists.
Step 4: Perfect touch. At this stage, you move on to stimulation of the male genitals. Men often have two types of complaints: their wives are either too gentle or too rough. Therefore, you should not mechanically perform any actions in the hope that if the penis is the most sensitive organ, then the force of touch means nothing.
When stimulating the penis, do not forget about the testicles and perineum. The testicles require careful handling; you can take them in your palm and gently stroke them or push them against each other. Be careful when squeezing them, as this can cause a lot of pain for many men. Immediately behind the testicles is the perineum, massage of which can give a man great pleasure.
Advice. To heighten your senses during orgasm, you can cover your partner's eyes and ears with your hands, which will give him the opportunity to concentrate more on his sensations.
Sometimes life throws surprises at us. Just imagine - you are in a society, and before you have time to understand anything, you feel a rumble in your groin. We've all been in this situation; This, on top of everything else, is also incredibly inconvenient. Moreover, the more you try, the worse things get. Don't embarrass your "compatriot". Unwanted erections can be overcome if you learn the correct technique for conquering them, which involves both the mind and the body. Read this guide to learn how to become a snake sensei!
Steps
Part 1
How to hide an erection- standing: Try not to stand sideways to anyone. The bulge in the crotch is much less noticeable if you stand facing people rather than sideways.
- Sitting: Try unobtrusively crossing your legs. When men cross their legs, the material of the trousers in the crotch rises, providing cover for their naughty naughtiness.
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Put your hands in your pockets. This is a natural movement and that is why it is so popular. Place both of your hands in your pockets to avoid arousing suspicion and gently press your erection closer to your body. At the same time, try not to move as if you are trying to conquer him.
Cover your crotch with something. Perhaps your pants don't have pockets (unlikely, but anything can happen) or you don't have the ability to change your body position. In this case, look for something to cover your crotch and hide your arousal. Try to cover yourself using the following:
“Tuck” the penis. Simply tuck the penis under the waistband, from the inside of the pockets, using your hands. Attention: Only very experienced “tourists” can do this in front of a group of people. It would be much better to move to a deserted place or refuel it, turning away from everyone while no one is looking. If you have a particularly long penis, make sure the top is opaque and can hide the head.
Use a distraction. Again, this maneuver is only for experienced men - get it wrong and it can have disastrous consequences and attract all the attention.
- When the moment is right, say something like: “Wow, look at that man in the distance on a unicycle, juggling cute little puppies!”- and when everyone turns away, run away.
Change your body position. Whether you're standing or sitting at the moment, there's always the option of positioning yourself to hide what's going on down there.
Part 2
How to tame an erection-
It's easier said than done, but if you can find a way to distract yourself, you're almost there. With all the efforts of your brain, direct your thoughts to something very important, abstract or simply strange. The idea is that it's hard think and have an erection at the same time (women have known about this for centuries.)
- Think about something really important. If you are older, about bills to pay or deadlines for some things. If you are younger, think about your parents, this is a guaranteed way to calm the snake.
- Think about something abstract. The abstract is what we do not take seriously. Try to imagine something very funny.
- Think of something strange. The weirder the better. Some people think about cobwebs, clowns, or even the vastness of the universe. This might help.
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Take a walk. During a walk, your body's efforts will be aimed at providing blood supply to your limbs so that you can move them. That's why a short walk will help you get rid of unwanted erections. Try muttering to your comrades about the incomprehensible economic situation and go off into the distance. Girls will think you are very mysterious.
Place something cold on your thighs. Most people around don't walk around with ice, so finding ice can be a challenge. But a cold object can restrict blood flow to your Johnson, making him less agitated.
Find an excuse to go to the restroom. Or just go to the restroom without looking for a reason; it will be less weird. When you are in the restroom, splash your face with cold water or jump around if no one else is there. Think about someone you know who is not beautiful.
Whatever you do, don't let him get any more excited. Don't rub it with your hand or other object, don't imagine anyone who is even remotely attractive, and don't focus on this uncomfortable situation. The awkwardness will soon pass - all that remains is to choose one of the methods described above.
- When getting dressed, make sure that your penis is raised up. In this position, your penis may enlarge and harden, but it will not bend or hurt like in other positions.
- Distract yourself by thinking about something else. An erection occurs from sexual arousal, so you should avoid thoughts that cause it. Try to solve complex math problems.
- Try bringing your legs together. This usually helps.
- The most effective method is to bite your tongue or otherwise cause pain to yourself. Pain will distract you from getting an erection in the first place.
- Bend forward and bend your knees, pretending that you have a stomach problem. This usually works in crowded places.
- Tighten your muscles. This technique can work if done correctly. The trick is this - when you tense your muscles, blood will flow to them, not to the penis.
- Wear loose boxers and clothing in general.
- If a naughty snake often lets you down, carry a long shirt, jacket, jacket or sweater with you - just in case.
Warnings
- Know that there will be moments in which it will be almost impossible to hide the fact of an erection, such as at the dentist, when you lean back, standing in front of the jury during a casting, inspecting a house with a realtor. Do not worry about it. Most adults know it happens and won't pay attention to it. Only teenagers joke about it because it happened to them.
- If the other person finds the situation offensive, a quick, apologetic, "sorry" is all that is required in this situation, as further explanation may backfire and make you feel even more embarrassed.
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